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Sulele04:
Hmm, I get you sha & I agree it is that emotional intelligence I lack, I will work on it sha.

It is just that I don't take things religiously, like I am Messi fan but you could see me argue for Ronaldo in a instance & you wouldn't know. I might even say something like 'Messi is a fraud' just for the plot, because I could just feel like rocking that boat in that instance.

But if somebody says Messi is a fraud to me I couldn't be less bothered, talkless of animes or shows/clubs/ individuals, infact it is same reason why I am always surprised when I see people throwing abuses & issuing death threats online over music artists stanship, somebody like me now can never do that cause I don't really care. You can say anything about my favourite artist I would never really deep it or take it personal to you.

Even though I would never start beefing somebody for stuff like attacking my religion/ personal beliefs, I would never attack somebody religion or even political opinions, infact I avoid sensitive topics like this anywhere. Cause I know people can get real violent over stuffs like that.
It is just the non-sensititve ones I like to have a loose mouth on.

But sha everybody is not like me, so I understand now that I need to be watch what I say.
Thanks for this. 💙

I'm a Ronaldo fan, I enjoy football bants a lot but don't take it to heart. There are others that might take it personally and carry the matter on their head like gala seller and throw death threats (which I find unnecessary). Same goes for the Wizkid/Davido, Nicki Minaj/Cardi B stanship.

It's best to avoid sensitive topics especially religious beliefs if you're not aligned to their takes and whatnots. In a world we live today, Religious tolerance needs to be practiced.

And yeah, everybody's not like you. I am also not like everyone but God will help us all.

Cheers.

ahnie:
Jeez






Some women dhey marry sha o

Folake4u I sight you

Lol 😂😂 nor be small thing.

I greet you Mama.

bukatyne:


NL doesn't allow only emojis anymore.

So my era of one emoji post is over

Yeah I saw that. One has to write a minimum of 40 posts now. Wahala ear and dear.

Sulele04:
The thing with me is I always have people beefing with me over petty stuffs. Well atleast to me it is "Petty".

The thing is the type of person I am I a very loose mouth & care free person so I just be saying anything without deeping it. Most of my close guys know that about me.

But with people that don't really know me they tend to take things personal & overthink every little things. & it makes me feel bad I really don't like malice/bad belle/grudges.

I literally had somebody started unnecessarily targetingh me at my last internship because I said his favourite anime is "mid".

One other started frowning at me & giving me negative vibez, after we had one long argument about a Twitter viral story. Meaningless argument that even my opinions weren't even real, I was just arguing for argument sake & to pass time.
He started taking it personal, despite tell him I was trolling he wasn't having it.

It is something that is making me reflect nowadays that maybe I need to get more reserved atleast when in the midst of people that don't know me enough.

Well, to be honest with you, I don't think you should hide under the umbrella of being reserved when in the midst of people. Instead, your best bet is "Reading the room" and acting accordingly.

Emotional intelligence also comes in play when dealing with unknown people. The fact that you have a loose mouth doesn't mean you should start giving careless capping when you're with others. You have to put yourself in their shoes sometimes, "Is this conversation/bad mouth suitable for my audience or not?" If it is, and you have gauged that your bad mouth will rightly fit the mood and create laughter or more conversations from everyone, by all means you can proceed. But if you sense otherwise, it is the wisest to stop.

Have you ever wondered why conversations pertaining to bad government always elicit outbursts from people in a bus? Everyone is willing to lash at the government including the bus driver and conductor. You cannot really say the same when you engage in convos preferring Ronaldo or Messi, there will be chaos.

It is the same tactic used when communicating with strangers.

I literally had somebody started unnecessarily targetingh me at my last internship because I said his favourite anime is "mid".

Well, you cannot just deliberately talk down on his favourite anime and expect a handshake from him. People are kinda sensitive about what they like, and maybe that's the only thing giving him joy in this world.

#MyOpinion.

Proserpina:


So I'm not weird after all. Like do you replay scenarios after they happen to analyze if you were at fault or the person was outrightly offensive without provocation? Because I do that

As a matter of fact sometimes I replay scenarios to be sure . Like subtle insults or actions I wasn't sure of when they happened at first, I can conclude on them days later

The funniest part it after going through this stress I may later let go but if not omooh heaven help that person if there's a reoccurrence of the scene oooo. Sometimes I talk about it other times I just do my own back

No Pina, you are not weird at all.

Mine is even worse. I'm naturally a bubbly person, you can feel it when I'm chatting or talking to you. The moment you start feeling a shift of energy more than three times, just know something is bothering me and need to solve a puzzle.

Yes, I replay scenarios over and over, even in my sleep. Sometimes, I also try to involve a neutral 3rd party to analyze said scenario to know whether I'm being overly sensitive or at fault.

I haven't experienced this. It is me that give out the rejection handouts.

Sulele04:
That's fair enough tbh, shows you are an emotional person if not anything.

Just that nowadays people like keeping grudges/malice over petty irrelevant issues.

Lol did I ever come across as a stoic person?
But yeah, I mostly put logic first before my emotions come to play.

Oh well, in my own case, it's quite different.

More reason I will be very selective with the omelette chef I give my eggs to. Masha Allah.

Proserpina:
I use days or months to process an offense then react after I'm certain. It's a crazy loop

I am like this too. I've just been looking at someone who offended me since, I never get the person time YET.

Sulele04:
For petty issues or deep ones ?

Deep stuff.

I am not that forgiving...

liveLongNprospa:
Lmao
People hate airpeace more than they hate Oshiomole.

LOL no jokes. I dislike them as well from personal experience.

They have so many court cases due to their poor service delivery.

ediko5:
Sir, do you have an idea if Baze University in Abuja have now gotten full accreditation from the council of legal education?

Hi there.

It's possible they do now because I had an acquaintance who studied at Baze and now a lawyer. Also Diñó Melâye studied there and will be called to the Nigerian Bar this year.

Antoeni:
God Forgave Prostitutes, But When it Was Time to Pick The Mother Of His Son, He Chose a Virgin, Brothers You Can Forgive The Long Term Prostitutes in The Church Like God Has Forgave Them, But When it Comes to Choosing The Mother Of Your Kids, Be Like God

This your analogy though.

Rahab (the prostitute) in the Bible is mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus, becoming an ancestor of King David and the Messiah.

And Christ didn't "forgive" the prostitutes per say, he loved sinners and never condemned them, thus, "Let him who is without sin cast the first stone" (John 8:7).

Advising your Christian brothers to seek a virgin is not bad. However, are they one themselves?

Why are you shouting at another human being in the first place? Are you an animal?

My Lebanese boss did that to me on phone call and unfortunately, it was on speakerphone and my parents heard it, I shouted back at him. He was very shocked. Lol. There's no monopoly of madness.

FalseProphet1:
So you don't want a big car?

Na so.

You thought you had monopoly of cheating. Leemao.

FalseProphet1:
Bing one big goat to my spiritual center for prayers and before the end of July you too would own a big car.

This I have seen.

Lol. I don't need your prayers.

May he return home safe and sound.

Esthered:
Awwwnn...lolz....you'll definitely have yours soon jare.

Lol. Amen and Thank you.

Esthered:
Someone relocated from ABJ to LOS where she has no family for a better offer, you'll tell her to leave the offer because she'll have to rent and live alone and will never find a man. Babes we get cars and are independent.....I laugh in Spanish.

My story. Except the bolded part.

This one thinks we're still in the stone age. Lol.

This is terrible.

healthmister01:
Surprised no one is talking about the resemblance with Fireboy DML 🤔

I was about typing this.

The resemblance is uncanny!

Ronaldo will forever remain my G.O.A.T

Old Taker >>>>>>>>>