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BeingFrank:
If All Married Celebrities Are Injected With This Drug, These Celebrities Break Ups Here And There Wont Be Heard Of.

True, it can also be given orally or can be administered through nasal spays.

The “love drug”, “cuddle chemical”, “trust elixir”; call it what you will, Oxytocin is a powerful chemical that plays a major role in maintaining the relationship we have with another.
https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/discover-oxytocin-drug-ends-infidelity-in-your-marriage.html

The “love drug”, “cuddle chemical”, “trust elixir”; call it what you will, Oxytocin is a powerful chemical that plays a major role in maintaining the relationship we have with another.
Read More...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/discover-oxytocin-drug-ends-infidelity-in-your-marriage.html

The “love drug”, “cuddle chemical”, “trust elixir”; call it what you will, Oxytocin is a powerful chemical that plays a major role in maintaining the relationship we have with another.
Read More...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/discover-oxytocin-drug-ends-infidelity-in-your-marriage.html

Trust is the belief that your relationship is safe. When cheating happens, that belief is shattered. Whatever the reason for the infidelity, it still hurts the same. You may wonder how anyone could stay with a cheating spouse. Well, according to a recent study, many couples do stay together. And it’s not just for financial reasons or parental responsibilities.

Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end of the relationship, says, a couples therapist and author of The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.

Sometimes an affair is a result of an opportunity that comes at a moment of resentment, of instability in the marriage, or at a time when the cheating partner is feeling like they need an ego boost. However, afterward, the cheater realizes they feel worse because they have violated their own implicit vow to be faithful and the guilt usually forces them to confess.

The only reason to stay with a cheating spouse is if they’re deeply and genuinely sorry for the betrayal and willing to work for your forgiveness.
This means they show that they understand the pain you went through after learning about the affair, says a marriage and family therapist and author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship.

“They can’t just put what they did away in the vault, talk about it once, and move on. They must take responsibility for their actions and prove their commitment to the relationship every day,” she says.

Blaming outside factors, including you, does not count as taking responsibility.
If they blame their partner or lack insight into their actions, chances are, they’ll do it again.
Why else is it okay to stay with a cheating spouse? Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, a licensed marriage and couples therapist, says couples who stay together after infidelity have compelling reasons to do so.

“They are invested in the relationship and don’t want to throw away a history of success. The cheating event is either a one off occurrence or based on an implied understanding between partners.” In other words, you were both taking a break and agreed to date others at that time.
When a cheating spouse admits to being unfaithful, realizes the pain they’ve caused you, and is willing to prove their commitment to the relationship every day, it is possible for a couple to heal and move past infidelity. The relationship will, no doubt, feel different. It can find a new equilibrium but it will never go back to the way it was before the breach of trust.

The relationship will, no doubt, feel different. It can find a new equilibrium but it will never go back to the way it was before the breach of trust. This is because our brain is wired to retain strong emotional experiences. The partners have to find a new normal. One that doesn’t ignore that the betrayal occurred while simultaneously finding a place for it in the narrative of the relationship.

Most people, ultimately, know when their relationship has a solid foundation and a loving connection. They know if the relationship can survive an affair. Sometimes a relationship is stronger than ever afterward.
If you choose to stay with a spouse who cheated, the relationship can be rebuilt. But it will take time, work, and a lot of forgiveness.

https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/how-to-know-if-its-ok-to-stay-with.html

ubunja:
click?? never.

Your Problem...

It’s hard when you start getting really excited out someone, only to have them lose interest. You start wondering if it’s you and if there’s anything you can do to reel them back. If you’re wondering what the signs he’s losing interest are, here are eight things men do when they’re beginning to slip away and what (if anything) you should do about it.
The 8 Signs...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/the-signs-that-confirms-that-he-is.html

Lust is an intense physically attraction. You desire your partner in every way due to your strong sexual connection. Love is deeper than lust. It’s attraction and affection. You profoundly care for your partner, which creates an emotional attachment in addition to your sexual connection.
Here are 5 things that help you tell if it’s lust vs love:>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/are-you-in-love-or-is-it-lust-sometimes.html#more

Society says that a real single man tries to "get" with as many women as he possibly can. If a man practices abstinence, society labels him as gay or something must be wrong with him. I can personally say that I suffered a lot of ridicule while growing up due to practicing abstinence.
Continue...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/the-wrong-ideas-women-have-on-men-that.html

What makes men stray from marriages? In some cases, it’s the desire for something new—the curiosity after years of monogamy, a situation that escalates without a sense of the consequences.

But often, the issues around why men have affairs are more deep-seated and yet perhaps also more understandable. Relationship and marriage experts explain what leads men to cheat. Read more...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/reasons-why-men-cheat.html

How you’re treated in the early stages of a relationship is the best indicator of how you’ll be treated in the future. If you’re in a constant state of worry, anxiety, and disappointment it’s time to hold up the stop sign. What might seem like a personality quirk or a bad stage can turn into a harmful relationship that chips away at your self-esteem—and the longer you stay, the harder it is to walk away from.

Here are early signs of an abusive relationship to look out for:....>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/early-signs-of-abusive-relationship.html

onecornerboy:
La click la mess

La Bleep la off

Ok before I share my story, I would like to say this; I have never been a fan of dating my friend’s friend or connecting my friend to anybody just in the name of trying to hook somebody up.


My friend has always been so friendly with men because she finds her way easily around them, she is a jovial type and also the-never-a-dull-moment type. She has a bunch of friends and friend’s friends, most of them are guys.

Continue Reading...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/02/hplus-chronicles-my-friends-admirer.html

MissRaine69:
Quality men are like magnets when you have what he is looking for he will stick to you. So stop looking for magnets amongst stones, you won’t find anything there!

So what are the things that he is looking for? And does majority of women not have or pretend to have what a quality man is looking for? There must be something that should single you out of the crowd.

Skyfornia:
High quality kwa? You never ready.

Women know what they want, they date just any guy that is bold enough to ask for their number.

Hi,
I get asked out a lot, but I rarely meet the type of man I want. Am so ready to ditch the drama and the immaturity. I’m done with dating boys and want a guy who has his life together. The more time I spend looking for the one, the more overwhelmed and hopeless I feel. How do I attract a high quality man?

Attracting the right guy starts with having an undeniably positive relationship with yourself. When you’re able to make yourself happy and aren’t looking for someone to fulfill you, you’ll be able to approach relationships from a place of want, not need. For a confident, self-assured man, this approach will come as a breath of fresh air.

Continue...>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/i-want-to-attract-and-date-quality-man.html

ubunja:
no clicking on external links in 2018

That is your problem and your's alone

Hey ladies,
Today, I want to share with you some powerful tips for catching and holding a man’s attention. Now, you may be thinking that this is an easy task. But you’d be surprised how often I get asked questions or read horror stories of attempts gone wrong. To help you avoid a disaster, I’ve come up with three keys tips to keep you on the right path when it comes to getting noticed by a guy, both on and offline.
Now, let’s begin shall we?....>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/ladies-you-want-to-get-guys-attention.html

You’ve already conducted an astrological and numerological compatibility test on your date, but have you looked into what their birth order says about them?


It turns out that where a person falls in their family’s sibling hierarchy—oldest, middle, youngest, and even only—can play a pretty significant role in how they relate to others, especially in a romantic relationship.

It all boils down to the fact that your parents and your siblings were the first people who you interacted with. How you related to each other, and where you fit into your family dynamic, pretty much set the path of your future relationships.

Birth order and its potentially lasting impact on a person’s life has fascinated both the scientific community and us mere Muggles for centuries. It was Alfred Adler, an Austrian psychotherapist, who first recognized birth order as a significant factor in personality development. He believed that “even though children have the same parents and grow up in nearly the same family setting, they do not have identical social environments,” which affects how we deal with tasks, careers, friendships, and relationships later in life.

Which is why determining your date’s birth-order is just one strategy to help assess your compatibility—a theory backed by science and not the stars.

Here’s what you need to know about birth order types, and how it can affect your love life....>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/2018/03/do-you-date-oldest-middle-youngest-or.html

Mandrake007:
NO! I'm not trying to justify cheating but we men are polygamous in nature, if you find out your husband cheats on you then he probably doesn't love you,no man who loves his woman and values his marriage no matter how much of a nympho he is,will ruin his marriage over a booty call.

women cheat too you know, see the 5 reasons why women cheat....>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..co.ke/2018/02/reasons-why-women-cheat.html

enfuse:
I believe marriage is hard and men sometimes just want to relieve some pressure. Most times, it’s a temporary thing and sometimes they don’t even remember the ladies name they are cheating with. It’s all about letting off steam. My thoughts.....

If you follow my blog (hpluscommunitylink..com.ng/)you will understand In our interview study, explained that the men who cheated on their partners all said they loved them and didn’t want to lose them. They start off thinking they want monogamy, but after being in a relationship for months or years, they start missing sex with others. But by this point, they don’t want to break up with their partners because they have long-standing love.

Our model of romantic love assumes that if a union is healthy, there is no need to go elsewhere, People stray for a multitude of reasons… but one theme comes up repeatedly: affairs are a form of self-discovery, a quest for a new (or lost) identity. For these seekers, infidelity is less likely to be a symptom of a problem, and is more often described as an expansive experience that involves growth, exploration, and transformation

Your partner cheated on you—does it have to end your relationship? Can it actually benefit it? No it doesn’t have to end your relationship and yes, it can even help it… sometimes, but that doesn’t make it right.

Read more....>>> https://hpluscommunitylink..co.ke/2018/02/does-cheating-husbandwife-mean-marriage.html

Hundreds of participants from Nigeria have already been recorded at the Turkish embassy Abuja to participate in this business forum taking place tomorrow 22nd and 23 rd February 2018 at Istanbul, Turkey.

Turkey’s decade-long economic boom has been accompanied by a renewed interest in Africa and the trade volume with African Continent has been tripled to 16,7 billion USD in 2016 compared to 5,4 billion USD in 2003.

Read full article and also see speakers>>>

https://gistcitiafrica..co.ke/2018/02/the-theme-for-year-2018turkey-ecowas.html

It’s easy to make fun of Valentine’s Day or try to write it off as cheesy—there are all the hearts, chubby cupids, storefronts covered in various hues of pinks and reds.

But Valentine’s Day is about more than a dinner out or a bouquet of flowers. It’s an opportunity to do something romantic, to tell someone how you feel, or even take a chance on someone new. Read stories here >> https://hpluscommunitylink..co.ke/2018/02/real-life-love-stories-valentines-day.html

Our ladies (African ladies especially nigerians) are too stingy when it come to matter of money, they believe its their right to keep being on the receiving end from men yet they are clamoring for feminism. They want the price but they cannot take the heat. My own girl friend sees it as a gigolo act anytime she thinks of helping me out with cash anytime i need her help. She prefers i borrow from other dudes but her or anyother lady. Pls how did we get here?

Drop your details and indicate the data of the partner you are expecting to connect with in the comment box….

Indicate your location and your search preferences and the age of the person you are looking to find….

Drop your contacts; Facebook ID, twitter handle or your whatsapp number@

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Hi,
I get mixed messages about who pays on a date. Letting the lady sometimes pay for me makes me feel like I’m less independent, less of a man and needy. When she calls the waiter to make the payment, I worry if she thinks I’m taking advantage.

I appreciate the gesture, but do I have to worry about letting her do this? We all know the African way that a man always provides and I don’t want her to insult me one day cos of this
–K

We all carry assumptions about how that first date bill should be handled but, unfortunately, talking about who’s paying for what is more socially unacceptable than having un-met expectations. Without open communication, it’s easy to end up disappointed:
Perhaps more women would feel better about having the bill paid for. If you want to avoid drama surrounding who pays for the date, remember these three things:

https://hpluscommunitylink..co.ke/2018/02/do-you-allow-your-lady-to-pay-bill-on.html

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