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ediko5:
I'm not a teacher but I'll tell you that you are shallow minded because you don't really know the opportunities teachings expose one to in today's era of you're sharp of which you're not.

For instance, I know a course mate back in school who's a private school teacher and is currently earning hundreds of dollars monthly from his tutorial videos on YouTube.

What gave him the motivation, resources and even audience to start and grow the YouTube channel? His school and students...

Don't just look at the classroom and salary, look beyond.

I guess he meant the traditional teachers dt restrict themselves to the classroom only

you and your siblings visiting dad or mums relative on Christmas day with the expectation that they will grease your palm with money.

voiceoftheupcom:
https://eyesoflagos.com/10-habits-that-prove-you-grew-up-in-a-nigerian-household/

your parents buying you oversize Christmas cloth and shoe with the intention of you recycling the usage so as to get lasting value for cash spent on it.[b][/b]

Deepspirituals:
Is there anything Right that u ever agrees .. No be U..

Dnt take that guys comment serious. he intentionally likes playing the role of devils advocate.

Every body go see white piece of cloth and call it white. He knows it is white but will just wnt to drop argument say Na black.

smtx:
So True!
And when they say his father was a Governor of Lagos State, it's funny.... Cos his father was a Governor for 10 months before Abacha took over....

the duration may be short but the links, connection and social network he has in corridor of power dt short time frame was also part of his leverage.

if only we knew how a regular man cn bcom rich overnyt when he is surrounded with rich people.

I remba bk den when I use to go with my in-law to one big govt parastatal bk den in abj. Na there I know say by just one referral there you don blow overnyt.

leverage is just what we need not really whether you go to sch or didn't go and not a question of weda you are serious or not serious.

maybe China should just be a separate continent of its own. This innovation is something else

underpinna:
I have been dating a lady of over 35 years which I know she will be older than that for over 8 months. I now want to pull out and don't know how. I am currently in their community and my rent will be due next year. A lot of people don't like the fact that she's older than me. But, She doesn't want me leave.
What should I do....


Maurice........

you wnt to pull out because people dnt like she been older or you dnt like her? How old are you by the way?

your title says third party/in-laws are killing your home.

we can infer dt from this your past present continuous tense sentence you made means it has been happening for a long while.

It seems you have been maltreating dt woman before now and she hz been patiently waiting gathering momentum with a very good escape velocity dt launched her out of your home.

Even if your in-law are bad. she will wnt to defend you and shut her mum out of her marriage. If your wife attest dt you have been good to her, I doubt if she will leave.

You are omitting some of your sins in this piece you wrote.

it all boils down to the kind of person you are married to, how the person grew up seeing it from his home before marriage.

Even at that, some use to see their mum always pack the plates from the table but when they get married they bring their own principle and refuse to clear the plate the husbnd use to eat in their home when married.

The bottom line is whatever rock your boat and the boat doesn't sink, then hold on to it.

we all know women to be funny at times. when you keep doing it consistently, she wil assume it to be ur duty.

You may be late for work and forget to pack the plate. some funny wife's dt have a polluted audacity dt may even call you at wrk on the fone to ask you dt why didn't you clear the table before leaving the huz .

Wateva chores you no fit dey do regularly or sustain as a man, don't start it. The day you try to stop am, Na wahala. If the woman is the one doin it. Leave it for her to keep doing it.

you go dey help the home by going to the mkt to buy food items wc in most homes, the wife does dat. the day you tell wife say make she go, she go squeeze face say you should go.

or you are the one doing the cooking most of the time, the day you decide to stop, she gets irritated and say it is your duty.


The husband can do it once in a while but with moderation.

There is no one rule that works for everyone in his or her marriage.

occfx:
OK hopefully you are open to learning...

Culture is oyibo culture does not encourage marriage (for example)

Tradition is the involvement of everyone into marriage according to culture... This needs to be reviewed

Rules are man made rules from court, tradition and culture that they never want to be reviewed.

These are just the summary... I no get time to explain now

Ok. you may be right to some extent .
all these listed to some extent guide the people in the marriage.

It all boils down to how that settlement or community apply these practises or custom in guiding marriage.

occfx:
Your narrative is wrong... Imagine been raised by a single mother.

Biology is nature at work and you cant defeat it.

The problem with marriage is culture, tradition and rules. Remove these three things, you will see like minds cohabit peacefully with each other. Goto university hostels... Some people are living happily with themselves like husband and wife but immediately society is informed, problem starts.

There is a reason why poor people last in marriage than rich and enlightened people. Funny thing is you see the poor man and his miserable wife having 7 to 9 kids in peace. That's the level of connection they have with constant intimacy... The only problem those kind of people have is food. Not gender equality or any nonsense. Imagine if economy is good and they feed well, they will likely have a happier home than most elites.

Human beings should emulate animals... Simple and short.

can you break this down you said may be with example or case study. How do you mean culture, tradition and rules is the issue affecting marriage.

nice article but how do you juxtapose this in the Bible as regards this topic.

In Luke 14:28-30,Jesus uses the parable of building a tower to illustrate the importance of counting the cost before undertaking a significant endeavor.
He advises that one should first sit down and calculate the expenses to ensure they can complete the project.

The parable emphasizes that failure to do so can lead to public ridicule when the project is abandoned due to lack of resources.

B3sty:
Hmmmm, I experienced the same thing when I got married in 2015. She did Fibroid operation in 2016, no results. We both went to test ourselves, Doctors found out I've no fertility issues...My wife did HSG , we found out both Fallopian tubes are block. Omo, we tried many herbal remedies, no way. By December this year (2025), my marriage will be 10 years. Only God know what my Mother (RIP MAMA, 2023) went through for my cause.
Anyway, My girlfriend is currently Pregnant,*we did it just once and she picked*...
Bro, the ball is in your court. No time to waste time !

"we did it once and she picked...". is she free to air or Sat TV?

maybe he is not doing well as a president. When you have a good person as a president there may not raise an eye brow.

Hope this man is as strong as a cat? Double combo at one sitting

seems wike is the way, the truth and the life of PDP? so they can't work without him?

zelnababa:
put ur sim, go to settings , go to sim and network, switch it off, then search, click on Mtn forbidden network.

dt means it is now owned by mtn. To load Na to buy mtn card be dt

though thats not how it should be. it is a wrong mindset

Bsssss:
The moment you reach age 30, no woman can love you...And if you're a lady, no man can love you. You can only be needed. Surprised??

There's completely nothing attractive and emotional that will spur anyone in their right mind to fall in love with you at age 30 and above, you can only be needed for what you can offer as benefits for the romantic relationship. Once the benefits are pleasing then I work on it backwards to try find a way to make you feel loved.

If you are young, probably you have a shot on finding Love because you're definitely interesting, beautiful or sexy and the opposite sex can focus on nothing much except yourself to love you.

Once you clock closer to 30, forget about being loved. You can only be needed and if you're realistic in life, you'd be happy designing what you'll offer to interest the opposite sex to need you badly, and boom, that's the type of "Love" you'd be sure to get...

Note: This message is only dedicated to people who are on the third floor and above. As for the young, you can keep waiting on love you might be the first one to get loved without being needed.

blunt truth the benefit comes first. working on how to like the person comes second.

chidiokay:
Dont play the "imagine" card on me, even if i am part of the players i will collect the money But make a Call of duty to vote such an insensitive president out 2027.

Nigerians are really suffering, lots of people in the IDP camps have nothing to eat, recently pensioneers protested non payment, our military that die for this nation ... how are they rewarded 2m , or is it 1m to decease family

No one is against Reward But IF Nigeria is as poor as Tinubu claim every time then that man is very sick upstairs

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since you said you will collect the gift if it was you then why are you speaking against it dt it is too much.

seems you have issues with tinubu as a person as you said you will collect the money and vote him out If it was you dt is the beneficiary

my talk is on the compensation of the players. Not who is the giver of the reward.

chidiokay:
On the contrary the falcon understand Nigeria beef his not with them But the uselezz Dead brain president who never get his priority right

A president that told Nigerians to embrace Suffering cos No money ... splashes $100,000 on players that were already rewarded by AFCON

A president that fails to pay retirees 2yrs pension claiming no Money wake up to splash $100k on young gurlz that have good source of income

The grand prize of Afcon is just $1million and Tinubu just lavish ova $2million as gift ... gift pass grand prize does it make sense.

why should Nigerians not be angry, in a country our sænselezz president shared Rice to flood victims

you say , the president lavished the money.
if it was you that was beneficiary of such money, would you say , "Mr President, pls this money is too much for me. I dnt want it"

Freebills12:
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Do you know that Nigerian borrowed that money that was given to the super falcons? We are broke. Read papers. Anyone that knows what is happening in Nigeria won't support giving of $100,000 to an individual through tax payers money. Last week retired police officers were protesting because of non payment of pension. Teachers all level and medical staffs are all running away.
Give them $15,000 , house and other benefits. They will still play this competition next two years.

You are doing side by side comparative analysis of monetary reward for service rendered in a wrong way.

you dnt compare the price tag(salary) of an International football star to a Nigerian police officer or any oda civil servants. You and I know that.

They are paid heavily in USD. they spend in USD. you are looking at it by comparing dollar equivalent to our dying naira value. Dt is why you think it is too much.

Do you know some of our footballers earns in billions monthly. an example is osimen
The oda day, he went to his former school and donated #50million naira. some of you still said it was too much.


If you dey where money dey flow in USD or you earn in usd, you won't say it is too much.

Na wen you hear how mch the avg American basket ballers dey collect as salary monthly dt is when you go know say even our osimen and co dey receive peanut. They are highly paid Dan football stars.

every profession has a salary range or a way of compensation.

the way we place value on money has to do with our mindest.
If you are the type when no dey see money esp if your Frm a poor home.
you will always fault sm1 when he spends excessively.

Giving has to do with our much you place value on the person you wnt to give to or to that occasion.

the girls where on national assignment and they delivered esp the way dt final match went.
You cnt place a price on National pride.

because we are use to suffering and seeing small small money. When somtin big comes in an unusual way we say it is too much.

those ones among them dt plays abroad won't say is to much because them dey see the money steadily. It may look too.much for those.ones that are still playing in local league.

bixton:
Yes, Yes, Yes...

Noted that I'm not against the President doing such for the players for it creates a sense belonging and a way of appraisal.
But the civil servants especially those whose income is below #100K deserve something as such once in a while....

You say yes,yes,yes...... keep deceiving yourself.
Your yes wil be true yes,yes,yes if you your networth is up to that amount.

Angelfrost:
Onanuga, think about it...! You do have a brain.

In a nation where hard working and dedicated civil servants, teachers, and other members of the labor force earn minimum wage peanuts, what or how exactly do you expect them to feel about their President doling out millions of Naira to footballers?!!


A nation where basics like Electricity, Potable water, and Security, not even mentioning good roads, are daydreams, do you expect citizens to jump for joy at such outlandish displays of monetary gifts?!!


How much did you give to individuals and families that suffered losses to flood and terrorist attacks?!!


Just recently, soldiers complained online about the meagre earnings and meals they receive... we all know their allowances are nothing to write home about.




By dashing Falcons money that is way higher than their Cup prize money, what exactly are you trying to prove?!! What message do you think suffering Nigerians will glean from that ostentatious gesture?!!




Make una dey think before rushing to defend and make posts.


That was how Buhari was dashing Billions as donations to Niger and other nations in conflict, while IDP camps suffered hunger and malnutrition.


Omo!!! Nigerian leaders and their supporters might have serious M£ntal Health Issues.

You will not say this if alozie or ajibade or plumptre is your sister.

bixton:
Do you know how many productive civil servants that will never see such rewards given them except they indulge in corrupt office practices...,

would you have still held this opinion if one of the players is your blood sister?

Update147:
Please I need opinion from both male and female cos this is one thing I have never experienced in my 33 years on this earth.

My wife whom we got married this year wants me to eat her p*say during sex.

Well I tried it but I didn't like the taste of it so I just could not continue. And I was also worried about the health implications of eating a woman's p*ssy. So I just stopped.

But being an observant man, I realize that she actually wants me to eat her p*say, and I am considering doing it just to make her happy and satisfy her sexual desires but mt question now is this.

1. The first time I tried it, I did not like the taste of it, so I want to know do all pussy have same taste ?? Or does pussy actually have taste in the first place ??

2. What are the health implication of eating a woman's p*ssy ?

3. Is it ok to spit out the saliva in my mouth during the process of eating her p*ssy or should I go ahead to swallow it

4. I need general opinion of any one that actually cares to share his/her opinion.

Thanks.

Son,

Stop putting your mouth there. I know some will say if you love her, then you should make her happy by doing it.

it is not only menses in their period the female vagina secrets,it also secrets discharge once in a while off their period though not red in colour.

These secretion carries bacteria dt are not good. there is no how you wil use ur tongue Nd these bacteria won't move down your oesophagus to reside there and starts multiplying. This can trigger cancer in your throat.

your health comes first before pleasure. If you go down with throat cancer dt woman may not stand with you all the way as you battle your life for medical solution.

Let me say this to give you this confirmation.

Put your wife to test by telling her you have gonorrea and see her reaction. Will she assist you to treat the forged disease?

The answer is NO. she wil wnt to start withdrawing Frm you and treat you like a leper.
I leave you to imagine how she will treat you when the real nightmare happens.

Most women will nudge to do smth for dem dt will benefit or favour them not minding if it impacts on you badly. At the end, Na only you go use ur head suffer the negative implication.

you may do it out of fear so she doesn't get it outside but still Let me ask, if it was you dt ask for bj and she insists she won't do it, wt will you do? The answer to this qtn will determine wat you wil do in dis case of she been the one wanting it.

In summary, tell her you dnt like it. hear her out. Don't assume she will go out and get it. Who knows she may see reason with you and let you be.

Beautiful cup. Has almost same semblance as world cup.

arapoa:
Hello house, i need your candid opinion on this pls. My siblings only call or chat me when they need money. I'm always the one that call and check up on them. Though anytime i do, they respond fine. But they have never called to say hello or asked how I'm doing, or open a conversation with me, even if we dont talk for years. But when they need money, they call.

This wrong behavior Frm som siblings comes Frm throwing their responsibility to.others to bear for them.
The notion of "my father or my uncle or aunty will hook me up with a good job or fix me up" they just stay laid back and dnt wnt to push themselves.

if you had not taken risk and put in the effort to hustle and grow financially, would they see a tree to always run to to pluck fruit?

Nd they do see you waking up very early jumping Frm bus to bus trying to go for job Interview occasionally or attempt one biz opportunity here and there bk then.

They kept mute. To them, they felt, you just dey waste your time making attempts.

You won't be surprised to see dt some of them even up till now dnt wnt to move their ass to help themselves get somtin doin no mata how small it is and som siblings dt have and keeping billing you may be out of greed.

If ur siblings were also on their toes been serious pushing the way you did bk then, they too might have been lucky to get a good job or a biz brktru.

Their inaction consciously or unconsciously not to hustle like you bk then is what brought them to their present situation. That is what they choose to settle for. To be at the asking and begging end.

They are still your siblings. you go vex at their request, do the small you can and dnt allow it affect ur finance so much.

MrHandsome2013:
I mean do you cope.
Guys married to Igbo women from poor background how do you cope

are you saying all igbo women are very expensive to nurture?

Leep:
Knowledge comes from pre-existing knowledge. If you were schooled enough, you'd understand this. If it's not completely true, then why not add to the list instead of advertising yourself?

You just exhibited one of their traits irrespective of the gender type you front on this platform. they dnt like criticism.
They always hunt for likes and validation.