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vivian chinaza: Hi guys, ok I met this guy sometime ago, he is a nice guy tho not perfect. I wasn't in love with him anyway but I just decided to get close to him and see if the love could develop.

When I got closer to him I found out he is an extravagant spender, he just jumps into things without planning them. He can begin 5 projects at a time without a proper strategy/planning and some of the money he uses for these project are bank loans. This aspect of his lifestyle did not go down with me. I kept talking but at the end of the day he will do what pleases him.

You dont know what life have in store for you. I started poor untill i got married i never knew i was a heavy spender not untill i made my first buck.
Notwithstanding my wife channelled that habit to acquiring assets.
The truth is that men who spend are very emotional and such quality could be used to tame them or redirect that flaw

The one that broke the camel's back was when he bought a flashy car while he was yet to complete his buildings at the village and city respectively, he bought the car and made a commitment of over 1m just for tourism/travelling around and staying in 5 star hotels.
I just knew that moment he wasn't for me, this guy really loves me but I'm a careful spender and I love planning things before I do them. So I told him to stop coming cos it won't work out between us. And I moved on and even forgot he existed.

Today he called me probably to find out how I'm managing the flood situation, we got talking and somehow we ended up talking about what happened between us. From his voice I could sense his love and desire for me,,,,,,,,but,,,,,,,

How do I deal with this aspect of his life? Can I tame him? Is it really possible? Not that it will guarantee any relationship cos I'm yet to developed feelings for him. But I just wanna try, take this baby step and maybe reconsider.......they say love grows right?

Mature advise pls........

Ramcie: I wish I would see mine someday . I guess it would be soooo cool or maybe awkward . Would be so excited but if na mean girl with an attitude I go clear her doubt sharply

Imanuelle: [size=4pt] where are Aluu peeps when u need dem d most? [/size]

gramci: You want to know? we now manufacture bombs in kano.

gramci: You want to know? we now manufacture bombs in kano.

Ucheosefoh: I toke the pictures with my phone so dont expect it to be bright and clear

Royalty1: This is really bad. But I doubt if the Govt is to blame. This is a natural disaster and no govt can stop Such. The only Responsibilty of the government is to manage the crisis and provide adequate and immediate help to the people. NEMA, work don land o!
God, please help and protect your Children.

greatgod2012: Please, nairalanders, how do i deal with destructive child, there is dis my boy who is so destructive, no matter how expensive d toy is, just give some hours, he will dismantle everything beyond repair. I'm so confused, dont know what to do abt it, and if i try to buy toys for his siblings and not buy for him, he'd be singing(crying) mum dont like me, i will not like her when i grow up. I've really tried to talk to him but he wouldn't change, pls, i need ur sincere advice, what do i do to curtail dis behaviour of his. Thanks in anticipation of ur sincere and mature responses.

ojubi: My mum.
She sold all her expensive rappers to put me through school.
Today each time i get succeesful her sense of belonging and self esteem soar high.
The last time she saw my building project in port harcourt she wept. She just could not imagine how her son can overcome poverty and hardship that easily.

y2kaustin: Starring at GEJ's picture on my wall.

oyb: you are a very good reason for this thread - imagine having to sponsor a lout like you through university - you can't even write coherent english

and you are slow to boot

i posted a link to your post history and quoted one of your posts

since you want to play rough. . .

https://www.nairaland.com/983400/please-need-experienced-career-advice

you are indeed doing very well. i pity the poor kids who will have an incoherent lout like you as a role model

jack of all trades and master of internet BS. money don enter bush finish.

your uncle first wasted money sending you to do microbilogy, which you found out you 'were not cut out for ' after 3 years

then IT project mgt

you then jumped to NIM

then to project management

then to lag biz school

now you are running around asking what should i do

all that money was clearly wasted.

your uncle should have found some one who didn't have his head in his arse - and the person would have sorted himself/herself out after one degree. the way you're going, i can see more courses in your future - perpetual student - thats what happens when you have no responsibility for fundin your education

small wonder aj dey vex on career board.



sorry o , this lumideezle to the weezle has faulted your assertion big time

omonori1: Seriously this is among one of the dumbest topics treading at nairaland... Wow

omonori1: Seriously this is among one of the dumbest topics treading at nairaland... Wow

bright007: Question:what makes å car bounce?
Answer:When u carry an åsss weighing more than d car.The car will bounce even more when u are working on d asss yourself.

bright007: Question:what makes å car bounce?
Answer:When u carry an åsss weighing more than d car.The car will bounce even more when u are working on d asss yourself.

bbpreye: Our pride of ijaw land DAME P. GEJ should be congratulated and not critisized. Its not easy to attain the position of permanent secretary. This would bring FRESH AIR to the Bayelsa state civil service as her presence will conjure diligence to work by others. Let's continue to pray for Nigeria cos the crop of future leaders coming up will be worse than the past. *make I sip my ogogro abeg, fresh fish peppersoup dey fire***

LIVE from Otueke waterside.

owoblo345: Funny, I've driven this same car @ 170km/hr (Lagos-Warri) with no issues

You are kidding, right?