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#5 million naira for delivery fee and cs may be on the high side. the op may be referring to a very standard hospital.

Dou the price for emergency delivery and cs is now on the high side in most private and teaching hospital but all the same to make it not difficult for you , make provision of say #1million naira for an average standard hospital.

Reason I said so looking at the major areas you wil spend money

1 wife may need multiple bags of blood if necessary. the more bags she consume , the more the expenses
2 baby may need bags of blood
3 Baby may be oxygen deficient and need to be placed under oxygen.
4 baby may need to be placed in incubator for some days. incubator fee alone is high
5 Baby may need to be placed under photo light to clear off jaundice and the more days baby stays under it, the more money you pay.
6 medication you wil pay for mother and baby while in the hospital
7 injection/drugs hospital may not have, you wil be ask to go purchase it outside. these are expensive medication. mind you, you buy for mother and child.
8. You wil pay for bed space
9 food hospital wil give the.mother
10 Light bill or diesel money to power their gen, they wil transfer some on you
11. post CS test wife wil do to check for infection and occasional dressing of where she was operated on.

This is just an average amount you spend while they are still in the hospital not to talk of post delivery care expenses.

Talking from my experience. I hear ween.

Olaolar:
Like the pharmacist understand the doctor handwriting

what if you understand the person and the person dos nt understand you?

RevenuesBoost:
Have you followed your wife to the delivery ward before? If you have, then you'll know that you can't go through that pain for 30 minutes, you'll pass out.
Most women actually pass out.

Have you watched a toddler for just 24 hours?





Do you know that money isn't an issue for a modern woman?

What if both parents share financial responsibilities?

21st century parents share financial responsibilities.
No man wants a liability as a wife any more.



As a first time mum, na me know wetin I take my eyes see before I write this post.
I haven't had a good night sleep for the past two months...



You'll get back from work to have a peaceful sleep but she must make sure the baby is asleep before she goes to sleep and wakes up on intervals to check on the baby.
Meaning, she'll never have a good night sleep until the baby grows up.
She has to figure out what's making her baby cry.

Women!!! mercy chinwo kind of emotional explanation

You have still not publicly acknowledge our husband effort.

budaatum:
I am your slave because you feed me?

Please come back in future and let me know how that life philosophy works out for you.

the op is been overwhelmed with their burden dt is why he made that statement of dem been under his control and probably cut off helping them.

It is not easy helping sm1 that doesn't want to help himself to get out of poverty.

How can you have two educated people, wife , a teacher and husband ,a pgd holder and they are both suffering. Of what use is their education?

you and I know that there are some couple that didn't go beyond pry school education and they are doing well as husband and wife.

the lazy pgd husband is the one not with problem. He maybe one of those men dt like building castle in the air giving the wife false hope.

"I am.expecting one big contract from federal government soon "
"my brother abroad is preparing my visa to come take me to obodo oyibo by next year"
"I wil make it big. dnt worry honey"

and he wil keep guilt tripping and manipulating the wife with selfish and flawed theories

"can't you suffer with me? Is marriage not for better for worse"

Beta for worse when he is not moving his ass to improve his finance.

I understand the anger of the op even if his statement sounded harsh.

my advice to op,
please create time to go visit them .
You and her husband should sit separately and talk man to man.
Ask him what is challenge is. who knows, ur nxt visit and discussion with him may bring him to start tinkin and acting right.

Op dnt get wearied of ur sister. be angry but still help her if you have spare.
You can reduce the amount you do give them but all the same let them drink frm ur cistern.

RevenuesBoost:
Shout out to all mothers, Una too try abeg!

I haven't had time for myself, just accept this picture as it is😄

My WCW goes to my little cute crush😍😘

and you assume the father buying baby formula, pampers, medication for the baby, baby clothes and toiletries no dey try because the man no dey complain?

you and I knows that the father's hustle is now double. It's cold outside struggling to provide for new born baby.

tag the man too. say a shout to him in your post and appreciate him.

Nnamdipapa:
She tried that with me and failed. She always said" I am old enough to be your mom" and I would reply my mom would never try half the shits I get to tolerate from her. I told my wife the day your mom steps in my house, I am walking out of the marriage and I will force her to choose between her mom and her marriage.

Charlie, it is not in your good interest quarrelling with your wife's mother. Na tact you go dey use follow her

who is this man's back up? He makes daring statement

Gaspardd:
Met the 2nd lady mid 2022, but got pregnant late last yr. My parents are already aware esp my dad who told me to embrace my new status.

The first wife isn't aware yet but I will fake remorse and blame it on the devil and see how it goes.

are you reporting yourself to the public ? What do you want us to do with this confession?

SultanOfAbia:
If i arrange a date with a girl and on that day.
When its time to meet I call her
Her phone rings she dosent pick
I give a gap of 30 minutes

The moment i call the 2nd time and she dosent pick up
I block her number immediately

This has resulted to girls in campus gossiping that i have hot temper amd cant take no for an answer.

Me i like being straightfoward
If you agree on a date and on the day of the date, you give excuse or no pick up calls.
I immediately block the girl

I dont care what happened
I block and move on
Some of them come back to explain omo i don move be say i don move.

My sisters are warning me that im being extreme with women. And it will backfire on me. But i no send them

so what do you want the public to do with this your information?

After staying with sm1 for these long nos of years you divorced him because he is too focus on football.?
so wont she feel more lonely now that she choose to stay alone?

don't be in a haste to sell it.
why not throw it open to your relatives you know that are responsible that stay close to such location if they can live in there for the main time.
You can ask your nuclear or extended family members if any wil be interested

1 that I am the leader of my home. I must practically get involved in how things should go in my home.

2. If you can't afford it. Tell your wife pop and plain. she wil only squeeze her face. it's just for a while.

3. Make your wife accountable as regards cash flow in the home. sweetheart, how did you spend the money? is a very good question. Ask her when necessary.

4. Your home no be army barracks. try to ease tension in the home with humor once in a while. tease your wife make she laugh with you.

5. keep working on your financial earning strength. drop your ego and do that dirty job.provided the job go bring you some cash, do it. Bring home the beacon.

we draw our style and pattern of doing things Frm the way we were brought up in a nuclear family and the environment we grew up.

The qtn is this, the ladies we have outside now, do they even know how to communicate? A large number of them wil just be giving you one liner response.
....fine.
....okay
...... nothing
.....brb
........lols ( lols when dem no know the full meaning)

If you talk about career, they immediately switch off .
If you try to talk about politics, you wil end up talking back to yourself.

Not all though but most we have outside healthy conversation bore them. Na money for hand back for ground kind of talk thrills them.
The present naija economy self no dey give those girls joy to hear you do long talk.

Ideally, a proper talking stage should come in front before dating sm1. talking stage where you declare your manifesto but majority of the ladies we have outside no send you with your solomonic love lines.

A boy growing up to a gentleman with strong chivalry ,etiquette and well cultured wil like to be courteous to do the talking stage of a thing.

But if you see the style dos raw guys in the trenches ask women out, you go dey amuse as a gentleman.

Guy: babe, how far now?
gal: I dey
Guy: but babe.....you set die. see wetin you carry for back
Gal: shey you fit handle am
Guy: no try me oh. I carry somtin for under. Infact, I gather.
Guy: how e go be now? I like your parole. we suppose see oh
Gal: serious! No wahala. anytime you ready
Guy: make I get your number. I go hala you

most of their convo goes in a freestyling pattern and you wil be surprised dt that gal may end up in dt guys place few days after dt encounter. dt same gal would have collected rounds of nacking Frm dt guy.

While you that you are trying to follow the talking stage protocol would have to talk....talk more...talk again...convince her...prove your worth...and the thing keeps going on like a job Interview.

The talking stage appears to be old school pattern Dou but dts how it ought to be but the direct and blunt guys are the ones taking the babes while you talking wil be there still talking.

the thing is just be flexible and do the one that wil give you result.

we draw our style and pattern of doing things Frm the way we were brought up in a nuclear family and the environment we grew up.

The qtn is this, the ladies we have outside now, do they even know how to communicate? A large number of them wil just be giving you one liner response.
....fine.
....okay
...... nothing
.....brb
........lols ( lols when dem no know the full meaning)

If you talk about career, they immediately switch off .
If you try to talk about politics, you wil end up talking back to yourself.

Not all though but most we have outside healthy conversation bore them. Na money for hand back for ground kind of talk thrills them.
The present naija economy self no dey give those girls joy to hear you do long talk.

Ideally, a proper talking stage should come in front before dating sm1. talking stage where you declare your manifesto but majority of the ladies we have outside no send you with your solomonic love lines.

A boy growing up to a gentleman with strong chivalry ,etiquette and well cultured wil like to be courteous to do the talking stage of a thing.

But if you see the style dos raw guys in the trenches ask women out, you go dey amuse as a gentleman.

Guy: babe, how far now?
gal: I dey
Guy: but babe.....you set die. see wetin you carry for back
Gal: shey you fit handle am
Guy: no try me oh. I carry somtin for under. Infact, I gather.
Guy: how e go be now? I like your parole. we suppose see oh
Gal: serious! No wahala. anytime you ready
Guy: make I get your number. I go hala you

most of their convo goes in a freestyling pattern and you wil be surprised dt that gal may end up in dt guys place few days after dt encounter. dt same gal would have collected rounds of nacking Frm dt guy.

While you that you are trying to follow the talking stage protocol would have to talk....talk more...talk again...convince her...prove your worth...and the thing keeps going on like a job Interview.

The talking stage appears to be old school pattern Dou but dts how it ought to be but the direct and blunt guys are the ones taking the babes while you talking wil be there still talking.

the thing is just be flexible and do the one that wil give you result.

well , the effectiveness of a coach or a manger is not solely base on his proficiency. most of us strongly criticized paesero when he was first appointed. Nobody knew him nor his track record.


He himself asserted dat he wasn't expected to perform well but wil I say luck push him to winning a second position for the super eagles.

We all know that They were better coach Dan paesero in dat last afcon dt their team went out in group stage of the competition.

Other factors like how well the Farmer (coach) can use his tools(players) well is a major factor dat determines result. does he know the best to play center back, left wing, right wing, attack so well?

can he pair the players well enough so dt the best comes out of them? dt same team paesero used to win silver was dt same team finidi struggle to use to get good results.

Anoda factor is dat the players use to start the qualifying stage didn't play so well to win. It's dt lackadaisical attitude right Frm the first match Nd other matches dt placed us currently down the group. On paper, super eagles were the favorite to top the group.

Anoda factor is , wil the players listen to him and take to instruction. ?
pikin go behave well if him dey with him.biological parents but take am go spend holiday for step mother side, he may start to misbehave esp when he feels am better off Dan you.

Anoda factor is, availability and playing condition of the players at dt very moment they are needed, if your good players are not fit to play when you desperately need dem , you and I know the possible outcome of that match.
Morocco team dt played so well in d last world cup same team struggle in the last afcon.

Anoda factor is what team did you play with in your qualification stage and as competition progress. Dat Nigeria team might have nt reach dt final stage if they played anoda strong team luck made dem not to play with.

The performance of a manager is nt really base on how heavy his name or his track record is.

Who gave cape Verde any chance to win bigger football country names in the last afcon.?

success in football is a combination of the coaches hunger to win and also the players. too with a stroke of luck.

Nezy4Real:
Exactly why I am really disturbed. Anytime I confront her with this issue she always cry her eyes out and apologize remorsefully. My major concern now is the issue of the abortion in the past.

While the comments were pouring in here, she came to my house to talk things through. I asked her if she cares about herself why is she going back to the people that caused her pain. She keeps begging that I should forgive her that she doesn’t chat them up except they message her. I asked why she still has their contact even after 4 years, she tried to give one excuse or the other. My final comment to her was, I don’t have any response for her that I will have to do my own consultations from family and friends before I know the next line of action.

Is there any thing to consult in this mata.?

you are the one that is the problem to yourself not even the gal. As sm1 said above me, advice won't work on you.

Nezy4Real:
Hmmm! I want to move on but I don’t know how to. But anytime I remember those things she did my heart break.

youngman, did you say you don't know how to move on?
let me tell you this about yourself that you don't know. By true assumption

1. You are older than her by age
2. You are more logical than her
3. You are morally upright than her
4 You are more sound academically than her
5. There are better gals you should take focus to but you don't want to

But ironically you don't talk and look like sm1 that posses all these features.

If you are asking the qtn of weda to move on or not then the education you received should be questioned.

I learnt to be intentional and deliberate in what should happen in the home.
if you leave things on autopilot in your home, the aircraft go crash.

we most times put women at high pedestal before marrying them. when she starts living with you in the home that is when it wil dawn on you that most of them behave like children. Kids need guidance . So your wife.

[quote author=lavylilly post=133482825][/quote]I learnt to be intentional and deliberate in what should happen in the home.
if you leave things on autopilot in your home, the aircraft go crash.

we most times put women at high pedestal before marrying them. when she starts living with you in the home that is when it wil dawn on you that most of them behave like children. Kids need guidance . So your wife.

Jerchance:
Thank you for reaching out @gerizzim! I’m open to giving Crypto a try. How can I get in touch with you?

drop me an email

Jerchance:
Hello Nairaland!
I'm reaching out for your honest advice:
Today, I woke up feeling overwhelmed by the uncertainties of life as a father,with a 9-5 job that doesn't pay much. I've struggled to make ends meet. I have no savings to fall back on, and the pressure is mounting now that I'm married with a new baby. My salary of 300k is quickly depleted by responsibilities and debt.

Could you offer some guidance on how to improve my financial situation? What skills can I learn or what steps can I take to increase my earnings, considering I don't have any savings to rely on?

Thanks!!!!

dear brother,

It is not strange as a man along the line of meeting needs in the family, we take loan to sort out som emergency. I hope the loan you took was for a wise course or project.

You said you earn 300k. it is not dt bad. some earn lower Dan dt and still try to stay debt free.

Let me quote you. " the pressure is mounting now that I am.married with a new baby". that means you had an antecedence of not managing your finance well.

I guess, you are spending money the way you were when you were a bachelor now that you are marid.
the way a man spends when he was single shud be different Frm the way he spends when he is marid.

I know times are hard but still you have to be flexible to the changes we all are passing tru.

It is not a must you eat chicken all the tym now dat you are marid . If it is fish, you can afford , go for fish. I had to take a brk frm.meat and be doing fish because meat don dey pass my power.

If you were use to generator 24/7 when you were single . It is not a must you keep maintaining generator usage 24/7 now that you are marid.

Gotv and dstv is not a must. If it is affecting your pocket, pack it one side . you can be getting news updates online Frm your fone.

it is not a must to wnt to be impressing in-law by sending money all the tym to them. Tone it down. Na when you are doing them well , they wil sing your praises. The day you no send, dem go call you stingy. you can't please them

huz rent is now getting expensive. change apartment to the one you can comfortably afford. if it is 2bedroom or room nd parlor you can afford, go for it. No go do 4bedroom when go dey hard you to pay the rent. Moreover, how many hrs you dey spend for the huz in a mnt.

Reduce the times and amount you spend on happy hour. All those regular outing should reduce. you see the little 5k ..10k ...20k you see as small money and blow. It can cook pot of soup or pay light bill.

you are likely doling out huge amount of money to relatives anytime they ask you. while it is good to give . Do it with sense. If you are doing that, reduce it. you can't solve relative or family problems with your salary. do some and leave some for other of your siblings to do.

don't spend ur money like those bizness guys. don't do regular sitting with frnds dt can make your salary in one or two days and be drinking beer with them except you both agreed to meet at the bar for such meeting or such moment wil bring gist dt wil help your finance.

you said you don't have savings..that is not a good thing. it is very possible to have savings even with that your 300k salary.
you are the one that doesn't have a scale of preference on how you spend.

I can recommend a crypto trading platform you can leverage on as side income if you are interested.

All the best!

congratulations mummy light of the world

ebijimi7:
30 years

30years?? You have not started life you want to suicide yourself.
hope you have somtin stronger to tell your creator why you erased urself among us when you get to the other side of life.

nice initiative

It is a good initiative but hope there won't be having issues with sharing of revenue?

so they haven't started paying this new wage?

Allotrope69:
Yes I'm a no nonsense teacher. But I still find time to play with the students. I even dance for them when teaching

Pls don't rack my ribs young man. you say you dey dance for class?
You don't need to act like a comedian or clown to make dem accept or like you.

Faithings:
I am an employed POS attendant. I went to work this morning around 6:55am only to see people conversing with my boss unusually. Then I got to know my boss was robbed from the shop when I balanced my account and left around 8pm yesterday. I actually heard a gun shot yesterday night but wasn't even sure if it was gunshot or something because I live 4 streets away from the shop. He said he tried to drag with them when one of them reached for the drawer to take the cash. That was when the other one went outside and fired in the air. They were 3 in number. The shop is a container used for only POS transactions, no other business is attached to it. This is the second time my boss is robbed in this same shop. Now, my boss has locked the shop and told me to go. I was actually saving for Christmas. Now, I will have to eat my meagre savings. Jobs are not easy to find in this my part of Nigeria. It shall be well.

That biz is not what one that smbdy should keep huge money inside the shop overnite. such biz shops are targets for bad boys dt move in the night.
he should have place a rule dt if funds is beyond so and so amount. It should not stay in there til the next day.
I hope the cash in there is not so big

Kokorokomanxxl:
If you want to learn domain flipping, i can teach you on WhatsApp for 5k only.

Domain flipping is thr buying of expired internet domains and reselling them in dollars.

So you have been earning in dollars all this while in your domain flipping and you are asking for 5k to teach it.
5k is around 3$. you are indirectly telling us you have less Dan 3$ in your account.
Sm1 that has made so much $ from domain flipping won't be asking for 5k . Your claim of knowing it big time is questionable.

As for developing agriculture in that state. Give it to him. He's trying

Macnnoli4:
Then prostrating and kneeling down to greet is satanic too. And kneeling down to be prayed on by a pastor is satanic too. All this extremist pastors looking for what to make a sin.

he is not against kneeling down. The younger can kneel to the elder as a sign of honour and respect not the other way round.
He is against kneeling while proposing to a lady

the portfolio of these ministers do not really contribute so much in bringing about a drastic change in the economy.

He should remove ministers that have a direct impact in boosting the economy. Let him go to finance, defence,petroleum,agriculture and other key positions not these light ministers/ministry