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Samantha125:
I don't get you, what do you mean they all have skimpy dresses?

these ones...is it weather driven or, cultural or just a modernisation of a traditional outfit

Samantha125:
3. Sotho... Married Sotho women are expected to wear shoeshoe dresses and be covered in a Sotho blanket.

Why do they all have skimpy dresses? Is that due to the weather, cultural, or modern adaptation of the dress?

after4:
So you think I will expect anything better from a drug lord supporter?
No, am better than that

Glad to hear your standards are high — now if only your logic could catch up, you may be worth my time.

after4:
So Ukraine is fighting in Ukraine and supporting terrorism in Africa

Does fighting russia equate supporting terrorism?

Russia supporting coups and underming democracy in africa, plus looting mineral resources and killing people in africa with shoddy mercenary groups is not terror?

after4:
How did you know

There are videos on twitter.

Not just mali, also Sudan.

Ukraine is actively supporting those groups with drones and mercenaries to counter russia

Emerald138:
Hi everyone, I've been in the UK for nine months now on a student visa, and I've been unable to secure a part-time job, even as a kitchen porter or warehouse assistant. I receive impromptu interview calls, and at the end, they ask about my visa status and when it expires.

When I tell them the month it expires, they say they can't proceed with my application.

I am at my wits' end as I have no way to pay my upcoming bills. I would greatly appreciate any advice, tips and help. Thank you

Let them know instead that you plan to apply for PSW which should extend it by 2 years.

helinues:
What was their protest about to start with?

What does it matter?

After being away from the nigeria stock market for some years and very out-of-touch with the current market. I am looking to dive back in today regardless.

Please can someone recommend some good stock market picks.

My risk appetite is moderate.

The invested funds i sourced from outside the country, so I am looking for return that can cover possible downward FX rate movement and currency exchange margin.

I am looking at ideally between 20% - 30% ROI within the year. This is to allow me cover for potential FX devaluation (which I have assumed will be no more than 10-15% over the next 6-7 months) and 5% to cover exchange margin.

Thank you

Goke7:
The major problem about UK immigration, like I have always said, is deliberate and proper segmentation of immigrants; it's only the UK that keeps bundling all immigrants, including the ones termed as illegal, into one bucket . Other western countries have succeeded in defining different categories of immigrants, including the terms of achieving permanent residence under different categories and even timelines in some cases. This helps in controlling the amount and easily filtering those you want to permanently keep. From there, you can know those immigrants who will not be too much burden on your system, and you can then plan adequately for other things, like infrastructure, as you have said. But the UK keeps paying lip service to these things and keeps blabbing that it wants to attract highly skilled immigrants, and still treats them like trash at the end of the day, with all sorts of threats and disrespect, despite all that has been contributed by these hard-working immigrants. Of course, the country will keep running in circles until it is sincere about what it needs and what it doesn't want. You can't be making noise about stopping the boats, but you always end up inflicting emotional pain and uncertainty on those who are law-abiding immigrants.

@ the bolded..because it is politically convenient to do.

The government is unable to "stop the boats". Current data suggests it is on track to record one of the largest numbers of illegal arrivals this year. However, legal migration is something that can be easily exercised control over. If he separates both categories, his failure on illicit migration would be glaring and would become fuel for the campaign of right-wing parties.

olaolaking:
Keep wallowing in your ignorance. I didn't condemn for not able to recite the anthem but by seeing it as "a no case" "and excited" You are very ignorant because of what you said. As usual, you don't know what you are claiming. Who are those that were not consulted - you?

Not worth responding further.

Come lecture us on what patriotism is and what you have done to show your patriotism.

olaolaking:
To me, there is no pride in what happened. It is another way round. I won't be proud of myself for not able to sing my country's national anthem. Where is my patriotism? Only to criticize, condemn and abuse the country? Is that not failure on our part if we cannot do simple things to support the country unless we are force or benefit us?

Utter rubbish.. when one man took a unilateral decision to change the anthem overnight, what did you expect.

We took a long commute, paid & stayed in the stadium till past 10pm ,while you seat behind the screen questioning our patriotism for not knowing an anthem that someone decided to change overnight without any consultation.

IyaTola:
....Borrowing is not inherently evil—but in Nigeria’s case, it has become a crutch for corruption, a cover for incompetence, and a curse for the next generation. Without accountability, clear outcomes, and economic vision, taking more loans is not development—it’s national sabotage with a repayment date.

When your debt service exceeds your revenue, regardless of whatever project you are using it to fund, you are setting up the country to be in a financially difficult position long term.

It means every year, the country will have to open new debts just to service existing debts. A very vicious cycle is being created

Putindbutt:
For agenda to agend, the election losers will quickly convert the loans to naira to make it look big as if it was collected and will be paid in naira

Whether you pay in naira or rupee, debt as a proportion of revenue is rising from 118% to 131%.

Let us know how the currency it is paid in is good news?

Would be there live @Brentford stadium to support Nigeria

cassidy1996:
Hmmmmm...... Arsenal will win treble next year

Wake up and stop dreaming.

Beremx:
Werey burn the Bible and he was killed afterwards. What is there to say again?
He got his punishment on earth before reaching hell fire.
May his disturbed soul rest in peace

You cannot justify the action of extremists by blaming the man. Senseless killing this is, a very unchristain thing to do

Goke7:
My own MP is actually Aunty kemi, you see my own dilemma? 😂

Still send to her, so she knows one electorate isnt pleased with it and she gets one less vote

jedisco:
Good points.

The conservatives or Reform despite all the mouthing would struggle to bring down migration numbers as much as Labour simply cos they'd not make some of the cuts Labour has.

Like I've always said, with Reform, I'd much rather they are in power than be the major opposition.

As per the proposed changes, I recommend people write to their MPs so their views are considered during the consultation process in parliament, and MPS can appreciate that a section of their electorate is not pleased with the way the change has been proposed and the language thereof.

I have written my MP and asked her to push for a fairer deal when the topic comes up in parliament and recommend others do the same.

Sharpsharp00123:
did u do anything spiritual?

If you mean traditionally, no.

I am christain. I drew closer to God in prayers and sometimes fasting. Also, I learned to forgive my mum and not harbour any grudge.

Also, I had this encounter with a man who proayed for me. During the difficult times, I became an uber driver to make ends meet. I picked up this man during a trip. Something within me told me to tell him the challenge I faced and I did.

At the end of the trip, the man advised and prayed for me and I felt something I cant really explain. If I recall correctly, I got a decent job offer that week and were so excited to have me onboard. Things turned around in my life from then and I have made very rapid progress since then and found grace & favour in everything I have done.

Probably someday I will write a story about my experience.

Sharpsharp00123:
please I will like to know how u were able to overcome the spiritual curse or bondage?

I keep a distance from home, the toxic nature of the relationship was killing me almost literarily. However, I keep calling to check up on her and send her gifts/upkeep funds as normal.

I completely avoid conversations that could cause her to react strongly and do not engage her when she brings up those topics either.

I am not sure if I completely overcame but I am in a much better place than I was back then.

samintegrity:
Bro, people should understand that the Graduate Visa is different from the student Visa. The graduate visa is what the UKVI policy is referring to, as being reduced from 24months (2yrs) to 18months (1y 6month)

A Graduate visa can only be applied for after completing an educational program in the UK, Its a means that afford people who have just completed their study in the UK and are yet to get a skilled visa and are nearing the expiration of their student visa to stay behind in the uk for up to 2year - 3years depending on your course of program,

Also note that the Graduate visa can not be renewed or extended, but holders can switch to another visa category.

So, literally it doesnt affects potential applicants.

Where it may affect potential MSc or MRes applicant is if after your initial 2years student visa in the UK, You stil have not gotten a work sponsorship, then it means, your chances of staying beyond in the UK for another 2years while you search for job sponsorship has been reduced to 1year and 6months,


Thanks for the update thou.

This is a bit misleading.

You are not allowed to switch from your student visa to a work visa until you have completed your academic program. Most student visas expire about 4- 6 months after the end of the academic program.

Substantially most students will have to transition to the graduate visa as 4-6 months after studies is quite a short time to land a graduate-level job offering sponsorship. Yes, some may get lucky, but most will require more time.

Hence, a reduction in the graduate visa duration will substantially affect the prospects of those hoping to get a job after studies.

To put things in perspective, about 40% of asylum claims for people with visa comes from those who held a student visa but could not transition to a work visa.

meagainstdem:
Could you please shed more light on these changes so that one would get prepared ahead? And if it's something that does not worth it, one can shift attention elsewhere.
It would be suicidal for someone who is a bit comfortable here in naija to want to travel out for better comfortability, and get over there and be plunged into lesser life due to unfavorable immigration upturn, after spending a fortune.
Thanks

- Immigration surcharge is increasing by over 30%, potentially deterring employers from taking in international candidates
- They are contemplating reducing the post-study period by 6 months. Less time to find a job
- Int'l graduates to be restricted from jobs with requirements below the graduate qualification..so jobs like care and possibly some social care roles are off the table.
- Minimum salary requirements are expected to increase further above the average UK wage
- Employers must show strong evidence they tried to recruit locally and invested in training before they can take on Int'l graduates

The general direction is to make it harder for int'l students to stay after their studies......in other words, they want your tuition money but will prefer you leave after your studies.

Mariangeles:
@bolded, you mean you with them, or them with your mum?

them with my mum. None of the wives could get along with my mum.

A lot has changed recently (and is changing) in the UK, and probably not for the good of recent immigrants.

Do your due diligence and plan well before committing millions to this project.

I wish you the best.

Ogalanyaidi:
I hope things have changed for the better

Yes, they did after a while. I am in a much better place mentally and financially.

I still have an awkward relationship with my mum, but that is probably the same with all my siblings right now.

It's my one pain in life - not being able to have a close relationship with my mum as most people do.

immortalcrown:
Be wise, or get wiser if you are already wise. If your piece of land is not far from your place of residence, sell only your car, use the money to build 'any how' structure on the piece of land as a shelter for you and your family, at least, to prevent moving to village where things will likely get worse between you and your mother. Then, hustle for just feeding. If you still have some money left after building the structure, start a minor (roadside) business for your wife or buy a fairly-used mini bus and become a commercial driver. The downfall of a man is not the end of his life, unless he fails to rise again.

Suicide will only worsen the situation. Your wife and child will suffer. Your mother or whoever is responsible for your frustration will torture your wife and your child. Just as someone already pointed out, your mother may not even be the one responsible for your problem.

Thanks, I'll keep pushing things to see how it goes

immortalcrown:
If you have sincerely apologized to her, things will definitely get better for you soon. Just be patient.

I'm at my last straw already. I am thinking of selling what I have left (a car and a land) and either opening a trust for my son and committing suicide or tryin another venture (which will most likely fail).

I have rising debts, my house rent is due in some days time and I'm losing my mind.

immortalcrown:
Kneel before her, beg her to forgive you and renounce the curse. If she refuses, implore her people (her parents and siblings) to assist you in begging her. Do not force her oh! After begging her, things will get better for you, even if she does not openly renounce the curse.

I have done this during the reconciliation bro, infact one of my uncles, who probably didnt know much about my situation asked her to renounce all the bad things she had been saying to me because he had heard her say them in the past.

Honestly, even she isn't better off. Because she isn't really working and she depends on us for support. But since, I am down financially, she is even worse-off, because she depends on us and I was the main person assisting among the children.

Dear family section members,

Please I need matured advice on an issue that has bothered me for almost two years now.

I got married about two years ago, without the support of my mum (my dad is late). She strongly opposed the wedding without any reasonable justification but I still had my way, thanks to family members (maternal and paternal) and my bride's family who stood firm in the face of the obvious animosity she displayed throughout every stage of the wedding. My mum is a fairly domineering person, and somehow I feel she was greatly offended that the wedding stuff was not her call and she wasn't the one calling all the shots. During the wedding planning, my mum picked issues with almost everyone that supported my marriage and every action that was taken. She made a lot of nasty comments that I never imagined a mother will make to her child. To be fair when it became unbearable for me (because at a point in time, I was getting psychologically depressed with her aggressive quarreling with anyone connected with the wedding), I confronted her and we had a heated argument. After the argument, she became calm, but kept mentioning that I'll regret. I have money and that is why I can talk when she talks.. I took note of this particular comment among all the ones she kept saying because I wondered how my mother who was a major beneficiary of my success will keep saying such.

hmmm, people truly, over the past 18 months, I have gone from a net provider to someone who scrapes to earn a living. I have worked for more employers than I am willing to admit because, each time I joined a company something happens and the company folds up or lays off staff. I have had several instances where offer letters for employment was issued but at the last minute, the HR person just goes cold and rescinds the decision without any explanation. In fact in one instance, I had an insider who informed me that one board member just refused to sign my offer letter without any real reason.

I have tried business too, and at the last step when I am to be awarded the contract, everything just falls apart in a manner that is difficult to explain. I have a failed at so many other things over the past 18 months. I used to be this kind of person with a sterling record at almost everything I did, so failing at so many things was difficult and I lost a lot of my self confidence and even the willingness to explore things because I was becoming deeply embarassed at hw I was failing.

I am not one for superstition, but honestly, I tempted to believe I am impacted by a curse and the timeline and incidences suggest, it's my mum.

Please any one knows how I can go about dealing with curses, I just lost my last job this Dec because company lost a key contract and failed at a bid it was expecting to secure. I enter 2020 unemployed and getting more and more depressed.

As for my mum, we are cool now, although things never went back to the way they were before. Some friends and family members facilitated a "reconciliation" we both said she has forgiven me for my wrong doings and she holds no grudge (in my culture the elders are always right o, so I just played along and asked for forgiveness). She doesnt call to know how my family is except when I visit. She is even a grand mother now, and she doesn't call to know if the child is fine or not. to cut the long stry short, she cares less about the family, even though when we visit, she puts up this appearance of being happy with us.

PS - I dont regret the decision of marrying my wife or our kid, they God's blessings to me in my darkest night. I just want to know if there is a solution to my predicarment, and I also dont want to do anything fetish.