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Leep:
If you belong in any of these, then, it's time you have a rethink about your entire existence especially as a man.
A man is weak if he shows the following signs:

1. He is Addicted to Porn
2. He's always Worried About what people think about Him
3. He's Afraid to say "NO"
4. Have No Goals in Life
5. Have self-Doubt
6. Prioritize Pleasure over everything else.
7. Having High expectations from everyone
8. Constant Excuses and Whining about their Problems
9. Low self-esteem and Low confidence
10. Blaming Others for their miserable life.

The only Solution you need here is IDENTITY-Shifting.

seems you just copy and paste this article. Not
all listed is completely true.

Giftedhand47:
Ogijo bus top
Ogijo bus stop
Ogijo bus stop
Ogijo bus stop

Is ogijo in lagos or ogun state?

harjay1986:
This is one of the thing that make me not to argue with anyone in Nigeria because we are too emotional ... there is a story of a kid on YouTube that employ his parent and paid them monthly, he's just 10 years old but get paid thousand of dollars per day .... as Nigerian we dwell too much on emotion and that what ruin us as person .... nobody force anyone into schooling, Education is different from schooling .... A tailor, road Side Mechanics, Trailer Driver , Actor and many more actually go through a formal Education not schooling ... many people that go through Education have tendency to solve problem and in return it will pay them ... schooling on the other end make you dependant but if you have the two you will have a sharp edge .....

To you he's embarrassing those people but those people know before going there that he's not a graduate like them abi ... I will say the Guy have Education which mean skill that he can profit from but the position the school guy are waiting for many people can actually do it

there is no emotion in here . did you see the 10yrs old boy humiliate his parents before giving them the job?

There is notin wrong for an ssce holder to employ a graduate. anybody cn call for interview and employ sm1 but you don't insult dem before you accept them.

harjay1986:
You are getting me wrong try to read what prompt me saying that ... the guy was comparing Education to schooling yes the two are the same but are distinct into there own way ... if a person can have the two it will be super but if anyone want to choose one Education will be the best. Many people only think those who go to formal school are the one who get Educated but they fail to know that, that's just schooling

oga, you are the one calling it your own name.

Kasali in a motor mechanic wokshop learning how to repair vehicle is in his own school.
James in University of Lagos reading law is in his own school.
Both are been taught by a teacher. That is education. I nor know which one you dey call schooling and education.

harjay1986:
They only tells you education is the key ... but do you bother to ask key to where .... education never produce a billionaire skill always deliver

youngman, education is not only to go to a regular school, graduate and get certificate.

You said education Neva produce billionaire skill will do dat.
I know you know this but you just want to argue needlessly, the root of Wateva skill anybody will have is education.

If na carpenter wc is a skill, you need to be taught how to be good at carpentry, dt is education.
The gal next door dt sells akara and bread was taught by smbdy, dt is education.

Even the so called peller, he is educated in his way of making money.

wateva trade, biz , handwork or skill you cn tink of is rooted in education weda formal or informal.

harjay1986:
Brother let leave that, check most of the billionaire in the world today are they graduate ... school only teach you how to be employee while street teach you how to be employer of labor

but if am to respond base on your opinion, I tink you are probably rubbishing education.

You have nt watched the clips of the interview he did wit these msc dt applied. If you did then you will see clear dt the guys just wants to trend.

He was using other people's misfortunes of job search to catch cruise. Do you know dt the whole world saw dt insulting drama online .

Let me ask you, how will you feel if you were the one on live recording in front of a dt guy embarrassing and belittle you and same time streaming it online?


very rude and unprofessional way of talking to them. casually teasing and making mockery of these ladies and guys dt turned up.
Telling one of the ladies to come and hug him. imagine! dt guy because he is fortunate.

Please, go to YouTube ,search for the clips and see for yourself.

harjay1986:
Brother let leave that, check most of the billionaire in the world today are they graduate ... school only teach you how to be employee while street teach you how to be employer of labor

of a truth yes! we all know . I am only responding base on the title of the gist not arguing for or against wether graduates or non graduates are the one controlling billions.

the young chap is only trying to create a buzz online. He wants to give the online space something to talk about . It is more of a content.

if and if truly he needs or employs a msc graduate for dt job, he won't be needing his certificate, his aim is to leave a story for us to keep arguing dt peller employed a master degree holder as a photographer which wil spiral into further arguments to rubbish education.

If he had employed the regular street cameraman , it wud be seen as normal and it won't trend online.
Moreover, those photographers he has been changing all dis while before now dt are nt probably msc holders, did it go viral as this one?

Do you guys even know how.much diz msc cameraman gist has generated for him tru streaming to follow up the story online.

Moreover, i dnt tink this gist is really in the certificate because you cn have a master's degree holder dt is not sound same way as a bsc holder dt is half baked.

He's intent is more of I want to say something online to trend and go viral not dt he actually seeks proficiency in the job role per say.

we lost to Zambia wafcon2022 by one goal. the present Zambia female team is hot. technically , they play a good football transition style in their team beta Dan super falcons. Dt their striker Banda is something else. .

1phone:
I will not even bother you with long stories.

I'm navigating a complex situation regarding an unplanned pregnancy. Despite initial considerations for termination, medical professionals have strongly advised against it due to potential health risks to the mother, given her previous Cesarean section. As a result, I'm faced with the prospect of having another child, which adds to the complexity of our relationship dynamics.

The relationship with the mother of my child began in 2022, and while we've had some time to adjust to parenthood, our relationship is still evolving. Furthermore, my relationship with her family is strained, which adds another layer of complexity to our situation.

Given the current economic uncertainty, I'm concerned about the financial implications of raising another child. I'm nearing 40, and the mother is 32; we're at different stages in our lives, and I hadn't planned on expanding our family further.

I'd appreciate guidance on potential co-parenting arrangements, financial planning strategies, and support systems that could help us navigate this situation. Specifically, I'd like to explore options for ensuring the well-being of both the mother and our children while also addressing my own concerns and responsibilities.

Confused right now

Son,
you see these your embellished Cambridge questions of how to go abt co-parenting , financial planning strategies and support system is not a question dat you should ask first.
the very first question you shud ask is how do I formalize my relationship with this woman dt has one child for me and anoda one on the way.
Let's assume the first preg was a silly mistake on ur part because you dint see her as ur spec for marriage.Then why do you keep sleeping wit dt lady? probably you have been lying to her dt you will marry her maybe dts why she kept hope alive and continue keeping in touch with you but alas you were nt sincere with your promise.

Your qtn is wat makes me to assume so.

Let me ask, is it the person you feel you dnt wnt to get married to you will be consistently dropping allowance for mother and child if at all the financial support you desire comes in?

you are torturing dt lady mentally in this situation you both put yourself esp you as the major culprit.
Go back and meet dt woman and clear her doubt as regards her status. That is the first step to your emancipation. You will get a breakthrough in Jesus name.

OgidiHerbals:
You've said it all summarily. Most divorces happens with LEARNED couples.

it is not really been learned dat causes divorce. it is more of character Dan sophistication , exposure or acquired higher knowledge.

You can have husbnd and wife both not educated and still pushing for separation.

There are plenty couples outside dat husbnd Nd wife are both learned but have stayed over 30yrs in marriage.

character here i mean has notin to do with he or she been decent or responsible. you cn be decent or responsible and nt have character one shud put up in marriage.

An educated or non-educated person cn have the character.

Forgiveness, tolerance,goodness,truthfulness,empathy,patience,love,kindness,self control etc are what holds marriage for long.

Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

it was too.early for.you to.conclude with just that msg you saw. your assumption may be wrong.


same thing I saw in my former babe. Dou beautiful but I had to choose my peace Dan her beauty. when I noticed that behavior of not wanting to apologize in the lady i wanted to marry, I had to let her go.

I don't know if you also allowed beauty to make you not to choose well before you went ahead to marry her.

this is a tough one . 14yrs non-remittance of pension scheme? how will the present governor pay it?
i don't see gov dapo agreeing to pay right frm amosuns time it started crumbling. He may likely accept to pay part to appease the workers.
But Na wa o. I thought ogun state is among the top 7states with high IGR. How com this shud be a big issue? where is this humongous money the state is making going to?

Which do you mean? Respect as in giving regard or honour to or you mean fear you because you beat her needlessly?

you probably appear as a thorough gentleman. they know you dnt complain or talk dt is why they see you as the go-to person to always ask for money.

the tiredness and weariness will wear off if you let them know that you also have bills on your neck. you have nt been talking.
You need to speak up. "I don't have...." start learning how to say no.
dou it makes one uncomfortable when they genuinely ask and you cnt give but say no politely once in a while.

Nice article

Onatounkiki:
Good day, I'm a lady of 29years, I have a married suitor who sincerely wants to marry me.
I have known him for years and I have always known that he loves me. We started seeing each other last year , his wife knows about us so his children and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I have spoken to his mum and sister too.

I told my family about him and he's willing to come over to see my parents anytime they are ready but my family hasn't agreed yet. Mind you, we've not had sex but this man checks everything I have ever wanted in my husband.

Is there anything wrong in getting married as a second wife

Note: We've not had sex and we are both Christians

daughter,

You claim to be an educated person up to a first degree university level.

Let me ask, if you decide to go for your masters and a case study question exactly like this is asked and made compulsory to be answered. So you will submit bank sheet and get a carry over?

Go pick up your BSc certificate, look at it as if it is a mirror for like 20mins, I am sure after you do this, you wil know how to respond to this your mata.

delzbaba:
watery purge feeling inside a public bus.

while the vehicle you are in is in a heavy traffic. you wen gentle before that feeling start, Na you go begin dey ask driver every 15mins wen e start. "Driver, you never reach my bus stop"

yemmit90:
What many men don't understand is, women in marriage are quite different to when they were single. If your wife don't give you sex as expected, try to find out what might cause her action.

Majority of them are often stressed out due to house chores, works and children monitoring. Many time the only thing their body needed is rest, and while sex might seem to be relaxation thing for single women ( due to scarcity), it is not for married ones because they are already used to it. Before you criticise or blame your wife, try to combine your work stress with house chores and children monitoring and see how you will feel when you have an opportunity to rest.

As a married man, you need to be considerate and help them at home where it necessary. If you want them to always ready to have sex, try to make them happy, not only by giving them money but by helping them at home (especially working class ones).

Besides, every woman weaponize sex( single or married), it left for you to know how to outsmart them to have your way.

No sir, stop defending something dt is wrong. you are speaking for the woman dt she is most times tired dt is why she is nt available for sex.

A gfrnd cn deny her bfrnd sex and it may be justifiable because wateva benefit weda sex or money both of dem get Frm each oda is transactional.

But we wrongly view sex in marriage too lightly.sex in marriage is a duty. A major duty and responsibility in marriage as been said in the Bible.
You holding brief for the woman dt huz chores most tyms makes her tired is nt a strong reason at all.

It is the way the woman responds dt mata's nt the tiredness. "sweetheart, I am very tired. Pls give me 30mins let me rest for a while. I wil join you in bed later" is a polite way of expressing ur tiredness. if a woman abruptly cuts the man short with the "I am very tired for sex" and nt follow it up with certainty of doin the sex later den the woman is wrecking her marriage gradually.

Let me ask, you as the husband dt you wake up probably as early as 5am to prepare for wrk and likely come bk late in the evening, you do this every single day bk to bk for say an average of 26days in a month in btw with traffic stress on the road , don't you get drained and exhausted. Have you stop providing? Absolutely NO

But still, you dnt use dt as an excuse to provide for that woman. pay huz rent, pay school fees, NEPA bill, clothing, medication for the wife and kids so dt everybody wil be satisfied and nt grumble.

You see, most men wil do the unimaginable and make sacrifices for the wife even in that their state of tiredness and keep doin it.

sex in marriage is nt just a casual sex. It is a major responsibility dt is difficult to evade. The only condition I see it been avoided is when either party is seriously down health wise.

It is a woman dt doesn't see sex as duty in marriage dt wil keep using tiredness as excuse. the woman shud include and accommodate sex time when Eva she is needed by the man.

When the woman is denying the man sex,we shouldn't be listing out reasons why she is denying the man sex, we shud see how we cn include the sex even in dt state of tiredness. Moreover, how many minutes be the sex?

Kobojunkie:
Yet, every year, the government in many of these abroad states records 100s of millions of dollars in inheritance taxes — taxes paid on inherited property? You should probably begin looking into getting yourself better friends(friends who will not use your ignorance as a weapon against you), or maybe even looking into directly obtaining education for yourself from the right sources.

2. Please get yourself some help while you are at it.

mister oga, hold what you ignorantly know and dnt know. I know people who benefit Frm some sane medical hospitals and where asked to pay as the treatment commences particularly emergency cases. a working colleague had an emergency surgery feb this yr.

wemzack:
Good morning my people I need your advice I am a graduate, since when I graduated I have not been able to get a permanent or suitable job and I have wife and two kids, my wife is the only child of her parents ,her father is a farmer almost 85 years old and her mother is dead her father like me so much that there is nothing he can not give, one day my wife called me that since I don't have permanent job why can't I join her father in his cocoa farm I was like do you want me to be like your father and be living in village she said what is wrong there that this is what her father has been doing till now and he can still afford to give us anything we ask, apart from that her father is aged he can't do much of the and since I am a graduate I will know how to modernize everything, but my own problem is that I don't know anything about agriculture, and is normal for me to go and join my father in-law and how can I modernize everything. Note my father in-law has cocoa farm,palm fruit,(he has lease that one out) he has cassava and other small farm but he can't do anything there because his strength has failed him. Please what should I do. How can I turn the project to something else even if I accept

son,
there are some professors living in that village. what is so special about dt your university certificate if you think you are too polish to live there ?

secondly, for now forget that you have a certificate. Go there asap and learn Frm that man. He wil be your professor(teacher) on the farm and you wil be his student. Just see it as you entering another school of real life agricultural studies.

I dnt know if it is agric you studied in school but dnt deceive yourself with dt your statement dt you will modernize everything. your agric professors and commissioners of agriculture you have in your school's and govt level do learn Frm dis our old farmers.

It is most certain dt when teaches you and shows you the rope, you wil nt wnt to work salary wrk esp when the proceeds of cocoa starts coming in. cocoa money is like oil money if you know the current price of 1tonne of cocoa.

If you delay too long and that old man goes to the other side of life and you miss out, you wil understand beta what you have lost.

Kobojunkie:
1. 1. People in other parts of the world prepare themselves even for death. Yes, they have wills and money stashed away to take care of things after their death. Death could come any moment -- second or minute--- but they are prepared for it 🤔

But here you all are awash with nonsensical reasons about how you should not be expected to prepare for the birth of a child whom you conceived and had about 9 months to prepare for. Do you not realize how very utterly pathetic that sounds? 🙄🙄🙄

2. Negotiating for what relief? Are you people OK at all? 🙄🙄

3. That man and woman are responsible for the death of that child. Negotiating after the fact when they had about 9 months to plan whatever relief they would need is a terrible excuse. Don't bother responding abeg!

youngman, you are referencing obodo oyibo. let me ask, where exactly have you travelled to outside Nigeria dt you are saying in other parts of the world.

A frnd I know who lives there said, most of wateva they posses or acquire or service delivery they benefit from comes in form of mortgage. it is not cash and carry over there.
You get the service and there is an option to pay thereafter.

I dnt tink, "your other parts of the world" you are holding brief for wil deny an emergency close to death because the man couldn't meet the demand right on the spot.

Hold your leaders responsible for making you reason and talk like this .

I doubt the FG is not aware of his doings . FG is speaking through the sole administrator.

Kobojunkie:
Children are not eediots! Of what real worth will those values be to them and their future in a society where values are trampled and switched — the very Law is considered of little or no worth?

2. Having open discussions with your kids will not remove the fact that money/resources are necessary for achieving the success desired and that failure is what awaits the majority who fail to obtain the resources necessary for success.

3. I would begin by apologising to them for being a bad parent parent unable to provide for their basic needs and many of their desires. By acknowledging the fault to be mine, I should be able to better reason with them where they are. All those kids out there seeking to join YahooYahoo are not unreasonable beings. Rather, at this point, we should have realized that many of them are simply human beings who are sick and tired of the suffering associated with living a life colored by lack.

you like to put up talk just to impress naira land audience and at the end, you don't make any meaningful contribution to the topic.

You actually have not said anything. Take a stand on that mata. Would you reason with that child to do yahoo? Yes or No.
stop rambling

KobomatPhones:
So i had this heated misunderstanding with my girlfriend which led to us breaking up aggressively as she hung up the call.

Exactly 2 hours later, she called… started apologizing and pleading that it was all her fault.

She added that she just got off the call with her ex, as she said the reason of the call was to know her kind of person in a relationship…. That he explained to her and also told her how i felt.

I was like, na your ex go tell you your faults before you realize them? As an adult wey you be.

She kept calling and calling, pleading for days.

Okay, 3 days later we met… i checked her phone, it was an hour call that night with her ex (which is understandable), but she has been calling him 3 days in a roll… with other male friends as well, and she said she was seeking advice.

Here is my point, i know 2 of her exes… The one she called that night and another dude

This another dude, when he chats her, she replies aggressively and shuts him off.

The ex she called that night, if he chats her, she is very calm and cooperative in replying detail to detail. Where are you? I dey road, I will call you back.

If he posts on whatsapp, she go first turn off reciepent via settings so he won’t know she viewed the status. Like, this is so much effort on a guy wey break your heart.

This same ex hid his 6 relationship with another girl and kept her as a second choice in their relationship…

This is the same ex wey break her heart and made her cry for days… wetin be this? Or her intentions might be innocent?

You titled your woes as issues between my gfrnd and I.
What exactly do you want us to say or do with this your complain?

Yorubastardz:
You call someone and tell them you need some money urgently.
They tell you by tomorrow.

Tomorrow comes, no show
You call the person, no show
At a point, they off their phones.

Why promise someone at such crucial moment then ghost dem?
It will be far better to tell them the truth that you don't have.

Than to give hope then run away
Why??

it's a two edged sword. you borrow sm1 money and he wil use his father's grave to swear that he wil pay back. When e reach tym to pay bk, him go dey ghost you.

I have two persons on my list when put up a gentle face to borrow cash Frm me, uptil now I Neva see my money.

One collect in the afternoon say by eveng of dt same day, he wil pay bk, it's now 2weeks ,Na me dey use torchlight dey find this guy uptil now.

The oda one walk out on me when I ask for my money say him no get money after payback time don elapse.

Kriklande:
I do trading

Guide me on how to trade profitably

Kobojunkie:
You mean like the man who claimed his wife and baby died because the hospital refused to treat him unless he paid the 500K fee?

Let me ask you, how well do you tink you can prepare for life emergencies. that man case had a trajectory that went beyond his financial budget at dt moment.

Not really dt He didn't make provision for planning.He was hard hit and was negotiating for a relief not demanding or insisting to get dt service.

shebi your Nigeria too dey negotiate for debt relief for financial demands when dem.no fit meet.

Kobojunkie:
You mean like the man who claimed his wife and baby died because the hospital refused to treat him unless he paid the 500K fee?

little boy, how is life with you?

they feel entitled to other peoples resources.

Solitechworld:
This caption is not a clickbait. You just need to read the whole post to get the context, but it is as true as you read it, and it is one of those realities of marriage you have to come to terms with.

I don't think a man who expects his wife to never ever disrespect him is ready for marriage, or perhaps he is all geared up for dictatorship. If humans disobey their Creator, it is not far-fetched to think that humans will disobey fellow humans, whoever they are.

For me, I have a principle with which I deal with this:
I expect from humans what is similar to (but not the same as) what God expects from me. God doesn't expect me to be perfect. He knows I will sin. The difference between a good and a bad sinner is frequency and persistence. God loves that sinner who sins and repents from it in no distant time rather than persist in the sin. Similarly, a pious person sins, but he only does it sometimes, not all the time.

In the same vein, a wife is not called disobedient and disrespectful because she goes against your wish once in a while. She is so if she does it all the time. That woman who, when she does wrong, realizes it eventually and apologizes is a good woman. You can’t compare her to a woman who is in the wrong and defends it with all her might. She is like the arrogant sinner God detests, the kind we humans detest so much.

So yeah, there are moments my wife speaks out of character to me, that she wouldn't do a thing I want or speaks to me in anger. As a man, how you deal with such scenarios speaks highly of your maturity and contributes a great deal to the regard and respect your wife will have for you.

If each time your wife disrespects you or does something you don't like, you pull rank, go overboard in anger, threaten fire and brimstone, or pull out your punishment cards — trust me, there is only so long you can continue that before she gets used to it and becomes undeterred. Instead, you ignore some, make a joke out of some, and some you deal with appropriately. Maturity makes you unpredictable. But more importantly, it gives your wife breathing space in the marriage.

How would you feel working in an organization where there is no room for error, as every mistake is met with an immediate reprimand? Wouldn't you feel like a slave working in a gold mine? That is exactly how it feels for women in a home where their husbands expect perfection from them all the time.

Sometimes, let women just be women. Let their silliness meet your playful understanding, and sometimes let it meet your fiery justice. Leadership is largely about balance between firmness and meekness. Tilting excessively to one side makes you either a dictator or a weak leader.

Men greater than you in piety and wealth have been disrespected by their wives. You are neither the first nor the last.

- Abu Imrān

before you react at her. Look deep into the intention of her outburst or insult at you. some of them just utter bitter words because they are angry.