₦airaland Forum

My generation loved her! She was so good at what she did.

Well done to her and her craft.

cococandy:
One person must stay home. Great.

By any chance are you thinking the person who must stay home has to be the wife? In that case hope we are not going to hear about how women of nowadays are entitled and want to reap where they did not sow. How they’re liabilities depending on men.

The global economy has distorted the family system. Chai! No wonder birth rates are plummeting here and there.

43Ronin:
This is a very stupid & insensitive statement to make. With how hard the economy is ,both parents have no choice but to work hard to provide for their child. You think a parent is happy dropping his/her child off to go hustle?

While that is true, there has to be a concession/compromise on either or both side(s) of the parents. It is hard, I know, but that is the result of having children - it is a hell of a sacrifice.

There needs to be a regulatory body that guides the monitoring and approval of daycare centres. This centre ought to be shut. Other parents should withdraw their children from the place. The name of the daycare centre (which wasn't stated) should be publicised so unsuspecting parents know what it is meant for.

It is not every school that should have a daycare.

Tallesty1:
If your career/job/business is more important to you than your kids, please don't have kids.

Dem gats provide loudspeaker for this to be heard.

MrBrownJay1:
whether married or not, if at 38yrs old you need to dress this way and post such pictures, then IMHO you failed somewhere along the way.

It is a very old photo of hers. OP should find something useful to do with his life if the best thing he could do is copy an old photo of a then-reigning celebrity.

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That said, she has even given birth to a child: https://www.instagram.com/p/CcqGcMTsg_k/?img_index=1

When did Seyi Shay marry sef? Abi she copied Ini Edo and Lolaoj wey born children without husbands?

Nazgul:
My aunt called me today to complain that fuel is between 1,400-1,500 in the east.

And I was like how would small scale business owners survive?

Even top MDs and CEOs are complaining...na wa o.

Even when there was subsidy, fuel has always been high in the East. I saw the new NNPC list and fuel was higher in Port-Harcourt than in Ogun. Yet Rivers is an oil-producing state.

BaddieFreak:
I hear you. It’s not about shaming men, everyone starts somewhere. But if I’m building my life towards a certain vision, I need a partner with that same energy. You don’t expect me to settle for less especially considering the fact that I worked so hard to get to where I am today. Strong, independent women set their standards, and yes, that includes choosing who they build with.

It is this dishonesty that annoys me. Women ALL OVER THE WORLD are hypergamous, aka, they gravitate towards men who are higher than them. So which one is settling for less? It is men who actually settle for less in marriage. It is a universal phenomenon.

Sometimes, I wished Nigeria was rich so that everybody go make their choice without poverty beclouding their thoughts. I want a Nigeria where the marriage and birth rates have plunged as in the US, Japan, South Korea and elsewhere. Make everybody answer their papa name.

BaddieFreak:
This is my response to all the threats and curses on this thread

Maybe it’s low self-esteem, or maybe they just can’t handle the fact that women aren’t here to play second fiddle anymore. Either way, it’s not our job to shrink ourselves to make them comfortable. If a man can’t handle a strong woman, that’s his problem not ours. The world has moved on, and so should they. Women are building empires, making their own money, and setting the terms for their lives. We’re not going back to the days of being seen as sex slaves or kitchen workers. So, to all the men out there feeling threatened step up or step aside. To my fellow women, keep standing strong in your truth. Don’t let anyone guilt you into settling for less just because it makes them feel better about themselves. Keep pushing, keep thriving, and let them catch up if they can.

Interestingly, even so-called opinionated women wish/desire to marry masculine men who can lead the home front. As I do opine on topics like this, let the strong and independent women marry fellow women. Make everybody rest.

Marry. A. Woman.

Nazgul:
What still baffles me is that despite the nation wide suffering, people are still defending this man. Go to Twitter (X) and see how they fanatically
My prayer now is for God to make my Japa plans work. Even if na to engage in dry fast I won't mind. Cos with the pace Tinubu is ruining this country, it's only a matter of time before looking good can become dangerous cos you would easily be robbed just for dressing good.

Is it really that bad in Nigeria? No vex, but I don't know why a part of me is yet to believe that things are actually tough for Nigerians. I find it hard to believe.

Tightpussy2024:
Very few Nigerians are worth respecting then, if this is the actual representation of their thoughts process and not just trolling. And they deserve the reproach they get from the entire world. I will not blame people that see them as inferior.

Well,if you aren't the person that will make people feel so uneasy, trembling by your presence,grumbling/murmuring,finger-pointing, and put people on hot seat then it's safe to call them liars. But if you are one/multiple of all I listed,then it's unfair to label them liars. Op in his heart of heart should know the category he belongs to.

We agree on one thing then. But for real, how Nairalanders behave is how the average Nigerian behaves. It also happens on Twitter notwithstanding the intellectshualism. Haven't you seen how political office holders dish out statements and interviews? Where do they come from? Fellow Nigerians. Nigerians are not intelligent people. That is a lie that has gone too far.

Almunjid:
For those seeking refuge in foreign lands, it's essential to remember that you, your children, and grandchildren may still encounter challenges. In situations like these, you might even be asked to return to Nigeria—the shithole you once japa from. Leaving Nigeria, or "Japa," might not be beneficial for you and future generations, as you may face rejection and racism in other countries. It's crucial to understand that escaping Nigeria doesn't necessarily mean you've left it behind entirely. Nigeria is a part of your identity; it is your shadow and will follow you wherever you go. The condition of your country often determines how you'll be treated in your host countries. No one would treat Americans, the English, or other nationalities the way Nigerians are often treated.Therefore, it's in our best interest to collaborate and contribute to Nigeria's development during our lifetimes. By doing so, we can help ensure that Nigerians living abroad won't have to experience such embarrassing situations.
Peace!

End Of Discussion.

Ndi and Awon I am English and African American when their papa and mama did not enter ship. Even African Americans don't want black Africans to govern them.

blackboy:
The Op is a clown. And some of those comments I can bet are from Nigerians just using foreign names and pictures. It's a pity the hate back home is carried on outside the country. She might be an Igbo loving Yoruba but OP being a tribalist does not care but angry and bitter about the way the Igbos were treated in the last election in Lagos. Not everyone in Lagos hates Igbos or wants Igbos to leave . Just a small minority who are mainly paid for politics

That is not true, please. The elites backed the narrative wholeheartedly. You cannot blame OP when we have the likes of Bayo Onanuga and the SA on Media to the LASG dishing out tribal bigotry. It is good the world sees Nigerians for who they are. As for the commentators, they are Irish. Modern day Irish don't want foreigners to govern them, and that is very fine.

Tightpussy2024:
I have actually quite this forum ( sadly seun barred the deactivation option) but I came to reply you.

Why have you decided to quit the forum? Because of the "toxicity" of the comments? This is how Nigerians behave o. It's not the lovey-dovey and out-of-touch scene as on reddit/Nigeria.

He used the word "evidence" and used the word "investigation" . Such heavy words,shows he has been searching for reason to leave her and/or is a difficult person. His type will know how many indomie is in a carton or number of eggs in crate. I am sure he checked the garbage can for eggshells. He shouldn't label her a liar but introspect if he has made her feel uneasy or fearful first

To be honest though, I'm like OP. So I understand the kind of person he's.

I have no issues with my woman eating, but she shouldn't distort the information when asked.

tensazangetsu20:
Fear don dey catch you. Hungary lo Hungary ni. You think we are children on nairaland

The dude is trolling. The way he writes tells me he's trolling. He should post a live picture of the currency.

MatrixReloaded:
Arriving in Hungary on the 2nd of September not knowing anyone was just the beginning of my motivation. Arrived at the airport, pass through the immigration and went to pick up my luggage, as I was existing to the outside country I felt a tense but due to the fact I have been outside before without having anyone to pick me up at the airport, I gather courage ask few l heavy luggage and got to meet another young chap in a high school uniform and I politely ask him for a Google map. He Speak a little English and told me to follow him in a bit he stopped, yes later I understand that he can't walk me down all there because ita 10mins walk. He book a vip taxi rew older and we all die someday not knowing where we were laid to rest. Move out now and never allow anything stop your life from moving forward.

I thought you had a property in Agungi and Osapa London? You also have an Ethiopian permanent residency? Then you moved to Hungary? I hope you did not sell those properties at Agungi and Osapa London just to obtain a student visa to study in Hungary?

Sha, good luck in your expeditions.
Hungary? Jesus of Lord

MatrixReloaded:
Yen yen yen, na so him go dey cap like tozoo. Lol 😆 leave that dude he's just beating around the Bush. Him get 3 pp at least pp expire 5 years each or 10 yrs. So 15 years he have been renewing his pp without visa. 😆 🤣 he thinks everyone is going through hardship. I get beta duplex for Agungi/Osapa in Lagos Island. If I land lagos na taxify straight to my doormat. I go open door pick few things, carry my car wey I park enter hotel. I don book cleaners to handle the chores, btw I got plans back home but this dude never will he think of 9ja 10years from his age. No wonder he want to marry there 🙄 😒

MrBrownJay1:
sounds like a brotha bitter because the girl he moved into his house didnt turn out as you had expected.... dont blame the yeye babe for that, blame YOURSELF for having this broke stranger staying at your house expecting her to pay for shit (even though she couldnt even pay for her own accommodation thus why she stayed with you).

BTW aint you the 45yr old brotha who was broke and is begging on NL for handouts since 2023? talk about HYPOCRISY!!!!
Here: https://www.nairaland.com/8200975/six-months-driving-uber-ph

He complained of poor earnings from driving Uber. The same OP has lampooned wealthy men who pay hooge figures to sex workers. He claimed there is nothing in sex as he works in a lab as a scientist. Today, he has also worked in a hotel. I dare say this thread is fake as no girl stayed in his apartment (assuming he has one).

Mind you, he has children as well:

Sirchiboy:
It happens at rumuosi junction after dropping my kids off to school

Mr Chiboy, my advice is to focus on something to do so you earn money as a man. Forget woman for now. They are hypergamous. Strive to increase your skill set to get a job that pays you well. Your financial condition will improve with time, experience, added skills, and networking. Ranting about women would not solve your problem. Trust me. It won't.

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Tinubu, na you do this one.

Give people alternatives like I had in Santorini. Divert away from excessive consumption of fuel and use the money saved to further enhance the public transportation system. When it is well developed, restrict the number of cars in all the CBDs using plate number codes. That way, people will be forced to leave the cars behind at home and use the public transportation system

Yes, as it's done in Singapore. Also make parking along the streets illegal unless at designated spots or spots owned by the building owners as it's done in Japan. I'm glad the Lagos train system is being developed as nothing beats a safe, affordable, clean, efficient and fast train network system in a densely populated area. Lagos, being Nigeria's richest and smallest state, is best positioned to implement these policies and infrastructure.

Elxandre:
Truly some luxury cars are specced to run on premium fuel but many brands do just fine with our petrol.

It is the luxury brands I am most concerned about as that is the focus of this thread.

gidgiddy:
These are five Lies the Lagos/Ibadan expressway media and their Northern cohorts have been telling gainst Igbos since the 60's, which they still tell to this day.

That Ironsi abolished Regionalism and introduced unitary rule with Decree 34

Of course they know you will never Google Decree 34 to find out it was a civil service Decree. What Ironsi introduced was military rule. He neither abolished the 4 Region's Nigeria had at the time, nor denied them resource control. It was Gowon that came after Ironsi, used Decree 14 to abolish all 4 Region's, created 12 states to replace them, and introduced full blown unity rule with Decree 15 which abolished resource control

That Zik prevented secession clause from entering the constitution

There was Awolowo, there was ZIk, there was Ahmadu Bello, Aminu Kano, Enahoro etc. But they want you to believe that Zik alone arm-twisted all these heavy weights, to decide what should, or should not be in the constitution? Is that really practical? One man decided what will be in the constitution of Nigeria while the British were in control? Get real

Mr IbeOkehie,

What do you have to say?

Elxandre:
Seems you're not a Nigerian. People use cars for ywra with no engine issues.

They use those exotic cars with less than the stated fuel quality for years?

cc: Tensazangetsu20 you sabi these things pass me. What do you have to say?

I think many respondents here are used to their partners lying to them or they being liars. Well, some of us aren't. We state things the way they are and have a free mind.

Upbringing matters a lot sha in a human being's life.

LilMissFavvy:
Why did you ask her repeatedly if she cooked? According to you, you bought food items so as to cook, so when she said she didn't cook, why did you keep asking. Did you expect her to stay without eating? You even went to the waste bin to check, checked the kitchen, checked the gas, you are a very stingy man. When you leave her and start dating a new lady, remember to come back here and give us update/complaint of what your new woman does, because you sound very stingy and follow up tiny things which shouldn't matter.

We read the same story. He does not expect her to be hungry, but why did she lie that she did not cook or eat? That is the problem. Also, the kitchen was messy. Goes to show that the lady is not an intelligent liar - another reason she should not have lied.

NonsenseRubbish:
I don’t think he’s lost interest. The whole situation just has him perplexed. It was an unnecessary lie. My advice is to have a heart to heart with her reassuring her she doesn’t need to tell petty lies because they can lead to big lies and eventual break of trust.
But to be honest little lies lead to big lies. It is a red flag sha 🤔

cc: Tightpussy2024

This is it, and I bet the person behind the moniker is a female just as you are. People should be open to their partners especially if they intend to get married. Small lies lead to bigger lies, the very reason lies should not be condoned in the beginning. I have serious issues with people who lie, no matter how small. I will not forget that lie and hold it going forward in my relations with the person.

bluefilm:
I hate lies. Especially, petty lies and most especially where and when it is not necessary at all

Definitely, a red flag for me

So do I. Just don't lie. Tell me exactly what happened. How can I trust bigger things with someone who lies openly about indomie?

P.S. Your signature is also apt, and I love them for that. Again, the concept of honesty. Be open and straightforward. State things the way they are.

Tightpussy2024:
Hustle as a man sha,make your daughter no hide cook noodles with one boiled egg. There is actually no benefit in marrying men of this generation.how can a woman look up to you,as her God on earth then you look up to ediots on internet for every damn thing. You report her when a gust of wind touch you. No wonder respecting you all is very difficult and you attract the disdain and reproach you get . If it's not creating trolling threads, it's seeking advice from kangaroo courts or creating fake topics. And you wonder why masculine authority is ridiculed now.Keep disgracing yourself online.our forefathers killed mamoths and wild beasts to find our fore mothers. A young lady has to lie about indomie and one egg out of fear of you. Keep zuzuing online

Simply because a woman lied? The question is: why did she lie? OP was not against her cooking and eating, but why lie? Yes, it is ordinary indomie, but why the lie? We have even set aside the being messy in the kitchen.

The thing is, people should know their partners very well before entering a relationship. It is the reason I am an advocate of being friends before lovers. I don't like people who lie and do so brazenly.

LordAdam16:
All I see is cope.

You should tell Palestinians, Libyans, and many other victims of America's brutal foreign policy that they are "the least of the evil on the planet". The US unilaterally instituted sanctions against a country outside the bounds of international law. Seized the national property of the victimized country and you have the chutzpah to whine about like-for-like comparison. Come back with your gotchas when China seizes Nepal's presidential plane because Nepal did not embrace communism. It is an indictment of America that China and Russia enjoy broad support within the Global South because of how horribly they've abused their primacy.
-Lord

I am always wary of Africans who lampoon China every time and over flimsy issues. Fine, there are issues here and there. One of which has to do with over-fishing or illegal mining. But that is where laws have to be implemented and the Chinese will follow suit. Ghana complains of illegal mining by the Chinese, but Zimbabweans don't because they enacted laws to prevent such. Today, a Chinese company has opened a large processing facility in Zimbabwe whereas the US geoscience company Kubold Metals in Zambia has not and does not intend to do the same. Kubold Metals is just interested in transporting raw minerals over the railway line backed by US funds. The US grudgingly invested there with the assistance of an Indian or Emirati company just to counter Chinese investments in the Eastern axis (Tanzania and Rwanda). If the US is so interested, why did it not commence railway investments across the continent? Tomorrow, dem go talk about loan traps whereas the major lenders to Africa are multilateral institutions dominated by the West.

Look at the massive railway investments in Lagos and Ogun by Chinese companies. Over sixty years of being associated with the West, how many French, German, Swiss and British companies have sought to invest in railway in one of Africa's most populous cities? I omit the US because those ones no sabi construct railway lines.

kkins25:
It's not like the U.S. is going about sanctioning random countries. Even you wouldn't want anything to do with 95% of the countries on that list. My point, anyway, is, do we want to cripple democracy for the good-ole dictatorship? Wouldn't you want to live in a society where you can call out the government and not fear for your life? China's government is a "if you talk you collect" system.

Only within China, and frankly is not the business of outsiders. Most citizens don't like outsiders to have a say in their countries' politics, and rightfully so. But the Chinese are all about business. Just don't harm its interests or nose-poke into its internal affairs. Talking about so-called freedom, here is a word or two from a prominent Chinese politician, Lee Kuan Yew:

"You’re talking about Rwanda or Bangladesh, or Cambodia, or the Philippines. They’ve got democracy … But have you got a civilized life to lead? People want economic development first and foremost. The leaders may talk something else. You take a poll of any people. What is it they want? The right to write an editorial as you like? They want homes, medicine, jobs, schools.”

I am not saying China is perfect, but as long as trade opportunities exist for Africans (who have to improve at negotiations) to become wealthy, I am okay with it. Nothing consine me with another person's politics.

Elxandre:
So we should only drive when such fuel becomes available 😂

The engine go spoil quick. So back to square one. Hopefully, the Dangote refinery has such a category of fuel and petrol station owners have a dedicated pump for it.

UrbaneHR:
No professional HR practitioner worth his onions will discuss salary with you on the very first discussion on the phone.

It is only desperate candidates that seek to know salary range and that's why they get short-changed.

Your best bet is to have an in-depth discussion with the potential employee with a view to understanding what value he can actually bring to the organisation before the negotiation starts.

Depends on the profile of the candidate, the scope of the position and the size of the company. For experienced positions, some applicants will demand to know how much they will be paid, and that is okay. For a secretarial position, I don't see the possibility.

To be fair, not all roles or companies state the salary. Salaries are dependent on the profile of the applicant, scope of the position, size of the company, negotiating power of both parties etc. The best the interviewer could have done is to give a range that is dependent on the profile of the applicant.

That said, I suggest more companies in Nigeria should offer to pay the transport fare of invited applicants subject to terms and conditions.

Ojuntana:
Lol. Subsidies don't work in populous corrupt countries you mean
US and China have subsidies. Nigeria is fiscally messed up by the leaders not any stroke of fate. Every evil that has befallen this country is courtesy of its leaders.
Even when you remove subsidies, the country is the worst for it

China and the US are way wealthier than Nigeria. So they can afford to pay subsidies. I forgot to mention that aspect. Nigeria is too poor and unproductive to engage in subsidies. Also, Nigerian leaders aren't imported into the country, but come from the same population. So please don't lay the blame on only the leaders. Corruption is everywhere but the US government doesn't own or operate refineries. Petrol prices aren't fixed in China or the US. Chinese state owned enterprises are better managed than their Nigerian counterparts. So we cannot compare ourselves to the Chinese in that aspect.