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[quote :Dauthor=BloomingDale post=128064739]Oga, my happy is not your happy, though I’m at my happiest when I’m alone with nobody around to disturb my peace. I have this beautiful beautiful inner sense of peace and it’s like I’m one with nature and the universe.

Do you know the number one death of pregnant women are their spouses?[/quote]Exactly. Everyone is different. I am like you, I’m quite happy by myself while some can’t spend an hour alone.
But common sense ought tell you a lion is more fulfilled hunting for his food (though it is much more difficult) than being brought the best meat any time he wishes

BloomingDale:
Oga, research has shown this is a lie. Women are no longer believing those lies no matter your desperation to pass that across as true. Research has shown that married women with children are the unhappiest and die quicker, while single women without children are the happiest and live the longest.

Define “happy”. Common sense ought tell you such research is not possible. Who is happier - a soldier who goes to war and faces difficulties and danger or one who stays in camp eating delicious food and watching tv? Ask yourself as a woman which will make you happier - preparing your kid for school or having casual sex and watching tv

BloomingDale:
Nah, women are no longer been deceived by that talk any longer. If happiness comes from taking care of your kids and partners and watching them grow up, more men would be involved in fatherhood and husband duties, but most fathers and husbands are not interested in their children and wives, hence the reason why children are closer to their moms.

Research shows single women with no children are happier than married women with children while the reverse is for men. This is because men are not the ones doing the everyday boring and arduous tasks.

Pregnancy and childbirth are hard and can even take life of the woman. Yet that is most fulfilled a woman can be. Same way, the happiest and most fulfilled a woman can be is taking care of her children and husband. Work! Pure work, yet no other activity can make a woman more fulfilled than that!
Doesn’t mean a woman without husband and kids can’t still enjoy her life

BloomingDale:
Nah, women are no longer been deceived by that talk any longer. If happiness comes from taking care of your kids and partners and watching them grow up, more men would be involved in fatherhood and husband duties, but most fathers and husbands are not interested in their children and wives, hence the reason why children are closer to their moms.

Research shows single women with no children are happier than married women with children while the reverse is for men. This is because men are not the ones doing the everyday boring and arduous tasks.

Pregnancy and childbirth are hard and can even take life of the woman. Yet that is most fulfilled a woman can be. Same way, the happiest and most fulfilled a woman can be is taking care of her children and husband. Work!

Lifeinlight:
LoL. A woman should throwaway herself and focus on kids? I know your type anyway

BloomingDale:
Ok keep thinking that. It’s even the rich women that are less likely to give birth. Women are realizing everywhere that motherhood is a an arduous and thankless job. They will rather be free to enjoy their lives like the men do.

Marriage is about work and joy that comes from work. The happiness is from taking care of your kids (and partner) and watching them grow up. Work!
You can also get happiness from watching a good movie or good casual sex as a single. But you can already see which happiness is inferior

Lifeinlight:
I disagree. Marriage should make you happy. Marriage should make you better than when you're single. I understand it is a collective efforts from the man and woman to make it work. But trust me, women are tired of we men in terms of marriage. If there's financial backup, many will leave without thinking twice

You have kids, you take care of them. It’s no longer about you. That’s marriage

Lifeinlight:
she's right. So many women aren't happy in their marriage. There are so many happy singles than married women.

Marriage is not about being happy. It is about doing what you have to do

Fryx:
She nailed the problem where she say men pamper women before marriage and only show their true color after.

Relationship built on selfishness won’t last.

And women don’t do same??

It’s like asking a soldier if he likes going to war - it’s what he does

But EmmanuelTV has also been removed from YouTube and all other platforms too

Which way Nigeria??
Kidnapping to now skyrocket.
You no longer have to be rich to be kidnapped - they now know your people can do crowd funding!

Which way Nigeria??
Kidnapping to now skyrocket.
You no longer have to be rich to be kidnapped - they now know your people can do crowd funding

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
Appreciate it, but don't do pm's. What u think of the scenario above?🤣

That scenario is no big deal. Happens from time to time. And what do you think of this one? Is this you?

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
Correct! U a smart boy sir!
If you say women are all prostitutes in a larger sense, then men are too! See below

I don’t mean it quite that way. If you pm me I will explain to you in detail

NextAbuja:
You like to deceive yourself.
Which part of Nigeria did Ebele not receive conducive support before people start criticizing him ?

Same Ebele won all SW state except Osun with Fashola bringing him to Lagos to commission project untill he decided to path his own separate ways n others follow suit. He had 4 years to make amend but waited till election period.

For example - as much as your Igbo insult Tinubu how is he able to hold PDP governors support n respect till now n why was Ebele unable to ?! The truth let it rain on your head, do not let bigot overpower critical thinking.

Many of you Igbos just wake up n start acting like you forgot history. Did the SE support Ebele Jonathan more than the SW in his first contest ?

If the SE did not why did Ebele think he need to be sharing dollars to Obas in Lagos when he went for his second term ?

Did he share a single dollar before he won 6 of the 7 Yoruba state in his first term ?

What was he thinking n did that the relationship that saw him win 6 out of 7 state deteriorated to an extent he needed to start sharing dollar in million when he never spent a Kobo before winning same states previously ?!

When you Igbo start telling yourself the truth you will understand how the Yorubas will act beta n take precautions, advice yourself n friends on how to deal with them.

You people are simply too funny. See him talking as if Nigerian elections are fair and square. Didn’t Tinubu lose Lagos woefully despite all the rigging and MC Oluomo, and got less than 25% in Abuja??
Jonathan would have won that election in a landslide if he played Tinubu type of politics. Tinubu will never lose a presidential election as an incumbent

COVR:
There is nothing like PDP and APC governance. Party doesn't have effect on governance but individuals that occupied position so doesn't be deceived about the party campaign. Political parties are just commercial vehicles to Nigeria politician and that's why cross carpeting is easy for them.

You are MOSTLY correct, BUT LP in power will not be like APC

NextAbuja:
Pls I need anyone with functional brain not those with dead brain to respond.

PDP was not bad but Nigeria that rejected Buhari 3 straight times had to swallow their shame n vote him when same PDP nearly wrecked the country. The same Buhari they rejected 3 solid times.

Did you read what I wrote?
I said PDP was BAD, but we’ve now seen they weren’t so bad compared to APC!! See below

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
What u think of the following? Agree? Disagree?

Many women are not prostitutes at all. Some infact pay to be “serviced”

NextAbuja:
Of course while PDP as been the success

PDP was bad, but much better

APC has been a disaster

Just properly compensate and relocate people

PoliteActivist:
*[Politeness*
Well, well, thanks a lot. That's the aim of the thread - that anybody who comes accross it and applies some of it will live a better life!
Speaking of Tinubu, I think his attitude in this video demonstrates a big part of why he was successful, and we can learn a lot from it!

https://youtu.be=PRkDs3

So just ignore everything people are sayin and just believe it’s your turn!

I like this below

Probably lying as usual

Agreed. No one knows who is kidnapper and who is security.
But I don’t think it is morning as you said. More like it’s approaching midnight

[quote author=PoliteActivist post=128002575][/quote]The “decide” thing actually makes sense to me. Example, once Tinubu decided it was his turn, the uninverse went to work!

codedgalaxy:
you mean its an unafrican thing ?

Very much so. We show our love in practical ways, not going about saying I love you like mumu. And many times it’s not true. Talk is cheap!

Soo what?? You and the children will NEVER catch it as as long as she takes her pills. And she’ll live a normal healthy life. HIV is no longer what it used to be

It is quite abnormal for an African man to go about saying I love you. It is simply not our culture

aswani:
Victor Banjo was an unlucky soldier no doubt.

He wasn't as unlucky as the guy who heard about a coup plot, reported it in to his superior who he didn't realise was part of the plot and who promptly arrested him and had him detained for a while even after the coup had succeeded.

Fast forward some years, he heard about another coup plot and sensibly kept his mouth shut even though he refused to take part.

Coup plotters were rounded up and arrested and he was included, because a law had been made since the last time he reported a coup plot that if you heard about a coup plot and didn't report it, you will he treated as a participant.

Poor man was condemned to death and I believe was executed by firing squad too.

So much in life is dependent on luck. Just think if those guys had succeeded, more people would have faced firing squad. They would retire senior officers including Gowon and Ojukwu. Nigeria would have taken a completely different trajectory

oneda:
These men were the last patriots. They believed in a Nigeria that could never be - a Nigeria where merit determines a mama fortunes. They didn't do it for gains or for tribe.
These are the heroes past whose labours shouldn't be in vain but alas! they're labours are in vain!

True. But see below why that coup failed and would never have succeeded. Why kill an innocent mother, a non-soldier, a mother of 3 young children??!!