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TheOldGods:

This man is a clown. If he was the one, would he accept to give someone goods on credit or work for someone on credit and to get paid later? he should be ashamed of himself rather than looking for cheap pity. Pregnancy is not an Emergency, you don't just get pregnant. it is something that is planned for, even if a woman gets pregnant, She still has 9months. this man is clearly a mistake, he took the life of his wife all by himself for his lack of decision making or leadership experience in his marriage. His negligence should not be frowned from. he killed his wife by his hands. if this was an actual emergency like a gunshot, accident etc, then I would feel a bit more sad and remorseful, but pregnancy is never ever an Emergency.

son, let me ask you these

Are you a married man?

If you are, have you experience delivery moment with your wife right inside the delivery room?


Have you been there, I mean right inside the delivery room with your wife , that is if you have one at all, everything was going fine and all of a sudden the unexpected happens?

I use to talk like the way you just did until I experienced one with my wife right in the labour room.

keep praying against quack or medical personnel wit little experience to attend to your wife or the hospital that dnt have good medical tools or facilities.

In my own case, preparation was made but the delivery took us to anoda direction dt I Neva expected we had to be referred Frm one hospital to anoda.
From the very first hospital we did antenatal dt couldn't handle the delivery to referrals was an experience mouth cnt say it all.

First hospital we were referred to, no doctor on ground to attend to us.
Second hospital, doctors came out and refuse to attend to us because we weren't naval staffs as they said , it is only naval officers dt cn use their hospital.
third hospital, doctors came out and outrightly refuse to take us in.
This was around 2am. moving from one point to anoda inside ambulance searching for a good hospital till the fourth one accepted us.
We got to the fourth one around 6am. labour was already at an advanced emergency.

I saw ween. I know how many kg comot Frm my body dt month. I loose massive Weight in few days. people go see me for wrk. go ask , "oga ,are you sick"

I know how much I spent . I really spent far beyond my financial budget for a normal safe delivery.

ThankGod both mother and baby survived it.

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What proof do you have that makes them fake? when you allege, attach it with proof. That is a mature way of criticizing. Am neither agreeing or disagreeing with you.

the title of your topic is deficient. you would have said why are people(both gender) not patient in making their marriage work?

Romanticgist:
1. Apologize for what they perceive is wrong you have done, especially if you both left each other in an off way

2. Check up on your spouse during the day, a short warm phone call, a text message to make him/smile

3. Find out the emotional state of your spouse. Is your spouse going through something heavy emotionally - money issue, a health issue, an issue at work, a challenge with siblings, depression, grief? Be there for your spouse emotionally. The emotional relief can relax the body

4. Find out if your wife is on her monthly periods. You could be expecting fireworks yet the red robots are weighing her down

5. Compliment and appreciate your spouse, say something that makes your spouse feel noticed and appreciated

6. In case you're Hot during the day, flirt with your spouse, tell your spouse all the naughty things you want to do to your spouse. Psychologically prepare your spouse, create an appetite

7. Form an agreement, go straight to the point. Tell your spouse, tonight I want to make love to you. Let your spouse know you have sexual expectations

8. Make it about mutual enjoyment. Tell your spouse how you want to sexually please him/her, not how you want to be pleased. Your spouse will be excited when his/her needs seem earger to be met. Don’t make it about you

9. Come home early. Don’t build anticipation then come home when your spouse is exhausted and sleepy just because of...https://www.relationshipaffair.site/?m=1

this wil actually do the reverse.

it is men dat do all dis online copy and paste pre-acting stuffs just to nack dt the wife dey always do Shakara for.

funny enof, you wil do all this and when e reach nite to play match, the woman go still tell you...."pls , I am tired. I want to sleep"

If you wnt to nack, go straight to the point. let her know it is her duty.

company no go beg you or cajole you before you do ur duty(work).

you no wan dey work(nack) but you wan to dey collect salary(enjoy privileges and benefits the husband provides always).

You(wife) are cheating the company(husband) be dat.

Emeka511:
I was dating this girl for quite sometime and we worked in same organization but different branches... We dated for about 4 months and she tells everyone I'm her man in the organization because she noticed some ladies in our org were having interest in me too.

Fast fwd to when she got an internship job in an audit firm we still keeping communication, she comes to my apartment for weekends etc but I noticed this girl is a girl that love things going her own way...
She claims to be churchy but things she do mks me question her church going... She sounds rude sometimes, she has this entitlement mentality, if I don't call her a day she will retaliate too...

Along the line things got sour wen I asked her to stop communicating with a guy that wants to get her into trouble through money laundering with Nigerian banks... She became angry telling me that's a red flag to her for telling her to stop communicating with this guy... Asking why I will tell her to stop communicating with someone just like that cos I have no right to tell her that... She even went as far as saying she can't marry a man who will stop her from communicating with ppl... So that's when the whole issue started then I had to give her some space till the next day to see if she'd come BK to her senses and apologize for the way she took the whole situation but she never called till the next day I tried talking to her... She told me she doesn't want the relationship anymore and she had moved on... I tried talking to her but she said she can't that she noticed some red flags about me which she can't continue.

Red flags she talked about was;
She need a calm man and I am not.

Me and her head day hot.

I'm a clubbing type (whereby we go to club together anytime we're together and she initiate it even wen I'm not in the mood for clubbing)

I do kush. (Shes do more of alcohol).

I don't go to church regularly ( she's a churchy girl)

She doesn't have much respect for me and she needs a man she wants to respect 💯

I had to option than to let her go cos I've tried sorting out things with her but she had made up her mind already...

What annoys me more is anytime she comes over to my place she most go home with one or two of my clothes cos she claims she don't want to wear what she wore to my place back home so she wear my clothes promising to return them back... She has taken about 4 polo tops, 2 shirts, Michael kors watch, slide and sandals and promise to return them but till today she hasn't returned them.
Even after break up I still remind her about my stuffs she borrowed and never returned but she feels adamant about returning them... Even on Sunday she wore my wrist watch to church and even had the guts to post it on her whatsapp status 😡

All this she took are expensive and some are gifts from friends.

Should I still request my things back or i should just let go...?

Emeka, since she refuse to return those stuffs, dnt ask her again about it. Dou it's painful especially when those items are precious to you.
Let it go. cut off contact and communication with that gal.

Don't worry,just count it as a lose.

from just her explanation, you wil be able to infer the character of the woman.
such shit happens when a woman or man doesn't have an elderly person he/ she is accountable to.


How are we sure the husband too is not of same feather with the woman. maybe the woman plays the infidelity game more than the man.

The supposed husband probably spoke out maybe because the womans waywardness was excessive than his.

4teenblaq:
N

what kind of update? update on war in Gaza or Israel versus Lebanon?

BluntCrazeMan:
What killed Him Abbegg.??


Na Accident.?

it is alleged to be prostrate cancer

the new ones before now, how well have you been rolling with them. no diff btw the incoming new and the ones you already know.

just go straight to the point and say what you want. anyway, what do I know? oya , meet me. I am new

in the middle of a conversation where we were trying to settle a misunderstanding . she blurted and said...."you don't know me oo"

as I hear dt statement, I had a second thought of pushing the relationship further.

make person no go put rat poison for my food one day or stab me for my sleep.

the average Nigerian is more loyal to his ethnicity than to Nigeria. A whole learned immigration officer selling arms to bandits!!!

#5 million naira for delivery fee and cs may be on the high side. the op may be referring to a very standard hospital.

Dou the price for emergency delivery and cs is now on the high side in most private and teaching hospital but all the same to make it not difficult for you , make provision of say #1million naira for an average standard hospital.

Reason I said so looking at the major areas you wil spend money

1 wife may need multiple bags of blood if necessary. the more bags she consume , the more the expenses
2 baby may need bags of blood
3 Baby may be oxygen deficient and need to be placed under oxygen.
4 baby may need to be placed in incubator for some days. incubator fee alone is high
5 Baby may need to be placed under photo light to clear off jaundice and the more days baby stays under it, the more money you pay.
6 medication you wil pay for mother and baby while in the hospital
7 injection/drugs hospital may not have, you wil be ask to go purchase it outside. these are expensive medication. mind you, you buy for mother and child.
8. You wil pay for bed space
9 food hospital wil give the.mother
10 Light bill or diesel money to power their gen, they wil transfer some on you
11. post CS test wife wil do to check for infection and occasional dressing of where she was operated on.

This is just an average amount you spend while they are still in the hospital not to talk of post delivery care expenses.

Talking from my experience. I hear ween.

Olaolar:
Like the pharmacist understand the doctor handwriting

what if you understand the person and the person dos nt understand you?

RevenuesBoost:
Have you followed your wife to the delivery ward before? If you have, then you'll know that you can't go through that pain for 30 minutes, you'll pass out.
Most women actually pass out.

Have you watched a toddler for just 24 hours?





Do you know that money isn't an issue for a modern woman?

What if both parents share financial responsibilities?

21st century parents share financial responsibilities.
No man wants a liability as a wife any more.



As a first time mum, na me know wetin I take my eyes see before I write this post.
I haven't had a good night sleep for the past two months...



You'll get back from work to have a peaceful sleep but she must make sure the baby is asleep before she goes to sleep and wakes up on intervals to check on the baby.
Meaning, she'll never have a good night sleep until the baby grows up.
She has to figure out what's making her baby cry.

Women!!! mercy chinwo kind of emotional explanation

You have still not publicly acknowledge our husband effort.

budaatum:
I am your slave because you feed me?

Please come back in future and let me know how that life philosophy works out for you.

the op is been overwhelmed with their burden dt is why he made that statement of dem been under his control and probably cut off helping them.

It is not easy helping sm1 that doesn't want to help himself to get out of poverty.

How can you have two educated people, wife , a teacher and husband ,a pgd holder and they are both suffering. Of what use is their education?

you and I know that there are some couple that didn't go beyond pry school education and they are doing well as husband and wife.

the lazy pgd husband is the one not with problem. He maybe one of those men dt like building castle in the air giving the wife false hope.

"I am.expecting one big contract from federal government soon "
"my brother abroad is preparing my visa to come take me to obodo oyibo by next year"
"I wil make it big. dnt worry honey"

and he wil keep guilt tripping and manipulating the wife with selfish and flawed theories

"can't you suffer with me? Is marriage not for better for worse"

Beta for worse when he is not moving his ass to improve his finance.

I understand the anger of the op even if his statement sounded harsh.

my advice to op,
please create time to go visit them .
You and her husband should sit separately and talk man to man.
Ask him what is challenge is. who knows, ur nxt visit and discussion with him may bring him to start tinkin and acting right.

Op dnt get wearied of ur sister. be angry but still help her if you have spare.
You can reduce the amount you do give them but all the same let them drink frm ur cistern.

RevenuesBoost:
Shout out to all mothers, Una too try abeg!

I haven't had time for myself, just accept this picture as it is😄

My WCW goes to my little cute crush😍😘

and you assume the father buying baby formula, pampers, medication for the baby, baby clothes and toiletries no dey try because the man no dey complain?

you and I knows that the father's hustle is now double. It's cold outside struggling to provide for new born baby.

tag the man too. say a shout to him in your post and appreciate him.

Nnamdipapa:
She tried that with me and failed. She always said" I am old enough to be your mom" and I would reply my mom would never try half the shits I get to tolerate from her. I told my wife the day your mom steps in my house, I am walking out of the marriage and I will force her to choose between her mom and her marriage.

Charlie, it is not in your good interest quarrelling with your wife's mother. Na tact you go dey use follow her

who is this man's back up? He makes daring statement

Gaspardd:
Met the 2nd lady mid 2022, but got pregnant late last yr. My parents are already aware esp my dad who told me to embrace my new status.

The first wife isn't aware yet but I will fake remorse and blame it on the devil and see how it goes.

are you reporting yourself to the public ? What do you want us to do with this confession?

SultanOfAbia:
If i arrange a date with a girl and on that day.
When its time to meet I call her
Her phone rings she dosent pick
I give a gap of 30 minutes

The moment i call the 2nd time and she dosent pick up
I block her number immediately

This has resulted to girls in campus gossiping that i have hot temper amd cant take no for an answer.

Me i like being straightfoward
If you agree on a date and on the day of the date, you give excuse or no pick up calls.
I immediately block the girl

I dont care what happened
I block and move on
Some of them come back to explain omo i don move be say i don move.

My sisters are warning me that im being extreme with women. And it will backfire on me. But i no send them

so what do you want the public to do with this your information?

After staying with sm1 for these long nos of years you divorced him because he is too focus on football.?
so wont she feel more lonely now that she choose to stay alone?

don't be in a haste to sell it.
why not throw it open to your relatives you know that are responsible that stay close to such location if they can live in there for the main time.
You can ask your nuclear or extended family members if any wil be interested

1 that I am the leader of my home. I must practically get involved in how things should go in my home.

2. If you can't afford it. Tell your wife pop and plain. she wil only squeeze her face. it's just for a while.

3. Make your wife accountable as regards cash flow in the home. sweetheart, how did you spend the money? is a very good question. Ask her when necessary.

4. Your home no be army barracks. try to ease tension in the home with humor once in a while. tease your wife make she laugh with you.

5. keep working on your financial earning strength. drop your ego and do that dirty job.provided the job go bring you some cash, do it. Bring home the beacon.

we draw our style and pattern of doing things Frm the way we were brought up in a nuclear family and the environment we grew up.

The qtn is this, the ladies we have outside now, do they even know how to communicate? A large number of them wil just be giving you one liner response.
....fine.
....okay
...... nothing
.....brb
........lols ( lols when dem no know the full meaning)

If you talk about career, they immediately switch off .
If you try to talk about politics, you wil end up talking back to yourself.

Not all though but most we have outside healthy conversation bore them. Na money for hand back for ground kind of talk thrills them.
The present naija economy self no dey give those girls joy to hear you do long talk.

Ideally, a proper talking stage should come in front before dating sm1. talking stage where you declare your manifesto but majority of the ladies we have outside no send you with your solomonic love lines.

A boy growing up to a gentleman with strong chivalry ,etiquette and well cultured wil like to be courteous to do the talking stage of a thing.

But if you see the style dos raw guys in the trenches ask women out, you go dey amuse as a gentleman.

Guy: babe, how far now?
gal: I dey
Guy: but babe.....you set die. see wetin you carry for back
Gal: shey you fit handle am
Guy: no try me oh. I carry somtin for under. Infact, I gather.
Guy: how e go be now? I like your parole. we suppose see oh
Gal: serious! No wahala. anytime you ready
Guy: make I get your number. I go hala you

most of their convo goes in a freestyling pattern and you wil be surprised dt that gal may end up in dt guys place few days after dt encounter. dt same gal would have collected rounds of nacking Frm dt guy.

While you that you are trying to follow the talking stage protocol would have to talk....talk more...talk again...convince her...prove your worth...and the thing keeps going on like a job Interview.

The talking stage appears to be old school pattern Dou but dts how it ought to be but the direct and blunt guys are the ones taking the babes while you talking wil be there still talking.

the thing is just be flexible and do the one that wil give you result.

we draw our style and pattern of doing things Frm the way we were brought up in a nuclear family and the environment we grew up.

The qtn is this, the ladies we have outside now, do they even know how to communicate? A large number of them wil just be giving you one liner response.
....fine.
....okay
...... nothing
.....brb
........lols ( lols when dem no know the full meaning)

If you talk about career, they immediately switch off .
If you try to talk about politics, you wil end up talking back to yourself.

Not all though but most we have outside healthy conversation bore them. Na money for hand back for ground kind of talk thrills them.
The present naija economy self no dey give those girls joy to hear you do long talk.

Ideally, a proper talking stage should come in front before dating sm1. talking stage where you declare your manifesto but majority of the ladies we have outside no send you with your solomonic love lines.

A boy growing up to a gentleman with strong chivalry ,etiquette and well cultured wil like to be courteous to do the talking stage of a thing.

But if you see the style dos raw guys in the trenches ask women out, you go dey amuse as a gentleman.

Guy: babe, how far now?
gal: I dey
Guy: but babe.....you set die. see wetin you carry for back
Gal: shey you fit handle am
Guy: no try me oh. I carry somtin for under. Infact, I gather.
Guy: how e go be now? I like your parole. we suppose see oh
Gal: serious! No wahala. anytime you ready
Guy: make I get your number. I go hala you

most of their convo goes in a freestyling pattern and you wil be surprised dt that gal may end up in dt guys place few days after dt encounter. dt same gal would have collected rounds of nacking Frm dt guy.

While you that you are trying to follow the talking stage protocol would have to talk....talk more...talk again...convince her...prove your worth...and the thing keeps going on like a job Interview.

The talking stage appears to be old school pattern Dou but dts how it ought to be but the direct and blunt guys are the ones taking the babes while you talking wil be there still talking.

the thing is just be flexible and do the one that wil give you result.

well , the effectiveness of a coach or a manger is not solely base on his proficiency. most of us strongly criticized paesero when he was first appointed. Nobody knew him nor his track record.


He himself asserted dat he wasn't expected to perform well but wil I say luck push him to winning a second position for the super eagles.

We all know that They were better coach Dan paesero in dat last afcon dt their team went out in group stage of the competition.

Other factors like how well the Farmer (coach) can use his tools(players) well is a major factor dat determines result. does he know the best to play center back, left wing, right wing, attack so well?

can he pair the players well enough so dt the best comes out of them? dt same team paesero used to win silver was dt same team finidi struggle to use to get good results.

Anoda factor is dat the players use to start the qualifying stage didn't play so well to win. It's dt lackadaisical attitude right Frm the first match Nd other matches dt placed us currently down the group. On paper, super eagles were the favorite to top the group.

Anoda factor is , wil the players listen to him and take to instruction. ?
pikin go behave well if him dey with him.biological parents but take am go spend holiday for step mother side, he may start to misbehave esp when he feels am better off Dan you.

Anoda factor is, availability and playing condition of the players at dt very moment they are needed, if your good players are not fit to play when you desperately need dem , you and I know the possible outcome of that match.
Morocco team dt played so well in d last world cup same team struggle in the last afcon.

Anoda factor is what team did you play with in your qualification stage and as competition progress. Dat Nigeria team might have nt reach dt final stage if they played anoda strong team luck made dem not to play with.

The performance of a manager is nt really base on how heavy his name or his track record is.

Who gave cape Verde any chance to win bigger football country names in the last afcon.?

success in football is a combination of the coaches hunger to win and also the players. too with a stroke of luck.

Nezy4Real:
Exactly why I am really disturbed. Anytime I confront her with this issue she always cry her eyes out and apologize remorsefully. My major concern now is the issue of the abortion in the past.

While the comments were pouring in here, she came to my house to talk things through. I asked her if she cares about herself why is she going back to the people that caused her pain. She keeps begging that I should forgive her that she doesn’t chat them up except they message her. I asked why she still has their contact even after 4 years, she tried to give one excuse or the other. My final comment to her was, I don’t have any response for her that I will have to do my own consultations from family and friends before I know the next line of action.

Is there any thing to consult in this mata.?

you are the one that is the problem to yourself not even the gal. As sm1 said above me, advice won't work on you.

Nezy4Real:
Hmmm! I want to move on but I don’t know how to. But anytime I remember those things she did my heart break.

youngman, did you say you don't know how to move on?
let me tell you this about yourself that you don't know. By true assumption

1. You are older than her by age
2. You are more logical than her
3. You are morally upright than her
4 You are more sound academically than her
5. There are better gals you should take focus to but you don't want to

But ironically you don't talk and look like sm1 that posses all these features.

If you are asking the qtn of weda to move on or not then the education you received should be questioned.

I learnt to be intentional and deliberate in what should happen in the home.
if you leave things on autopilot in your home, the aircraft go crash.

we most times put women at high pedestal before marrying them. when she starts living with you in the home that is when it wil dawn on you that most of them behave like children. Kids need guidance . So your wife.

[quote author=lavylilly post=133482825][/quote]I learnt to be intentional and deliberate in what should happen in the home.
if you leave things on autopilot in your home, the aircraft go crash.

we most times put women at high pedestal before marrying them. when she starts living with you in the home that is when it wil dawn on you that most of them behave like children. Kids need guidance . So your wife.

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