₦airaland Forum

Onegai:
Rich men cheating is really about buying a product. The poorer the society, the less morals its people can afford. Which is what infidelity is in Nigeria: poverty-alleviation program. It's only daft immature guys who believe their Affair Partner loves them seriously.

Agreed.

Which is why I'm always irritated when I see Yul Edochie and Rude Boy (P-Square). I've spoken to my male relatives their age and older and they're all in unison:

"God forbid I impregnate any girl or start raising any baby at age 40+, when I should be getting ready to finally enjoy my money".

Especially that Yul Edochie. Man is going to one corner of his neighbourhood to weep silently.

This means I was right when I thought about a scenario where well-to-do men undergo vasectomy so they get the full benefits of having extramarital affairs. These new women will want to have their babies so they have a say in the family. A vasectomy prevents that from the man's side.

You always know when they're full of regret but their ego won't let them go back (so that they don't become laughing-stock): that's when the public show of love with the new babe will be plenty. Serious flaunting. just know the tears cried into their pillows are hot. The babe herself will be doing extra to cover up the growing feeling that she messed up but is now stuck with an older man and if the ex-wife doesn't give a shi.t anymore, then she has nothing to motivate her and feed her own ego.

You think I'm lying? Look at Bianca Ojukwu or any other woman in that setting. They know that not only are they wasting their prime with an older man, but the minute he croaks, his older kids are coming for even her pots and cutlery that he bought her. Wounded cubs turn into vicious adult lions. Go to countries like Russia and Eastern European countries, those babes are not marrying for love, they're hardened. Same with Asians. Iceland and Greenland have the lowest infidelity rates, because they're countries where opportunities for men and women are somewhat equal. So as your man dey step out, you too are following suit.

Interesting stuff. You know this too well.

drimzsmoke:
intimacy gadget is not a disadvantage, men should even learn how to optimise its use in their relationships and marriages.
Man was never design to satisfy a woman sexually. The 1st time it happened between a man and a woman, it must have been by mistake
If not for intimacy gadgets, some people's relationship would have ended. Imagine a man of 45 (married to a 30 year old woman and) has BPH(benign prostatic hypertrophy/hyperplasia) that affected his erection, tell me how the young wife will survive if not for masturbation with intimacy gadgets. intimacy gadgets has done more harm than good

I agree that men could use it to aid the stimulation of a woman during sex. But it has been abused and going forward, many women especially the age range of women NwaAmaikp.e mentioned will only use men for attention and extra money purposes. Most women c.um as a result of extended pre-intimacy. The problem is many men forbid engaging in this act, especially the oral aspect. So, sex t.oy is a massive advantage to women sexually. But because it is a machine, to compete with it as a man, especially in the drilling and stimulation of the vagina is not easy. No man can outdo a machine. So to better satisfy their women, men have to engage in more extended pre-intimacy (advanced MouthAction and smooching) or use sex to.ys. Hopefully, no man complains how it affects his subconscious state.

papyjaypaul:
What do you think about virginity? I am just having a discussion with you and you don't need to agree with me, I just want your take. Before the gadgets, women could masturbate solo or have another girl (which is how many learned lesbianism in boarding schools). Here, when she gets married, the same feeling before marriage can never match sexual intercourse so no problem. Before the gadgets, women could have premarital sex. When she gets married, she has to compare her ex with her man. It goes both ways too, for men as well. There is already a comparison for the spouse. Now that we have gadgets, a man or woman can have a feeling that is similar to a nymph packaged in a machine. Men who buy those sex robots are like this too. A woman's clitoris and body parts have already been stimulated by machines and a man who comes closer is just for choice. That means women who use the gadgets are like men and women who jerk off to porn. They don't need your physical body because they learned how to pleasure themselves by themselves A woman or man who is a virgin has nothing to compare with so they learn and learn how to enjoy it naturally without comparison with an ex, competition from machine or abnormal pressure from porn They enjoy sex as it had been enjoyed for years where people explore their bodies before thumping, where they communicate before the action, where they learn the art of lovemaking and not 4kin like a dog. There is sensuality before the sexuality. Is this a simplistic scenario

You are right that virginity (total tabula rasa) does help and is good for intending couples. However, virginity especially in men is hard to maintain due to the male hormone testosterone. Maybe God should have separated the sexual sensation part from the hormonal advantage it confers on men. Tampering with testosterone in young males affects their manly state. But on its own, virginity is good and I do advocate virgins marry themselves. It would be unfair for any to marry a sexually experienced person.

IbeOkehie:
My heart isn't bleeding for the Uighurs. My heart bleeds that the same methods will be applied in Black Africa, using FREE INFRASTRUCTURE as the key for penetration. Communism and Socialism and their political organizations are poison. They ALWAYS bring death and destruction. Don't worry, the Chinese are coming.

Good Luck to Black Africans.

LOL!
Death and destruction? Hahahahahahahhahaha Go tell this to Southeast Asian farmers who are making a sh!tload of money selling fruits to the Chinese. Yes, we have to enact free market principles all round, but outrightly labelling China as destructive that first (with rudimentary knowledge) worked with Tanzania to build a railway line (without colonial thought behind its construction) is hilarious.

IbeOkehie:
Siemens of Germany had a deal with our government about electricity. It hasn't helped and will not help because the deal isn't market based. The railway deal with China won't do much good because all rail systems in Nigeria are owned by government.

I agree that our failure to enact free market principles will do us more harm than good. The railway lines in Japan and surrounding environments are owned by private firms. In Singapore, a private company operates the train services with the government owning some shares in it, but without daily operations.

It is unfortunate we have a socialist mindset amongst our people. But that is not no fault of the Chinese.

Petrol refinery is a comatose industry not because of Shell or Exxon representing Western imperialism, it's in that condition because there's no free market for petrol. There's PRIVATE mini-refineries operating in the jungle in the Niger Delta. I guess those ones are based on ILLEGAL technology transfer abi? The White Man...South African Boer racists for that matter....own or control MTN and have helped bring widespread telecom adoption because the telecom sector is free market based. I don't know what's hard to understand about this. Nigeria needs Free Markets, property rights and sound money management...at least don't print naira recklessly. The Communist Party of China will show Africans shege. Una never see anything.

The Chinese have no issues competing in a free market. It is actually the West that has applied socialist policies aimed at protecting its automobile markets. Rightfully so for (geo)political reasons, but the Chinese are so good the numbers favour them.

It is actually women who set the standards on dating apps, not men. Bumble for instance gives women the power to accept abi initiate a connection. Although this is coming to an end, the organisation stated. On Tinder, women can outrightly petition the app to ban men for "soliciting". In Japan, ALL dating apps require men to subscribe monthly while it is free for women. Men are required to state how much they earn per month, the university they graduate from and the company they work for. The requirements are fewer for women. But sha, if it is strictly Nigerian, I would not consider dating apps a place to meet a potential partner.

IbeOkehie:
The only reason China has developed was the partial adoption of FREE MARKETS by Deng Xiapong in 1978. That's all, nothing else. Until Black Africans learn that lesson, they will NEVER become developed or prosperous or have high HDI.

The White Man can't help you, Chinaman can't help you, the future Alien Race coming from Mars can't help. The NUMBER ONE lesson from world history is everyone stay in your own environment with people as similar as possible, and TRADE with others. Colonialist mercantilism, fascism, communism, royal feudalism, all have been discredited by their visible and lived RESULTS.

Oh yes! The free market is a major answer to many economies in the continent.

Apparently you don't see the danger of millions of Chinese men suffering from a gender imbalance inserting themselves into Black Africa.

That is not going to happen. East Asians, especially the men, are not fond of black people and their genes in them. Japanese men abandoned pregnant women in Congo. They could not have done the same in Taiwan or Thailand where there many Japanese men live. East Asian men revert to Southeast Asia to get women, not Africa.

The Black African can't see further than the next meal. Do people even know what the Communist Party is about? Ever heard about the Uighurs in China? And you want such an institution in your country? Don't worry, we will learn. I'm DONE with this topic.

A clear example of someone who has detached himself from Africa and is not bothered with other parts of the world. I find your concern for Ugygurs to be quite hilarious. Quintessential American rhetoric.

papyjaypaul:
Do you think intimacy gadgets are a major disservice to men edit. I wrote sextoys before the thing changed it to intimacy gadgets

It is, as no man can outdo a machine. It is almost similar to masturbation in men, but this time propelled by a machine. Men cannot compete. Just have your fun, but don't seek to kill yourself on top of a vagina. A sex t.oy is nearby to do it.

Taiwo20:
Love is not usually real. Its always dependent or associated with a quality,things,etc
Except for parental love, even that could be conditional

The relationship between men and women is transactional. Love does not exist. I am glad I never believed in it.

ogaemma:
If you think Regina Daniels is the only young Lady that got married to her grandfather's age to escape poverty, then you have not seen anything yet.
Come to Abuja and see under 20's that are married to 80 year's old men.
The escape from poverty is not a joke.

Largely due to the persistent and consistent destruction of their agrarian communities by Fulani herdsmen. It has also resulted in a high number of widowed women. Very pathetic to know.

NwaAmaikpe:

I can only wish him well.
Except a man is lucky to have genital warts or skin lesions round his preek to help optimal vaginal stimulation, I will not advice someone this old to venture into a relationship with someone this young; because,
She will cheat on him, it is not her fault.
He will not satisfy her, it is not his fault either.

Anyone who has been unfortunately lucky to have shagged a lady not older than 62, older than 35 but not younger than 19 will have noticed a fundamental flaw; that it is almost impossible for them to achieve orgasm from the thrusting of a preek due to the use and abuse of sex toýs and female masturbation in recent years.

While a preek in action can only produce linear motion, the linear, oscillatory, circular and accelerated motion that can only be achieved from sex toyś, proximal digits and oraI sex has rewired and irredeemably altered the presypnaptic terminals inside women's kpekus due to an overload of impulse and the female brain was not originally designed to withstand such arousal overload.

Now, just thrusting a preek in and out of them is totally inadequate to trigger kpekus axons to relay any neurotransmitters to the brain, therefore the brain gets no message to release the hormone dopamine responsible for orgasms.

This is the reason why 74% of all sexually active women between 58 and 18years have not attained orgasm more than thrice in five years from only penetrative sex.
Same reason why 39.76% of Nigerian women are bisexual.

It is also why it seems women lose interest in sex after marriage and childbirth; simply because, there is nothing for them in it again!
If only men knew what's on women's mind as we hump them, we wouldn't even bother.

This sad discovery made scientists around the world brainstorm for exactly 8years, 6months, 23days and 9hours on how to assist men in bringing pleasure to women during sex. This birthed dotted and ribbed condoms.

Ever asked yourself why most ladies hate condoms yet all ladies love dotted and ribbed ones?

Because, while the man does his routine back-and-forth, in-and-out, the ribs and dots on the condom helps with a 360° stimulation of the kpekus; sadly this additional stimulation will not still bring about orgasm in many due to extreme impairment of vaginal axons and sensory nerve fibers but may only increase arousal due to production of acetylcholine.

Women now crave more for external attention, and their propensity for cheating is higher; because that thrill from a novel attention also releases acetylcholone and dopamine.

Reason why, even though she knows it may not be, women will always think the sex is better almost every time she cheats on her husband; because technically, a woman can "climax" just from receiving constant compliments from a new man.

The moral of this warped write-up is that,
cheating will never stop.
He may have to mess up his bedspread with KY jelly, but a text from a new admirer she fancies will get her wet.

If you doubt me; ask your woman.

I had to quote it all! I love you! ;DNo homo.

The bold is very true. No man can compete with a machine. Modern day women just follow men for attention, extra money and childbearing. And oh yes, there has been a spike in bisexualism. No wonder they admire homosexual men and Ndi crossdressers

IbeOkehie:
Black Africans dehumanized themselves. We sold our own into Slavery to alien races. The Gods are haunting us. The Haiti you claim was harmed by the West is populated by the descendants of people that Black Africans SOLD into slavery. That's easy to ignore and heap all blame on the White Man

Agreed.

How and when did China develop? Who helped make China a developed country? China was once shared like a cake among great power nations, including your Japan. It was conquered and colonized. In the 1950s under their purist Communist system, they had constant famines and mass death from starvation. Since you admire or are so grateful to China, I trust you know WHEN and HOW they started their journey to development.

The US offered the market to the Chinese in exchange for cheap labour. As the Chinese improved on the labour and acquired high-value skill set, they started their businesses. It was a transactional deal, not a one-sided thing. Western companies benefitted immensely from Chinese labour and a huge market. In return, the Chinese got investments and technologies. Just because the West is against China today because the latter has decided to say no to perpetual cheap labour designation does not mean we should distort the narrative. Chinese, both in the Mainland and elsewhere, worked to become where they are today. They got what they wanted and built on it. Moreover, China has always been a major empire. Na Opium War and conquest make am dull. But never again as the Chinese I speak to tell me. They rather die than have those years repeated.

Now that China has managed to become a better country, Black Africans have come to beg for help. We're not asking China HOW they learned the art of fishing, we just want to be handed baskets of fish.

Yes and no. Previously and in some countries, they asked for fish. However, these days, African countries are demanding more from the Chinese - investments, factories and access to the Chinese markets aside from minerals. Thankfully, that is happening. In Zimbabwe, Chinese firms have invested in processing facilities employing hundreds of Zimbabweans. In nearby Zambia, an American firm Kubold Metals is only interested in extracting the minerals and onward to the US. The EU sued Indonesia in court (WTO) for "daring" to institute that all minerals must be processed in Indonesia before export. What did the Chinese do? They set up factories across the archipelago. What is the US doing? Passing laws that prevent exports from Indonesia if Chinese firms were behind the extraction and processing. The question is: if the US so much adored Indonesian minerals, why didn't it invest and process as the Chinese did? Meanwhile, for Kenya and South Africa agribusinesses, tariffs and market access have been granted by China and many other African countries.

This is the same logic that has led our cousins in the USA to hate Republicans. They are racists. They hate Black people. They want to put us back in chains. If you don't vote against Republicans then you ain't Black

To be fair, no one likes black people. Even black people don't like themselves.

The Black African. Always begging and never thinking past the next meal. The Chinese Communist Party is now the next Messiah? LooooL, When China is finished with the Dark Continent, una go be like Nigerian Zombies regretting their vote for APC and turning into Wailers.

This is not APC, and even if it were, people can clearly see the difference between the Chinese and the US. Surveys across the world have proven that aside from the West and its allies, residents in other countries prefer China to the US. Why should Nigeria nay Africa be different?

Right now as we discuss this, millions of Chinese are scrambling to migrate to the USA. Granted some of them are spies, but I believe the majority seek something more precious than wealth....FREEDOM.

Migration is human. To be a human is to migrate. People will always migrate.

Seriously, Black Africans are pathetic. Go ahead and submit to China. They offer better goodies than the gin and mirrors that our wise ancestors got to sell their brethren so 🤷 you might have a point.

No one is submitting except the person is a mumu and an ignoramus. People are out for their interests. The Chinese fuifil them, so it is logical to do deals with them.

IbeOkehie:
LOL, White Man bad. Whitey Racist. Get Whitey

And which race is good? I laugh in Chinese.

Good Luck to Nigeria.

As I stated, no race is perfect. My interest is for my side to win, nothing else. If winning means going to the Chinese, I will do it. I have stated that Africans should be better negotiators with outsiders, especially the Chinese. The Chinese shared railway technologies with Nigerians in Ogun and Lagos. Why did Germany not do it? If tomorrow Lagosians and Ogun people cannot grasp the technology, that is on them. But the Chinese have shared it. They also shared the same railway technology with the Indonesians as that was the deal breaker to win contracts versus the Japanese. Personal/group interests. If Germans offer more than the Chinese, we go with them. This is the same thing India does - India's interest is paramount over anyone else.

Davidcorny:
What a dumb thing to do, Nigeria has enormous amounts of llthium, like Taiwan, the Chinese have been trying to annex Taiwan to control TSMC( Taiwanese SemiConductor Manufacturing Company), if they have Nigeria they can open a semiconductor plant here employing only their citizens because they know how to make chips. Nigeria is being conned slowly into a lithium wH00RE, mark my words they will harvest Nigeria like a ripe fruit.

Jesus! Semiconductor chips in Africa? How come no company has opened such in South Africa or Kenya? Chinese firms have lithium and cobalt factories across Africa, but NO Taiwanese firm has the same. Taiwan is not interested in Africa other than for recognition purposes. Africa trades more with Mainland China than Taiwan. So, why should we disrupt that relationship for a country that does not have our economic interests at heart?

Chinese companies have opened railway training centres in Lagos and Ogun. How many Taiwanese companies do you know that have opened a factory or training centre in Nigeria? For you to mention a semiconductor plant in Africa, I strongly doubt you understand what a semiconductor plant is.

sagitariusbaby:
Taiwan is a strategic Western partner and a dumping them for China isn't a wise decision to make. You don't force a people to where they simply don't want to be. China should stop the bullying already, Taiwan doesn't need China, China needs Taiwan.

China is Taiwan's biggest trading partner. Taiwanese are literally CHINESE by ethnicity or race, however, you define it. How on earth can the biggest economy in the world need Taiwan? Taiwanese farmers complained of low sales to China when Taipei was doing strong head months ago. Our interests are bigger than any animosity both parties have. If tomorrow we benefit more from Taiwan than Mainland China, we revert. For now and in the foreseeable future, Mainland China will continue to remain the dominant economy in Asia and across the world. China, not Taiwan, trades with more countries than any other nation. It is the world's factory and biggest automobile market.

MadPolitician:
I just hope that this kind of fundamental diplomatic shift, was done after thorough and strategic planning. It seems like Tinubu is running the country like a sole administrator, especially with the legislature and the judiciary already pocketed. This kind of decision should be done after much consultations.While following the Chinese is the best path, since China is basically the next super power, policy makers should understand that countries like Taiwan are still very important diplomatic tools being used by the west to influence politics in Asia. This means that an anti Taiwan stand by Nigeria will surely attract some sort of reactions from the west.

Nigeria has its interests. which are paramount over anything else. There is no benefit whatsoever from Taiwan to Nigeria. Nigeria is too big to depend on the crumbs Taiwan doles to countries who recognise its legitimacy.

IbeOkehie:
Seriously...despite all the colonization, racism and what not, Black Africans could do better IF THEY HAVE THE ABILITY to do better.

It's not the White Man holding us back. Deep down I think you know it. Don't ruin or damage your life with hope of an African Renaissance. It won't happen. Marry a nice Japanese girl and be done with it. And the Chinese are worse than the White Man. A thousand times worse. You've been warned. Good Luck to Nigerians.

In relation to black Africans? No. The majority of Nigerians and other Africans enjoy certain technologies and infrastructure as a result of the decision of the Chinese to spread them to Africa. The roads, telecommunications infrastructure, railways, airports, sea ports, factories, mining, heavy-duty equipment etc. Without the Chinese immense contributions and investments, Africa would have been much poorer than it is and MANY Africans would have been starved of ubiquitous technologies in other parts of the world.

No race or country is perfect, but the Chinese have been a hooge blessing to Africa(ns), nay black people, without the dehumanisation we received in the past 400+ years.

anonimi:
How and why is the Dominican Republic, which shares the same island with Haiti, so much different?

How and why did the Japanese turn out so well with American domination after WWII?。
When will we address our own shortcomings as blacks, in order to make meaningful progress

The United States massively helped Japan back to its feet by providing intellectual property, openness of the US market and favourable deals. As Japan grew tremendously as a result of its hard work where its firms challenged their American counterparts, the United States cut its wings with the Plaza Accord. It is that similar deal the Chinese have refused to sign. So, yes, the Japanese worked hard to be where they are today, but they had strong American assistance. Ditto for South Korea which had assistance from Japan, and China had investments from Japan and an open market to the US. Europe on its own had the Marshall Plan Act.

As for the Dominican Republic, as the other poster stated, the Portuguese/Spaniards were not as destructive as the French. See the miscegenation they did across South America compared to the One-Drop Rule Anglo-Americans did in the US. But generally, the French have been terribly bad towards black countries, and even other colonies. Haiti was forced to pay huge loans because it challenged French colonial powers. I cannot think of a prosperous country whose previous colonial masters were the French. It is that bad.

folake4u:
Amazing!

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this perspective, Ma'am. And it is so spot on.

Hats off for you.

Na wetin you like be that.

But yes, give it to Onegai. She is good at what she does.

But errm, Ifeoma should not expect fidelity at this point o. Rudeboy will still carry baddies. Testosterone is a hormone, not a mo.ron.

nedekid:
Meeenn, this psquare guys invested well when the going was good. To be able to run the current lifestyle no easy.
To take wife to US to drop engine with the current exchange rate na beans?

Yes. I strongly believe he and his brothers have American citizenship and investments in the US. I am curious, does the exchange rate affect some people who could do the same before it got so bad? As long as the world's reserve currency is the USD, it makes sense to own dollar-denominated investments.

Bluntemperor:
So, going to give birth in America by our Celebrities is now a major big deal?
At one time,it was Dubai they were flooding and now,they wan go America.
Anyway,na our Celebrities fake life be that!

At no point were Nigerian celebrities going to Dubai to give birth. For holidays? Yes. For birthdays? Yes. To born children? No.

Apart from skit makers, almost ALL notable Nigerian comedians had their children born in the US. Even Lasisi Elenu had his wife birth in the US.

See as the thread nack 18 pages.

I bet if na man create am, e for no pass 5 pages with the sole advice: get a chic outside. E reach woman turn, everybody don turn counsellor. Sha, for OP and those involved, heed to Onegai's advice. Exercise, eat well, smile always, play safe and be happy. Na one life you get o.

Onegai:
Hun. Check out adult stores in your location. Also, go and date. Date, not for remarriage, but for physical pleasure. Meet a man you like, make sure he's safe and discreet and take care of business. Have a guy for chatting and gisting, several guys even. Keep one for business.

Keep serious dating on the back burner for now. Keep them all from your kids. That's what men do in your situation and that is what you should do, too. Move on, m'dear. And here is the truly beautiful thing (forget, I've seen this happen too many times, I can bet crypto on it sef):

Once you're dating and moving on with your life, that your ex is suddenly going to want to come back, stylishly. Why? Because you're peaceful, relaxed and busy. You're not fighting him anymore, you're not bitter, you're not keeping the kids from him. You don't care if he's trying to annoy you or flaunt his new gf in your presence, he is no longer important. His Limerence and his Mid Life crisis is eventually slowing down. The brain fog in his head is clearing. You're looking good, smelling nice and he can see you through the eyes of other men, you look fu.ckable again. You're comfortable yet excitingly new.But please, don't take him back. Don't ever let him come back. If he was dumb enough to leave you, be smart enough to let him go. And if you think that I'm making this up, that nobody wants a single mum of 3: Nne, go and baff up, do makeup, wear one lovely dress that announces your singleness (you know what I'm taking about, you need heels too) and snap a good pic and upload it to Facebook. You're about to realise how many of your male uni and secondary school classmates always hoped for a chance with you. And they are usually an upgrade to your ex-man. Mature, rich guys (especially those in Abuja and Lagos) don't like small girls of 24 yrs, they're too young for them. All the big boys, bank MDs, Governonrs, Ministers and Oil big boys are carrying 35 years and older. Why? Because you're discreet (you have kids, so you're not fighting their wives and aren't planning on trapping them with babies), you're secure in your skin and you're eager for se.x (no need to pretend like you no like am or act like a virgin). Those 20 yr old babes are busy doing Snapchat with him, you, OTOH, have been trained via marriage: you know you will ask him if he has taking his BP meds and listen to him complain about his son's marriage and admire his grandkids. You'll even Like his wife's inspirational posts on IG and be respectful to her. You are not planning on destroying his life, so they are very safe with you. Na now your market go sell.

I have classmates that are 43, living in a nice flat in Chelsea (UK), being sponsored by people you read about in newspapers. The 25 yr old babes flaunting on IG are for immature Mid Life Crisis guys in their early 40s (who just started collecting N2m/month from an IOC), that want to feel young, all the girls can get is N400k and "thanks" from the serious big men. Start dressing up and spending 2 hours every weekend on the island, in strategic bars. Something go click. I am speaking from experience.Trust me!

OP,

Take this advice from Onegai. Any advice she dishes out is gold-plated, trust me. It is like McKinsey's consulting advice. It does not come every day. Who sees Onegai frequent Nairaland? Trust me OP, I no fit lie give you.

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That said, with this revelation, I hope everyone agrees that it is hard to find a financially comfortable man who practices strict monogamy aka does not cheat, especially as he ages. Whether home or abroad, it is HARD.

Good luck to women looking for a pin in a haystack.

IbeOkehie:
But Nigerians and their like CAN'T do better. They just cannot. The point is that NATURE is a free market that can't be overcome. Look around the world and show me any society with high HDI that is dominated by Nigerians and their relatives. In fact, I'm going to send you and that ragged refugee Anonimi to Haiti so you can work your Black Magic there. All that Japanese rice is giving you ideas. Please indulge with care before you do harakiri or whatever that ritual is called Good Luck to Nigerians.

France in cahoots with the US ruined that country. France itself does not have a good history or reputation with black dominated environments. Also, Haiti is in the Americas, aka the Monroe Doctrine. Thus limiting any trade, military or scientific collaboration I will want to have with the Chinese. Nearby Gabon the Chinese provide funds for its military, and the US suddenly invited the president for what-I-don't-know.

IbeOkehie:
Keep your Japanese wayo sense. Dangote, Don Jazzy and Elumelu didn't run away to Japan to get where they are.

Oga stop all this your crazy talk. You've been eating too much Japanese rice 🙄 Go home to Nigeria and enjoy life. If you're broke I can send you ticket.
Nigeria.

Living in one's dominant environment is good as the feeling is priceless. It is the very reason our men (myself inclusive) should do well to make home better. It is one feature I admire and envy about the Chinese - they made China work, and everyone is happy and proud of it, including their siblings and cousins elsewhere.

jayce232:
You really made a lot of sense in your thread. You sounded like a prophet who saw the future. As at when u created this thread, things weren't this bad. I know our leaders are corrupt, but u see this child birth of a thing, it is also a contributory factor to our hardship like u rightly said. Our population is growing too fast to be honest. When u want to raise the issue, most poor people will start attacking u because it is the only easy thing they can do.

Even though high birth rates is usually associated with poorer countries and the largely uneducated or poorly educated, in Nigeria's case, certain traditional norms perpetuate the narrative of having many children.

Anyway, across most African countries and indeed most parts of the world, childbearing is the major reason behind marriage.

4tomandchi:
So many have opted for Family Planning having more than one child with these current reality is madness.

Until Nigerian men are open to vasectomy and actually undergo the operation, I strongly doubt many have opted for family planning.

https://www.nairaland.com/6035550/nigerians-poverty-certain-acts-perpetuate

As I stated above four years ago, have fewer children. To dey born born no good.

The fewer, the better.

GloriousGbola:
There is a regulatory body and that daycare is definitely in trouble. Lagos is a lot of things but you do not want to come to its attention in matters like this

Lagos dey try for some of these things. Other states ought to follow, but I think these "new" developments come after economic development and demographic cosmopolitaness. For instance, Ogun and Oyo aren't like Lagos.

michlins:
until the daycare standards rise, safeguard your own kids your own way. I know people who have no business going out daily but will dump kids at daycare with the excuse of leaving the stress. In my opinion,if you earn 150k monthly, you have no reason to leave your child at daycare especially for a state in Lagos where transportation will eat at least 40% of your salary.

Actually, as a result of this incident, the standard for opening a daycare in Lagos has increased. Bad things have to happen first before good things arrive. This incident will lead to improvements of standards. China today emits less because of the terrible smog its cities experienced in the 2000s.

As for the earnings aspect, you're technically right. Most parents especially working moms literally work to pay their children daycare whereas the money wouldn't have been spent if they stayed at home. Unfortunately, the labour market doesn't forgive a huge career gap. The solution is for policymakers to make it easy for working mothers interested to return to the labour market.

IbeOkehie:
It's still better than living in the UK!

Good Luck to Nigerians

🤣🤣🤣🤣

If I have my way, I want Tinubu to continue to whenever he decides to leave Aso Rock. If possible sef, Buhari should return.

The majority of Nigerians VIGOROUSLY campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015. Nobody should complain.

kingsways:
Too bad!!!

APC, Buhari & Tinubu have completely destroyed Nigeria's middle class.

The middle class (who could afford to buy brand new cars) that emerged under Obasanjo after the telecom revolution has been wiped off by these people. Suddenly middle-class Nigerians can no longer afford to travel by air. Suddenly mid-class Nigeria no longer afford to buy even Tokunbo cars,
the much mid-class Nigerians can do now is scramble for Nigeria used cars, what a shame

Abeg make I hear word.. The same middle class Nigerians vigorously campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015. So, why should they complain? They got what they wanted, and it's well deserved!

Tinubu must continue to 2031. Ordinarily, he would anyway as he will rather die than lose.