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Sirchiboy:
I know this small boy as a neigbour.
He was working as a cook in chicken republic in iwofe in 2016.
Ordinary OND holder.
This guy got married in 2020 and within few years of marriage.
Boom this guy blow.
Built house in ph in 2022 and last year he bought a mansion in lekki.
I still shock how this guy take blow within few years.

how did the marriage open his door? Nigerians with superstition.
what will you say about someone dt was single and comfortable but became broke few yrs after marriage? That marriage actually closes door for.men?

motor parts or electronic shop is not a bad idea but are you psychologically ready?

Mrkc:
Due to my traumatic life experience in life.
I have decided to drop pride and learn work.
I am 40 , no kid , no job, no skill.
Just HND certificate.
I have decided to learn trade next year.
Please I need your input and advice on how to journey this movement.
Is it poosible to learn in 2 or three years and get settled?

will you be very patient in that 2 or 3 yrs you are projecting? Most trade people learn dey pass 2yrs. I mean the choice trades people learn.

why not learn a skill instead of a trade? Learning A trade is good for a much younger person.A trade may likely take longer for you dan a skill before you stand on ur feet.
depending on the years of agreement you signed with ur boss.

my reason saying this is because with skill, you can start getting jobs to do dt earns you some cash while with your boss. say fone repairing. As you get beta while you learn, you can also make some cash when you get jobs.

A skill is inherent and can be put to use irrespective where you relocate to much more Dan a trade you learn.

You don't need much cash to set up earning from a skill but you will need a reasonable amount of cash to set yourself up in a trade. shey Na food stuff you learn? Dt one need good cash to kick start it.

When you learn a trade,all money goes to ur boss account. It is a serious offence if you corner ur boss money. He cn use dt alone not to settle you even if you signed 7yrs with him. Nos of yrs signed gone down the drain with nothing to show for it.

And again, hope you are mentally strong to absorb scolding and insults from ur boss as you learn the trade as ur with him? because it is inevitable. if e come be say Na just ssce cert he has. then be ready for psychological torture esp if you get ego.

And let me ask, hope you won't frown ur face if say a 20yrs old boy also learning wit you sends you on errand because they use who come first to learn as the senior not by age.

What about ogaa wife wahala? because you will be living in ur boss house and you cnt escape ogas wife high handedness. she fit use you dey do some huz chores which you may not like.

my bro, make I pause here for now and sip some tea.

manuelkel:
The sad truth my friend is, ‘Life will not always favor everyone.’
My Dad always said “Ta bu gboo,” today is same as ages ago. If you start today you can still meet up with ages ago.
Don't loose hope and find yourself becoming hypertensive.
At this age you feel torn apart and you see the world ageing and crumbling with zero achievements, you have to make a stand, get something doing......
Learn a skill either physical or technical skills, you start from there first.
I learnt a skill from someone 9years younger than me after working with Mikano company for 3years with my Bsc, coupled with the insults and humiliation involved, I still persisted.....it was very very very difficult for me to sacrifice 1year for the learning, I had one short, 3 boxers for 1year and barely ate every 48hours.....I turned wild with my outlook, people laughed only family stood up for me.
With a bad month of work, I can make over 800-900k per month just from handwork, fixing automated doors and water connector, condict plumbing installations.
It's never too late to say never!!

Can you also teach me too?

Fot real? Or it is fiction. it is well. 40 more characters needed

Theodorice:
Warning ⚠️
Please this is not just to thread or play around, so pls children should pls stay out of this thread

I'm a male from Ika, Delta State, Nigeria and I'll be clocking 43 in few days time. I've a B.Eng from a well reputable University with some years of industrial experience before being laid off (you Sabi Nigeria matter nah).

I am 5.10" tall, dark shining athletic skinny physique.
Genotype is "AA"
No deformity
Never been involved in an accident b4, God has been faithful.
Christianity by birth but I'm open to any good conscience partner from any religious background.

I'm a very hard working young man with great potentials, ideas... I've tried several hustles, and I had just realised one very important thing, that money is key to realising great potentials, which is the main reason to which I'm putting out this.

Marital Status:
Married? Yes, by tradition not by law, what this means is I can still marry without going through any process of divorce.
Kids: yes

What I look out for/who can contact me.
If you're reading this and you're a woman who needs a partner, a companion and a man in your life, please you MUST possess or have be able to fill the void I need to be filled.

1. You ( woman) must be financially independent, what this means is that, you must be financially stable to be able to f[b]finance genuine business ideas with say 10m naira above.
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2. You (woman) must have a good heart with a good conscience/non diabolical or fetish habit or history whatsoever

3. Must be respectful to and kind to humanity, forget your money ooo, everyone has ego but a good heart is a must

4. You must not be toxic, violent or aggressive person.

***

I am open to any type of relationship you may want but I won't do married woman pls. Please married women should stay off. As long as you're living under the same roof with a man pls stay off.

Any interested person email @

strongdarkskin99@outlook.com

Do you mean manage or finance a 10million naira business?

Oga mi, you get mind o. you want a woman to carry 10million naira into your house.

And I hope you have 50million naira in your bank account to consolidate her 10million since you are looking for financial partner.

By the way, is your present wife incapacitated? That she cnt raise 10million naira when you dey find.?

How old is that baby.? Please add 40 characters to it.

Is this really a university? Why can't they clear the surrounding bush to the building?

ReacherSaidNoth:
Nothing more disappointing than opening a thread and seeing it flooded with comments from that Kobo fellow

dt dude is nairaland landlord. he must comment on every thread.

When you say the Nigerian national flag has just two colours; green and white.

He will want to put up needless argument say black colour also dey there. Argue just for the sake of arguing to impress.

Apogee14:
Ok it's a cleaner lady in my building who is commissioned to come every two days. She lives three streets away so I know she doesn't have to pay for transport but am sure the cleaner money is very low according to her back then it was like 31k before they did that minimum wage thing. Anyway I make it a point to toss like 1000 into her account like maybe once a week or even more. It just depends because some times I chop chin for like 2 weeks before giving her. Anyway so I decided instead of free money let me get her to do something small for me once in a while. I pile up my trash just at the side of my apartment before I get the chance to take it outside to the dumpster , it's not a lot of trash, like 3 small nylon bags of trash. So I would pay her 1000 just to walk like 40 steps to help me drop it in the dumpster outside. Anyway so the trash has been on the side of my house the past one week and the woman has come twice and she has seen the trash but just ignored it. At the end of the day I would go look and the trash is still there. Is it wrong to expect her to try to help me after all the help I have given her ? I give her food too apart from the money. Is it wrong to expect her to help me without asking ? Because if someone is always generous to me and I know they have paid me twice to help them move the trash outside, I would move it even if they have not asked me . Basically it seems she no send me, she is only interested in money. What do you think ? I dey look her side eyes now. Should I stop giving her or continue ?

Did you and her expressly agree on it. You wouldn't blame the woman. There was no terms and condition.

She is seeing you as been a generous person. Not her fault but yours.

MONEY247:
At the start of everyday......... by around/between 3-5am go to your listed coins...
Look for those coins that have risen to like 5% and buy hold for sometime.... sometimes it can climb to like 20% sometimes not upto but... but you must surely come out with profit... but don't be greedy...

That's why you must have some knowledge of technical analysis so as to know when to call off the trade

baba. Have sent you a mail so we can talk more on update like this.

MONEY247:
It's true! You can make little income everyday from your cryptocurrency balance daily without stress....

To gain high income, you gonna need high capital... for investment.
This is not going to make you rich, overnight but you are not going to be broke ever again.

You can either use it for spot trading or futures... it's a buy only strategy...

Simple Trick;
You open your app early in the morning let's say around 3am to 5am and then look for pairs in the hot section or general list and look for pairs that are gaining around 3-5%.....
Buy and hold for at least 10 to 11 hours for the day or as you want to hold.....

Some times the spike can be awesome while other times it could just be minimal.... But you going to always end up in substantial profit...

A good technical analysis knowledge would give you a boost...

$1k would be a good investment......
As this can increase your stake..

Are you saying it's all the coin listed in hot around such time that will go up?

LeeSmart:
@obavoh i once asked you if you have the intention of joining the Nigerian army or FRSC but i didn't get any response from you, well maybe you're okay with what you do. As for me i was only trying to help.

Now back to ur topic, it's really disheartening to see almost everyone condemning food from my region😢😢

baba Iink me up to frsc job or any oda wen make sense

RevenuesBoost:
Marriage Is Not for the Weak, Selfish, or Irresponsible Man

Let’s speak truth:

You can marry beauty.
You can marry loyalty.
You can marry a woman with a heart of gold.

But if you’re immature, emotionally lazy, or careless with her trust—
You didn’t marry a wife. You took advantage of a gift you weren’t ready to receive.

Because most marriages don’t fall apart from the outside—
They fall when the man inside the house stops showing up fully.


1. WEAK MEN AVOID HARD THINGS

A weak man shuts down in conflict.
Avoids tough conversations.
Runs from responsibility.

He calls her “emotional” when she just wants clarity.
He calls her “too much” when she just needs effort.

A real man leads with humility, not ego.
He doesn’t just provide—he protects emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

If pressure makes you disappear, you’re not leading—you’re escaping.



2. SELFISH MEN DRAIN THEIR WIVES

Marriage is not a one-way street.

If you expect peace but bring chaos…
If you demand respect but give none…
If you want her to submit while you do nothing worth following—
You’re not a husband. You’re a tyrant in disguise.

A selfish man wants a servant, not a soulmate.
But a great man? He lifts, leads, and listens.

Marriage requires sacrifice. If you're not ready to give, don’t expect to receive.




3. IRRESPONSIBILITY KILLS SECURITY

A woman can handle tough seasons.
She can handle less money, long hours, even failure.

What she can’t handle is instability—
– Financial recklessness
– Broken promises
– No vision, no plan, no consistency

Her respect dies the moment she realizes she has to carry what you keep dropping.

Responsibility isn’t glamorous—but it’s godly.
If you can't be trusted with pressure, don’t ask her to follow your lead.




4. MARRIAGE REQUIRES CHARACTER—NOT JUST CHARM

Being good to her when things are easy is the bare minimum.

Real character shows when: – She’s struggling
– You’re frustrated
– Life gets hard

If your first instinct is to withdraw, blame, or cheat—
You're not ready to lead. You're not even ready to love.

Marriage isn’t about control. It’s about commitment.
And that takes more than a smooth tongue and good intentions.




Final Thought: Women Don’t Leave Because They’re Cold—They Leave Because They’re Exhausted

Fellas:
If you think love is maintenance-free,
If you treat submission like superiority,
If you demand loyalty but give instability—
You’re not ready for marriage.

Because a woman doesn’t need a perfect man.
She needs a consistent one.
One who protects, provides, and pursues—with humility and honor.

If leadership to you means dominance—not service—
You don’t want a wife.
You want a servant.

And that’s not marriage—it’s manipulation.



Marriage is for men—not boys in grown-up clothes.
Show up.
Take responsibility.
Lead in love.
And build something worth keeping.

Have a blessed day.

If you say marriage is not for the weak, selfish and irresponsible man.
If you flip it, Then you mean it is for a weak ,selfish and irresponsible woman.

Please go and re-edit this crap and repost a balanced opinion.

Are the married ones free from this your assertion either?

Sirchiboy:
I use to pity my parents when I was a kid until I grow up to understand that they are actually the Problem of their life misfortune ..

The Man story : He started working at the age of 25 as as teacher and worked for 12 years before getting married.
That 12 years working as a single teacher , he couldnt advance in his career.
His mate were busy looking for means to top up their certificate.
Getting BSC, master or PHD or finding means to switch career to get better pay for the sake of his unborn kids rather
He was unconcerned with his NCE.
Bragging just because he is an NCE holder.
12 years no achievement to his name....

The woman: Ordinary primary school holder , the people training her tell her never to marry that man but let her wait and finish school before marriage.
No handwork, no business
She ran away to start living with the so called teacher..
She married the man against the people wish.
Started giving birth to kids including me.
Throughout my 40 something years , I have never seen their wedding pic.
After few years of marriage , she got job with her primary school certificate receiving peanut.
Throughout their marriage they ware going from one loan company to another borrowing money to survive because of lack of planning before they married.
In my primary school days , I could remember how some of the creditor will come to our house and carry property if the fail to pay on agreed date.
This woman will be in the church deceivin herself praying from morning to night for break through.
How can you have breakthrough wen you no get hardwork or business or no school.
You had opportunity to go school but you no go rather you choose marriage.
It was so unfortunate I am one of their product

you say you are above 40yrs and you are holding your parents accountable for your misfortune.
what did you do with your life in your 20's and 30's?

some persons dat are rich today lost both parents when they were still toddlers.

Most of them(women) see sex as a side interest even inside marriage.

As for your wife, she is shit testing you. to see how you will handle the issue.

That is when you as the head of the home need to make her see reason why sex denial is not acceptable.

wateva way you want to or choose to pass the msg, pass it. sex involves two players in it.

When one refuses to get involve, then you read to Him or her the riot act.

don't beat or assault the oda person to give in but you also as the man shud cut off privileges she has been getting.

One person shudnt be the clog in the wheel and you want the vehicle to keep driving smoothly. That is mental torture.

Dnt beg or cajole her for sex. I repeat don't force her to sex.
when one person starts bringing the "I don't care attitude or anyhowness" Just read to her the riot act.

Layohrt:
Good afternoon everyone.

Can anyone please give me an understanding of what it takes to marry an Edo man from okpella and their traditions as a yoruba lady.

Thank you.

Are you saying you will conclude not to marry him if sm1 on the Internet space gives a damaging description dt all of them are this or that?

Wateva people say is just the way the average gender behaves. As the great philosopher Marcus Aurelius said

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

The same fear staring at you is what is also obtaineble in what men in your tribe
or anoda tribe looks like.

Dnt be too emotional with this tribe thing.

this tribe that tribe of a thing creates a smokescreen dt derails our judgement Frm a well informed angle.

The fear is all in your head. If the man is good and his parents are also good that is enough.

Dissect a person's character base on what kind of person he or she is.

Caaz:
Seems they re killing 3 cows every month hence why 1.2 million isnt enough for them every month.



Me that manages 35k every month and still have enough surplus change left for a family of 5.

35k for a family of 5 in a Month? Biko break it down how you use the 35k.

If you are a salary earners, it's either You are stealing company items to sell or doing runs at work? Or asking for bribe to process request in the course of doing ur job to augument ur salary.

ediko5:
I'm not a teacher but I'll tell you that you are shallow minded because you don't really know the opportunities teachings expose one to in today's era of you're sharp of which you're not.

For instance, I know a course mate back in school who's a private school teacher and is currently earning hundreds of dollars monthly from his tutorial videos on YouTube.

What gave him the motivation, resources and even audience to start and grow the YouTube channel? His school and students...

Don't just look at the classroom and salary, look beyond.

I guess he meant the traditional teachers dt restrict themselves to the classroom only

you and your siblings visiting dad or mums relative on Christmas day with the expectation that they will grease your palm with money.

voiceoftheupcom:
https://eyesoflagos.com/10-habits-that-prove-you-grew-up-in-a-nigerian-household/

your parents buying you oversize Christmas cloth and shoe with the intention of you recycling the usage so as to get lasting value for cash spent on it.[b][/b]

Deepspirituals:
Is there anything Right that u ever agrees .. No be U..

Dnt take that guys comment serious. he intentionally likes playing the role of devils advocate.

Every body go see white piece of cloth and call it white. He knows it is white but will just wnt to drop argument say Na black.

smtx:
So True!
And when they say his father was a Governor of Lagos State, it's funny.... Cos his father was a Governor for 10 months before Abacha took over....

the duration may be short but the links, connection and social network he has in corridor of power dt short time frame was also part of his leverage.

if only we knew how a regular man cn bcom rich overnyt when he is surrounded with rich people.

I remba bk den when I use to go with my in-law to one big govt parastatal bk den in abj. Na there I know say by just one referral there you don blow overnyt.

leverage is just what we need not really whether you go to sch or didn't go and not a question of weda you are serious or not serious.

maybe China should just be a separate continent of its own. This innovation is something else

underpinna:
I have been dating a lady of over 35 years which I know she will be older than that for over 8 months. I now want to pull out and don't know how. I am currently in their community and my rent will be due next year. A lot of people don't like the fact that she's older than me. But, She doesn't want me leave.
What should I do....


Maurice........

you wnt to pull out because people dnt like she been older or you dnt like her? How old are you by the way?

your title says third party/in-laws are killing your home.

we can infer dt from this your past present continuous tense sentence you made means it has been happening for a long while.

It seems you have been maltreating dt woman before now and she hz been patiently waiting gathering momentum with a very good escape velocity dt launched her out of your home.

Even if your in-law are bad. she will wnt to defend you and shut her mum out of her marriage. If your wife attest dt you have been good to her, I doubt if she will leave.

You are omitting some of your sins in this piece you wrote.

it all boils down to the kind of person you are married to, how the person grew up seeing it from his home before marriage.

Even at that, some use to see their mum always pack the plates from the table but when they get married they bring their own principle and refuse to clear the plate the husbnd use to eat in their home when married.

The bottom line is whatever rock your boat and the boat doesn't sink, then hold on to it.

we all know women to be funny at times. when you keep doing it consistently, she wil assume it to be ur duty.

You may be late for work and forget to pack the plate. some funny wife's dt have a polluted audacity dt may even call you at wrk on the fone to ask you dt why didn't you clear the table before leaving the huz .

Wateva chores you no fit dey do regularly or sustain as a man, don't start it. The day you try to stop am, Na wahala. If the woman is the one doin it. Leave it for her to keep doing it.

you go dey help the home by going to the mkt to buy food items wc in most homes, the wife does dat. the day you tell wife say make she go, she go squeeze face say you should go.

or you are the one doing the cooking most of the time, the day you decide to stop, she gets irritated and say it is your duty.


The husband can do it once in a while but with moderation.

There is no one rule that works for everyone in his or her marriage.

occfx:
OK hopefully you are open to learning...

Culture is oyibo culture does not encourage marriage (for example)

Tradition is the involvement of everyone into marriage according to culture... This needs to be reviewed

Rules are man made rules from court, tradition and culture that they never want to be reviewed.

These are just the summary... I no get time to explain now

Ok. you may be right to some extent .
all these listed to some extent guide the people in the marriage.

It all boils down to how that settlement or community apply these practises or custom in guiding marriage.

occfx:
Your narrative is wrong... Imagine been raised by a single mother.

Biology is nature at work and you cant defeat it.

The problem with marriage is culture, tradition and rules. Remove these three things, you will see like minds cohabit peacefully with each other. Goto university hostels... Some people are living happily with themselves like husband and wife but immediately society is informed, problem starts.

There is a reason why poor people last in marriage than rich and enlightened people. Funny thing is you see the poor man and his miserable wife having 7 to 9 kids in peace. That's the level of connection they have with constant intimacy... The only problem those kind of people have is food. Not gender equality or any nonsense. Imagine if economy is good and they feed well, they will likely have a happier home than most elites.

Human beings should emulate animals... Simple and short.

can you break this down you said may be with example or case study. How do you mean culture, tradition and rules is the issue affecting marriage.