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Sophier:
Hello everyone. I hope you’re all having a good day.

I’m in a bit of a dilemma right now and I genuinely need advice from people with experience. I’ll try to keep this as brief as possible.

I’ve been with this lady for almost a year. It has mostly been good, with some bad moments as well, you know how relationships can be. One issue I’ve noticed for a while now (and yes, you can blame me for tolerating it) is that she lacks a supportive spirit. By support, I don’t mean financial support, though that wouldn’t be a bad thing either, but that’s not what I’m expecting at all.

Let me give an example. She expects me to handle almost everything: making enquiries, figuring things out, taking initiative on all matters. In most situations,she hardly contributes ideas or offers suggestions. On top of that, she struggles with accountability. Whenever there’s an issue, she prefers to dismiss it rather than address it properly.

These issues have caused a lot of arguments in the past. At one point, we even broke up for a while. When we got back together, she promised to work on herself and make changes, and for some time, it seemed like she was trying. But now it’s starting to feel like this is just who she is, and that real change may not be possible.

Things have progressed quite far between us. I've met with her parents and vice versa, and her family has started asking that my family should come over. We had already agreed that this would happen early next year. However, in the past few days, she has started displaying those same behaviours again, and it has given me serious cold feet.

I’m honestly considering calling everything off. I know it would disappoint a lot of people, but at this point, I don’t even seem to care. I’m worried about committing to something I may regret later.

I really need sincere, brotherly or fatherly advice right now. If I were your brother or your son, what would you advise me to do?

P.S. Please, if you don’t have anything meaningful to contribute and only intend to insult or mock, kindly don’t comment. That’s the last thing I need at this moment.

my brother,

Most women are not too ambitious the way the average man out there is.
Most of them dnt care to pursue or put effort to win or get to the top either.

They are satisfied by attaching themselves to the person(the man) dt controls the cash flow. That is what matters to them. That is their bragging right.
".......Na my guy be that. Him be graduate",
"........Na my husband be that.he lives in uk"
".......my guy works in a bank"
"........my husband is the one dt owns that shopping plaza"

If you are expecting them to give you AI generated kind of response to your enquiries, you won't get it. You ask them hoping to hear their thoughts on an issue, they push it back at you to proffer answer or solution.

Even those ones dt claim to be graduate are the same. my ex saw me one time reading. I wanted to hand her a very good book she will gain knowledge from. she said the ones she read in sch is enough.

What I will advice you is dt you shud focus on developing ur own self wateva way and every way. Dnt stop.

If her condition is dt bad and you cnt tolerate it anymore, brk off .

Kalatium:
There’s a man in my neighborhood whose story has stayed with me.

Years ago, his home was a hub of life. Teenagers everywhere. Music blasting. Laughter spilling into the street. Young boys full of promise, respect, and energy. A mother holding the center. A family in motion.

Fast forward to today and the house is silent.

One son is gone. Another has relocated. The wife and daughters have moved on. What remains is a man sitting alone behind a gate, cooking for himself, washing his own clothes, watching the days pass without the noise that once defined his life.

This is a reality we rarely discuss.

We talk about career growth. We talk about wealth. We talk about legacy.

But we almost never talk about male loneliness in old age.

For many men, life slowly narrows: Children grow up. Homes empty out. Visits reduce. Attention fades.

Mothers are remembered, celebrated, visited with gifts and affection. Fathers, too often, are left behind quietly enduring, saying little, asking for nothing, but feeling everything.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.

Sons: Your father may not say much. He may act distant or grumpy. But he wants connection too. He wants to feel seen.

Daughters: Celebrate your fathers, not just on special days, but in ordinary moments. Presence matters more than presents.

Fathers: Be kind to your wives. Be warm with your children. Emotional deposits made today compound in old age.

Because here’s the uncomfortable truth: No promotion, no achievement, no title prepares a man for an empty house.

Old age doesn’t arrive suddenly, it creeps in quietly.

And how we love, show up, and stay connected today determines whether later years feel full… or painfully hollow.

This is not just a family issue. It’s a societal one.

Let’s do better while there’s still time.

Cc nlfpmod Dominique seun

it all starts from how well we bond well with our children and loved ones.

Most father's that are hard hit are those that are always too serious and too strict with their kids up even till when they are mature.

Too much of shouting ,insults and derogatory remarks at them creates a cold relationship btw father and child. Even before that child bcoms an adult, he has already left the huz.

When these children leave the house through marriage, they rarely get in touch as they should . To them leaving the house is like a big relief for them.

It is good parents esp father's should relax their grip a bit on their children when they come up of age. Relate with them more like a friend . Be there for them.

Caseless:
Haba... Go and read about it, Amosun denied them the land in "Mokola" or something. The news was everywhere.

Olokola fee trade zone. Not mokola

the side of the story that says beat amazes me. How can a 32yrs old lady beat a 50yrs old young agile man?

But tuface looks stronger than her. the woman in question looks kinda slim to beat tuface.

Mrkc:
I'm in my 40s, single, and jobless. Tired of life

you are tired of life because that #2million naira Frm your the land you sold has finished.

you hastily grab #2m because you tink it s a huge money. Now money don fnish.eye don clear.

Donsilase:
Early November my car(corolla 2004) started giving sign of gear failure, it doesn't get to gear 4. I told a friend, he said he has someone that repairs automatic transmission and the person is very good, I then asked him to take me to his workshop. When we got there we met the so called gearmaster, he drove the car and said he will fix it and give us 3 months guarantee. He charged me 140k which I gave him 100k as deposit then he asked us to come back in the next one week. after one week I called him and asked how far, he said he haven't gotten some of the parts, we should exercise patience. After 2 weeks I called him again, he said there is progress that he's about to mount it. Meanwhile I couldn't be going to his workshop from time to time because it's far from my place, so last week I decided to go there. When I got there first I discovered my windshield has cracked, I asked him what happened, he said probably it was a mistake, I then asked him what of the gear, he said he's fixing it that I should wait and carry it. I said no problem. I waited till evening when he finished doing what he was doing the started the car to test it, behold my car doesn't enter reverse again, even when he put it in drive one of the tires doesn't move, meanwhile when I brought the car it was entering reverse, the only issue was gear 4. That was how we started quarreling, I told him to return the gear to the condition it was before and refund my money, he said its not possible that he's even tired of the work.

Please how do I handle this particular man, I didn't want to touch him because he's an elderly man

if it happened as you just narrated, then dt elderly man is a scammer.
A car is not handy dt you can carry wit your hand. If it was , I would have said carry your car and carry some valuables in his shop alongside. He wil be the one coming to beg you.

At same time, thread wit caution. because if you threaten him and coincidentally, somtin bad happens to him, finger will be pointed at you as the culprit.

Also bring ur frnd dt Introduce you to him to talk to the man if that wil bring some respite.

As it is, push the mata to the police. Let them apply small pressure on him.

Sonnobax15:

Jamb has over stayed it's welcome in Nigeria . Imagine sitting and writing jamb for countless times until your name becomes known to them and you were gifted a Tshirt for being their esteemed customer

so quick.......How do you do it?

you always reply every post. or you get beep dt new msg has dropped on nairaland?

He cannot pay masters and PhD holders.

this gal? so she video herself crying over a phone dt was stolen.

Is the video directed to the Nigerian police to move into action or meant to spur a random helper to get her anoda fone?

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

This man dt will just bend the narrative because he wants to talk.

what do you mean by bare minimum? Is there a written constitution forced on him dt he shud do barest minimum? Is that his responsibility?

Freshtruth:
I just got a Job offshore this year may me and this my colleague is in the same department. We both started this job for the first time through the connection of my uncle who also brought him to the work . Our job is to take care of the customers uniforms and keep the place gift in the vessel doing my time at the vessel from may to late June I fell very sick the medic was attending to me but the sickness was persisting this my colleague went to tell our cam boss I might be having a deadly disease that y I was not getting ok they should send me to the hospital to run several test . ( It was made known to be by person who was there when this my colleague was telling the cam boss. Once u are booked out it take the grace of God to come back to the Job. The camp boss was able to convince the medic to send me to the hospital for check up . When I arrive the hospital I was attended to and check up was carried out luckily I was not having any terminal illness or HIV or any deadly decease. I was attended to I became strong and I went home for my off . When I came back to work after my off everyone came to greet me except this my colleague which I notice the list day of my resumption to work again when I started work the costomers and everyone in the ship was happy with me due to my dedication to work people from this my colleague side started begging me to wash their clothes for them they said this my colleague is a disaster in washing I never for one day mock this my colleague or tell anyone one what the costumers are saying this guy became very jealous of me that he is now monitoring me every thing I do. I tried my best to talk to him let them be peace but this guy is just planning how to get me sack by all means gossiping me almost every day. I woke one night to ease myself around 2am at night I was shock to hear my name at this guy mouth talking with someone I pretended I didn't hear anything I went to ease myself. Tomorrow he is going to is 28, days off y am yet to complete my 28days which means I will be staying y he is leaving this night this guy came to me and said if u urinating move closer to the pool y urinating I was looking at my phone he said I am talking to u . I was like guy what ur problem with me bro this guy was now saying I have mental problem what does that implies he is just looking for a way to get me out by all means. Right now am confused the country is very difficult things are very expressive my salary is close to 300k the job is helpful to me pls what should I do. I have avoided him no solution, I have tried to be close to him is even worse should I quit my job for this guy and go and start doing menial job or what. Am sad

You are giving him Attention dt is why he is still doing wat he is doing to you.
Ignore him.
Reduce any form of closeness to him.
Let your communication with him strictly be official.
Whenever he raises voice at you , make your own louder.
He is a bully. That is their strategy. To make the oda person cower.
Funny enough don't be surprised that you can beat him.
Don't fight at work place. You may be sacked.
Don't keep your food or drink in the office.
Don't keep any of your personal belongings in the office.
Let your uncle be in the know about this issue Incase anything happens to you.
Don't chicken out and resign because of him.

MistyDense:
Why are you this mean and insensitive?
You could have just ignored the post since it's nonsense. Sensible people like you shouldn't be reacting to nonsense na

hard love now is mean and insensitive? Okay keep spoon-feeding grown ups.

Don't worry. plenty people after me will tell you something soft dt will fuel your complain to linger. .

when I read this kind of gist, I ask myself what exactly is your intention going public with it?

To get response like Frm mysterious people online saying

".......eeeh sorry"
"......dnt worry. you wil eat the fruit of your labor"
"......that is why you are the senior"
".......God will provide"
.......and blaa... blaa.....naaaa

what a logical person shud do if at all this gist is genuine is to meet with these people you claim to sponsor or support and let them know and start finding means too to fend for themselves.

Rejig and wake them up from their sleep and let them help themselves. That is a beta and rational way to address this .

so what shud people reading this shud do for you?

KillerOfCrackas:
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.

you see that line "you will come.back" any lady that utters dt statement is saying so because she knows you like her too much and also assume she is too fine or too good for you to have her.

you know this mindest of "I have dated guys that are way good looking and beta off than you and I drop them so your own case wont move me at all."

I was in a relationship with one like that. she finds it difficult to apologize when she is wrong. Likes to rationalize why she is right and I am wrong in almost every discussion.

The day she told me "you will come back" Na that day i make a detour Frm her.

Even if you try to continue the relationship with her, she will keep treating you as if she is doing you favour by accepting to date you.

Let her go. there are other girls that are much more beta dan her.

By the title ,i opened this thread hoping to see something deep to read and learn . Na "I want to Bleep" my eyes showed me. The gal and the guy needs Jesus.

can just one person among other million of ladies in a tribe , state or locality give you a reasonable comparative conclusion of how the whole female in that tribe behaves?

You and I know that such analysis can't give you a clear cut answer.

Marry her if you want to or you leave her for another person to marry her.

You are suppose to be the judge. Na you dey see the gal all the time.

natedroid:
I have been with this Ijaw girl (Edo Ijaw) for sometime now and I must say that my relationship with her has been a roller coaster. I have my doubts about her though . I'm considering settling down .

My main concern is infidelity in any woman.

How do Ijaw women fair when it comes to been faithful/unfaithful?

Which one be Edo ijaw?
Do you mean the father is Edo and the mother is ijaw? Or we have an Edo tribe in that state?

Kobojunkie:
1. Which God are you accusing of this now? Amadioha? Obatala?? Orunmila? Sango? Olodumare? Which one? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Control that typically ends up making your marriages no more useless than a tug-of-war/battleground that even your own children no longer wish to have a part in? 🥱🥱🥱

even this one you are mentioning. they reign supreme with a form of control. Enter ayelala or sango shrine go thief what belongs to it weda you no go collect. That is control.

As for your point2, that one Na you understand weda Na control be that or outright brutality.

I said healthy form of control not oppression.

Kobojunkie:
Women love men who control them, yet one of the major complaints by women who later divorced their husbands in the UK is that the men attempted to assert control over them even in the UK. Why many of una no dey always make sense?

2. OP, do not let these folks blackmail you into believing you are the problem simply because your description does not portray you are a man interested in manipulating and dehumanizing his wife in marriage.

your own Na to twist narratives because you want to talk.

God knows why he made man the head of the home.

Headship means leadership and leadership is a responsibility dat goes with a healthy form of control , direction and giving guidance to someone.

If there is no control either in an office or home, things won't go smoothly.

Control over your wife doesn't mean bully or beat or assault physically or mentally.

A husband been in control over his wife means the man shud be assertive, be firm, be manly, coming up with the final decision or action that shud be taken in the home.

but these your frnds get mind oo.
If they shy away because to them the apartment is expensive then they shud also shy away frm coming close to dt apartment to rest or pass the nite or cook.

Locking your door or trying to avoid them will even spoil the frndship you still like to maintain with them.

It is best you tell them directly to their face .. Tell them dt ur huz warming celebration has ended. .

that henceforth if they like to chill in your place. They will have to be sharing the rent with you.

[b]say it with an innocent smile. [/b]That if they come over that you won't open the door for them.

Remember, say it with a smile. Just watch. They will also smile bk when they hear it and they won't come back again.

With this, frndship is still intact. No bad blood. Na your huz. Your huz , your rules.

breadtoaster:
No, I didn’t stay with him during courtship. We courted for 8 months together and were in a long-distance relationship for one year. He was quiet while we were dating, I agree, but to be honest, he wasn’t my go-to for ideas or when I needed a solution to something quickly. I had a friend who was 19 years older than me that I would always reach out to. He had become more of a brother, and my family knows him. He’s married with kids, and his wife and I have become like sisters. But he relocated out of the country in December last year.

So, I feel this never gave me time to see my husband’s creativity or all that. Life was always happening so fast. Or maybe, somewhere inside, I knew he wasn’t very solution-oriented, so I never asked him. But I never saw his quietness as a sign that he wouldn’t be social or wouldn’t know how to love a woman or anything like that.

I remember when he was about to propose, I asked if he wouldn’t give me a romantic proposal, and he said he didn’t know my ring size and couldn’t go and buy a ring that might not fit. He also said he didn’t know which of my family members to meet to run the package or surprise. I remember being hurt — that should have been the writing on the wall for me, though. He said I should follow him to the market to get it.

As an update, he told me this morning, after I was crying, that we are both adults and can decide what we want as a lasting solution on what to do with our relationship because he is tired of seeing me cry. All I needed was a soft feeling of care, even if it just meant holding me, because I am on my period same time and I’m just all over the place emotionally.

I just feel hungry — like when, as a woman, your emotions are not being cared for or attended to. If I’m unable to have sex once (I couldn’t because I was having serious period cramps), he won’t even bother to touch me again until whenever Jesus says it’s time. He wouldn’t care that I was in pain at that moment. He would just say that I’m refusing him, and if he doesn’t try again, then its my problem andfault. It just feels off — everything, the connection, etc. Its almost no existent. I am not even sure if its because maybe he doesnt love me or maybe he isnt experienced on how to show it (him not having relationships, sisters only brothers, him being a virgin, spiritual brother back then etc).

Today I went downstairs, picked up my phone, and wanted to call all my friends since I was really feeling sad and all. I had to leave him because he would still judge me if i call them in his front. As I was going down, he said he knows that’s why I’m crying — so I can “use style” to find my way out to go and talk on my phone. Before, I would feel guilt-tripped and sit down asking myself whether I don’t have right to use my phone. But I just ignored him and went down. I came back and he isn’t talking to me. Apparently, I’ve sinned and I know I would be punished with silence for as long as maybe two days or so for choosing to call others and smile with them. (he would say he is not punishing me, but he would keep silent).

Its more like i cant go anywhere or talk to anyone if he doesn't follow me. I had an office party and told him I wanted to go, he was already angry as it was going to be an evening party. I didn't get to go again because he had said to me, that me, I want to be living my life (all because I wana go to my office party).

The dynamics are just childish and tiring for me. Until when will I do this? I didn’t marry him for money, because at the moment I’m working in a better place, though we’re still praying for a better job for him so at least I can rest too. I don’t know if that insecurity eats at him as well. I’ve cut off a lot of people because of this marriage, and I don’t want to keep doing that continuously.

A friend of mine that I introduced to him came over one day, and he asked the person why the person came to our house and if it was right I forgot to mention (which OfCourse isn't right but to let the person know they arent welcome because i forgot to genuinely mention is huge).

That person has never stepped foot in my house again. He is insecure around my friends — maybe he thinks they are better than him, I’m not sure. As it is, I know I can’t share any friend I have with him because he’s always insecure around them, or he’ll say that I’ve told them one thing or another about him. But he knew I had friends while dating and acted normal. He would say once you just explain, its fine by me, I dont have any issue. Not once did he fight any.

I really regret telling him to come meet me abroad after I left Nigeria. I thought we would work together as one to do great things, have coule goals, be driven etc. even get a good house instead of this one room and toilet we’re managing, until he gets his papers. I even thought we can find two jobs to do and he would support with applying and then he can assit on the second one so we can do more together for now before his papers come. bu he wont even apply, just do his Nigerian work he is doing and sleep the rest of the day or lazy around.

He has told me that because I want to do papers, I think I am God. different talks that hurt. after he told me to find who I lost my virgintiy to as it wasn't him. I told him I had pictures of that night it happened because I know he can flip on me. Then he said it could be any picture of blood. then i told him i remembered to make a video in case he wants to say i sleep around or he dont trust me simply because i dont want live a graveyard live like he wants to. Isolated from information, ideas etc.

He said I always say we should go back to Nigeria since we’re not happy here, that i am threatening him and i should better give him his application money if I know i want us to go back. He always tells me that when his work permit is out, I will see how hardworking he is. He is still working in his office in Nigeria remotely though, and I’m managing a low-paying job here at least enough to pay for the room and toilet and feed and schooling at the same time, doing certifications and all, applying wickedly for better jobs, doing interviews, just to get higher. It’s just a lot sometimes.

I just wish I felt like I had a partner — a ride or die. I kept myself so well and didn’t mess up; I don’t know why it ended up this way. I even cried on the wedding day because apparently, he was with my sister’s friends and they said they met him unhappy in the corridor. When they asked why, he said, “Whatever his family does is not enough.” I was confused because I was wondering what that meant. That was the first time his family was showing up, which was for the wedding. The last time they came was a year ago when they came to meet my parents for the marriage, and my parents kind of slowed the wedding down because they said they weren't very aware of our relationship and wanted to observe themselves and pray.

Since then both parents have only spoken on phone and greeted each other once in two months or three months until the day they showed up the night of the wedding.

So I don’t know. We have fought so much, even in front of my family / parents . We’d go to their house and still end up fighting / shouting on each other. As it is now, he says my mum and my sister have offended him. Only my dad and my sister’s husband haven’t offended him.

I called his brother a few weeks back, saying I couldn’t do it anymore, that I was tired — especially after my husband kept saying he never wanted to come here in the first place, that it was their elder brother who made him come and that he would only sleep with me now using condom and doesnt want to sleep with me unprotected till he finds work. I started to wonder what is this guy's plan? does he want to get paper and then not have child with me and use that period to then escape? or what. He said he wanted to take responsibility.

He is just too serious. I’m playful. No dirty words during sex, no knowledge of any position — only missionary. His brother even had to teach us how to have sex on the phone after I called him that time and he sent some traditional drugs that can help with sex. It’s just been so much.

breadtoaster,

am very sure if your husband gives his own side of this your complain. we go hear a different gist entirely.

what bad attitude have you also been dishing out to dt man?
where have you too been doing or getting it wrong?

almost same offence as RKelly. But one wonders why RKelly was sentenced to 31years imprisonment while his colleague is getting 3years.

GraciousGod190:
When I was told years back when I was still young to learn work I refused. But now I see the importanc, because the situation of this country is getting difficult everyday. Together with the new tax law as a security guard, only me and God knows what I take in in a month, come next year with Tax deducted. How Wil I be able to survive. I have come to the conclusion it's better for me to do something and I am thinking about barbing atleast with that I will be paid in cash and since it's almost festive period. Although my age is still there but I believe I can still cope with it.

sure you can. your hunger for success starts Frm the mind.
though strength and agility may not be on ur side like that. so whatever you choose to learn let it not be a tough job that will take a toll on you physically.

RevenuesBoost:
Yesterday, I spent almost half my Day trying to organize the house and do house chores, after the cleaning exercise, I got so tired 😩

It got me wondering, what if I wasn't a Mum that works from home!?
The cleaning, cooking, washing, taking care of Baby Light and organizing stuffs is very tiring.

Most times my husband will say, "why not use the services of a house help"
I'll jokingly say, "I need a male person not a female and he will immediately disagree to it".
I'll just laugh 😂, shey na me won use my hands carry second wife come give am😄😂



Here are ten(10) jobs Stay-at-home Mums can do:

1. Social Media Management

2. Data Entry Clerk

3. Blogger

4. Tutor

5. Transcriptionist

6. Freelance writer

7. Virtual Assistant

8. Graphic Designing

9. Online survey

10. Web Designer

Which of these are you doing as you are stay at home mom or you just copy it elsewhere Nd paste here.?

money kept in your custody? You want to twerk it.
Nigerian police love to handle such case when your blues turn to mapoka rhythm.

Sirchiboy:
What kind of business can double 2m in 7 days time

ozugbo ozugbo. we want it quick and fast. The tendency of loosing that money is close to your shadow.

tosyne2much:
This life no just balance

Oritse Femi that sang the evergreen song "igbeyawo", advising people on the right marital path to follow

Unfortunately, the same advice didn't work for his own marriage

He sang that song after marriage not before. so he learnt lessons inside the marriage. That was what stirred up his thoughts on marriage in that track.

with such building height, will she be able to keep climbing stairs all the time or the apartment has lift?

Omayie:
A lot on my mind lately. 😔from the pressures of building a career, business brand, heathy relationships, financially securing the future and building a family (which honestly is not currently on my list; but the moment I get across filling any form that requires telling my Age, ladies and gentlemen fear day grip and hug me like she’s my new Wife.

It’s clear I am not the only one having this shoe on. A lot of us are also facing same reality just same way our faces are different, same way we all can handle pressures differently. I think mine is way beyond the weight of the entire world and I know you too would think mine is just a fraction of yours.

The truth is that we all are faced with times that becomes so difficult that we really can’t think straight rather, we just do just what we need to do without having focus or having a blueprint or plan like a builder who wants to build.

A lot is really on my mind and I can’t keep steady on what to actually say. Weather it’s said or not, the main point is the fear of not being able to afford basics, good food, good healthcare, shelters, comfortable mobility, go on holidays and others but you see eh….life sucks. I can’t even remember the last time I had the thoughts of going on vacation or holiday. The moment that thought comes in, (my account balance tells me otherwise. I have no choice but just goto an affordable relaxation point and have a chill bottle of Gulder even when I know my situation is not good)

But brothers we can’t be dwelling in negativities. Today I have decided to take action and never put more of my mind on my fears but rather focus on conquering these fears. I don’t know about yours but no matter what you face, someone somewhere has faced it and they conquered but that doesn’t mean you will! But are you going to be bothered about that?

The truth is when you start having “NO” as an answer that’s the very point your day 1 in being successful starts.

At 35 i don’t have a key income source. I just day hustle zigzag and that’s how I survive. Apart from killing, drug dealings, stealing - (please don’t judge, somehow somehow some of us done take wetin no belong to us, no mean say we be thief) e no get wetin I never do.

I have done a lot. And now I am thinking of building a business brand even though I have my career which I can’t give up on. Here, I would be placing carrier on hold so I can build up a business brand that we run on it’s own even at my absence then I can multitask both while working on how to place both on autopilot.

I wish we can have a conversation with like minds to actually motivate one another, encourage and support ourselves on the struggle for a good life.

I have been think more lately about starting a business but recent Government policies has brought about uncertainty to the living standard of an average Nigeria and also the survival of many businesses. Having this knowledge mean say I no go start business? That’s why I am here to consult from the oracles (business men and women) in the house.

If you had the opportunity to create a business brand in a high traffic dense route,

what business would you do.?

Would you prefer product sales or service sales?

How would you do it?

Why would you do it?

What capital would you require?

What human resource/manpower would you need?

How do you intend to go about it?

Who would be your targeted customers?

How and where would you source your products?

Considering individuals who has families(married with or without kids) and singles

What your your advices ?

How you would handle your business falling in any of the categories?

Considering those whom are being accommodated or having their accommodation

What advice would you give?

How you would handle your business falling in any of the categories?

Considering Lagos as a choice for start up

What contritions and advice would you give?

How you would handle your business living in Lagos (Nigeria’s biggest business hub)?

I might not be asking the right questions. Also note that the quote is open for modifications as I am no writer, counselor or the likes.

I believe and trust NL Commentators to give their best responses. Even though some might stroke you for your errors and others just claiming FTC it’s all welcomed 😁

Stay Blessed

@Mynd 44
@Lalastic.lala
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why not say what biz/trade/vocation you have in mind to do and let the Oracle's in the house guide you base on experience than you been the interviewer.

Demigod22:
So you are chatting with your girlfriend and she said she's stressed, you promise to give her a thighs massage and she said "Dhor" and you said you won't give her the massage again. And she said if you don't, another person will.

As the boyfriend, what would be your reaction to this statement "If you don't, someone else will"?

She wnts to torment you mentally. Dnt press for further clarification Frm her.
Just ignore her and occupy ur mind with something worthwhile.

manuelkel:
Yes, but not at the moment, I've 3 guys working with me at the moment.

Thank you brother. I sent you a mail . Pls acknowledge it so I can follow up