₦airaland Forum

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

How old are you and she , how old?

Axis313:
Don't enter people's house without knocking, you don't know the position the occupants are inside, maybe the couple are romancing each other's and you just enter like that like a cattle that have no owner.

. shey person don jam into your room without knocking when you dey browse woman body?

Toolegit123:
. It'll be more preferable for me to be correcting her than to settle down with the one that will never heed to correction simply because she feels our age different isn't much.

Besides,I'm 32yo.

You say you are 32. if the lady is 18yrs meaning it's 14yrs age gap btw you both. hope you have weigh the pros and the cons?

dnt be too quick to assume older gals are like the gal you just described.

Wat counts most is the maturity of the lady in qtn you want to be with not age.

some older ladies behave same way as the 18- 23yrs age pool you want to pick frm.

Misnomer or deviant behavior is more of an individual thing not by age range .

Nice article. A Good read.

Goo0dHardDick:
You just rephrased what I just said that women cannot stay where they're not benefiting anything from.

Wether it by being parasitic, cunning or whichever means, my brother she's directly or indirectly benefiting something from you

wat am saying is dt , dt is not wat smartness mean.
You are saying a different thing entirely using the word smart to describe your gist.

Goo0dHardDick:
Women are Calculative. They're smarter than men. They cannot stay where they're not benefiting anything from. that's the smartness we're talking about. A man can stay even though he isn't benefiting anything from the parasitic relationship. Sex isn't something to benefit from. The woman enjoys it more. either way, money must leave the man's hand to the woman at the end of the day

Dt is not been smart . beta say they are frnds for benefit alone.

Na wa for you ooo. so you will call urself smart if you as a man always attach yourself to sm1 you are benefiting from? always collecting bt nt giving.

Dt is been parasitic. such people They Only stay when you are benefiting from dt person.

Goo0dHardDick:
Who are the alot of women who spend on their men? Are they up to 19%?

Knacking a woman is still a win for her. I'm glad you have finally agreed to my point that a woman cannot stay where she isn't benefiting anything from. You're the one going to knack her and still give her your money! Wetin she spend on you? What are you benefiting from her? Knacking isn't benefit. She enjoyed it far more than you did. And on top of that you'll indirectly pay her for it.

That concludes it all that women generally can't stay where they're not benefiting anything from.

the title of your topic would have been women can't stay where is not beneficial to her than outrightly generalizing dt the female is smart Dan the male.

Mister op you are making a generalized statement. any of the gender can be smart.

you actually want to express urself in a way to describe the antics of a female gender but using the inappropriate word smart.

Here is a definition of smart from the Internet.

A smart person is typically someone who effectively applies knowledge and reasoning to solve problems, adapt to new situations, and learn quickly. While sometimes used interchangeably with raw intelligence, being "smart" encompasses a broad blend of mental sharpness, practical judgment, and information retention.


Let me continue my talk.

It is widely accepted dt the male gender is more logical and analytical Dan the female gender.
smartness is rooted deep within been a very good logical person. And men are generally deep thinkers. You cnt be very smart if you are not deep in thoughts.

It is just like you saying men are more emotional Dan women.

Generally, women are more impulsive Dan men. Meaning they act most times without Depth in thought.

Yahoo(Internet fraud) is more associated wit the male gender dan the female. Reason is simple. It takes critical thinking and well orchestrated planning to fraud sm1.

The nos of fraudulent actors is prevalent in men Dan in women because yahoo takes critical thinking to steal money from people. Most women cnt go Tru such rigours.

maybe you meant the female gender as sm1 said before is full more of deceit,guilt tripping, gaslighting, emotional blackmail, cunny, weaponizing love(sex) and very manipulative.

All of these vices are in same group but one character is more prominent in a gender dan the oda.

what are the benefits for BUA rabiu abdulsamad acquiring a Nigerian club?

tenancy law in Lagos state guides the process like this

A tenant dt is paying is rent every 3mnt is given a period of 3mnts to stay after his/her rent expires wen issued a quit notice.

A tenant paying rent every 6mnts is also given a period of 6mnts to stay after his rent expires before he /she leaves the apartment..

Similarly, a tenant paying is rent annually is also given 1yr to stay after his/her rent expires before leaving.

But most of these landlords dnt follow such instruction.

Most of dem use dt excuse of renovation to evict tenants weda you are paying ur rent regularly or not. They Increase the rent,put anoda tenant. collect new agent and agreement fee.

wat I will advice is dt dnt argue or challenge ur landlord base on this law and at the same time dnt talk with fear.

Be calm and make your point known to him.. be diplomatic in reaching a reasonable agreement wit him Most of dem play on tenants lack of knowledge of the process to force you out.
The way they evict tenant A dt doesn't understand the process is not the same way they evict tenant B dt understand how it is done

Also note dt it is the court dt can arbitrate btw you and him.

Sirchiboy:
Victor Osimhen reveals that when he made money , HE TOOK ALL HIS DAY ONE FRIENDS to Turkey 🇹🇷. He sponsored everything and got them accommodation and jobs there , today they are doing extremely well too .

Victor didn’t tell them to keep hustling and praying , he simply showed them the way .

Many of you have made it but you can’t even help family . Shame on you

Moral lesson : Stop telling your friends to work harder , just help them
If you can

You this man!!! you like coming up with topics laced with pain and victimisation.

not true. What about taxes over there?

ajilegend:
Start greeting people and it will change

to some extent true. Bt at the same tym, how many you wan greet?

You can greet dos ones you know dt are few distance away from you while walking not turning head left nd right looking for people wen no send you to greet while walking on the street.

Dnt boder yourself weda they like you or not. As sm1 said above, what they discuss Abt is not wat you want to hear and wat you are pursuing is not wat they are pursuing.

na people wen you dey a bit familiar wit like dos people doin biz on the street you dey patronize not just everybody you see.

shey na dos street urchins or dos idle street boys loafing around making noise Abt arsenal nd man utd or those ones smoking igbo you wan dey form familiarity with?

Greet people dt are deserving to be greeted not dos idle able noise making young guys . some of dem just sit for front of compound dey expect you to first greet dem.

I came out of my building recently, I saw some idle street guys sitting outside talking their usual unproductive talk, I walk pass dem. while coming bk to d huz, one of dem had the effrontery to call my attention dt won't I greet dem. I was just amused. I ignore him and walk inside.

na person wen dey struggle wit self esteem dey worry who dey look am as him dey waka for street or who no greet am or they find who to greet.

But make sure you get good rapport wit ur fellow nebor for ur compound,few for street, workplace nd few persons for church dts the koko in case of emergency tomorrow. You no know who will be of help to you tomorrow.

Lithiumite:
You people lack emotional intelligence,read between the lines and don't just take the message at face value.....do you see him attempting to tear down the govt or repudiate tinubu at every turn.....its because he is mentally matured and understands the problem isn't all about tinubu but several factors that has brought us to where we are today......instead of everyone to look critically at the problem and seek solutions,you obidients sit on the Internet all day cursing and making a nuisance of yourselves......pls [b]went as high as 1,300 in the past when [/b]tinubu came in but eased to about 800 before the global headwinds from the ME crisis heat the whole world.......did any of you acknowledge tinubu when the prices were easing? Rice prices dropped by about 50% has any of you ever acknowledged the govt for that but its only negatives you all magnify out of proportion.

Fuel is expensive but it has only thought me one thing to be more economical with it and get good value for every liter and I am seeing results.

Oga, are you saying you bought fuel at 1300 during buhari govt?

Kalulu44:
Everything don yamutu bro

hahaha....yamutu no be small. Kalulu, How far all those your smallie gals wen dey use sir sir sir dey block your advance. How many you don catch?

OneCandleAway:
Do you know him or are you a member of TREM. Constance has been here since ages ago complaining about being used by Bishop Mike and TREM.

Not at all. It is surprising for someone at that height to be on nairaland.

constancefriday:
@OneCandleAway you know little or nothing about what went down between I and TREM and Bishop Mike, it's either you investigate like a journalist about what went down or at least hear from both parties before you make a final judgment.
Nothing happens without a cause!

Is apostle Constance friday on nairaland or its someone else bearing same name?

why not do this thing in a more dignifying way. look for am advance single lady or a widow too and wrk tins out dt way. In the real sense of marriage.

One dt will stay with you permanently to be ur companion Dan all these pay as you go gals. this ur approach will drain you of resources trying to keep maintaining these gfrnds.

Moreover, will you approve your 17yrs old daughter to date a single dad of 56yrs your age?

If you can not proudly introduce dt 28yrs old gal your eyeing to ur daughter as a side chick or gfrnd, den dnt push this ur amorous overture's further. Think about this

Negroid001:
If your 2 months salary cannot cover your rent, you're living above your means. With the current inflated rent in Lagos. Who go fit survive on 100k?

your on a rent of 100k per annum and salary hasn't been increased for a long while and your landlord suddenly increased it to 250k. you are living above your means?

this your statement has been rendered impotent with the way landlords suddenly hijack rent like over 300%

Olachase:
See as the woman hold the cheque tight

😂😂

So this small guy go day brush this woman

wetin be the meaning of brush

Anoda mistake was that, you would have ask her to show you evidence of past biz she has done. maybe catalog of biz items , sales invoice and receipts.

Mankind2024:
Black Tax and the ₦1 Million Lesson: When Family Becomes the Ultimate Financial Liability.
In personal finance, family can often become the biggest financial liability.
I treat this "liability" with extreme caution—almost like avoiding a plague—because in many African communities, particularly among the Yoruba people of Nigeria, it's driven by what's commonly known as black tax. This is the cultural expectation that successful or better-off individuals must regularly support extended family members—parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins, and sometimes even community members—simply because they are "doing better." It's an informal but powerful obligation rooted in communal values, often seen as a social safety net in places with limited government support, but it can hinder personal wealth-building.
Black tax keeps many households afloat in Nigeria and similar societies, but it also fuels a cycle of dependency. Some argue that without it, insecurity and poverty would be far worse. Personally, I find it unacceptable, unavoidable, and undesirable when it becomes endless entitlement rather than temporary help.
Compare it to surviving harsh government policies like high taxes under Nigeria's President Tinubu.
Many people say black tax is actually harder to escape.
I have a niece who repeatedly asked for financial handouts, much like state governors pleading for federal allocations. Three years ago, she requested money again. Instead of giving a direct gift, I sat her down seriously and asked: "What business could you start that wouldn't interfere with your university studies?"
She suggested legitimate options: selling products online via platforms like Jumia, Konga, Facebook Marketplace, or directly to university friends and fellowship members.
I explained that I qualified for a low interest-personal loan through my bank Sterling Bank in Abuja. I offered to explore securing around ₦1 million as seed capital.
I asked her to prepare a simple business proposal outlining her plan, target market, and how she'd repay or grow it.
For the next three months, I mentored her intensively: teaching core principles of business, wealth, and life from Richard Templar's The Rules of... series. I also shared free digital copies of timeless books like Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco, The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas J. Stanley, The Midas Touch by Robert Kiyosaki, and Why Some Entrepreneurs Get Rich—and Why Most Don't by Kiyosaki and others.
In January 2024, I transferred the full ₦1 million—framed as a low intetest loan from my hard-earned savings via the bank facility—specifically to sidestep the black tax expectation of a free handout.
In mid-2025, when I checked in, she said things were going "fine" with the business.
But just three weeks ago, the truth emerged: she had diverted the entire amount to pay for a minor surgery because her father refused to cover it. Now, she could no longer account for the ₦1 million intended strictly for entrepreneurship.
The lesson here is sobering: Some people repeatedly pass over opportunities—and POOR truly stands for "Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly."
Many Nigerians and people in similar emerging economies have had better starting points or chances than today's billionaires like Tony Elumelu or Jim Ovia, yet they never capitalized on them due to poor decisions, entitlement, or short-term thinking.
This isn't just a Nigerian story—family financial pressure exists worldwide in collectivist cultures, from parts of Asia to Latin America and African diasporas. The key is balancing genuine support with boundaries, education, and accountability to break cycles of dependency and build lasting wealth

You would have start her on a lower amount say like #500k and see how she will handle it.

the op is probably trying to be a good husband and a father. you seem to have a better knowledge of marriage than your wife but the issue with you is dat you av been carrying all marital responsibilities in dt huz without setting some boundaries. you know what to do to resolve the issue but you are afraid of taking dt action.

Caveat emptor. am not implying divorce

interesting . I don't have more characters

Don't use the word "teaching her about marriage" you should say i share my opinion about how i view marriage.

you dey show anoda person road to aso rock wen you neva enter Abuja for once. you are only confusing dt small gal.

RevenuesBoost:
When I heard that banks in working countries pay you daily for saving with them, I couldn't believe it, until I experienced it and still experiencing it and I don't even live outside Nigeria.

Omo! It's the opposite in my country, you can never withdraw your money in full.
Every alert received in my Nigerian account is not always withdrawn as it's received, some must be taken out by the bank, why so?

That's how I pulled out my funds from my Nigerian account and save where I'll be getting daily interest.
Naija system is built to make you strong indeed. 😅

Dts nice.. how long have you been using this app?
Hope they are not stealing by trick as you describe opay?
Pls, wts the name of this app make I begin use am too dey get profit like you

suckprick:
There seem to be an epidemic of hungry ladies these days. What's going on? You never even start talking stage for 2days, billing don enter. And these are from so-called classy girls. Do ladies just sit their ass down waiting for the next guy to bill? Damn.

What was your reaction or always ur reaction when they behave dt way to you?

NeckingNgulping:
Thanks man, I really appreciate this. You're such a good advicer. Honestly, I wanted to involve the police, but I will approach it just as you have directed.

my friend just told me dt the police are inviting him to the station. reason been dt they heard dt my frnd has got his cash back.

Their invite is to collect 10% of the money. #3.2million and no be dem recover the cash ooo. mind you they have been collecting money frm him before now.

you go hear money to open the case , you go hear money to write report. money to buy fuel drive go the scene of incidence, money to buy paper, dpo too go dey ask for his own......annoying antics to take cash Frm him.

my friend told dem plainly on the fone dt he is not coming or else going there Na to give police 10% free #320k .

same.happend to my colleague last mnt January. His own was #3.2million. the man dt posed as receiver of the rent bolted wit the cash out of lagos.

he went to police to lay complain, police begin extort my guy for every visit he makes at the station for update.

He arrange for army officers hoping dt wil fast track cash recovery. Dos ones collect 200k. came once and dem no show face again to follow up the mata.

my colleague track the guy. The scammer was tracked seen doing dorime wit frnds at an event center. enough to eat and drink.

I dnt know how my frnd did the tracking dt the scammers mum and anoda broda was contacted and informed. it didn't take up to 2weeks, he got his cash back.

Op, dnt near Nigeria police station to report or else they will open bizness center for ur head.

Keep liasing wit the landlord . Ask him wat would he like you to do to resolve the mata.

Dnt shout or raise voice at him . plead wit him to help you dt you dnt have money .

I believe of Na true elderly person and it was on his Instructions you made dt payment to dt caretaker, he will do plus and minus for you so dt you dnt bear 100% of the loss.

NeckingNgulping:
A rent of 900k was paid to a caretaker whom the landlord uses as a broker between him and incoming tenants. Now, the caretaker has absconded with the money and the landlord would not let the man who paid pack in.

What course of action can the man take as he can't reach the caretaker and the landlord would not give him the key to the apartment?

since cray fish don bend , let the incoming tenant be diplomatic in relatin wit the landlord provided he made the payment to the caretaker by virtue of the landlords Instruction. But if it wasn't base on the directive of the landlord den dt money don go.

Normally in this scenario, the landlord ought to meet wit the caretakers people/family and let dem know if they can find a way of reaching the caretaker to cough out the money. But he would not like to stress himself doing dat.

alobright17:
you guys just Dey talk anyhow. What if na village land that belongs to the mother in law’s family, the guy will tell him to quit ?

violent Boy, drink a cup of chilled water to cool ur temper. You read to comprehend . Not read to attack. I only opined.

by the way,are you a next door neighbor to dt woman? I wouldn't have replied you if truly the land belongs to the village

Let me take you to class boy.
if you understand the meaning of the word "if" you used then you shud have not used it at all in your sentence you constructed.

"If" means probable, probably, not sure or certain.
.
so none of us here online knows who owns the land .