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FlamingBulb:
Boss
Boss is not part of your family so a total stranger
I should treat a visitor who honoured me first

Pastors/Imam then Husband

If the event took place in the Church/Mosque
Jejeli give your Imams/Pastors because they may be waiting in the office and might have been working all night with fasting and prayers

If it took place at your workplace
Honour your Husband first

Any person who puts their spouses last in this list is not matured enough to get married yet. Imagine putting your husband last in the pecking order in his own house when he's supposed to come first. Let me explain something to you because it seems like some of you don't really understand what marriage truly is. Your husband comes first before even your own children, if there's only one pieyof yam left in the pot and your husband and children are yet to eat, you must serve that yam to your husband first, he will now pass it over to the children to eat. That's how it is done, them no dey teach this for school. Your husband must also put your interest first before anyone else's, even his children's.

Your mentality towards this matter is why marriages are collapsing in its infancy, it's why divorce are spiking, because todays young adults do not understand nor try to grasp the tenets of marriage and what it means to build a home.

Change4dbeta:
Africans and our low mentallity .What is order of priority. Are they not all meant to be serve..This is why divident of good governance dont go round in Africa. And we are all copable.
In civilised countries,be you lawyer,governor,president,servants,househelp,richman,poorman once you are all seat in the same roll of chairs you will be given a plate to pass it on to next fellow till it get to the last fellow and every one get a plate each.

It is not low mentality, in fact, the person displaying Low mentality is you. This is about culture and traditions not about mentality or whatever.

Some of you will come online and in your bid to sound smart and enlightened you end up sounding very ignorant

edogu:
It depends on the occasion.

It shouldn't ever depend on any occasion. The spouse should always come first in every occasion.

Jokay07:
The answer to this scenario are plenty and it also depends on where the event happened. The law of territory.

Let me just answer one of them.
1. The pastor:
If it happens in a neutral ground where by both the pastor, the wife, husband and the boss are all guests, then the pastor would be regarded first.
In a event when people gather, it is the pastor that will do opening prayers and even closing prayers. It is even the pastor that will bless the food. That pastoral office must be regarded.
Again, the pastor is the spiritual head in a neutral ground where the event is taking place.

Secondly, you serve your boss. Serving your boss doesn't mean disrespect to your husband.
Well I will explain this later

This is Why I say that most people here don't have sense, there's no scenario where the pastor should EVER come before your spouse in pecking order, none! Whether it's a neutral setting or private settings. Your pastor is an outsider and should not be placed in the same pedestal as your spouse, let alone being above your spouse. This is why homes are breaking because people no longer understand what marriage really is. The spiritual head of any religious family is Christ! Not your Pastor for crying out loud!!! Your pastor is on the same level as you spiritually, any well read Christian knows this.

Let me ask you a question, supposed the one serving the food was the pastor's wife and the people being served are the pastor ( the husband) , a fellow pastor, and the wife's boss, who should the wife serve first?

dododawa1:
I have seen the real video of the officer a d the guy.

The officer was requesting for brine because the guy did not have some documents for the goods he's conveying.

And then the officer said, if it was another tribe, he would have let them go

The emboldened above might sound harsh but that's the reality in Nigeria. The goods with no particular was the main questioning because it's a pattern

oh so this is what they told you people to repost from your WhatsApp group? helinues just wrote almost the exact same thing, abi this is his alternative account

ojuu4u:
As if Igbo not treating others the same way in their domain.

You are the one who is far from reality, come to same Akure and and evey other major town in Yoruba land, and see that Igbos already bought all their houses and turned them to shops

since when did buying a property become a crime in Nigeria?
You people really sound so much like those xenophobic South Africans

WriteerNg:
They spent $4 trillion & 20 years and still lost to barefooted goat herders in Afghanistan.

So whether they spend $100 trillion, e no go change anything.

Everybody knows that US weapons are over priced & over rated.

The US military is well known for paying exorbitant amounts for even the littlest of things.

The US army once paid $42000 for an item originally sold for $62. That's how bad it is for them.

What China or Russia will buy with $32 billion, it'll take the US $5 trillion to buy the exact same thing.

They didn't lose in Afghanistan, They literally look over the country and established a new government. The only thing was that the government they established wasn't strong enough because they (USA) misunderstood the dynamics at play at Afghanistan, so the government collapsed immediately the US left the country. In terms of warfare, the USA were victorious in Afghanistan.

HacheNoire:
22 billion palace allocation 😳😳😳

Seems the administration of His Excellency, President Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu (GCFR) is fast becoming a joke and ridicule of Nigerians.

E don dey clear for una eyes abi. Continue supporting these thieves as they throw crumbs at you while they are feeding fat on our national wealth.

Mattswaggz:
Firstly, war is in human nature...I wasn't arguing about that.
Imperfections are also in human nature so I wasn't arguing about that either.

If you think my talks has something to do with inferiority complex then you're wrong because I am amongst those who are well aware that Africa was a great civilization back then and our ancestors didn't depend on foreigners for architecture, technology,medicines,weapons etc but what went wrong now is question for another day.

Now back to the main concern which I raised which you've ignored so far.......why is the black race the most backwards amongst all of them presently....no patriotism, almost totally dependent on foreign technology et al, no self confidence and so on and so forth.....you should ask yourself that question or you can as well answer my question....there is no point living in self denial because only after admitting a problem can one trace it's source and profer a solution and not by dodging and being dishonest.

i have addressed your question multiple times using different examples of other races being in the same situation as the blacks. And I have shown examples of the black races being better than the rest of the world when they're given equal opportunity to thrive.
You ask why the black race is the most backwards among all races, yet there's no black country that's as backwards as the people of Bangladesh and Afghanistan, two races that are not black, one is pashtun and the other is Bengals.

Talking about patriotism, how many African countries have you visited? Do you think Ghanaians, Togolese, Cameroonians, Gabonese, Kenyans etc aren't patriotic to their nation? Nigeria as far as I know is the one African country that I have been to that patriotism is almost none existent. One other country with same lack of patriotism that I know is Lebanon, there are a large section of the Lebanon that are more patriotic to iran than to their own country, Same also goes to Afghanistan, these countries are not black!

Almost every country is dependent on foreign technology. UAE, Saudi Arabia, Oman, Lebanon, Portugal, Uzbekistan, Yemen, Nicaragua, etc are all almost dependent on foreign techs, again, these are not black countries


Every single thing you mentioned here can be said of other races, it's not exclusive to blacks. So saying that blacks are backwards because of something that's universally present in all races is a clear indication of inferiority complex and mental slavery.

Mattswaggz:
I wasn't talking about Nigeria alone okay....I am talking about the outing of blacks generally compared to others generally as well....just like pitting Africa(minus the North whom are mostly Arabs) against Europe,South/North America,Australasia,Asia/middle east.....there is a reason why they're the lowest ranked amongst all.

You're suffering from inferiority complex. These other countries that I mentioned are not blacks, and yet all these negative aspects are found in their society, even here in the USA all those things are present In the white folks community.
Someone will open their rubbish mouth and say " Give the Africans guns and they will kill themselves" and people like you will take it as gospel, is there any race in this world that's more war mongering than the white man? Theirs have been a history of one major war after the other, they even have 2 world wars in their name and the UN was created to stop them from killing eachother but they still can't help themselves as you can see from Russia and Ukraine. When was the last time two African countries warred against each other? And yet they say we're the ones that are backwards? These people practice open defecation and open sex right on the streets, can't define the difference between a man and a woman, casually walk into an elementary school and gun down every kid in there and yet they call us backward and people like you are cheering for them. We're backwards and yet kids from Africa participate in the same educational competition with the white folks and come home with gold regularly.

Mattswaggz:
Overall general score for growth, development and advancement.

Have you been to Bangladesh Or some parts of India?? It's crazy some of you will say this when there's a place like Afghanistan which is currently the poster child for under development and negative growth, and then you have Timo-Leste and Yemen. You can even add Cambodia to that list.

I have been to Bangladesh, Timo and Cambodia and I can tell you that Nigeria is more advanced than these places. There are some parts of India that them no born you well to live in, you will catch disease instantly.

Streetinvestor2:
Nigerians are interested in debate on how someone daughter died nicked in your house

The man wants to use Obi to deflect from the suspicious circumstances surrounding the death of the lady in his house.

Mattswaggz:
There is a reason the blacks are the most backward.....think it through.

Backwards in what sense?

Image123:
Is your salary up to two thousand 50naira notes. All these students that don't learn.

incoherent none sense

ColdHunter:
Decades down the line, this fact stands.

Nonsense talk. The same thing he said about Africans can be found in Every single race.
Russia, Ukraine are white countries and yet are just as corrupt and power drunk. Here in the United States of America corruption is big problem, they just know how to keep it out of the mainstream media but bribery and corruption is in almost every facet of the government. Of course you All know about the Gun problems in America, everyone knows how dangerous it is to live in a place like Detroit, Brooklyn etc. school kids are not even safer in their classrooms and all that.

There are a lot of countries doing way worse than black African countries, so stop swallowing racist view points concerning the black man.

Osidazz19:
It is not a federal road. Those who made the skit ate not ignorant like you.

Honestly I don't know why I'm arguing with ignorant people who's never travelled out of their region all their life. This road passes through one of our houses at Ukwa.

Osidazz19:
Stop lying. The people in the area know it's not a federal road.

That's a federal road. Try and verify before spreading your ignorance all over the place.

FSBoperator:
Liar.

This is not a federal road.

It is a federal road, this road connects to ikot ekpene road at ogbo Hill Aba. There's another bad spot that's at umuga immediately after Umuogele, this spot is directly in front of the yet to be utilised mechanic village.

You people who have never left your region can not be The ones to tell us which road is Federal road and which isn't.

untoldtruth:
One time like that itel came through for me when I was on a tight budget, I know naija people no like itel as per previous experience but check their 5G series, they're affordable and good for utility

utility kill them there
I no fit advise my enemy to buy any of their phones.

SeeWahala:
Zee this one claiming he is USA

Whats the time now in USA? Instead of you to be asleep you're on nairaland by 2am doing dàta b0i for tilumbu 😏

Na our backyard United States of Alakija na him this one dey CORNfuse with ShiKaGo 🤭

If you think that this guy who is in disguise is in the USA then I have a bridge to sell to you

sulaak:
Stupid development; that's why the SA call African hopeless.

We need gas to generate electricity; why not get a $25billion loan to fund our electricity needs

The gas that we desperately need locally is being exported to other countries. Watch how price of gas will increase locally due to the high demand in foreign markets.

TopBanter:
Obi is not even in the reckoning for 2027. The battle
is between. PBAT and the born-to-rule supremacist and hegemonist Northern leaders struggling to grab power.

Tinubu and his technocrats , Cardoso's etal, have cut off their breast-milk access to using political power to sustain their backward lifestyle whereby they wickedly fail to develop their people yet a small number of Northern leaders and their family and affiliates use FG wealth to live Monaco and Dubai billionaire lifestyle.

Yet he's in everyone's mouth 24/7. For someone who's not in the reckoning for 2027 the opposition has devoted a lot of energy talking about him.

Sheuns:
Some time in the future, Akpabio will look back at his time as senate president and shake his head in shame.

Imagine a senate president going on errands for the president. Even Ahmed Lawan no lick arse reach this one.

That's based on the assumption that he has any shame in him.

Codes151:
Stop bringing rubbish here.

Rather than always talking about Tinubu nd Akpabio.

This nobody should be busy telling Nigerians what he can do differently and about his experience.

We shouldn't talk about the president and senate president?

Some of you ehn....una education na just waste

numericalguy:
This is a classical case of victim mentality



Peter Obi is not an intelligent person because I don't see how a doctor who treats the terrorist called Nnmadi Kanu granted his doctor the right to be above the law

Do you think Criminals in kirikiri don't have doctors that treat them? Every time I come to this nairaland I keep losing braincells due to the idiotic comments I read here. Comments that are so idiotically brain draining that you wonder whether it was made by a baboon that somehow got it's hands on a mobile phone.

flokii:
The ones that joined, are they being treated fairly?.. are the soldiers being treated with the DIGNITY they deserve?
Hate or like the Igbos, they can be very bold and resolute if they want to..

The government should do the right thing, stop rehabilitation of terrorists and start matching their crimes with commensurate punishment.. then watch how young Nigerians will willingly enlist to join the Army. A country whose banner is stained with blood because some Northerners are influencing decisions that should ordinarily be decisive and lethal shouldn't expect much loyality from its citizens.

You don talk am finish. The Nigerian government have made the army to be very unattractive to the youths with the way they handled the welfare of the soldiers, the dubious way they are handling the terrorists ( that repentant nonsense is doing way too many harm than good, if there's any good at all) and the heavy handedness in which they handled dissidents in the SE zone.

michlins:
relax, I bụrụ onye Igbo karịa m. Ndị be anyị na adị eji obi eme ihe karịa echiche,e mesia anyị achọ onye anyị ga asi na ọ bu ya mere

ì n'ajụ kwa ihe mere ha anaghị a si ndị Igbo bịa banye NDA ma ọ bụ Air force na Navy?
Ka mụ kọwaa ya e be Ọ ga e do gi anya, army recruitment a bụ ghi ebe e si ahọpụta lieutenant, Generals, major general etc. Onye banyere army sị́te na recruits bụ ihe ndị bekee na akpọ fodders, footsoldiers — ihe ejị emeju akwụkwọ. Naijiria ka Ọ di ya now na achọ ndị e ji emeju akwụkwọ na ihu agha, ya mere ha ji achọ ụmụ okorobịa na ike na ike.

michlins:
While it's all fun and good, let no one cry marginalization if and when there will be no top Igbo man in the Nigeria security system

Let's be ready for that eventuality

That position is not for those who came in through recruitment, that's for those who pass through NDA.

OlujobaSamuel:
Highways (Lekki Epe expway and Coastal Rd) are not flooded, but the estate/community inbtw the Lekki Epe corridor and Coastal Rd are heavily flooded.
Those on the right side of the coastal road from VI towards Epe are even better off as their can still flow into the see easily.
Their case worse pass Agungi right now, you can try enter Nike Art or Meadow Hall, you go fear the water wey dey there

Jesus! It's even worse than I thought . Are you saying that that entire area all the way to eleganza/ orchid road were completely flooded?? That's terrible, those areas don't use to experience that kind of flood, if at all.

OlujobaSamuel:
Abi Sanwo Olu don high ni, I need not asked if David is high, na usual for him.
There is sea/lagoon on a side, you elevated an highway without drainage crossing through it, then you expect that there won't be excess flood.
If you are on Lekki Epe expway, the whole stretch of the right hand side from Marwa to Ajah is flooded

Are you kidding me? That's a very long stretch of road?! Unless you're being dramatic, that's a very serious problem

Is it only the roads that's flooded or did it also affect the estates and other establishments off the road?

I've experienced a lot of flooding on the express but it has never covered such long distance, maybe Agungi is flooded after a heavy downpour or VGC is flooded or Marwa to chisco is flooded but it usually dries up with time by flowing through the canal and into the lagoon.

The last time I was in Lagos and toured through the coastal road I noticed that some of the canals through which the water empties into the lagoons no longer exist, but I thought that they must have a plan for the flooding, I mean they have to right? They can't spend that amount of money and not make provisions for the flooding which is a very regular feature in V.I, ikoyi, lekki phase 1&2.

This just reeks of unprofessionalism and poor planning.

givedemwotowoto:
FIFA did the right thing.

That injury was an unfortunate accident, but it didn’t deserve a red card. Balogun didn’t see where his foot landed. He was facing the opposite direction.

It’s like jumping up to head the ball, then landing on someone already on the floor. Like, was your body supposed to defy gravity and remain in the air?

UEFA is playing unnecessary politics.

It doesn't have to be intentional to be a red. Rashford got a red for similar challenge against Galatasary a couple of years ago in the UCL. Casemiro had a similar red card two years ago.

The red card was the correct decision as far as the rule book is concerned.

Now the decision by FIFA is very controversial because if according to you it wasn't a red, and if FIFA saw it as a wrong decision by the on field ref, then the appropriate action would have been to rescind the red card. But in this case FIFA is not rescinding the red but rather suspending the red card for 1 year. What this means is that FIFA actually agrees that the red was correct decision but that the red card will not count. Coupled with the fact that Trump himself had to call infantino to suspend that red card, there's no other blatant display of corruption and political meddling in the sports as this one.

You as a person can not be against Tinubu's government for its corrupt practices and then turn a blind eye to the FIFA corruption. It just shows that you're not sincere with your disdain for immoral and corrupt practices.

kodded:
But they didn't cross the line when they suspended ronaldo three match ban so that he can play this world cup abi?


Selfish Europeans think the world revolves around them

Ronaldo at least served one match ban, and the suspension was during the qualifiers not in the tournament proper. There are precedence to Ronaldo's case, he's not the first one that rule was applied to. Balogun's case is a totally different scenario, they didn't rescind the red card ( which would have been the better decision) rather they suspended it. The last time something like this happened was about 50 years ago In '66 and it was a very controversial decision that time.

This is not about Europe, the integrity of the sports is at stake here, but I guess you people don't give a damn about integrity anyway.