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but these your frnds get mind oo.
If they shy away because to them the apartment is expensive then they shud also shy away frm coming close to dt apartment to rest or pass the nite or cook.

Locking your door or trying to avoid them will even spoil the frndship you still like to maintain with them.

It is best you tell them directly to their face .. Tell them dt ur huz warming celebration has ended. .

that henceforth if they like to chill in your place. They will have to be sharing the rent with you.

[b]say it with an innocent smile. [/b]That if they come over that you won't open the door for them.

Remember, say it with a smile. Just watch. They will also smile bk when they hear it and they won't come back again.

With this, frndship is still intact. No bad blood. Na your huz. Your huz , your rules.

breadtoaster:
No, I didn’t stay with him during courtship. We courted for 8 months together and were in a long-distance relationship for one year. He was quiet while we were dating, I agree, but to be honest, he wasn’t my go-to for ideas or when I needed a solution to something quickly. I had a friend who was 19 years older than me that I would always reach out to. He had become more of a brother, and my family knows him. He’s married with kids, and his wife and I have become like sisters. But he relocated out of the country in December last year.

So, I feel this never gave me time to see my husband’s creativity or all that. Life was always happening so fast. Or maybe, somewhere inside, I knew he wasn’t very solution-oriented, so I never asked him. But I never saw his quietness as a sign that he wouldn’t be social or wouldn’t know how to love a woman or anything like that.

I remember when he was about to propose, I asked if he wouldn’t give me a romantic proposal, and he said he didn’t know my ring size and couldn’t go and buy a ring that might not fit. He also said he didn’t know which of my family members to meet to run the package or surprise. I remember being hurt — that should have been the writing on the wall for me, though. He said I should follow him to the market to get it.

As an update, he told me this morning, after I was crying, that we are both adults and can decide what we want as a lasting solution on what to do with our relationship because he is tired of seeing me cry. All I needed was a soft feeling of care, even if it just meant holding me, because I am on my period same time and I’m just all over the place emotionally.

I just feel hungry — like when, as a woman, your emotions are not being cared for or attended to. If I’m unable to have sex once (I couldn’t because I was having serious period cramps), he won’t even bother to touch me again until whenever Jesus says it’s time. He wouldn’t care that I was in pain at that moment. He would just say that I’m refusing him, and if he doesn’t try again, then its my problem andfault. It just feels off — everything, the connection, etc. Its almost no existent. I am not even sure if its because maybe he doesnt love me or maybe he isnt experienced on how to show it (him not having relationships, sisters only brothers, him being a virgin, spiritual brother back then etc).

Today I went downstairs, picked up my phone, and wanted to call all my friends since I was really feeling sad and all. I had to leave him because he would still judge me if i call them in his front. As I was going down, he said he knows that’s why I’m crying — so I can “use style” to find my way out to go and talk on my phone. Before, I would feel guilt-tripped and sit down asking myself whether I don’t have right to use my phone. But I just ignored him and went down. I came back and he isn’t talking to me. Apparently, I’ve sinned and I know I would be punished with silence for as long as maybe two days or so for choosing to call others and smile with them. (he would say he is not punishing me, but he would keep silent).

Its more like i cant go anywhere or talk to anyone if he doesn't follow me. I had an office party and told him I wanted to go, he was already angry as it was going to be an evening party. I didn't get to go again because he had said to me, that me, I want to be living my life (all because I wana go to my office party).

The dynamics are just childish and tiring for me. Until when will I do this? I didn’t marry him for money, because at the moment I’m working in a better place, though we’re still praying for a better job for him so at least I can rest too. I don’t know if that insecurity eats at him as well. I’ve cut off a lot of people because of this marriage, and I don’t want to keep doing that continuously.

A friend of mine that I introduced to him came over one day, and he asked the person why the person came to our house and if it was right I forgot to mention (which OfCourse isn't right but to let the person know they arent welcome because i forgot to genuinely mention is huge).

That person has never stepped foot in my house again. He is insecure around my friends — maybe he thinks they are better than him, I’m not sure. As it is, I know I can’t share any friend I have with him because he’s always insecure around them, or he’ll say that I’ve told them one thing or another about him. But he knew I had friends while dating and acted normal. He would say once you just explain, its fine by me, I dont have any issue. Not once did he fight any.

I really regret telling him to come meet me abroad after I left Nigeria. I thought we would work together as one to do great things, have coule goals, be driven etc. even get a good house instead of this one room and toilet we’re managing, until he gets his papers. I even thought we can find two jobs to do and he would support with applying and then he can assit on the second one so we can do more together for now before his papers come. bu he wont even apply, just do his Nigerian work he is doing and sleep the rest of the day or lazy around.

He has told me that because I want to do papers, I think I am God. different talks that hurt. after he told me to find who I lost my virgintiy to as it wasn't him. I told him I had pictures of that night it happened because I know he can flip on me. Then he said it could be any picture of blood. then i told him i remembered to make a video in case he wants to say i sleep around or he dont trust me simply because i dont want live a graveyard live like he wants to. Isolated from information, ideas etc.

He said I always say we should go back to Nigeria since we’re not happy here, that i am threatening him and i should better give him his application money if I know i want us to go back. He always tells me that when his work permit is out, I will see how hardworking he is. He is still working in his office in Nigeria remotely though, and I’m managing a low-paying job here at least enough to pay for the room and toilet and feed and schooling at the same time, doing certifications and all, applying wickedly for better jobs, doing interviews, just to get higher. It’s just a lot sometimes.

I just wish I felt like I had a partner — a ride or die. I kept myself so well and didn’t mess up; I don’t know why it ended up this way. I even cried on the wedding day because apparently, he was with my sister’s friends and they said they met him unhappy in the corridor. When they asked why, he said, “Whatever his family does is not enough.” I was confused because I was wondering what that meant. That was the first time his family was showing up, which was for the wedding. The last time they came was a year ago when they came to meet my parents for the marriage, and my parents kind of slowed the wedding down because they said they weren't very aware of our relationship and wanted to observe themselves and pray.

Since then both parents have only spoken on phone and greeted each other once in two months or three months until the day they showed up the night of the wedding.

So I don’t know. We have fought so much, even in front of my family / parents . We’d go to their house and still end up fighting / shouting on each other. As it is now, he says my mum and my sister have offended him. Only my dad and my sister’s husband haven’t offended him.

I called his brother a few weeks back, saying I couldn’t do it anymore, that I was tired — especially after my husband kept saying he never wanted to come here in the first place, that it was their elder brother who made him come and that he would only sleep with me now using condom and doesnt want to sleep with me unprotected till he finds work. I started to wonder what is this guy's plan? does he want to get paper and then not have child with me and use that period to then escape? or what. He said he wanted to take responsibility.

He is just too serious. I’m playful. No dirty words during sex, no knowledge of any position — only missionary. His brother even had to teach us how to have sex on the phone after I called him that time and he sent some traditional drugs that can help with sex. It’s just been so much.

breadtoaster,

am very sure if your husband gives his own side of this your complain. we go hear a different gist entirely.

what bad attitude have you also been dishing out to dt man?
where have you too been doing or getting it wrong?

almost same offence as RKelly. But one wonders why RKelly was sentenced to 31years imprisonment while his colleague is getting 3years.

GraciousGod190:
When I was told years back when I was still young to learn work I refused. But now I see the importanc, because the situation of this country is getting difficult everyday. Together with the new tax law as a security guard, only me and God knows what I take in in a month, come next year with Tax deducted. How Wil I be able to survive. I have come to the conclusion it's better for me to do something and I am thinking about barbing atleast with that I will be paid in cash and since it's almost festive period. Although my age is still there but I believe I can still cope with it.

sure you can. your hunger for success starts Frm the mind.
though strength and agility may not be on ur side like that. so whatever you choose to learn let it not be a tough job that will take a toll on you physically.

RevenuesBoost:
Yesterday, I spent almost half my Day trying to organize the house and do house chores, after the cleaning exercise, I got so tired 😩

It got me wondering, what if I wasn't a Mum that works from home!?
The cleaning, cooking, washing, taking care of Baby Light and organizing stuffs is very tiring.

Most times my husband will say, "why not use the services of a house help"
I'll jokingly say, "I need a male person not a female and he will immediately disagree to it".
I'll just laugh 😂, shey na me won use my hands carry second wife come give am😄😂



Here are ten(10) jobs Stay-at-home Mums can do:

1. Social Media Management

2. Data Entry Clerk

3. Blogger

4. Tutor

5. Transcriptionist

6. Freelance writer

7. Virtual Assistant

8. Graphic Designing

9. Online survey

10. Web Designer

Which of these are you doing as you are stay at home mom or you just copy it elsewhere Nd paste here.?

money kept in your custody? You want to twerk it.
Nigerian police love to handle such case when your blues turn to mapoka rhythm.

Sirchiboy:
What kind of business can double 2m in 7 days time

ozugbo ozugbo. we want it quick and fast. The tendency of loosing that money is close to your shadow.

tosyne2much:
This life no just balance

Oritse Femi that sang the evergreen song "igbeyawo", advising people on the right marital path to follow

Unfortunately, the same advice didn't work for his own marriage

He sang that song after marriage not before. so he learnt lessons inside the marriage. That was what stirred up his thoughts on marriage in that track.

with such building height, will she be able to keep climbing stairs all the time or the apartment has lift?

Omayie:
A lot on my mind lately. 😔from the pressures of building a career, business brand, heathy relationships, financially securing the future and building a family (which honestly is not currently on my list; but the moment I get across filling any form that requires telling my Age, ladies and gentlemen fear day grip and hug me like she’s my new Wife.

It’s clear I am not the only one having this shoe on. A lot of us are also facing same reality just same way our faces are different, same way we all can handle pressures differently. I think mine is way beyond the weight of the entire world and I know you too would think mine is just a fraction of yours.

The truth is that we all are faced with times that becomes so difficult that we really can’t think straight rather, we just do just what we need to do without having focus or having a blueprint or plan like a builder who wants to build.

A lot is really on my mind and I can’t keep steady on what to actually say. Weather it’s said or not, the main point is the fear of not being able to afford basics, good food, good healthcare, shelters, comfortable mobility, go on holidays and others but you see eh….life sucks. I can’t even remember the last time I had the thoughts of going on vacation or holiday. The moment that thought comes in, (my account balance tells me otherwise. I have no choice but just goto an affordable relaxation point and have a chill bottle of Gulder even when I know my situation is not good)

But brothers we can’t be dwelling in negativities. Today I have decided to take action and never put more of my mind on my fears but rather focus on conquering these fears. I don’t know about yours but no matter what you face, someone somewhere has faced it and they conquered but that doesn’t mean you will! But are you going to be bothered about that?

The truth is when you start having “NO” as an answer that’s the very point your day 1 in being successful starts.

At 35 i don’t have a key income source. I just day hustle zigzag and that’s how I survive. Apart from killing, drug dealings, stealing - (please don’t judge, somehow somehow some of us done take wetin no belong to us, no mean say we be thief) e no get wetin I never do.

I have done a lot. And now I am thinking of building a business brand even though I have my career which I can’t give up on. Here, I would be placing carrier on hold so I can build up a business brand that we run on it’s own even at my absence then I can multitask both while working on how to place both on autopilot.

I wish we can have a conversation with like minds to actually motivate one another, encourage and support ourselves on the struggle for a good life.

I have been think more lately about starting a business but recent Government policies has brought about uncertainty to the living standard of an average Nigeria and also the survival of many businesses. Having this knowledge mean say I no go start business? That’s why I am here to consult from the oracles (business men and women) in the house.

If you had the opportunity to create a business brand in a high traffic dense route,

what business would you do.?

Would you prefer product sales or service sales?

How would you do it?

Why would you do it?

What capital would you require?

What human resource/manpower would you need?

How do you intend to go about it?

Who would be your targeted customers?

How and where would you source your products?

Considering individuals who has families(married with or without kids) and singles

What your your advices ?

How you would handle your business falling in any of the categories?

Considering those whom are being accommodated or having their accommodation

What advice would you give?

How you would handle your business falling in any of the categories?

Considering Lagos as a choice for start up

What contritions and advice would you give?

How you would handle your business living in Lagos (Nigeria’s biggest business hub)?

I might not be asking the right questions. Also note that the quote is open for modifications as I am no writer, counselor or the likes.

I believe and trust NL Commentators to give their best responses. Even though some might stroke you for your errors and others just claiming FTC it’s all welcomed 😁

Stay Blessed

@Mynd 44
@Lalastic.lala
🙏

why not say what biz/trade/vocation you have in mind to do and let the Oracle's in the house guide you base on experience than you been the interviewer.

Demigod22:
So you are chatting with your girlfriend and she said she's stressed, you promise to give her a thighs massage and she said "Dhor" and you said you won't give her the massage again. And she said if you don't, another person will.

As the boyfriend, what would be your reaction to this statement "If you don't, someone else will"?

She wnts to torment you mentally. Dnt press for further clarification Frm her.
Just ignore her and occupy ur mind with something worthwhile.

manuelkel:
Yes, but not at the moment, I've 3 guys working with me at the moment.

Thank you brother. I sent you a mail . Pls acknowledge it so I can follow up

Sirchiboy:
I know this small boy as a neigbour.
He was working as a cook in chicken republic in iwofe in 2016.
Ordinary OND holder.
This guy got married in 2020 and within few years of marriage.
Boom this guy blow.
Built house in ph in 2022 and last year he bought a mansion in lekki.
I still shock how this guy take blow within few years.

how did the marriage open his door? Nigerians with superstition.
what will you say about someone dt was single and comfortable but became broke few yrs after marriage? That marriage actually closes door for.men?

motor parts or electronic shop is not a bad idea but are you psychologically ready?

Mrkc:
Due to my traumatic life experience in life.
I have decided to drop pride and learn work.
I am 40 , no kid , no job, no skill.
Just HND certificate.
I have decided to learn trade next year.
Please I need your input and advice on how to journey this movement.
Is it poosible to learn in 2 or three years and get settled?

will you be very patient in that 2 or 3 yrs you are projecting? Most trade people learn dey pass 2yrs. I mean the choice trades people learn.

why not learn a skill instead of a trade? Learning A trade is good for a much younger person.A trade may likely take longer for you dan a skill before you stand on ur feet.
depending on the years of agreement you signed with ur boss.

my reason saying this is because with skill, you can start getting jobs to do dt earns you some cash while with your boss. say fone repairing. As you get beta while you learn, you can also make some cash when you get jobs.

A skill is inherent and can be put to use irrespective where you relocate to much more Dan a trade you learn.

You don't need much cash to set up earning from a skill but you will need a reasonable amount of cash to set yourself up in a trade. shey Na food stuff you learn? Dt one need good cash to kick start it.

When you learn a trade,all money goes to ur boss account. It is a serious offence if you corner ur boss money. He cn use dt alone not to settle you even if you signed 7yrs with him. Nos of yrs signed gone down the drain with nothing to show for it.

And again, hope you are mentally strong to absorb scolding and insults from ur boss as you learn the trade as ur with him? because it is inevitable. if e come be say Na just ssce cert he has. then be ready for psychological torture esp if you get ego.

And let me ask, hope you won't frown ur face if say a 20yrs old boy also learning wit you sends you on errand because they use who come first to learn as the senior not by age.

What about ogaa wife wahala? because you will be living in ur boss house and you cnt escape ogas wife high handedness. she fit use you dey do some huz chores which you may not like.

my bro, make I pause here for now and sip some tea.

manuelkel:
The sad truth my friend is, ‘Life will not always favor everyone.’
My Dad always said “Ta bu gboo,” today is same as ages ago. If you start today you can still meet up with ages ago.
Don't loose hope and find yourself becoming hypertensive.
At this age you feel torn apart and you see the world ageing and crumbling with zero achievements, you have to make a stand, get something doing......
Learn a skill either physical or technical skills, you start from there first.
I learnt a skill from someone 9years younger than me after working with Mikano company for 3years with my Bsc, coupled with the insults and humiliation involved, I still persisted.....it was very very very difficult for me to sacrifice 1year for the learning, I had one short, 3 boxers for 1year and barely ate every 48hours.....I turned wild with my outlook, people laughed only family stood up for me.
With a bad month of work, I can make over 800-900k per month just from handwork, fixing automated doors and water connector, condict plumbing installations.
It's never too late to say never!!

Can you also teach me too?

Fot real? Or it is fiction. it is well. 40 more characters needed

Theodorice:
Warning ⚠️
Please this is not just to thread or play around, so pls children should pls stay out of this thread

I'm a male from Ika, Delta State, Nigeria and I'll be clocking 43 in few days time. I've a B.Eng from a well reputable University with some years of industrial experience before being laid off (you Sabi Nigeria matter nah).

I am 5.10" tall, dark shining athletic skinny physique.
Genotype is "AA"
No deformity
Never been involved in an accident b4, God has been faithful.
Christianity by birth but I'm open to any good conscience partner from any religious background.

I'm a very hard working young man with great potentials, ideas... I've tried several hustles, and I had just realised one very important thing, that money is key to realising great potentials, which is the main reason to which I'm putting out this.

Marital Status:
Married? Yes, by tradition not by law, what this means is I can still marry without going through any process of divorce.
Kids: yes

What I look out for/who can contact me.
If you're reading this and you're a woman who needs a partner, a companion and a man in your life, please you MUST possess or have be able to fill the void I need to be filled.

1. You ( woman) must be financially independent, what this means is that, you must be financially stable to be able to f[b]finance genuine business ideas with say 10m naira above.
[/b]
2. You (woman) must have a good heart with a good conscience/non diabolical or fetish habit or history whatsoever

3. Must be respectful to and kind to humanity, forget your money ooo, everyone has ego but a good heart is a must

4. You must not be toxic, violent or aggressive person.

***

I am open to any type of relationship you may want but I won't do married woman pls. Please married women should stay off. As long as you're living under the same roof with a man pls stay off.

Any interested person email @

strongdarkskin99@outlook.com

Do you mean manage or finance a 10million naira business?

Oga mi, you get mind o. you want a woman to carry 10million naira into your house.

And I hope you have 50million naira in your bank account to consolidate her 10million since you are looking for financial partner.

By the way, is your present wife incapacitated? That she cnt raise 10million naira when you dey find.?

How old is that baby.? Please add 40 characters to it.

Is this really a university? Why can't they clear the surrounding bush to the building?

ReacherSaidNoth:
Nothing more disappointing than opening a thread and seeing it flooded with comments from that Kobo fellow

dt dude is nairaland landlord. he must comment on every thread.

When you say the Nigerian national flag has just two colours; green and white.

He will want to put up needless argument say black colour also dey there. Argue just for the sake of arguing to impress.

Apogee14:
Ok it's a cleaner lady in my building who is commissioned to come every two days. She lives three streets away so I know she doesn't have to pay for transport but am sure the cleaner money is very low according to her back then it was like 31k before they did that minimum wage thing. Anyway I make it a point to toss like 1000 into her account like maybe once a week or even more. It just depends because some times I chop chin for like 2 weeks before giving her. Anyway so I decided instead of free money let me get her to do something small for me once in a while. I pile up my trash just at the side of my apartment before I get the chance to take it outside to the dumpster , it's not a lot of trash, like 3 small nylon bags of trash. So I would pay her 1000 just to walk like 40 steps to help me drop it in the dumpster outside. Anyway so the trash has been on the side of my house the past one week and the woman has come twice and she has seen the trash but just ignored it. At the end of the day I would go look and the trash is still there. Is it wrong to expect her to try to help me after all the help I have given her ? I give her food too apart from the money. Is it wrong to expect her to help me without asking ? Because if someone is always generous to me and I know they have paid me twice to help them move the trash outside, I would move it even if they have not asked me . Basically it seems she no send me, she is only interested in money. What do you think ? I dey look her side eyes now. Should I stop giving her or continue ?

Did you and her expressly agree on it. You wouldn't blame the woman. There was no terms and condition.

She is seeing you as been a generous person. Not her fault but yours.

MONEY247:
At the start of everyday......... by around/between 3-5am go to your listed coins...
Look for those coins that have risen to like 5% and buy hold for sometime.... sometimes it can climb to like 20% sometimes not upto but... but you must surely come out with profit... but don't be greedy...

That's why you must have some knowledge of technical analysis so as to know when to call off the trade

baba. Have sent you a mail so we can talk more on update like this.

MONEY247:
It's true! You can make little income everyday from your cryptocurrency balance daily without stress....

To gain high income, you gonna need high capital... for investment.
This is not going to make you rich, overnight but you are not going to be broke ever again.

You can either use it for spot trading or futures... it's a buy only strategy...

Simple Trick;
You open your app early in the morning let's say around 3am to 5am and then look for pairs in the hot section or general list and look for pairs that are gaining around 3-5%.....
Buy and hold for at least 10 to 11 hours for the day or as you want to hold.....

Some times the spike can be awesome while other times it could just be minimal.... But you going to always end up in substantial profit...

A good technical analysis knowledge would give you a boost...

$1k would be a good investment......
As this can increase your stake..

Are you saying it's all the coin listed in hot around such time that will go up?

LeeSmart:
@obavoh i once asked you if you have the intention of joining the Nigerian army or FRSC but i didn't get any response from you, well maybe you're okay with what you do. As for me i was only trying to help.

Now back to ur topic, it's really disheartening to see almost everyone condemning food from my region😢😢

baba Iink me up to frsc job or any oda wen make sense

RevenuesBoost:
Marriage Is Not for the Weak, Selfish, or Irresponsible Man

Let’s speak truth:

You can marry beauty.
You can marry loyalty.
You can marry a woman with a heart of gold.

But if you’re immature, emotionally lazy, or careless with her trust—
You didn’t marry a wife. You took advantage of a gift you weren’t ready to receive.

Because most marriages don’t fall apart from the outside—
They fall when the man inside the house stops showing up fully.


1. WEAK MEN AVOID HARD THINGS

A weak man shuts down in conflict.
Avoids tough conversations.
Runs from responsibility.

He calls her “emotional” when she just wants clarity.
He calls her “too much” when she just needs effort.

A real man leads with humility, not ego.
He doesn’t just provide—he protects emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

If pressure makes you disappear, you’re not leading—you’re escaping.



2. SELFISH MEN DRAIN THEIR WIVES

Marriage is not a one-way street.

If you expect peace but bring chaos…
If you demand respect but give none…
If you want her to submit while you do nothing worth following—
You’re not a husband. You’re a tyrant in disguise.

A selfish man wants a servant, not a soulmate.
But a great man? He lifts, leads, and listens.

Marriage requires sacrifice. If you're not ready to give, don’t expect to receive.




3. IRRESPONSIBILITY KILLS SECURITY

A woman can handle tough seasons.
She can handle less money, long hours, even failure.

What she can’t handle is instability—
– Financial recklessness
– Broken promises
– No vision, no plan, no consistency

Her respect dies the moment she realizes she has to carry what you keep dropping.

Responsibility isn’t glamorous—but it’s godly.
If you can't be trusted with pressure, don’t ask her to follow your lead.




4. MARRIAGE REQUIRES CHARACTER—NOT JUST CHARM

Being good to her when things are easy is the bare minimum.

Real character shows when: – She’s struggling
– You’re frustrated
– Life gets hard

If your first instinct is to withdraw, blame, or cheat—
You're not ready to lead. You're not even ready to love.

Marriage isn’t about control. It’s about commitment.
And that takes more than a smooth tongue and good intentions.




Final Thought: Women Don’t Leave Because They’re Cold—They Leave Because They’re Exhausted

Fellas:
If you think love is maintenance-free,
If you treat submission like superiority,
If you demand loyalty but give instability—
You’re not ready for marriage.

Because a woman doesn’t need a perfect man.
She needs a consistent one.
One who protects, provides, and pursues—with humility and honor.

If leadership to you means dominance—not service—
You don’t want a wife.
You want a servant.

And that’s not marriage—it’s manipulation.



Marriage is for men—not boys in grown-up clothes.
Show up.
Take responsibility.
Lead in love.
And build something worth keeping.

Have a blessed day.

If you say marriage is not for the weak, selfish and irresponsible man.
If you flip it, Then you mean it is for a weak ,selfish and irresponsible woman.

Please go and re-edit this crap and repost a balanced opinion.

Are the married ones free from this your assertion either?

Sirchiboy:
I use to pity my parents when I was a kid until I grow up to understand that they are actually the Problem of their life misfortune ..

The Man story : He started working at the age of 25 as as teacher and worked for 12 years before getting married.
That 12 years working as a single teacher , he couldnt advance in his career.
His mate were busy looking for means to top up their certificate.
Getting BSC, master or PHD or finding means to switch career to get better pay for the sake of his unborn kids rather
He was unconcerned with his NCE.
Bragging just because he is an NCE holder.
12 years no achievement to his name....

The woman: Ordinary primary school holder , the people training her tell her never to marry that man but let her wait and finish school before marriage.
No handwork, no business
She ran away to start living with the so called teacher..
She married the man against the people wish.
Started giving birth to kids including me.
Throughout my 40 something years , I have never seen their wedding pic.
After few years of marriage , she got job with her primary school certificate receiving peanut.
Throughout their marriage they ware going from one loan company to another borrowing money to survive because of lack of planning before they married.
In my primary school days , I could remember how some of the creditor will come to our house and carry property if the fail to pay on agreed date.
This woman will be in the church deceivin herself praying from morning to night for break through.
How can you have breakthrough wen you no get hardwork or business or no school.
You had opportunity to go school but you no go rather you choose marriage.
It was so unfortunate I am one of their product

you say you are above 40yrs and you are holding your parents accountable for your misfortune.
what did you do with your life in your 20's and 30's?

some persons dat are rich today lost both parents when they were still toddlers.

Most of them(women) see sex as a side interest even inside marriage.

As for your wife, she is shit testing you. to see how you will handle the issue.

That is when you as the head of the home need to make her see reason why sex denial is not acceptable.

wateva way you want to or choose to pass the msg, pass it. sex involves two players in it.

When one refuses to get involve, then you read to Him or her the riot act.

don't beat or assault the oda person to give in but you also as the man shud cut off privileges she has been getting.

One person shudnt be the clog in the wheel and you want the vehicle to keep driving smoothly. That is mental torture.

Dnt beg or cajole her for sex. I repeat don't force her to sex.
when one person starts bringing the "I don't care attitude or anyhowness" Just read to her the riot act.

Layohrt:
Good afternoon everyone.

Can anyone please give me an understanding of what it takes to marry an Edo man from okpella and their traditions as a yoruba lady.

Thank you.

Are you saying you will conclude not to marry him if sm1 on the Internet space gives a damaging description dt all of them are this or that?

Wateva people say is just the way the average gender behaves. As the great philosopher Marcus Aurelius said

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

The same fear staring at you is what is also obtaineble in what men in your tribe
or anoda tribe looks like.

Dnt be too emotional with this tribe thing.

this tribe that tribe of a thing creates a smokescreen dt derails our judgement Frm a well informed angle.

The fear is all in your head. If the man is good and his parents are also good that is enough.

Dissect a person's character base on what kind of person he or she is.

Caaz:
Seems they re killing 3 cows every month hence why 1.2 million isnt enough for them every month.



Me that manages 35k every month and still have enough surplus change left for a family of 5.

35k for a family of 5 in a Month? Biko break it down how you use the 35k.

If you are a salary earners, it's either You are stealing company items to sell or doing runs at work? Or asking for bribe to process request in the course of doing ur job to augument ur salary.