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JoshVI:
I created this thread seeking for genuine advice concerning my relationship. I have no idea who genq is. Pardon his post please. He trolled and I trolled him too. I’m no Dr oooo!!! Jesus. Some people are crazy. Na me even craze pass wey reply you sef

See how you exposed yourself? In your so called 'trolling' you couldn't think of any other country to refer to other than 'London' which so happens to be where the family member your wife offended lives.
This said family member actually paid your rent during the first year of your marriage since you spent all your money on buying a car and doing your wedding (and this is why you unconsciously mentioned rent in your troll comment)
Clearly, your very rude wife didn't know he paid for the roof over your heads and thats why she had the guts to insult him. And you sat there as a vegetable because of what she's feeding your from between her legs.

JoshVI:
Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

See how pathetic you are?

The first time you hit your wife was just a few months into your marriage and you guys ended up having a full blow out which family members had to resolve.

Her yoruba father left her calabar mother and no, they were not a happy family as you claim. Need I say more?

JoshVI:
im lost! Where is all this coming from? Seems you wanted to post this reply on another thread!

JoshVI:
not sure he or she wanted to post that in this thread!

Oh yes Dr. I am talking to you. Seems you wanna push me to get nasty but I refuse to reveal your identity on this site. You are loved by many but your wife is merely tolerated because of your strange obsession with her.
Wish you all the best and hope you get good advice on this site. I'm out!

JoshVI:
Also she’s a student and wants us to get married even now but I told her to wait till when she’s done with school. Her home and school is like 10min drive from me. So we do see almost everyday.

Dr. I know exactly who you are.

Is this post is about your short, egocentric, fair complexioned wife who has no friends because of her disgustingly prideful attitude?

Have you twisted the story slightly to hide ur identity? Claiming that you've  been dating for 4 years when in fact you are married with a child.

Is the reason for ur latest fight because she snooped on ur phone and found that you've been flirting around?

Is it true that your mother has decided to be careful with her ever since the day you took her home and she ordered your father to switch on the fan "because she is hot".. I mean why won't she have such boldnes when you literally lick her a**!

Is it true that the relationship with one of your closest family members has been strained because she continuously disrespected him and you turned a blind eye?

Is it true that you are madly in LUST with her especially because of her skin tone and 'beauty' and thats why you continously post corny epistles online celebrating her whilst secretly wishing her attitude will change for the better?

You are free to deny what we both know

JoshVI:
Good morning everyone, kinda long writings but please ensure to read and understand.

Been dating this beautiful stubborn lady for close to four years now. Sure there’s up and downs in the relationship but we always find our way around it.

The issue is, she’s unapologetic, she hardly gets remorseful. She hardly say “I’m sorry”. When things go wrong from her end, even when she’s at fault she always has a way to twist it and make it seem I’m the one at fault. Most times she knows she’s at fault but she’ll ridicule me and make it seem as if I’m saying trash. She sees nothing wrong in most of her wrong acts, I’m always the one at fault.

Immediately I’m at fault, I hardly wait three seconds to apologize. I do it immediately and let peace rein.

When we have issues, let’s say we gone into little or even a very heated argument, it doesn’t stop me from caring, or checking on her, after quarrels, few hours later I pick up my phone, call her or visit her and talk as if nothing happened before, but she can keep malice on this same issue for close to 3 to 4 days. Giving me cold answers whenever we talking during those period. Until I playfully tease her, maybe a hot romance or sex, will calm her down and brighten her up. At times I deliberately give her the space to get over it on her own.

But when there’s no issues between us, it seems as if we are in heaven on earth. Too much sweetness! Despite all these we don’t threaten breakup. The love we have for each other goes deep by the day.

But the issue here is I’m very HOT TEMPERED! On few occasions I end up beating her!! Other times slap her. But she doesn’t just sit or stand for me to slap her, she do retaliate.

I fear if we end up together and she continues being stubborn!! I’m really trying hard to always calm myself down when pushed to the limit. I’m the most caring and sweetest guy ever when it comes to handling my woman, (she praises me with this, so are other ladies I was involved with) even my close pals sometimes tells me they want to become a girl so they can date me and enjoy the treats I give my woman!

And again the only issue is when the fuse in my head burns, I just can’t take it. Not as if I do get my woman angry, I don’t even dare it, but when she’s the one at fault and she doesn’t see this and still claim rights over me, this is what burns my fuse. I just can’t control it, to make it worse, she’ll say words that will hurt me and make me seem less a man! At times she say she’s right because she’s a lady. Or when she’s wrong, she’ll carefully wait for me to say something bad to her and then turn the table around. I WAS AT FAULT.


I need help, I really love this girl and want a life time with her, several times I promised never to lay my hands on her, I end up doing it again. Because of this I’m scared of getting married, to her especially!


The physical abuse with my woman started at the very year we started dating. And it didn’t happen on every argument we had, it happened maybe once or twice in a year, it just happens when I can’t take it from her, I respect my woman a lot, and I also demand respect from her, I carefully pick things I say just not to annoy her.

In all this, we are still good, she just can’t get enough of me, she always want to be around me and if she could wrap herself around me and hung there while I’m going about my daily activities, she’ll.

I’m planning on settling down with her soon, VERY SOON, but how can I solve this? I seem not to be able to help myself, there are few times I expected her to say she can’t marry an abusive husband and bow out. Instead she keep asking me to reassure her I’ll marry her.

we aren’t living together yet, when we get married and live together, I fear for us. I need help.

OP please expand on this issue so we can better advise you. What causes the fights? You are almost 40 and have been together 4 years, why havent you guys married yet? any financial issues or infidelity?

From the little I see here it seems this is a purely lustful relationship.