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PUSSYHOE:
Suffer with them when they were struggling i didn't see any girl with them.

Tell your friends like attracts like.

freecocoa:
So I’m hoping the experienced folks here can help shed light on this topic, as it seems to be a very real issue in many families, please tell us how best you think one can deal with a man that sides with his family over almost everything. It’s like they can do no wrong in his eyes, even when he seems not to agree entirely with what they’ve done, you are still left with feeling like, he’s siding with them, and more than siding with them, is that he gets angry when you try to point out how badly behaved they are, have been or were, as the case maybe.

We’d love to read especially from the men , seeing as most Nigerian men like to take sides with their family(sisters and mothers mostly) over their SO. Not that I believe that there are or should be sides , but what do you do call it, when that’s exactly what you are seeing happen?

Chai this is one of my biggest fears.

A man controlled by his family.
A mummy's boy.


Even if the mother tells him to take a second wife will do so without question.

BlackPantherxXx:
"The driver insisted he should be left behind if his Oyinbo Boss isn't rescued"

I wouldn't call this loyalty.

You wouldn't understand the emotion behind this.

Many foreign expatriates ( pure whites) treat their drivers better than some friends even do to each other here in Nigeria. Tips, bonuses, time off and always asking about the well being of the man's family.

He was simply overtaken by grief.

Fountainofyouth:
And when the said guy makes it, then decides to dump his girlfriend that stayed with him, for another one that "fits his new status", what do we call him;

An ungrateful bastard
A fvcking retard with no brain to reason
A senseless motherfvcker

Funny thing is guys like that will go for girls that will ask for every material things imaginable, will give her everything with a smile on his dumb face, but will still complain to his homies about ALL ladies generally, that is exactly what Op is talking about.

After they have invested all their life savings on goldddiggers they would start screaming I want a working class lady for marriage.

A working class lady they can leech on. A working class lady they can share responsibility 50/ 50 with. So, they can continue using their money to chase slay Queens even while married.

Nonsense.

PUSSYHOE:
My rich( more comfortable) friends complain about ladies more than the others, they said since they change status girls they are meeting are leeches, they said the pleasure is awesome but its like paying for a service.

Sometimes i ask aren't ladies design to love guys, just their resources?

So, you guys are just realizing. I thought you all we're like Aladdin and money was the magic lamp to rub to have all your wishes come through.




Meanwhile, tell your friends to check themselves well.

I know guys who aren't so successful who always get hardworking, supportive girlfriends.


Are you telling me your friends didn't have girlfriends who suffered with them?

Like attracts like.

Michelle don begin fine o.

Meanwhile, see as AY is famzing the Otedolas

Always remember that the person you are looking up to is saying Sir to someone.

psyqs:
UBA too

I need the I'd card to open an account and to getthe africard, right?

ericbertrand:
Zenith bank, but you have to open an account with them.

And i need the I'd cardto open the account. Right?

Which banks in Nigeria can one do NIN or national I'd card.

Please it's urgent

AGManuel:
How can u distinguish between the FC UK calls and others ? Even the 1minute and 2-3 minute calls I do pick most times are all FC UK calls.

you have to just open your mind to it.

Even if you run away you'lll still have to do it one day.

Better to get your low ratings and get used to the calls than to get high ones and return back to low rating.

ericbertrand:
I was working on a call about 10 minutes ago. I couldn't hear the customer. she had this bedroom voice and I had exhausted all my release tokens. I got angry and started transcribing rubbish. Guess what, I was rated 5. lol. unbelievable

*coughs* It is well.
Have you been getting 5's though?

hybridblood07:
Absolutely true but which event hall will accommodate them all? Besides, it is waste of money. She should give 10% to charity.

She only said that to attract attention. I doubt she will do it .

Grupo:
Hahaha. Which venue do you want to use that would contain 1000 bridesmaid alone. Them never add guests o.

Haba,

We can use Tafawa Balewa Square na.

Grupo:
Let's do our own wedding with 500 bridesmaids to beat their record.

Lol

If we are getting paid for breaking the record, why not. I go even use 1000 .

Please what exactly are they celebrating?

A kingdom that had better drainage system and was more organized than London at the time the first English men arrived there.

Is it now experiencing backwardness or it's just static?

The Esama, Oba and co will send their kinds abroad, go there for vacation and come back to celebrate a rottening civilization.

Let me not even delve into how when an average Benin woman says she went to Italy only one thing comes to mind.

Or their able bodied men go into all sorts of crime just to survive.

Most times, these kind of things happen when a lady won't stop bragging about her boyfriend before her friends.

"Oh, my boyfriend is so caring, so loving, so good in...."

Before you know it, Nkirukas will start coverting the guy. A guy she might not have considered if he had asked her out first.

Just to dominate and make a fool of the friend. She will do anything to sleep with the guy and destroy the friend's relationship. She might not even continue dating the guy .


Generally, whether one is a man or woman be careful how you brag before your friends and siblings too.

Jozzy4:
I wasn't countering your post, I only show you the REVERSE. if tables are turned

>>> Most Ladies also are NOT interested in those that Chase them . some even call them " annoying "

>>> Most ladies always have that one guy they really like but because he doesnt take action, they withdrew like you advise. But my emphasis was Should in case this guys gives an hint of interest, this ladies won't hesistate to dump the guy that chased them for him

That's how all humans are. We want what we can't have

Davash222:
Primitive Nigerians, this is not juju, rather tricks.

They gave him 1000 notes of 30K, after he's done counting the money, they will tell him to bring the money, and swap it immediately with 10 notes covered with 1000 note. As you can see, the 10 notes are covered with 1000 note.

For your mind you are smarter than the primitive Nigerians.

Where in the story did he say 1000 naira not was part of the notes? This is not computer village.

Dereformer:
I currently have the follow qualifications:

Bsc (Accounting)
Msc (Finance)

FCA,

Acca-Dip(IFR).


I am currently 45.

Assume I decide to do a Phd and put the expected time of completion at 10 years(worst possible time),
I will be 55 at graduation.

Is it really worth it or should I start thinking of doing something else with my life.


Candid advice will be appreciated.

Evenif you don't do PhD , in ten years time you will still be 55.
You understand, right?

She can pull it off
She runs an ushering and event planning business. So, she will only use her girls free of charge.

Jozzy4:
Very wrong, same way I can say Girls Generally aren't attracted to the guys that chase them ( Can be proved, Girls have many admirers, but always got her eyes on one man who doesn't really care, because she fear rejection she won't appproach, but Give one of those chasing her a chance, atnleast here she loves less. She Is in control . that's why girls like you preach that don't chase a man stuff ) .

See let me tell you the fact, True a girl might not want to chase, But the day the man she really likes decide to come close, she will dump the one thats chasing her . The heart knows what it want

Lol
How does your answer counter what I wrote earlier?

Please, reread my post and read your answer and see if there's any similarity.

My point was most men won't love a lady that directly chases them. She can use all the green light but never chase him directly. If he eventually asks her out, good for both of them.

If he doesn't and she chases him she will end up miserable.

The only exception are for extremely timid guys. Those one's are happy with whatever sexual attention they get. Eg Jeff Bezos and Kim Kardashian brother.

Truthsbitter:
No, you need more understanding.

If the relationship of a lady is no longer working because her man is no longer interested, she should let the man leave freely. after all it was her decision to remain in the relationship, the guy didn't force her.
And if a guy is no longer interested in a relationship he should just leave after all when girls intend to leave a relationship they don't consider if the guy has spent his resources on them or not, they just leave when they are no longer interested (they will say "I didn't force him to do whatever he did for me " ). so it should be the same thing when the guy wants to leave any relationship he should just leave, because "he didn't force the girl to be in the relationship in first place".
can you now see that both paragraphs above are saying the same thing from different points of view?
But also, it is good to treat your partner well WHILE the relationship last.
where did you get the contradiction from?

Reread your first comment.
You said men should promise marriage if he reaLy wants just sex. F**k her and leave.

Then you also say men should threat women better.

clive2u:
most of them dumped me some just died a natural death.

You see.

Look from what I'm seeing in this relationship there's a chance you might like her but you have to be honest with her.

You can sit her down and tell her the truth. Tell her guys generally aren't attracted to girls who chase them. Tell her it's a turn off that she's an amazing person but absence makes
the mind grow fonder.

You both need to give yourself some space for now.

If she is mature she will be hurt at first, maybe cry, but will understand and appreciate your honesty.


I'm sure you would fall in love with her if only she learns how to play the coquette.

But that's really up to her not you.

clive2u:
that's what u think bro, but what do I gain from ego? Nada

I'm a lady.

clive2u:
you're so right, this is my second kinda relationship a girl came to me, the first girl still hate me till now. I love it when a girl gives me a tough time

You will have to grow up then and stop looking for the feelings that come with proving your manhood and look at the quality of the person you are dating.

We are not living in the '50s anymore.

Most girls today hardly give tough times to a guy they like. Now that sex is easy it's even easier.

Chances are if a lady is playing hard to get 70% of the time she is not into you and WIll NEVER BE.

If I'm lying tell me how your relationships we're you professed mad love to the girl faired?

clive2u:
If u check my last thread you'll see I talked about this girl bringing love that I wasn't ready, I haven't asked her out but I thought I could grow some feelings after she came all on me so I decided to oblige and have sex with her, note I didn't force or asked for it but she initiated it.

The issue now is I'm regretting it and I don't have a single feeling for her, my problem now is I don't know what to do and I don't wanna hurt her.
Pls I need good advice her.



PS: she works close to my office so avoiding her won't be plausible


Thanks landers

Op you are not a sincere person. Check your heart well.

You created a topic and still went on to have sex with her without following the advice there.


I'm sure you only created that topic to boost your male ego that a girl is checking you.

Same reason you created this one.

If you really wanted to break up with her you would have done so since.

Truthsbitter:
Just leave...
have you seen girls care about guys when they leave or reject a guy, even when it's public proposal (they would've had sex with the guy, squander his life savings but they would say "it wasn't by force" knowing they were not really in love"...
pity will only make matters worst for you. but make sure you don't promise marriage anytime you date girls , unless you just want to fvck her by all means and dump her lerra..
no matter what the case may be, always treat women good, but never be forced to stay in a relationship with any woman.

You are contradicting yourself.

Isha327:
Why did u have sex with her in d first place when u have no feelings for her.

Guys ehn
I 'll rip off ur d**k if I were her abi if she was me ni
Don't let me make blunders jare

I'm a lady but it is very good for her.

Next time she will learn her lesson to allow a man ask her out first before she starts forming love.

It never ends well the other way around.

If Mugu fall guyman must chop.

The best a lady can do is give signals and remain friendly.

Most manly guys wont admit it but it's actually a turn off to be directly chased by a girl.

Except the guy is a Dusty, effeminate or has hidden intentions.

She is lucky this one is willing to dump her quickly some guys will chop your body, food, money, call you baby and still dump you after two years.

When you cry they be like "I didn't ask you out na."

Emeraldgist1:
Forgive any grammatical error please. My relationships don't last and are yet to pinpoint the problem out.

I grew up among boys as the only girl child, I tried to study out what every guy wants from my brothers and cousin brothers too.
Since I think I understood guys better, I have ventured into 2 different relationships that never worked out.
Am not the demanding girlfriend, I can so strongly say it anywhere that I have never demanded anything from d guys in my previous relationships.
Am so heartbroken right now that I don't even want to have any emotional attachment with any guy.....

N.B- Mumu comments are allowed�

Maybe that's where the problem lies. Your actions make them see you as a fellow man.

A woman shouldn't be demanding but when a lady acts directly or indirectly like she doesn't need the help of guys or her guy it's a total turnoff.

Also, make sure you are entering into a relationship with a guy who has made it clear that he wants to be with you. Some ladies just assume the guy likes them because he shows care and understanding. Whereas he doesn't consider them relationship material.

Don't limit yourself. Dress up, wear makeup, look good and work on your ambitions.

The most important is this.

Being among and growing up among boys is the least likely way to know how to act in front of a man. They are your brothers, not your boyfriends.

Playing with boys will only make you treat your boyfriend like a fellow man. Depending on how free and Jovial you were with your brothers.

The best set of people to learn from are your mom, Senior sisters and your female friends in school or at work with enough experiences and by reading online.

Don't let the failed relationships deter you.

Keep reading

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Beautiful and successful Jennifer Lopez has dated many too shots in the entertainment industry being married twice. Now she has met a man who treats her like a diamond.

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