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I've tried to be a responsible young man, my girlfriend of about 4 months missed her period sometimes ago.


I begged her to keep the pregnancy and I was ready to fulfill her conditions which includes taking her to my place, Akwa Ibom, as soon as possible, going to see her people, wedding and starting my family with her.


She is 34 and I'm turning 38 on November 22. She aborted the pregnancy with the excuse that I'm not ready.


I'm a struggling young man with multiple skills, I live alone pay my bills feed myself comfortably, above all I have a good heart. Please is there anything else I need to do to make me desirable or qualified to settle down?...LEARN MORE

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selfwife:
I still think it is a risk. If the man has not proposed because he thinks you are cheating and then you leave your phone only for a fake boyfriend number to call¿¿¿I am not understanding. if I were the guy and this happens, you have just reduced your chances of getting married me to me.

First get to understand the post, get him to understand that other guys are interested in you, not by merely telling him but by letting him see it one way or another but it must look natural and not intended.

I know its risky but desperate times calls for desperate measures! Just be transparent and tell him everything going on, let it look like the guy is making moves to see your people without your approval but at the same time let your boyfriend think that there might be possibility of you considering him, just be suggestive.

There was a mild drama yesterday at a Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan, Oyo State, when a housewife and mother of two, Beauty Odinye, prayed the court to disregard her earlier plea for divorce.


She also asked the court to ignore her testimony in which she alleged that her husband, Nathaniel, was impotent.

Beauty had earlier in July, while testifying in a divorce suit before the court, requested the dissolution of her 12-year-old marriage to Nathaniel over alleged impotence and lack of care. Beauty had told the court that the two children she had were products of extramarital affairs, adding that the father of her children was one Adedeji Ishola.

Nathaniel, a businessman, had denied he was impotent. Not swayed by Beauty’s evidence, the court had ordered her to produce the alleged father of her two children on the next date of adjournment.

After the case suffered several adjournments due to Beauty’s inability to produce her ‘secret lover’ in court, Nathaniel sought the order of the court for custody of the children.

At the resumed hearing on Tuesday, Beauty dramatically knelt down, clinging to Nathaniel’s legs and pleading for forgiveness. “I want to use this opportunity to plead with this honourable court to disregard all the statements that I earlier made. I lied when I said that my husband was not the father of my two children. I do not know what came over me when I said those things,” Beauty begged.

However, Nathaniel vehemently rejected his wife’s plea for mercy, adding that she had done an irreparable damage to his name and reputation. “My lord, Beauty has ruined my heart and dented my name in public and in the news. I cannot accept her plea; not this time, it is too late; she has brought so much shame to me,” Nathaniel lamented.

Beauty’s father, who had all along supported Nathaniel, joined his daughter to plead with his son-in-law for forgiveness.

The court’s President, Chief Ademola Odunade, subsequently invited the parties and their relatives to his chamber for an out-of-court settlement.

Greetings beautiful ladies, today am going to be revealing some strong tactics which a woman can use to get her lover propose to her quick. If you have been dating him from the past 5 months to whenever, this strategy will make him do something very fast or help you know your stand in the relationship.


I have experienced it first-hand so I witnessed how it works perfectly. In 2016 my ex used this strategy on me unintentionally and I yielded, if not that the guy acted fast, she would have been mine. So I decided to explore that tactics more. Just last February, I have worked with a woman with this strategy and a man she just met in less than 2 months rushed down to Imo state and paid whatever bride price his money could reach at that moment, how much more you that have dated him for over a year now. But of course there are some criteria that could hinder this strategy from working, if your type of relations falls within these categories;


1. If you’re the type that your boyfriend/fiancé always suspect of infidelity and you always have a perfect way to cover it up, he might be correct in his suspicions but the smart ways which you to cover it up makes him look like a fool even if he’s too dumb. The more he acquires, the more you make him look dumber. If you know you’re cheating him, please stop it, if you know you’re not and he always suspects you, try and be more transparent with him because it’s very important.

2. If your relationship lacks romance, you are only into it hoping and praying to God that he marries you. You need to take your man to a romantic adventure, spice it up a bit so that he will know what he will miss if he’s about to lose you.

3. Make sure he really loves you, not just because he spoils you with cash or gifts, be sure he loves you even just a bit.

4. If your man is not financially ready.

5. And he’s single.


Now to the strategy; first and foremost you need to know his intentions with you, is he interested in marriage or not, if he is then here is what to do. Get a good looking man to act as his rival, either he is you old friend or even if you have to pay or manipulate him but be sure to let him know what role he is playing in case he gets stocked. Let him get interested in you, not just wanting to see you but wanting to meet your parents.


Mention it to him once that another fellow is interested in you and is serious to meet your parents, show him a text message he sent to you, saying that he gave you a date to travel home with him to see your parents and collect list of bridal settlement from your father. Make sure you show your boyfriend a picture of him. Please note that he must be good-looking and well comported in the photo. He might not know what he wants at the moment but by the time you show him what a good-looking man wants, he will want that same thing.


Like women, men are also interested in what other good-looking and cool men are interested in, ranging from type women, clothes, lifestyle, type of activities they involve in etc. I may not know exactly why this is but I know that men love to do what other men does, so that they can blend into the society, there are only few pace-setters who manage to carve their own ways successfully.


Don’t forget, the key thing here is subtlety, don’t make it look like it was staged or planned, plan it to look natural and he will yield to this. Don’t bombard him with the matter or be about it all the time, just be visiting the matter with him twice a week. Each time you visit it, update him with the latest improvement and keep asking his opinion. You can even add jealousy to it as long as you are making it look subtle and unintentional and still show him respect.


One day, purposely forget your phones in his house and let your hired man call, text and whatsapp you through-out the day, your boyfriend might either pick the call or read your text messages or not, but be sure to let him know who is calling from the name you stored him with, you must have mentioned his name multiple times. Don’t get him to call immediately you leave, just give a few hours before he calls. If your boyfriend picks the call, let the other guy speak to him humbly and ask of you, then just drop the call, nothing more.


Tell him everything that goes on let him not feel like you are doing something behind his back. If he is taking time to yield, hire another guy and add to the list, making it two rivals against one, your boyfriend must definitely yield, unless you didn’t play the game right or he suspects something.

There are so many groups that are been created in the bid to favour women and girl child but almost none in favour of men. Even though men are the stronger sex, they are also humans with emotions too before they are a gender (men).


Men have severally been neglected right from the moment they start to walk with their feet, to take care of themselves by learning things the hard way. Many have not been equipped with the proper training to go into the world, they are just being expected to know all instinctively.
In the quest to find themselves in this cold and harsh world, many were abused severally, some lost their lives in the process as a result of trying to impress. He feels alone all the time with no one to talk to, or doesn’t know how to talk to someone because he was not trained to do so but expected to figure things out by himself.


He cannot express himself because he is not supposed to show weakness (emotions), such men are easily lured into different kind of activities with the promise of providing support and care that he deserves to have he will plunge into it without a second guess.


And then he gradually embeds all these dysfunctional codes into his system to live by it, and then his system continuously processes these wrong codes. In his life he will make a lot of mistakes and have a lot of regrets only to learn the hard way until he becomes old enough to become man. As you can see, life is already tough for him, then sometimes he turns to violence, rape, pedophile, terrorism, polygamy, sex abuse, and so many unimaginable things. And then the cycle continues as he passes it on to his generation and so on...LEARN MORE

Nigerian men have speculated a whole lot of things about marrying women of their same age brackets or even a bit older, it has been a trend between the Naija males. While some have even taken it up to the ‘am not interested in marrying her if she’s up to 30’ extent.


Male preference for younger females with specific age of around 25 years implied that:

· Reproductive investment. Fertility was a stronger ultimate cause of mate preference than reproductive value as data suggested that fertility peaks in females around mid-twenties.

She will not be wrinkled in the next 5 years compared to a 30+ woman.
· Someone who he will easily intimidate and command respect from easily. They prefer plucking these young women who are inexperienced in relationships and life matters from their parent’s homes and their comfort zones, these girls who does not yet have a steady source of incomes to support the man in the marriage.



This syndrome has also extended to the females who also have preference for older and specific males. As they are the higher investing sex, females tend to be slightly more demanding when picking a mate especially younger females. At younger age she will also insists on only dating men based on what their career is or according to his achievements. “He’s a lawyer” “He’s a doctor” “He’s an engineer” “He’s Successful, etc... LEARN MORE

Please I do not wish to mention my name for the sake of keeping my identity private, please i also wish to be kept private, and for those of you who will start to judge me, before anyone judges me, kindly read my story first, thank you H plus community. I have been having sex with my father since I was 20.

But Splendor you see I love him and he has been so loving and caring, I took it upon myself to take care of him since I lost my mother when I was at the age of 18 and I am the first child of 4 girls and no boy.

My father is a kind hearted gentleman who treated my mother like a queen when she was alive and made every one of us his children happy, but since he lost her to a popular accident that occurred in 2011, a woman who was crushed to death by a trailer in Lagos state, she was returning from market that day before the incident took place. Ever since then my father has never been himself as he resulted to drinking, he became a heavy drunk for two years as I watched my siblings suffer.

He no longer cared for any of us, all he does was to get drunk and to fall asleep wherever feels comfortable to him. I tried talking to him on some occasions but it only makes him so emotional, couple of times I have tried to hook him up with women were bad experiences. I just couldn’t watch my father continue sinking and my siblings suffering for this...READ MORE

Jacktheripper:
Verify the name on Google search console first.

Pls explain more

tuhamworld:
Did you mean whenever you add the 3rd party domain name to your blogger basic settings?

Yes sir

Please i have had this problem with integrating my newly hosted domain name into my blogger for 2 weeks now and it kept showing me "Whoops, that's an error! (bX-pag5w9)" anytime i use the Third party domain settings. Please can someone help me out cos i have done all the instructions they asked me to do but yet nothing...

Pls i hve had this problem with integrating my newly hosted domain name into my blogger for 2 weeks now and it kept showing me "Whoops, that's an error! (bX-pag5w9)" anytime i use the Third party domain settings. Please can someone help me out cos i have done all the instructions they asked me to do but yet nothing...

No Bra Day is an annual observance on October 13 on which women are encouraged to forgo wearing a bra as a means to encourage breast cancer awareness. No Bra Day was initially observed on July 9, 2011, but within three years it had moved to October 13, the month of National Breast Cancer Awareness Month.


Many women have seized this opportunity and turned it into a seducing contest where they upload a provocative and almost nude selfie on social media. View more pictures after this cut;...READ MORE

samysmoothfresh:
The day konji strike two of una


on the first date o, 2nd date o or even 10years into the relationship

Dat one na die

Headlesschicken:
Any day she asks you for money....

Lwkmd

duduade:
No one wants to drive a broken engine

The ones I can't stand are the hypocrites. They go dey chop each other inside the church before they marry and still come out to say I have never touched her before.


But different strokes for different folks

Very funny

So many dating rules are antiquated nowadays—the prototypical dinner and a movie, waiting two days to call, even the concept of a man coming to the door when he picks a woman up is considered a rare occurrence these days. That, plus trends in sexual liberation have blurred the lines of what’s considered common, prudent, or acceptable, making the “Never sex on the first date” rule seem altogether silly. So how can you tell if you should move in for even a kiss without misreading the signs or crossing a line?


Here’s what some ladies thinks about the matter;

Purity: Me I can't marry a guy I have not had sex with oooo because I don't want to divorce him after marriage biko. Trust your babe now I don't like pretense. My dear anyone that love u n want to stay will still stay even though u give it to them on a first date but the ones that are only after the sex can even wait for 10 years after having it they will still disappear.


Habimbolu: Please I can't come n have problem in my marriage oo... Let's confirm everything the next day we start sef, Besides wait till years... It does not keep a man.do it tomorrow won't keep him either. So why not kuku do it n take your eyes away. It just that guys can be funny, if u do it immediately after date they think u are loose, meanwhile that's what they came for... Is it not the curves that attracts them?? So from my own experience of my previous dates.... if the guy don't ask I won't push it. But whenever he is, biko I am too...READ MORE

H Plus Community hosted an interactive therapy session on its whatsapp group, and some ladies revealed their worst experiences in their journey to love, read all of those ugly experiences

prettysassygirl:
This op is so biased,if the female folks too start saying they won't marry penniless men,it's your type that would start calling them unprintable names,but look at what u are typing. Shame on u

Go ahead and say it, like i have not been hearing them say it already. Let them try it lets see Howfar they will go

some thing dey worry you abi?

We grew up watching classics like Cinderella, Coming to America, Pretty Woman, Nollywood’s Violated and a couple of other movies where love conquered the social class divide.


Fast forward to 2017, the Internet rules; anyone can meet anyone, and nobody kicks up a fuss about cross-class relationships or marriages anymore. It is not considered overtly scandalous. We no longer factor it in when considering the root of our relationship problems, and we look to psychology or gender norms instead when trying to figure out why our partner is being an ass. We pretend that we live in a classless society where background does not matter as much as present compatibility. Things are changing and people’s classes are no longer inscribed in stone.


Believe it or not though, social class or shall we say socio-economic differences, still pose a very difficult challenge in relationships today. Anyone who has dated someone outside their social class can affirm that there are strange tensions and inevitable speed bumps that come with these kinds of relationships. It can be fraught with complications.


For instance, your boyfriend could be from a high-class, wealthy family while you come from a working-class family with less money. He travels a lot and has been to all these places around the world just for fun, while you have never crossed the borders of Nigeria. You start to think you cannot keep up with him because you have to be extremely careful with money. Also, you know that the only way both of you could travel together on a regular basis is if he pays for you, and that just seems wrong.


Likewise, it could be the other way round and you are the girl from an upper-middle-class family, while your man has a working class background. Of course, financial equality does not mean cultural equality, so you wonder why he attaches too much importance to simple things like good food or designer labels. He, on the other hand, gets exasperated by your easy-come-easy-go spending attitude.


A couple of days ago, while having drinks with some friends at Intercontinental hotel (which turned out to be a horrible experience, as the place is nothing like a 5 star hotel…or even a 4 star -the food is substandard and the roof of the bar leaks), a friend mentioned her recent experience on a date. She had gone out with a guy who, although was wealthy, obviously had a working-class background. Being a girl brought up in an upper-middle-class home, the first thing she noticed was the huge gap in their personalities. According to her, his mentality was very different from hers. While he had asked her to pick any venue -a way to let her know he could afford her tastes, he had hinted on the food being overpriced (although, he could clearly afford it) and exhibited terrible table manners. Also, he had felt the need to talk about his achievements and how he had risen above all …as though she made him feel insecure, and he needed a form of validation from her. Again, there was the fact that his diction was flawed, and their experiences growing up were very different.


Of course, her intention was not to ridicule the guy. She had shared her experience to find out if her declining a second date with the guy and refusing to speak to him again afterward portrayed her as being a snob. Another friend who was out with us, *Bisi, jumped in and assured her that she made the right call nipping it all in the bud – she was better off with someone in her class.


Bisi spoke from experience, seeing as she had married into a super wealthy home despite being from a lower middle-class home. Prior to her marriage there had been endless disputes over her husband marrying down, and her family’s wealth being all too recently acquired...Read More

It’s a little bit tricky to navigate communication in the early stages of a potential relationship. You’re still getting to know each other, and that means you don’t always know exactly how to make yourself understood by this new person in your life. The ghosts of dating past can leave you with some hang ups and fears when it comes to talking things out honestly. Like everything else about dating, communication can get complicated.

If you’ve found someone with relationship potential, here’s how to set up healthy communication from the start:

1. Talk about the important things.
This seems like a basic, obvious tip, but so often when we’re caught up in the swirl of new love and feelings and trying to impress this person we’re really into, it can be easy to put the big issues on the back-burner. You may not want to bring up potential points of conflict early on in the relationship, thinking it’s easier to have those wait until you’re feeling more secure. But you can actually build the foundation of a more secure relationship if you talk about these things.

You don’t have to dump all your past trauma on the first date, but you can bring things up in a way that feels natural to you. Talking about where you each stand on important issues can be both helpful and a compatibility test of sorts. Don’t veer away from prickly topics out of fear.

2. Be aware of different communication styles.
There are four main styles of communication: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. You probably aren’t defined by only one of these at all times; we’ve all got a blend of these styles in how we communicate with others. Each of these attribute also comes with their own strengths and weaknesses.

Passive communicators have difficulty communicating their feelings, but they’re also easy to get along with in general. Aggressive communicators are, well, aggressive. That means they can easily brush past someone else’s feelings in order to communicate their own, but it also means they can be good at decisions and leading others. Passive-aggressive communicators are a little bit of both those worlds. Assertive communication is considered the healthiest style of communicating, but it can take some work to get there.
If you’re both honest about where you’re at on your journey to maintaining open, honest communication, you can help each other work on your various goals in this area...Read More

frozen70:
Until we liberate ourselves, we won't be able to take decisions that will favour us

Being a single parents is not something someone wishes for

But something must happen to somebody

We have single parents in men like wise in women

But if you find yourself in that situation, be bold and conquer it.

You are responsible for decisions and actions you take in the course of your life

spoken like a true woman of value

Some African women are also choosing to have and raise children on their own.
Are you a single parent? How difficult is it to bring up children alone? Did you grow up in a single parent family? Do you feel you have missed out at all? Have you decided or would you consider raising a child alone? Can the stigma that sometimes exists about being a single parent be eliminated?



If you would like to debate this topic please include a telephone number. It will not be published.

Joseph Patrick Abu wrote: I was brought up by a single parent (my dad). This was really difficult for me as I do not cherish such an experience. I lost a lot as I did not have the motherly love my peers will normally enjoy. I have since vowed that my child will not go through this experience.


Afemnui Chantal wrote: Single parenthood is not still a taboo in the African continent; the issue here is if the parent is able to raise the child or children.
Afemnui Chantal, Cameroon


Yemi Ayodele Ayeni wrote: Single parenting is undoubtedly a menace that affects children psychologically and emotionally. It is significantly stigmatized in Africa because of the accustomed culture in African society. It is always assumed as a conventional norm for a woman to remain in her husband house for the rest of her life regardless of the challenges encountered. It is now regarded as a disconformity for a woman to return to her parents' house or remain single by taking care of the children alone. This act obviously deprives single parents some basic societal respect and dignity. This is quite opposite of how single parents in western world are being assessed. The circumstances that lead to single parenting may range from conflict, abandonment and natural disaster(death). The adverse effect may be at minimal level or the view of the people may be very light if the cause is natural such as death.

The adverse effect of this phenomenon is always on the children. It may even affect the development of the child, the future, career and behavior. I may not have a statistical figure to justify my point but it is a fact that most children with challenging behaviour are product of single parent. They develop negative behaviour as a result of their inability to be taken care of by both parents and most of them become aggressive as a result of their lack of parental affection.

African or non-African should have a re-think in parenting children alone before settling down with single parenting option because of the adverse effects on the children. African parents that are opting for such are being westernized.


Chukwudozie Duru wrote: Single parenting is something a child has no control over, however it is abnormal in African traditional setting to be a single parents without the circumstances of death or divorce(even after divorce the children still go back to the father in most cases) by either of the parent.
Sinlge parenting in the west is quite different from that of African,
African family system gives a child a wholelistic family life while that of the west is more of choice by women or men which in some cases has to do with economic empowerment.

Another factor that may be affecting single parenthood in Africa is because of the...Read More

Some African women are also choosing to have and raise children on their own.
Are you a single parent? How difficult is it to bring up children alone? Did you grow up in a single parent family? Do you feel you have missed out at all? Have you decided or would you consider raising a child alone? Can the stigma that sometimes exists about being a single parent be eliminated?



If you would like to debate this topic please include a telephone number. It will not be published.

Joseph Patrick Abu wrote: I was brought up by a single parent (my dad). This was really difficult for me as I do not cherish such an experience. I lost a lot as I did not have the motherly love my peers will normally enjoy. I have since vowed that my child will not go through this experience.


Afemnui Chantal wrote: Single parenthood is not still a taboo in the African continent; the issue here is if the parent is able to raise the child or children.
Afemnui Chantal, Cameroon


Yemi Ayodele Ayeni wrote: Single parenting is undoubtedly a menace that affects children psychologically and emotionally. It is significantly stigmatized in Africa because of the accustomed culture in African society. It is always assumed as a conventional norm for a woman to remain in her husband house for the rest of her life regardless of the challenges encountered. It is now regarded as a disconformity for a woman to return to her parents' house or remain single by taking care of the children alone. This act obviously deprives single parents some basic societal respect and dignity. This is quite opposite of how single parents in western world are being assessed. The circumstances that lead to single parenting may range from conflict, abandonment and natural disaster(death). The adverse effect may be at minimal level or the view of the people may be very light if the cause is natural such as death.

The adverse effect of this phenomenon is always on the children. It may even affect the development of the child, the future, career and behavior. I may not have a statistical figure to justify my point but it is a fact that most children with challenging behaviour are product of single parent. They develop negative behaviour as a result of their inability to be taken care of by both parents and most of them become aggressive as a result of their lack of parental affection.

African or non-African should have a re-think in parenting children alone before settling down with single parenting option because of the adverse effects on the children. African parents that are opting for such are being westernized.


Chukwudozie Duru wrote: Single parenting is something a child has no control over, however it is abnormal in African traditional setting to be a single parents without the circumstances of death or divorce(even after divorce the children still go back to the father in most cases) by either of the parent.
Sinlge parenting in the west is quite different from that of African,
African family system gives a child a wholelistic family life while that of the west is more of choice by women or men which in some cases has to do with economic empowerment.

Another factor that may be affecting single parenthood in Africa is because of the...Read More

A Nigerian man has revealed his ordeal in the hands of a fraudulent suitor seeking his daughter's hand in marriage. Hear his testimony;


Hi Hplus community,

My only daughter finished her youth service three years ago and started her white collar job in a ministry here in Abuja not quite long. My wife came to me one evening, she started telling me about a man that our daughter has been seeing for a while now and that he wanted to marry our daughter,
he lives in Lagos and works in Chevron and other detail she could spill. My first thought was that the guy is a scam, Chevron of all the places he could lie about?! At first I didn’t want to start having that kind of conversation with her, so I chatted with my daughter and asked her to invite this guy over to Abuja.


One day she brought this guy home and at the first moment I saw him I didn’t just like him, he looked so unreal. I had a little chat with him and I had suspicions about him, his phones will ring for minutes but he will never answer, it was clearly written on him. I later talked to my daughter and her mother that I don’t like anything about this man but my wife will defend him and my daughter says she knows him well. I decided to go further and enquire more about this man but it already seemed to both my daughter and my wife like I was trying to destroy my daughter’s life because he appears to have some to spend.

It wasn’t too long this guy came for introduction, and it was at that point that I was really bent to figure out who the guy really was. I started digging for some information about him, I work with the military so I have access to military and police information, so I sent some spies to do some findings on him there in Lagos. Finally when my spies concluded their investigations, I didn’t tell my wife and my daughter about my findings because they think I am being too paranoid about this matter.

I told them that we are going to do an investigation on this guy but they are going to do the investigation by themselves, since am becoming paranoid on this issue. I cannot be alive to see my only daughter suffer in the hands of a man that doesn’t have a plan for his life or a future. I have told my daughter that she can choose a man that has a future over a man that doesn’t have anything real that he does, that everything that glitters isn’t gold, even if he works as a sewer and admits what he does that I am going to set both of them up. You know women with their long throat, she wants a ready-made type of guy who will sweep her off her feet and my wife her mother, was in this too...Read More

Bluezy13:
The age in which they know what they really want, they'll get married

Olodo! Read the headline again.

Society says that a real single man tries to "get" with as many women as he possibly can. If a man practices abstinence, society labels him as gay or something must be wrong with him. I can personally say that I suffered a lot of ridicule while growing up due to practicing abstinence.



One might expect that the mocking came from guys. But I would say that 95% of the ridiculing came from females. They would make joke after joke and often said I was not a real man. A poll was recently taken and women were asked if they wanted to marry a virgin or a man who is sexually experienced. Well over 50% of the women answered that they wanted the experienced man.

Then again it is obnoxious and cruel to expect a man to be financially buoyant simply because he’s a man is just as offensive as expecting a woman to cook and clean simply because she’s a woman. Not every man has deep pockets.

Feminists can’t yearn for gender equality and yet expect men to be wealthy because they are men, especially if you as a woman don’t even have your own money.

If you don’t want the validity of your womanhood to be evaluated based on your domestic prowess, then stop devaluing men for being broke. Everyone is on their personal journey, he will get there when he gets there...Read More

ritylove:
Interesting To Me Will Say Atleast 5-10 Year Older Than The Woman

Reasons Being That women Quickly Attains Maturity Than Most Men All Round, Some Are Just Too Slow To Attain Maturity

Would that be an insult?
Women think they are fast in maturity but yet they cannot make a decision on their own without consulting a man.

Age disparity in sexual relationships is the difference in ages of individuals in sexual relationships. Concepts of these relationships, including what defines an age disparity, have developed over time and vary among societies.


Differences in age preferences for mates can stem from evolutionary mating strategies and age preferences in sexual partners may vary cross culturally. There are also social theories for age differences in relationships as well as suggested reasons for 'alternative' age-hypogamous relationships. Age-disparity relationships have been documented for most of recorded history and have been regarded with a wide range of attitudes dependent on sociocultural norms and legal systems.


Male preference for younger females

A renounced scientist David Buss attributed the male preference for younger females to certain youthful cues. In females, relative youth and physical attractiveness (which males valued more compared to females) demonstrated cues for fertility and high reproductive capacity. Buss stated the specific age preference of around 25 years implied that fertility was a stronger ultimate cause of mate preference than reproductive value as data suggested that fertility peaks in females around mid-twenties.


From a life history theory perspective, females that display these cues are judged to be more capable of reproductive investment. This notion of age preference due to peak fertility is supported by Kenrick, Keefe, Gabrielidis, and Cornelius's study, which found that although teenage males would accept a mate slightly younger than themselves, there was a wider range of preference for ages above their own. Teenage males also report that their ideal mates would be several years older than themselves.


Buss and Schmitt stress that although long term mating relationships are common for humans, there are both short term and long term mating relationships. Buss and Schmitt provided a Sexual Strategies Theory that describes the two sexes as having evolved distinct psychological mechanisms that underlie the strategies for short and long term mating. This theory is directly relevant and compatible with those two already mentioned, Life History and Parental Investment.


Males tend to appear oriented towards short term mating (greater desire for short term mates than women, prefer larger number of sexual partners and take less time to consent to sexual intercourse) and this appears to solve a number of adaptive problems including using fewer resources to access a mate. Although there are a number of reproductive advantages to short term mating, males still pursue long term mates, and this is due to the possibility of monopolising a female's lifetime reproductive resources. Consistent with findings, for both short term and long term mates, males prefer younger females (reproductively valuable).


Female preference for older males

As they are the higher investing sex, females tend to be slightly more demanding when picking a mate (as predicted by parental investment theory). They also tend to have a more difficult task of evaluating a male's reproductive value accurately based on physical appearance as age tends to have fewer constraints on a male's reproductive resources. Buss attributed the older age preference to older males displaying characteristics of high providing-capacity such as status and resources...Read More