₦airaland Forum

Ebonyeyes:
Not limit your self to Nigerians, how about other Africans or yties?

My Mum insists i have to marry a Naija man, we had serious quarrels over these several times, should i disown my Mum and go ahead with my White friend ?

redsky1:
my dear not all our men with only a green passport see a potential wife as a way to get them out of the country - i think putting that in your mindset may help.

don't u have friends who can help with a introduction

The fact is that I dont have much Nigerians as friends, Most of my friends are Hispanic, Native americans et al, due to the nature of my job, i dont meet Nigerians

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=369924.msg5168889#msg5168889 date=1261520594]gestapo,
If u go back to naija, u will meet guys who will be desperate to marry u because they want to leave the country. lol

Your pastor's prophesy is correct, 2010 is your year to get a husband. a french husband  
for a correct naija husband and a good marriage, you have to wait till 2050 for that. srry[/quote]But are our Nigerian men these bad ?

Do you think i should cancel my trip to Nigeria then cos i was going solely for the purpose of getting a proper Nigerian man ?

Uche2nna:
Nope. U have had 6 relationships, so it is not as if U have problems attracting a dude.
The problem is that U have restricted urself. If U have to marry a Naija man and U are overseas, then be ready to exercise some patience. Or an alternative (which I actually favor), open up your possibilities. U cant live among midgets and insist on NOT marrying a dwarf.  

If Opening up possibilities is compromising my body to please a man, then ild rather die a spinster, I will get married in heaven.

adolfe bad:
Now i have all the physical and financial qualifications except a green card but i culd sweet talk you over that and~
supposing we got married and i used you to get a green card, i culd patiently endure you for say five years during which you won't get pregnant becuz i wuld always add a chemical to your drinking water at intervals but you'l neva find out then i wuld frustrate you and give you numerous reasons to get a divorce. Then i wuld be free to get myself a real wife not minding that i kind of ruined you~
now don't call me callous but do you know why i wuld do all that?

I think this is a true reflection of an average naija man, they just want to use us as passport materials

FL Gators:
They're there. Its just that the population is small.

Giving them the right to act shi.t.ty because they think they're all naija womenz got.

While you're looking or when you find one, dont make it obvious that you want to get married.

Thank you my sister, I live in Washington, Naija men here are whacked, I guess youre in FL

FL Gators:
Same here, but I dnt see it happening

Am I finding it hard to get a man because im in the wrong country ?

If i had stayed back in Nigeria 18 years ago would i have been married with kids now ?

Im so Confused.

Uche2nna:
With the kind of way and manner u have gone about this man issue, I dont think U have the luxury to decline help. U need to open urself to all possibilities , including blind dates set up by relatives and well-wishers  
Besides, U are going to Naija for only three weeks after a long absence; what are the odds of landing urself a dude in that time frame without outside help?  

I will not just give in to just anything in trousers because of parental pressures, i still have my criteria and im very picky when it comes to men.

amhurting:
long story.
summary: the relationship is over. he ended it.

He ended it ?

I have had 6 relationships and i have not given in to sex, the last guy is a Frencg guy, he is still the most adorable man i have ever found, no pressures for sex and all that, but my Mum says i have to marry a Naija man.  

The Sly:
What fruit?
Oh. . . .I see the reason behind your 'predicament' now.
Good luck with you and em fruit.

I will not compromise my stand, Ill rather die than have a man who is not married to me violate my body, My body is God's temple.

The way that seems right unto man, the end thereof is destruction.

adolfe bad:
Gestapo will you marry me?

How old are you ? Whats your height, and your Body Structure ?

How much do you earn,  and whats your source of Income ? what are your qualifications ?

Do you have a Green card or Red Passport ?

amhurting:
^^^^

Amen. A good man will come our way.

Amen, Up till this day, I have not had sexual intercourse with any man in my life, I want my husband to be the first partaker of the fruit. thats why i said I have waited this long.

amhurting:
husband will come, dont worry. do not appear too desperate.

just be on the look out for many ''married bachelors''.

they have wife(s) with kids in other countries yet they are claiming to be single or to have had the pregnancies pinned on them wrongly

Thank you my Sister, I know our husbands will come at the right time, I am so prepared and ready for him, I dont want a married man, I have waited this much to settle for less.

I know there a lot of single women like me out there pretending like all is ok despite the fact that biological clock is ticking, I pray God gives us our heart desires.

mystics:
I understand how you feel gestapo, truth is, when you want something and its not coming thru, tendecies for desperation can show up, most single women who are ready for marriage yet unmarried feel exactly the way you feel with plenty pretending. Am not a woman though i have a lot of women around me so i know exactly wat am saying. If you say 2010 is your year, surely its yours. Believe it and see it come to pass. Give thanks to God for your husband. I am a living testimony of God's awesome work, that is why i call him Jehovah Sharp Sharp. 2010 is indeed your year. Just work on your self and like someone earlier said, be prepared mentally.

Just got back from a cold day at work to read this has made my day, God Bless you.

Gabry:
Hmmm. . . My brother's fiance told me that she and my brother plans to get married on the 10.10.2010 and wanted me to organize their wedding weremony! WOOPEE!

Wao, this is another inspiration from God, My wedding date shall be 10 / 10/ 2010. God will perfect everything that concerns me.

FL Gators:
2010 is not my year of marriage. Still young and ripe. hahahha

My Sister, if you meet any correct suitor now level headed and upstanding and is ready to settle down, GET MARRIED immediately, life it too short.

chiogo:
LOL Not choosing for you. I don't advocate for that at all. Just like, telling you places where you can look and letting you make your own choices from those.

Anyway, it's hard being a woman and all. Even if you find someone you like, would you go ahead and ask him out? Naija guys like to do the chasing, or so I think.

My Mum aint gonna allow me go out alone cos shes this kinda pesky kinda Mum, she thinks im not ripe to be left alone to move around in Naija im 30 for Jeez's sake DUH !!!

chiogo:
Sorry oo, I have no idea. Don't you have relatives or friends back home? They should be able to help you.

Wao, hell no, dont want any relative choosing my own man for me, all my friends are married, ill try to hook up with 1 or 2 though

chiogo:
Then why not go home and search for one like somebody suggested?

Thats a good idea, ill be going to Naija this xmas for 3 weeks, uve not been home in 18 years and I dont even have an inclination of where i'd begin to search for a good man in Nigeria, any idea ?

chiogo:
loooooooooooooooool

She's specifically looking for a Nigerian guy abroad.

Im not fussy about the location of a good man, all i know is there are more responsible men back home than here.

Seriously, why don't you think of coming back home, and seeing if you can get someone here? I have a friend who did it that way and she's happily "hooked" now. But you still have to be very careful though. Some nigerians here are no less determined to get a green card that the ones you were talking about. Wish you luck.

madlady:
Me also.

Are you located in England ?

Are you married ?

adolfe bad:
Which wuld you rather i did?

Im losing you.

Honestly i like been realistic. When u set too high a standard, all u get is disappointment at the end of it all. Remember no one can ever have all the characteristics we desire.

What I want is a GROWN UP man.

mohawkchic:
~If you have so much "faith" in your pastor's revelation,why dont you use that same Faith to belive when the time is Right,The man that is destined to be yours will "walk into your life"!

~I dont employ Single women to get to that stage of desperation when it comes to a commitment as marriage! Desperation sets you up for a marriage that will be doomed b/c you wanted it for all the wrong reasons!

~Any man who knows how desperate you are will pull wool over your eyes in thinking"This Is It" only for a couple of months into the marriage when the shite gets warmed over & you realise it's not all cut out to be what it was suppose to be!! Then you'll wish you had your "Single &  Independent Life" & didnt envy what you think your friends have!!

~I'm not assuming it will be this way for any Individual Single chic out there,but God knows i personally know of enuff cases that are regretting their choices!! Carrying a "Desperate-to-get-married" tag on thier forehead didnt bear good fruit!! Shot-gun wedding,2/3 babies down the road later,(if it gets to that stage) you'd be beating yourself up over the choices you made!!

~Do some "Soul-searching". . .You know You best -know what you can tolerate. . . aware of your flaws. . .if there's a one thing about your personality that have been mentioned by several Exes or mates-who-tell-it-like-it-is,try & work on those things. . Change You for You,dont let someone less deserving change/scar You then leave you broken . . .there's bound to be a man out there who shares your Morals,whose strength will match your weakness . . . you prolly not looking in the right places!

God bless you.

I am not desperate to get married, i am simple stating what i want, and cutting out the BS.

Pataki:
@ Poster,

Age 30 seriously? What were you doing all these years that you allowed time to pass you by? Anyway, it is never too late. But like seriously. . . . . . . slow down with the aggression.

Your posts comes across as being overly desperate to get married; and nothing wrong with the criterias you want in your man, but a lasting relationship goes deeper than all what you have typed out here as requirements you want in your man.

All the best.

My Mum constantly gives me pressures, all my friends are married and dont want to be friends with a single lady because their husbands dont want them to have single friends, too many complications, I have dated quite a few number of guys and i have always broken the relationships up, i am not ugly ugly hide my face ugly and i know what i want in my man.

debosky:
Yeah right. . . from the few encounters I've had with you on NL, you're quite abusive and use insulting language when you feel upset. Again, accept it as a friendly warning.  All I'm saying here is what I've seen from you.

Debosky, please i dont know you, all im doing here is binding the devil so i can get a man of my own.  

madlady:
What about the church, I am not being funny. I  know some really great women who have found husbands amongst fellow church members.

Even in church these days, its hard to find a good christian brother, respectable, has a job, speaks good English, has a sense of humor, GROWN UP, its hard my sister.

debosky:
If you don't learn to control that tongue of yours you'll be the one preventing men from approaching you not any Devil.

Hello. . . . Im not rude and i respect people a lot, i dont talk harshly either, all i know is the devil is a liar.

madlady:
I have heard that the US is a very hard place to find said, even the wht pples say this.Maybe you would be best to go home on an extended visit.


You still have time on your side, and you look very young.

I mean, where are they? Where are the Nigerian men around here who are into the same things that I am? (reading, listening to music that isn't necessarily hip-hop related, watching regular shows on TV, living quietly), where are these men (whom my mom says are in abundance over here)

madlady:
Do you live in Germany? Just wondering.

You are young and beautiful maybe you need to widen your search, would you consider any other nationality.

Anyway, I'm 30, I live in the States now (I've lived here for 18 years), but I grew up in Lagos. I went to school up there and everything. Now why is it so hard to meet a freaking Nigerian man up here? One that has a sense of humor, speaks good English, and is not looking to get a 'green-card'? (I apologize if I'm offending anyone, I'm just a tad POed). Everytime I call my mom, I have to hear about some other friend of mine who has just tied the knot. She's constantly getting on me because my boyfriend now is white. (Ok, that fact is NOT open for discussion).