Omg! I am so sorry @viviciousvivi , Kindly accept my heartfelt sympathy. I've still got my parents but about 3months ago I lost 2 people very dear to me. I wept for weeks, I was broken, shattered and lost my will to continue. Gradually I started to get out of it, through the help of many around me who tried many times to knock sense into my head...it was like a vortex sucking me in. My dear I know how you feel and may God comfort you and heal your heart. You'll be in my prayers.

@udysweet... Pele...welcome to my world...I get those mad headaches constantly now; infact, every week. Try to reduce your phone/computer use, rest your eyes, keep your lights dim/off...that's what I do. Ndo my sister.

@Toks2008....awayu?? I remember reading something something about politics. Abeg when should I come and submit my proposal? How was the weekend bro?

@ddshow...refreshing weekend right? Hope you are very (not fairly) okay! Fingerscrossed plus looking forward to the actualization of the beautiful plan you are working on.

@halexito....very soon you won't be as single as the sun anymore...remember how gloomy the day is without the sun; we all need the sun. You have so much love to give; don't worry 'Miss Deserving' is on her way.

@magneto...your write up is lovely. I did a little soul searching too fter reading it. God bless you for the lovely piece. Truly, we attract who we are and are also responsible for that. We should try to imbibe those virtues and characteristics we look out for in ourselves so we can attract same.

@everyone.... I hope y'all had a lovely weekend...I wish everybody a lovely week ahead...

God bless you for this comment @ddshow

The day I joined this forum, I said my hi and hello then gbam! I had mails I was worried that why are these people try to reach me in private when the topic says let's meet here...I felt somehow and was tempted to run away.
These people don't know me yet, infact, I haven't had any conversation...nada!
I didn't accept it...I went back and started reading the thread from the first page to know what is acceptable.
After a few liners, I saw a couple of requests from monikers that I knew were from this thread and I gladly accepted.

@Toks2008, we aint hard o! Biko why are we here? Lolz... Just that some guys are not trying.
Let those guys try having an open conversation first before trying to 'corner' the babe.

ddshow:


Ohk...work well



I don't want to believe this. The ladies here are not extremely hard in my view, its we guys that a little laid back in our approach maybe.

If a guys sole intention is to hookup without engaging in any form of conversation, I can bet he'll be disappointed. There should always be a form of open interaction before going private.

So you may not necessarily blame any lady that avoid PM's.

Hmmmm.....
I read a lot of posts, Plenty intelligent people on this thread speaking their minds.
I believe this thread was created for us to rub minds, discuss issues, etcheterem etcheterem...and if anyone catches your fancy, get to know him/her.
Its true we are single and very ready to mingle; but I'm sure we want to mingle with who we feel we have a connection with...
A lot of people are dissapointed because they think this is a date-party.
@MYMINDER , you have spoken well and I get you.... I can also see that you have posted a couple of topics for discourse which is a good thing so as to encourage participation and avoid boredom/idle-talks. A lot of people are watching from the sidelines and they await that special/interesting push to draw them in.
I have a lot to say but I really do get you...and you have done well.

About your topic: I doubt the possiblity of a lasting relationship with someone I can't relate with intellectually....there should be balance...I won't compromise on that bcz it'll simply drive me crazy! We should have something to talk about, infact an enjoyable conversation is part of romantic bliss!

@Toks2008 , you and your Ghostmode peeps...lolz...many still love to hide under the anonymity of this forum which I doubt is possible bcz I've had a die-hard st**ker trace me from my moniker to my email, whatapp, instagram, facebook, even office mail...I was so scared! Then I started taking extra precautionary methods.

Hehehehehee...I cannot stop laughing...mbok, who is shy?? If I hear say you shy!
@ddshow was just 'thinking' about something for the yuletide holiday...biko start binding every spirit of shyness o!
Make sure you enjoy your weekend
#bighugs

udysweet:
Hhahaha@Lastma. My sis I'm not going anywere o,I'm right inside my house for d weekend,except of I see who wan tak me out,lol! Wld be a good idea to hav fun dis weekend evn tho I'm d very private type o,and shy(trust me like I've said b4,na only here I get mouth jo,lol)
Hope ur day going well sis? Enjoy the rest of ur day*hugs*

That is a fantastic thought!
You guys(we all) should plan something...anything...
It is a good idea.

ddshow:


It's all good dearie! I think I have an idea about your personality now..and trust me, I love very intelligent women.

Yea, was thinking we can pull something up in December prolly for peeps in Lagos. Just my little thought tho.

@udysweet...
Make I carry bag follow too?? Bcz God forbid me to be Lastma inside this matter!

Thanks ddshow...
It true; this is your first mention. I guess you weren't online when I joined this thread. I was attracted to the maturity and inteligence here (as a confirmed sapiosexual)....no mind me...since big words are flying around I decided to throw mine.

Reserved?? Hmmm...I'm not sure about that o!
I like to refer to my self as an ambivert...you may never know which side of the coin will show.

#clearsthroat....Did I hear something about a soirée?

ddshow:


Alright beauty, enjoy your time.



Hello to you as well...I'm sure you one of the few I've not had a conversation with. You seem so reserved.

How's life with you?

Haaa! I wish o!

You are the second person telling me that today!

sonofananimal:
come north

Hello everyone....
Hope y'all doing great...

This one that everyone is talking about harmttan; we no see anything here in lag o! Infact I m seriously looking forward to the dry cool and crisp air.
Have a lovely weekend my people.

Lmao @toks2008....

Magneto merci

Toks2008:


KAI! SEE VIBES...This guy go sabi woo ladies with powerful lyrics o..nubian kwpa

Saucekid....keep looking!

Tuale to you all...
Yesterday was mega-stressfull for me; I couldn't even come online.
How are you all doing? I trust you all had a wonderful weekend!
@Toks2008, @udysweet, @vivaciousvivi, @bleble14, @halexito, @magneto, @op, @gidola....etc +@everyoneiforgottomention....I wish you all a wonderful week...

Is this google translate too?

Toks2008:


Ị bụ onye na-ede uri

Lmao....
Godforbid me to carry last too....where there is google translate...
Abeg I no even sabi shingbain!

Toks2008:


lol! Nooo not at all..na google translate o..But do you?

Haaa!!!
Abeg anywhere but that head!!
I'm yet to appease the rockband playing inside.

Parlez-vous le français ?

Toks2008:


OOOSHE!

3 Gbosas for your head oh sorry for you..

Awwww....Merci, c'est en effet sucré(doux) pour recevoir des nouvelles de vous.

Toks2008:


Vous regardez doux dans cette image

Lmao.....
Ghost mode indeed.

Oya ayaff changed it.

Toks2008:


You are welcome sis..

lol..your ghost mode profile pics tho....as in very difficult to view you..

Hmmmmm....
Some men have Vision, some na Television dem get...
Any lady that follows a man without Vision will end up watching Television!
Na inside that Television she go see that young guy with Vision she let go making it.

A word is enough for.......una fit help me finish am abeg!

Toks2008:


my broda you have said it all...sometimes i just cry in silence for the myopc disposition of our ladies...they keep saying...i want a guy who is financially stable,a guy who is gainfully employed,a guy who is....then i began to wonder if these ladies actually reason rationally.

Nigeria is a perculiar country where the norms in organized part of the world is a fluke here...and come to think of it..it is even easier for ladies to get jobs because of many factors too numerous to highlight.

All a lady needs is a hardworking guy who knows what he wants and dogged enough to pursue his dreams and not necessarily a man who is fortunate to secure a regular take home pay just to get by...there is more to life than just eating and having a regular job that may limit your dreams...

Go round and check the men that are making great success of their lives n you will agree that these are not guys with regular 8 to 5 jobs but guys who follow their dreams and passions.

I am not saying getting a job is not ok but the way ladies hinge their criteria around regular income earners,many guys are losing out on their dreams,many guys are dropping their vision to build another man vision just because an average naija girl will prefer a regular worker in shell rather than a lionel messi in the making...for how long shall we guys continue to lose our identity for the sake of winning the respect of these myopic ladies who look for a financially stable guy for their selfish purpose.

I advice every lady reading this,sit that guy down,ask him about his long term goals as well as short term then decide if you are strong enough to go all the way with him.

For me,my vision is clear and no lady in this world will ever make me drop it...anyman without a vision is a total failure and if im a lady,i will prefer to be with a vision driven man rather than a man who just wants to get a job,retire at old age and depend on pension.

Did i hear someone say...what if the vision does not get fufilled?...well life itself is a risk and those who try and fail are far better than those who do nothing.

Take that risk with him,pray for him and if at the end of it all he fails,hug him and tell him how proud you are to have a man like him.

Thanks Toks2008,

As much as I would love that, the challenge was that plus everything, I had a bad case of eyestrain cum photophobia (thanks to our technology laden lifestyle) but I'm fine now...minus the loud party going on up in my head!

Toks2008:


Sorry dearie

I had an episode of fatigue but thank GOD im back on my feet....the funniest part is that even if im o so down,i will still find succor in communicating and interacting with people cos of my mad passion for that

Thanks dear...I'm better now; if only my head can stop the rock concert.
I won't lie to you, e sweet my belle that someone is on the lookout for me....hehehehehe...I feel better already.
I wish you a lovely weekend...remain beautiful!

vivaciousvivi:

Hey dear, I have been reading from the sidelines lately and wondered what happened to u. Pele o. Hope u feel much better now?

Morning all! TGIF o. Lord knows I need this weekend badly.
Where is my Bluepearls?

Thanks sis....even without seeing you I can tell you are indeed sweet...yes I'm getting better.
Oga toks shey you aff heard?
We need to hear testimony on this forum o

udysweet:

My first mention of u,lol! So sorry abt ur illhealth,hope u feel much beta now? Pele again. As for Toks2008,me I don tel am say babes don yapa,mak e do d needful. Dis one no be were he go seek permission b4 e ask any baby frm NL,out. So carry oga mi sir,do d needful*winks*
Goodmorn house,hope ur nite was fun? TGIF to the 9 to 5ers,lol! Have a great day y'all

I've been a little under the weather these past days and I couldn't send my big long reply, it felt/stil feels like a gigantic tasks, thanks to bros headache.
@Toks2008 , there is no asheju in all you've stated and all you listed isn't that bad.
A delectable lady, pleasing to the eyes, with her little income, plus good cook and finally God fearing is the answer to this long wait.....*my beautiful ladies una dey hear? Someone should do the needful o!

Toks2008:


Ok as regards the bold lettering

No be say i be super man,or i get better money for account sef and law of diminishing return don dey enter my athletic body but then i can't cope with making love to my wife and fantasizing about another woman NEVER.

So my policy is "get the lady that turns you on physically" and i cant stress this enough..i have no business with a lady that will not give me a hard-on just by looking at her even when dressed up so the topmost quality is that my lady must be pleasing to my eyes because what pleases the eyes apparently will be pleasing to the soul and in my world i have zero tolerance for philandering before or after marriage so i really need to carefully go for wettin i want.

Then financial independence is very vital..not that i want a millionaire but even if na 500naira you dey make per day.its a good start and i will know that you are not a liability.

Excellence in the kitchen is non negotiable because i love good foods like kilode....

Then let her pretend to be GOD fearing at least for the duration of our lifetime together...In my opinion these are not too much to look out for o abi guys in the house abi aseju ti wo ni?

Wow.....so much intelligence on this thread...
I've not been able to be here for a couple of days and going by so many things I've read, I can only say..."chai,I've missed".
I'm learning a lot here,a lot to make me a better person and to help me make wise decisions and I must say at a perfect timing too...
Have a lovely friday everyone

Hello everyone....trust we had a great day!!

Going through your previous posts, I think I understand you.
Though it might seem like rambling, it actually makes a lot of sense.
Many of us are so careful that we start to become "too careful"....and tell me, what's the fun in being calculative?
No lady can take any man by fire by force(she can try but for how long?)We can only steer you guys towards 'a direction'....meaning...we also need you guys' help too.
Its true, we all know what we want....but we sometimes wonder why the whole qualities doesn't come in one package and many people wonder why what should be so easy seem so hard... It is especially hard for we that have a perfect, well-structured picture of what we want. Oga toks, there'll still be tiny winy doubts even when you make that choice...lol... Is this not a mistake? Am i not compromising? Am I settling for less?etc...
Do you fancy bungee jumping?? It involves no strategy; you simply jump!!!
Maybe you should start by telling us what is it you are on the look out for...that doesn't seem a tall order as you've said.
Goodmorning...

Toks2008:
odaroooo

Good night my lovely people.

Lol@riot act....
You were silently watching abi?
And yes its true... We love it nice and easy...
I'm sure many silent readers will soon ease in...

vivaciousvivi:

Hahahahaha that joke is crazy!
Maybe you guys come on too strong and don't make them feel comfortable, yeah? I mean I read where someone practically read fourfunmi (I think it was) the riot act over a profile pic. Girls like it nice and easy.

Thanks for the warm welcome sis...
The maturity and sanity on this thread is definitely gonna draw a lot of silent watchers out.
I'm glad to be here.

nouvelle:
You are very right fourfunmi, a lot of people watch from the sideline, yours truly included

Just wanted to warmly welcome all the newbies: bluepearls, missbronze, fourfunmi, bleble14, vivaciousvivi, magneto

And to holla at the oldies: Toks2008, @halexito I like your write ups, gratefulme40 and as always Udysweet (est) don't stay away so much, this thread needs you . And @siamia, I got the hot cup of chocolate you sent over last time, hope work is good.

Have a nice evening everyone.

vivaciousvivi:

Hian!


Ok, so fetish is good!

Fetish is one of the spices of life! Lol

I think its a natural fetish for many here on this forum.we love to stand by the sidelines and watch the fun.
I know a lot of people are silently watching...
Lovely evening everyone...

vivaciousvivi:

Babes, voyeurism is illegal o!

@bluePearls...you're welcome..I hope you find what you wish for.

bleble14:
Where are all D Beautiful Ladies in d house, abeg make una come out oooooooooo

A lot of people love to watch from the sidelines

futurewise11:
Guten morgen alle leute...Ekaro ooh.

Enle ooh...bonjour

Thanks....my day went well...I hope for same zero-stress/no-tension kinda day all week.[quote author=ddshow post=39853405]

Welcome home and a wonderful evening to you!

Hope your day went well.

#phew...Finally....since yesterday I joined this thread, I just finished reading the whole 65pages...it already feels like home too.
#Grabs chair and picks a spot!
Lovely evening all...