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ifymusa:
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but d guy said he was friend zone. meaning he was always there

ifymusa:
It's possible she loves you as she said but was not ready for d relationship than. Why not give her a chance if there is

but was ready for a relationship with d other guy dat dumped her abi

yeah. it is easier to find good girls dat are decent.,respectful., chaste.,faithful.,honest in d north than in d south.

toecyne:
Hammer the kpekus for a sometime.

oboy u fear me oooo. d moment I read OP post finish na u comment I first see. I almost ran out of d thread. abeg dis ur advice heavy ooo

sandijey:
You really don't need to argue wiv this people. I have said it several times on this forum. I talk based on personal experience. Nobody has to agree. They think one sidedly and assume the world revolves around their understanding. The Nigeria I no, does not favour hardworking women. At a time, her hard work will not speak for her but her moral standing. This is where many fall by the way side but because people knew this women to be brilliant and hardworking. People assume that it is what got her there. The country is not favourable to women. We have always been at the receiving end. This is not to say women cannot be successful wiv out the input of any man. Like I said earlier it is easy for me to believe a successful woman that comes from a successful home( parental influence and wealth) than for me to believe a woman who went from grass to grace

as a result of harsh environment

Acidosis:
Lol

Keep deceiving yourself

Have you ever heard/seen a situation where male students sleep with female Leturers for grades?

You guys just love deceiving yourselves. Nigerian men (MOST) can hardly render any meaningful help to a woman without an ROI.

Your insult is so lame. Come up with something better

don't mind d guy. he comment as if he doesn't not know his environment. dis thing is happening everywhere. work places.,universities.,secondary schools., in polities etc

HNosegbe:
Reuben Abati says "the official remuneration of the president is a matter of public record". Please who among us on NL knows the "official remuneration" of the president?

Reuben Abati is man u don't have to seriously on dis matter

having life alone is enough not to cause u worries. u cannt do what is out of ur reach. put ur trust in God. it is even people dat cause people to worry. be careful of what people say to u

a great country miss- rule by clueless leaders.

dis BH boys how quick dem dey grow in number.? becos 200 today, 150 tomorrow and 400 d next not just in a single town. na in ten days dem dey grow from childhood to adulthood.? ebi like say dose guys still get some girls for deir camp.

ademi87:
r u 4gettin d fact dat I worked for my money to take care of my family nd fwens not to squander on a day wedding dat ll fade away after few days, u wnt white wedding? Bring 20million bliv me any guy ll be api to walk u down d isle

ask d girls to contribute to d wedding., u will be surprise to hear them grumbling but dey expect u to spend a hell of money. just imagine a day thing.!! haba female being.!!!

Rival:
It’s annoying when some ladies hang the idea, that one useless document is what makes a marriage, on their mental beam and weigh it above every other thing to make the marriage work!
To such ladies, it’s all about security, their personal well-being and nothing else; they care next to nothing about the success of the marriage but the comfort around the man!

Any lady that insists on legal documents to back her marriage should be closely monitored! More than likely she’s materialistic and has her priority on the man’s wealth and a potentially dangerous lady!
Many of such ladies that make legal documents their priority in a marriage don’t see their husbands beyond their (husband) wealth!

What happened to marriage based on love and mutual interest?
If the man doesn’t love you, would the document make him love you or treat you better?
Would your taking him to court make him love you or change his feelings about you?

A lady’s concern in a marriage should be towards building a happy home and not about acquiring some useless documents that have no influence on how a man feels about her!
Give him reasons to love you and make him believe that he made the right choice marrying you!
You don’t need a document to show that you’re a married woman or that he's your husband!

which is in comparison seeking d kingdom of God and every order thing will be added

Rival:
Una c why dis marriage tin dey tia me? You come and fight me over my own sweat?
Anyways, it's a choice! If you're not comfortable with the trad. take a walk!

dats may give reasons y a lady will misbehave believing in legal backing instead of working humbly to make a home like Jesus Christ who built d church called bride

Atmmachine:
Do you know why i hate some Nigerians ??
They're so dumb & they ain't willing to learn..

The reason why the scrotal sac is located outside the body is because the body temperature is very hot.
Have you gone to a sperm bank ??
Why are the sperm stored in the refrigerator & not in the oven ??


The reason why so many men have smelly balls is because the wear tight under wears.
Ask yourself why so many ladies wear boxers.
Wearing pant for a long day will keep air from refreshing their pusssy thereby making their cat to smell

Atmmachine... is dat ur dog

cococandy: So the men die before they are mature enough to marry leaving only a fraction behind?

so u don't know men are more expose to hazard like war(BH as a case study) than women.

ifekemmie: hmm, true talk but not all ladies does dat. Am exceptional, i do my things in Godly way.

hmmmmm.....

ADEBOSUN: As nice as this sounds, the proclamation of female independence and ability to self sustain, it's a very selfish way to go.
Apologies to the quoted, but you'd only be setting up that child for disaster.

As much as I admire single parents that are able to go it alone after death or divorce, it's not something you should set out for.

I've observed the following

1. Parental Dependence
Single mothers tend to commit their lifes to their kids and give them all they need. But as good as this sounds, once the kids are grown, they tend to put so much pressure on the kids to pay them attention; whether consciously or unconsciously.
It's almost like payback time, they gave their all to this child, they expect them to reciprocate. This is just too much responsibility on that child.

2. Sense of guilt
No matter what the child does, they always remind them of how they spent the better part of their youth training the child, staying away from men, not getting married because they wanted to have time for their kid rather than share the attention with a man.
As good as this sounds, they fail to understand that they made their own decision, the child didn't ask for it!
Dont exoect some payback for parental deeds done out of free will. You brought that child to the world, you made the decision to nurture them how you deemed fit. They don't owe you for that.

3. Retirement plan
Most single parents erroneously see their kids as their retirement plans. Even though this is not peculiar to single parents alone, It's more pronounced.
See, parents are meant to leave an inheritance for their children's children! You should have your retirement planned enough to cater for 3 generations. Yours, your child's and your grand children's.... minimum.

4. They hold their kids back.
Single parents are either too eager to send their female children into "forced " marriages whether outrightly or systematically and restrain their male children from getting married on time. They usually are afraid that another woman will take their son away from them. Even though this is not just peculiar to single parents, its more profound with them.
Your husband or wife should be that companion you seek in old age, not your child. It's too much responsibility for the child. The only reason why any child should be subjected to this is if death took away one of their parents, and not just a selfish choice one of the parents made. And even death doesn't excuse the parent from taking a hold on things...but it can be forgiven, only in death.

4. You bring up an imbalanced child.......... I think this explains itself. It take male and female to raise a child.

hahahahaaaaa. well said and a good advice for dat lady. a lot of women do this list. I'm a. witnesa. my friend's mum keep suffocating d guy. he made him hurrily got married., asked him to bring d wife to stay where. she is. infact d situation is a mess. until d guy started resisting. imagine determing d school d son's children must go not minding how much d guy earn. me I don tell my friend say na him sabi ooo.

well dis question is best for d women. I think women just like kids around them if it means producing children throughout their life time. it is joy to them while we men look at our pockit

remember d devil gives wealth and can ask for anything as a condition

IdomaLikita: Who is beyond Mistakes?

so pregnancy is a mistake.! except when a girl is ra..pe. most girls spread their legs and u want to call it mistake.? no they know the implication of spreading legs

d barney represent naija says it all.

Asa is a great artiste. I'm always a fan. mature songs not all those noisy ones we hear these days

Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

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Alice07: As for all those attributing the topic to only females, the OP never mentioned mother or father so stop being sentimental.
The first thing I will like you to know is that most of these women (since uve made it a woman's topic) never wanted to be single mothers. Who impregnated them? I don't need you to answer the question. Most of them just happen to fall into wrong hands of the "Saint men". Why the stigmatisation on single mothers? What of someone who got married and the husband traveled abroad and got married to someone else over there and made her to realize that he was no longer interested there by leaving her with her child? Who put her in such situation? Was it not a man?
It's true we have rights to our opinions but I tell u, many Nigerian men has used their wives as girlfriend. What even gives you the assurance that someone (lady) who has never had a child will give u happiness in marriage?
As for me, I can marry a man with kid(s) if I am comfortable and happy with him and of course, loves him. In that case, I know I'm having his kid(s) as mine provided the baby mama whether dead or alive won't give me trouble.

arobafingi: Yes, guys don't want to understand why you have a child outside wedlock. let's discourage single parenthood.
so that everyone will be responsible for their actions. I av a child and I will never encourage anybody to marry my wife who is now a single mother while I the husband is still alive.

a good advice. plan and prepare before taking a leap. what do young ones know about love when u are still under ur parents. still schooling. no job. still go ahead to have sex. have u evaluated some of dis necessary things. do things right simple and avoid headach

IdomaLikita: Few things we must note:
1. The Child is Innocent
2. The Mum had a Choice, but chose to bear the stigma
3. Its Weird down here and can be difficult!
4. What's Life without Challenges?

So yes I can!

remember d mother also has a choice to close her legs and d child wouldn't have come in d first place.

Enasco1: I love dx question!!! U actually asked d right question. He shud put hx sister, female frd, or relative in d pix n anx us,,,

look all dis one wen u dey talk say na real question...u dey funny. dese things happens majorly during teen years. teenagers find it difficult to accept sometimes dat dey are wrong in order to learn. d moment u are ready to hear bitter truth., u won't find urself in most of dese cases. people hate truth dats y we have dese problems. left to me oooi. I warn ahead of time so dat once it happpens den I don't need to talk. I talk before it happens... dats me.

dhabeautyjas: We are all talking on the feminine part, what of a man that has a kid, women still marry them now, why are men always selfish.

the question is Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? NOT » Can You Marry a woman Who Has A Child?

can u train a child for another man show up and say dis is my wife and my child. by time u argue and disagree, he leaves. d next day he comes with family members and friends and what u hear is history how he started dating d girl right from secondary school. and how mistake resulted to pregnancy bla bla bla. woo u never see case oook

dhabeautyjas: We are all talking on the feminine part, what of a man that has a kid, women still marry them now, why are men always selfish.

the question is Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? NOT » Can You Marry a woman Who Has A Child?

because d man still train d child and bears his name but for d woman., d new guy trains later in life d real father or fathers family come claiming d ownership of d child. pls dese are two different cases

Enasco1: ok so youths shud do away wt premarital sex!! Ok. Marryin a lady who has collected more than 8 joysticks n have done numerous abortions x better than Marryin a single mother....

imagine how hard for u to understand.!!! go and read my post again. if. a child faces his/her studies and forget about nonsense dating how will it result in joystick in her pu...ssy or abortion or single parent.

Enasco1: ok. U re yet 2 anx d question!! Tins go wrong. From ur statement u re sayin pple shud desist from indecent act when dy re not ready 2 take responsibility 4 it. Good. But when d table nw go d other way. She x now pregnant. Wot x ur tak on it!!!!

once u have a scar., u have to live with it through d rest of ur life. if she finds a single man to marry her., fine but if it is a single father it is left to her. do u think she can live single in d real sense., no.! she has two living husbands. prevention is better dan cure. u cannt tell me u were were not educated about sex and its implications. character is d problem with youths of today. u cannt eat ur cake and still have it. u need to fear nature. u cannt stop a flowing water. if u block it u must provide another channel for it to move. people joke with matters dat are of serious concern

Enasco1: We are all tackling dx issue from d ladies side!!!! X not wrong 2 date n marry a lady dat already has a child from her previous relationship, d only issue I personally have wt them x dat many of them do hide d child from d new guy. Wot stops u from tellin him abt ur past right from d first date. A lady who dated 1 guy n got pregnant bt did nt marry him n a lady who dated abt 6 guys n had up to 6 abortions, whic x better Question beggin 4 an anx!!!

in d first place y abortion. wen pikin think say e know pass him papa na e be d result of abortion. don't u know if u have sex it can lead to pregnancy.? so y d pretence. now if u accept it will., y going into sex when u are not ready for d outcome. so abortion shouldn't have come into d picture. den d child out of wedlock., check in most cases it is still carelessness on d part of wayward children. u wan taste se..x whether d thing sweet. but u no wan go thru weti elders dey do. but u believe u are smart by using corner-corner banging for clubbing. school hide out and parties. sabi d child don come. u cannt play God