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Dat is not even possible cos most girls are bisexuals dey can't do with out d real drill

The truth is d guys dat click"like" are d same guys dat will openly speak against it we humans are d same

Can your heart be inlove with someone you don't want to love...........and you find yourself struggling to get him\her out of your mind. Has anyone been in this situation...how do you deal with it.

General weight loss tips
These general tips will help you learn to adapt your thoughts to healthy weight loss.
Be patient. Losing weight in any kind of healthy way is going to take time. Give yourself a break and relax, and the weight will come off.
Don't stress. Stressing about weight loss will likely only make it harder to lose.
Be realistic Setting unrealistic goals for your weight loss isn't healthy for your body or mind. Get your mind set on more realistic accomplishments and you'll be happier and healthier.
Create a routine. Success with any weight loss program requires creating a routine and sticking to it in what you eat, when you work out and how you think about your progress.
Listen to your body. It will tell you when you aren't eating enough, you're eating too much, or you're pushing yourself too hard.
Use your imagination. Our imaginations are powerful things and you can use yours to picture your body and your life the way you really want it to be.
Take it slow. You cannot expect to change your mindset or your body overnight. Take the process slow and steady for the best results.
Be honest with yourself. Being honest might be more difficult or more painful, but you cannot move forward in changing your body or how you think about it without facing some hard truths about yourself.
Find out what you truly want. The reality is that you might not be ready to lose weight or commit yourself to the work that it takes. Find out what you truly want in your life. Knowing that you really, really want to lose weight can be a huge factor in motivating you.
MINDSET
Learn how to change your mindset with these tips.
Always be accountable. There is no one else who is responsible for you losing weight. You have to be accountable for what you eat and how often you work out.
Break the cycle of excuses. We all make excuses to try to justify our behavior, but these kinds of excuses aren't doing you any favors when it comes to weight loss. Force yourself to accept your failures and work to improve them.
Deal with your emotions. For many people, food is an emotional thing and a coping mechanism for other things that aren't right in their lives. If you want to change your mindset about your body, you'll first have to deal with these powerful emotions.
Make the decision to be thinner. Sometimes all it takes is a firm resolution to make a change in your life. If you want to lose weight, make the choice to do so and let your actions follow suit.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. No one is forcing food down your throat or keeping you from the gym. Once you realize that and can take responsibility for your own actions regarding your health and fitness, you'll be one step closer to meeting your goals.
Think clearly. Weight loss, body image and personal health can be emotionally charged issues. When you think about these things it it important to separate them as best you can from your emotions and make logical, thoughtful decisions about what is best. For instance, our emotions might tell us we need a piece of cake after a hard day, but our logical thinking would tell us it will only make you feel worse about yourself.
CHANGE YOUR PROGRAMMING. Many of us have programmed our brains to think we are fat, unhealthy and will never look or feel like we want to. Thinking this way is often a self-fulfilling prophecy, but by changing your mental programming, you'll change what you're capable of in weight loss.
Stay positive. There is no upside to negative thinking when it comes to losing weight. Staying positive will help you feel better about yourself, keep you motivated and reduce stress — all of which will help you lose more weight.
Train your mind to think in your best interest. If you want to lose weight, focus on replacing your unhealthy thoughts with healthy ones. After a while, you will think less unhealthy thoughts and be a step ahead in reaching your goals.
Motivation
Give your mind some motivation with these ideas.
Pick out a motivational photograph. Whether you want to look more like you did 20 years ago or have the physique of someone else you admire, choose a photograph you can look at when you're struggling to help keep yourself motivated.
Set smaller daily goals. While your larger goals are important, focusing on smaller, individual goals will give you more of a sense of accomplishment and change your mindset on a daily basis.
Use support from friends. There are few things that can change how you feel about yourself and your progress like motivation from friends around you.
Reward yourself. When you've worked really hard for something it's only fair to reward yourself. Give yourself an indulgence, though not a food-related one, that you've really been wanting.
Tell yourself you can do it. Change your mindset about weight loss by constantly reminding yourself that no matter how hard it is that you can and will do it.
Never stop thinking about your goals. Keeping your goals in mind throughout the day will help motivate you and keep you on the right track.
Surround yourself with good role models. You won't do yourself any favors when you're trying to lose weight if you surround yourself with people who practice bad habits and influence you to do so as well. Spend time with friends who motivate you to be healthy instead.
Have a mantra. Finding your own personal weight loss mantra can be a great way to help keep yourself positive and focused on your goals.
Look at the bright side. Setbacks don't have to ruin your motivation for weight loss. Instead, think of them as a chance to work harder and prove your commitment to your goals.
Create a map to your health and happiness. Spending some time laying out your goals, collecting photos that motivate you, and planning out your steps along the way can help make process easier, more real and something you're more motivated to do every day.
Food
Change your relationship with food by changing your thoughts using this advice.
Think yourself out of bad habits. Bad habits with food don't have to take down your weight loss goals. Instead, use the power of your mind to fight these bad habits. It will take some doing but you can overcome them.
Look at food differently. Food isn't your enemy or your friend — it's neutral. Learn to look at food as a source of nourishment rather than a reward or a way to deal with emotions.
Picture what food is doing for your body. When you look at what you're eating, picture what that food can do for your body and how the nutrients will help you feel.
Allow yourself to eat when you're hungry. Losing weight should never mean starving yourself. Listen to your body and feed yourself when your body tells you it's hungry. Just make sure it's actually hunger and not boredom or thirst you're giving into. Likewise, stop eating when you are full.
Eat foods you crave. You can have foods you crave while you're trying to lose weight if you can do so in moderation. Keeping things totally off limits could cause you to binge.
Be conscious. Always be aware of what you're eating. Eating mindlessly while watching TV can lead to a lot of unwanted and unneeded calories.
Self-Image
How you see yourself can make a big impact in how much weight you lose. Try these solutions to feel good about yourself no matter how much you weigh.
Change how you think about your body. If you think you are a fat person, you'll likely stay that way. Train your mind to see yourself as attractive at any weight and you'll see more weight loss progress.
Get control over your thoughts. When your thoughts are out of control it's easy to think cruel things about yourself and put yourself down. When you start to feel your thoughts heading in that direction, take the wheel and steer them somewhere positive.
Stop looking at the numbers. Weight isn't everything when it comes to health. Some people look super skinny and feel healthy at one weight while another person might be totally different. We all have our own comfort zone, so listen to your body, not the scale.
Focus on how you feel. You might not have met your goal weight yet, but focusing on changes in how you feel can help keep you motivated and feeling good about yourself.
Stop berating yourself. Negative thoughts aren't going to help you lose weight. If you have a misstep or aren't progressing as fast as you'd like, never berate yourself. Simply get up the next day and start again from a positive standpoint.
Fill yourself with love. If you want to get the most out of your weight loss journey, make part of the process learning to truly love yourself. No one is perfect so get a handle on accepting and appreciating your faults.
Take pride in your appearance.It doesn't matter how much you weigh, you can look good and feel good about yourself. Shower, put on a fragrance, style your hair, and wear your favorite clothes. It will change how you see yourself and how others see you as well.
Meditation
Learn how to turn your meditation practice into a reflection on your personal weight loss goals with these tips.
Imagine yourself eating like you should be. The more you imagine it, the more likely it will become reality.
Picture yourself thin. If you believe that you can and will be thin, then you give yourself the motivation and drive to actually make it happen.
Think about activities you'll do when you're thin. If you're too overweight to do things you love right now, picture yourself doing those things as the new, thinner you.
Relax. You can't take control over your thoughts and your mind if you're stressed out and distracted. Simply relax and let go the problems of the day.
Picture yourself wearing something you've always wanted to wear. A big reason many people want to lose weight is to fit into the clothes and style that they love and admire. Get a mental picture of how you'll look sporting something you've always wanted to wear to give you some motivation.
Imagine that you love to exercise. Rely on the power of imagination to help give yourself the initiative you need to get fit and in shape.
Don't let negative thoughts interfere. It's easy to think negative thoughts about yourself when you're tackling a big and difficult obstacle like losing weight, but you have to make sure to keep these kinds of thoughts out during your meditation. Replace them with happy, supportive ones instead.
Kick all unhealthy habits and foods out of visualization. Don't let your mental fantasies include unhealthy foods and behaviors. You might really crave them but the purpose is to retrain your mind to let them go.
Breathe deeply and calm yourself. Once you're calm, relaxed, and in control of your mind and body, you'll be able to start thinking clearly about who and where you want to be.

The best way to get any woman to love you is to ignore her...........women get irritated with too much attenntion

The lady in question neither has bad breath nor mouth odor...............hubby said he never liked kissing but was just doing it accassionally then to please her but that he can't do it anymore

.......... is cheating so important that you dam all consequences .me tot its stressful,spritually grave,morally wrong,biologically dreadful.......physically,mentally and financially draining. What do you really gain? Just need a sincere answer.

Men..........confused set of being.I think women should just have open relationship in their mind.

She is 30 been married for 6yrs with 3kids. She noticed hubby stopped kissing her after she had her last child......

Whenever she tries to kiss him,he just pecks her on the lips and that's all...and if she complains......he says its for the younger generation that she should forget about it........

When she tries to talk about it, he says she's nagging and being childish and looking for trouble where there's none.

Now its been over a year and she been fantasizing about it, recently she ran into her ex and one thing led to another and she had a very passionate kiss but nothing else happened.

She has been feeling guilty....her ex has been calling her but she has refused to pick his call because she never intended to cheat on her husband.......

Hubby has warned her not to bring up the issue of kissing .....now she is fantasizing about kissing....

Is there another way to communicate it to hubby?

please no causing,if your mind cannot comprehend fully the question am about to ask just pass.....this is not the time for sermon....just give your honest opinion.......so this lady(Joan) wants a party with hubby and another married lady friend....infact its always been her fantasy....this her married friend(kate) has also agreed and its very obvious Joan's hubby likes kate very much and has said so himself...... according to him she's well endowed.......my question;how will she approach her hubby with the idea..... And she hopes its something they can do occasionally......cos its something she enjoyed a lot while she was still single ....and wasn't able to explore it with hubby cos they married within 2months of their meeting......they've been married for three years with a kid.

A friend of mine is worried because her hubby told her he's going out there to get a Mouth Action if she won't give it to him......

According to her, hubby has never demanded it even while they were dating and he knew she hates it, though she likes cunilingus but hubby declined.

Now after 10yrs of marriage hubby keeps asking her to give him a Mouth Action even when he refused to also do it to her. My friend insists she hates Mouth Action but will only give it a trial if hubby is willing to do same to her....

But hubby has refused and threatened to go out and get it if she keeps proving stubborn (hubby have not been talking to her for about a week now).........

Please your candid advice is needed.

Initially when hubby suggested it I refused but when he insisted I give in 4 peace sake......his reason ;in case he carelessly drops it nobody wll b able to access it, so when I demanded d pass word he gave me but after some wks he changed it and refused t give me d password.and said we both nid a little privacy.............but any time he has d opportunity he quickly checks my fone tho I password my fone too.

Op ur on point..........marriage in Africa is hell 4 most women

Pls want to know your take on this: Hubby insisted dat we should password our fones and not tell eachother d password so we can have some privacy so for like 2yrs or so its been like dat but a Pastor friend of mine insisted dat its a sin...... ......tho me am indifferent.

Usually for a woman one sideguy is okay......what I don't understand is why men have to keep so many sidechick............

Exactly my thots

Money,big rod,funny n intelligent

Why am I having this urge to be with another man after many years of marriage.......the feeling scares shit out of me.

Pls how do I cheat on my husband without getting caught cos am scared........

Abeg I nid encouragement.......am tired of ds marriage......been married for 14yrs.......no good sex,no money,full of emotinal abusive...........

Nairaland s full of small boys.........I only crush on matured men

Me no want ds type of man o...........ds one fit stab person to death 4 night..........especially a naija man no way

With d way thins are going Nigerian marriage may never regain its dignity........as I write ds I weep in my heart 4 marriages of these days....and somehow I blame it on our soceity.....nobody cautions an adultreous man......what happened t d vows dey took b4 god to remainfaithful until death...its so patetic and becos d society closed its eyes to it,women v follow suit(tho not rite)but how do I blame a woman who's huband does not satisfy in bed yet have d strenght t chase oda women,a man who hardly drops feeding money yet v enof t pay 4 hotel rooms etc,a man who constantly kips late nite leaving d wife lonely and veneurable while he's in d company anoda,a man who constanly abuse his wife both emotionally and physically but know how to pet oda women,I can go on and on......what r our religious leaders teaching dem every friday and sunday.....what is happening....its scary t me.........where r we headed to........a lot of women now cheat, it is pitiable(very shameful) and I blame it on d men(tho dere r exceptional cases...some r just born t cheat)most of these women were driven into d arm of anoda.......men pls wake up..you can't eat ur cake n have it.we even now joke wt d word "side chick" as if its a normal way of life.......god is watching us

Same reason men cheat.............its exciting n adventurous..........n sometimes dey get bored wt same dick.....n most married men r lazy in bed........money etc reasons r many

Money

So wots d big deal"becos is a female abi"if na man no big deal my dear men do d same,dats why I like white pple,we blacks treat women like trash,am not saying its rite but if na man una go bash dem like ds.