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ada24:
double yawn,

yes i am indeed a double plonker.

YAWN,

Mz hyprocrite who can't see the wood for the trees

ada24:
YAWN

yeah, and you had to come back to yawn, indeed


wharreva plonker

ada24:
cyber stalking at its best - my friend if u feel that i am lying about spending the majority of my life in the Uk does that stop u eating breakfast in the morning - yes i will respond cos i don't get your point - there has been 32 pages on this topic and your coming on here to attack me cos u think i want t belong or pretend that I like in the UK. What the hell is so special about this country - yeah its home to me but it aint all that, just like nigeria aint all that.

u now want to pick up on a tecnicallity of interest on a credit balance that is finance 101. i think buzz was talking about tax deducted on gross credit interest (gosh must everything be broken down for petes sake).

honestly u must be one of those people that was attacking me from when i was asking about the travelling question months ago and here u are still getting annoyed with me about a 4 month old topic - let me be a JJC to the UK if that is what makes u sleep better at night, I mean the fact that u don't believe me does not affect my life at all so keep thinking I am lying and even if I am, so?

If u want keep throwing insults at me I can clearly see u have something against me, there are many people on here that pass comments that I don't agree with but I live and let live not everyone will be my cup of tea or have the same mindset as me.

see what insomnia is causing me. KMT

You think you are smart and want to narrow this down to i attacked you on finance 101 technicality, how about me telling you to zip it and stop your sly comments and digs and harping on why the thread keeps going on You don't take online serious huh yet you got your knickers in a twist hyprocrite. Again what does gross credit interest which is what the bank pays a customer have to do with tax that Buzugee mentioned Mrs i must belong by force



My friend nobody attacked you as you have beenn claiming, some people posted that you should stop lying whilst some just read the thread to observe, abi your brain is too thick to realise that it is not everyone that posts on threads hence you see statistics like 56 posts/1345 views, abeg waka pass from my front mrs hyporocrite You wan claim say na comment you dey pass yet you keep coming back to call people bitter haters, mschewwww

OMO IBO:
Sarah's response was over the top. Plus, putting London and Ikeja in the same sentence doesn't quit cut it. One is a city while the other is a cranie(sic) in a city. Not logical but we get the gist sha.

She has a right to be pissed off, that is one of the most immature and brainless  thing to say to someone, falling out with someone and then boasting he has f/u/c/k/e/d his wife, childish and petty, dbang needs to go for psychiatry evaluation, all those years of smoking wraps of weed and downing hennessy in london must have addled his brain


And she was prolly referring to those ashewo girls that line the street of ikeja

sameolg616:
with his new size,lets see how he wld break out of kirikiri prisons,

buahahahaha

emmatok:
Even when you find your soul mate, maintaining a relationship takes time, patience and commitment. In reality, the notion of finding one‘s true love, along with other legends surrounding love and relationships, can be tricky, especially if you don‘t distinguish fact from fiction. To help you do just that, here is clarification on 10 commonly held misconceptions about love, marriage and relationships.


Myth No. 1: Every person has one true love or ”soul mate”


Truth: A person can have more than one soul mate.


The possibility that there are several potential suitable mates for each of us diminishes the romanticism of finding that perfect Mr. or Ms. Right. And that may be why many people hold firm to the belief that there is one true love out there for them, somewhere.


”It‘s possible to have more than one soul mate,” says Audrey B. Chapman, a Washington D.C.-based relationship expert and author of Getting Good Loving (Agate, 2004). ”You can have different soul mates in order to have different experiences and at different levels into your life.”


Myth No. 2: Your ideal mate is someone with a personality similar to your.


Truth: While it‘s helpful to have a lot in common with your significant other, maintaining one‘s individuality is important.


“There are differences even in people who are similar,” says Dr. Bronwen Millet, a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Washington, D.C. ”You (can) create whatever type of relationship you want by working together with your significant other. What I‘ve seen in practice is that couples (who are) committed, willing and able to step out to do the work have healthier relationships , Saying that there are too many differences for the relationship to work is an easy way out.”


Myth No. 3: Love conquers all in a marriage and relationship


Truth: The concept that ‘love conquers all‘ sounds good in love songs, but you need more than love to sustain a long-term relationship or marriage. The truth is, love is only a starting point , To survive, it needs to be tempered by tolerance, tenacity, humour and humility.


Relationship experts agree that there should be other variables in place to help nurture a healthy relationship. According to Dr. Millet, couples who share common values and maintain a high level of commitment are more successful at making their relationship work. In addition, each person in the relationship has to learn to apply coping skills. These include developing problem-solving abilities, learning how to listen and communicate effectively with regard to your mate, handling anger and stress in a positive manner, and applying patience when needed.


Myth No. 4: Each person gives 50-50 in the relationship


Truth: While most of us are taught that we must give equally in a marriage, it rarely happens.


”Someone can give 30-70 or 60-40,” says Chapman. ”What matters most is to ensure that the person who is giving 60 percent isn‘t resentful of the person who is giving 40 percent.” This especially holds true in today‘s society, where traditional male and female roles have become debunked. Some women have assumed the role of the breadwinner, or earn just as much money (or more) than their partner. In addition, men have become more versatile in their roles regarding children and domestic responsibilities.


Myth No. 5: I can change my mate over time


Truth: What you marry is usually what you get.


Too often, people embark upon a relationship or marriage with the expectation of changing their partner into the ideal person they want. ”To try to change a person is a setup (for a letdown),” according to Dr. Millet. ”In order to change someone, you have to rework that person, starting from their childhood.” Her advice is to get to know the person you are involved with and be able to understand and accept him or her for who he or she is before you commit.


Myth No.6: Getting married is a cure for promiscuity


Truth: Marriage won‘t ensure monogamy.


Experts agree that a person who is promiscuous probably has other issues that he or she is trying to avoid and will inevitable bring into the marriage.


”You take you with you everywhere you go,” says Dr. Millet. ”Whether it is sex, drugs, whatever - these are all distractions that have to be addressed before marriage. You can‘t run from yourself.”


Myth No. 7: After a breakup, the best way to recover is with a new relationship


Truth: Jumping into a new relationship after you have just ended one is usually a recipe for failure. Time spent solo after a relationship or marriage ends (in addition to counselling for some) is necessary to heal a broken or bruised heart. Entering into a new relationship too soon might not give you a chance to work through all of your issues. To be happy in a relationship, you must first be happy with yourself.


Myth No. 8: My true soul mate will never cheat on me


Truth: Your partner may still cheat on you, even if he or she cares about you.


According to the experts, it‘s the quality of a relationship that will usually dictate whether or not a person cheats. People cheat because there is something missing from the relationship, or because there‘s something missing from the individual who is doing the cheating. Usually, the person going outside of the relationship feels the need to be confirmed by someone other than his or her spouse.


Myth No. 9: You can never date your best friend‘s ex


Truth: It depends on the circumstances.


Both Dr. Millet and Chapman say that you can date your best friend‘s ex, if the situation is right. ”If you are dating your friend‘s ex two days after they‘ve broken up, that‘s a problem,” says Chapman. If, however, you start to become interested in someone whom your friend dated while you were both in high school or college and you all are adults now, that‘s acceptable and also less likely to seem like a betrayal to your friend. It‘s also important to communicate and to set boundaries, which will determine what is acceptable in the relationship, according to Dr. Millet.


Myth No. 10: All men cheat , eventually


Truth: There are still some good men out there who don‘t cheat.


While a larger percentage of men than women do cheat, according to relationship experts, not all have - or will. The truth is that, with the latest technology (cell phones, e-mail, Blackberries), it is easier to cheat on your spouse. Now for the twist: [size=14pt]The number of women cheating has increased - as many as 40 per cent of women (up from 20 per cent) have had affairs. ”Today, more women are cheating than did during their mothers‘ and grandmothers‘ generations,” says Chapman. ”And women are better at it,” she adds[/size].


Whether you have already found your soul mate, or are still looking for that special individual, know that any worthwhile relationship requires mutual commitment, as well as respect and communication. And that‘s the truth!

http://www.thirdage.com/marriage/10-relationship-myths-and-the-truth-about-soul-mates?page=0,3#ixzz15SSedBZm

great news

good news

music tomy soul

Sex on tap and to get down on it

Dammit guys, she is a lady, take a chill pill or berra still ram it up where the sun don't shine, haba,kilode

Oh my my my, Don't you just love the serious black interior of the Nissan Maxima, the aesthetics alone will make me o/r/g/a/s/m and cream over it


Ode to this Nissan Maxima


I hear you calling, here I come baby to save you
Baby no more stalling, these hands have been longing to touch you, babe

Bridge
And now that you come around to see it my way
you won't regret it baby and you surely won't forget it baby
it's unbelievable how your body's calling for me, (shhhh)
I can just hear it calling, calling me

Chorus:
My body's(body) calling (babe)for you( I can hear it calling babe)X4

Tell me,
what's your desire? Baby your wish is my will oh yes it is,
let me take you higher and show you how you should feel baby

Bridge
So speak now or forever hold your body
Whatever it is you want from me (Lady)
You see you don't have to say nothing
Knowing your body wants something
And its easy for me to see
that your body is calling me

Chorus

Spoken-
I'm listening baby
I hear you calling me (Repeat 4)

Hear your body calling me

Repeat Chorus (Till fade)




Chei na moto dey make me wax lyrical like so

All this ^%&|*% for a vessel that just sailed, waste of Nairaland's bandwidth

ada24:
YAWN,

having realised the mentality of people like you my blood pressure is fine thanks,

plucking "credit balance", trying to convince people i am in the UK, oh gosh i would laugh if it wasn't so ridiculous. just to belong to what? the internet? nairaland? wow!!!!!!!!!

buzz apologies i mis read what u wrote - i thought u were referring to savings interest (most banks don't pay interest on current account balances anymore).

why u guys are arguing or exchanging views (bordering on insults) is beyond me - can't people agree to disagree?

You are still being ridiculous and this shows you know nada, see yourself again, interest paid on current account is a plus and what Buzugee was talking about was money being deducted, not added on, so  why did you feel the need to bring interest paid on current account into the mix, IF NOT AGAIN FOR THE FACT THAT YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO LET PEOPLE  ASSUME YOU KNOW SOMETHING when you know jackshit, Mrs JJC to the UK who is always putting her foot in her mouth just cos she wants to claim she has spent 28 years in UK  

If you don't feel the need to belong as this is the internet, you are best not replying me otherwise it means you are a hyprocrite and what is online affects you. And get off your high horses about people insulting, didn't you call those who didn't agree with your own views too haters, mschewwww

Sagamite:
Apparently a post NYSC doctor in Nigeria earns about N90K a month (maybe N106K at federal).

In UK, a trainee doctor makes circa N693K a month.

In South Korea, it is circa N600K a month.

Going by your " logic";

The post NYSC Doctor pays N15k per month rent on a 1-bed apt in an average area

The UK trainee Doctor pays N15k per month rent ona 1-bed apt in an average area

Well, dunno about .Korea, but i guess the Doctor's rent too is N15k per month, WHY NOT

[quote author=Wily+Wily link=topic=554408.msg7190587#msg7190587 date=1290380519]Yoruba people na wah for una, gbomogbo people .[/quote]Shut the hell up bozo, news like these are viewed by the outside world as a Nigerian crime, not from the western part or however you wanna sugarcoat it, dundee united

Fools rush in where Angels fear to tread

Mai Suya:
It [i]is [/i]insanity--could be deemed a reversal of Oedipus complex, i.e the unnatural love of a boy for his mother.

Yeah lets blame the boy for it **rolls eyes** Odensin buruku

They grow out of these things though,so no biggie

Should you even slap her before she got married Wharra question

^^^

Don't mind her, she must have plucked out the term " credit balance" out of the air just to belong, and if people start actually questioning whether she is truly in the UK, she'll start splitting fearthers

ada24:
wow this topic is still going strong?

looks like 4 people have decided to take over the thread. Buzz by the way interest on any credit balance one has is the bank is not taxed at 50%, last time i checked it was 20 and 40% depending on if your a higher or basic rate tax payer, just thought I would clarify. (in the UK not sure of other countries)

employed people do pay tax in Nigeria and i think its 5% for corpers and 20-25% for regular workers. to set up a biz in Nigeria u do have to pay to get registered and some sort of tax is paid not sure if that is upfront or continuous.

I don't know why people on both sides are still fighting - if u regret moving then say yes if u don't then that is equally ok, not everyone wants to live in a highly taxed and organised society and equally not everyone wants to live in the survival of the fittest structure, who are we to judge.

Ada dearest, a thread is opened for discussion purposes and is usually allowed to run to 100 pages before it gets closed, but the rules have been relaxed now so berra go find another thread to chill in before this one gets your high blood presssure soaring

too small d.c.i.k

what a dissappointment

99% thats just your thought dearie so
you are on your own mate

mauricemoh: Whatever the issues are talk each one through to a solution. Do not leave anything unresolved. This may mean you have to have more than one session with each other. Do not get too busy for these sessions, make appointments if you need to and stick to them. Anything that gets left behind will just fester like a splinter in your finger and pretty soon the infection will spread to the bloodstream of the relationship and your relationship will die from sepsis.

GBAM.
[s]
Even his Mum noticed his attitude of sweeping things under the carpet and never willing to want to discuss things but rather attributing it to "its in the past" mschewww [/s]

Ma pickin

Thread bookmarked

Bunch of adodis/gays Not homophobic

calculusx:
@ george, what kind of order do we call that one? After making payment, delivered and they come back and pick it again. A honest dealer will always be honest and a fraudulent one will always be except if he have a change of heart. Lots of people are enjoying the pre-ordering their cars and they can testify to it. Pre-ordering could be cheaper or expensive depending on one's budget. As a Yoruba adage says, bi owo ti mo ni ogun n mo, meaning cut your coat as your cloth. Happy Weekend

Akiika see translation o correct translation is= like money is clean/knows/limitation is medicine/war/inheritance clean/knows/limitation
Okay, i'm out

REALITY101:
See how frustrated you sound just to make a point yet you still sound so daft.

Hold up, weren't you the so called dude claiming to be a Doctor how come your English is not up to scratch too Na okrika you get your certificate to practise from? anum pam
It is you and your entire lineage and those unborn that is daft, shege banza

Vicjustice:
Reputation? What has my doubts got to do with reputation? [size=14pt]If my reputation is determined by accepting or doubting a tale like such, i better be without.[/size]

Ouch, ouch and ouch, what a classic put down I love this vicjustice



[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=545787.msg7084668#msg7084668 date=1288965055]butt kisser.

werent you the fellow opening threads abusing your female relatives the other day.

your story there wasnt fake abi?

but now you want to bust a vein over another person's wahala.


gosh, it does suck to be from the same country as many of you wimps.

you're the same ones giving nigeria a bad name.[/quote]That wasn't a story,but his own opinion

efoghorjos:
Divorce is one big problem that has bedeviled the institution of marriage that needs to be prevented by all means if God’s plan for the family is to be realized. It has to be fought with every available weapon because of the negative effects it has on the children and society.

Preventing divorce means giving the marriage institution more hope. It gives the children and their parents the opportunity to live together as one united body for life. It also saves society from those problems created by children from broken homes.

How can it be done?
You need to establish certain principles that should govern your marriage right from inception. Once these principles are established, the stakeholders must be willing to abide by them.

1. God’s leadership: You need to define the leader of the family. God should be established as the head of the relationship; the spouses must be ready to obey his leadership and live according to his principles. When this is done, divorce would successfully be prevented.

2. God’s word: You also need to establish the word of God as your guide. Working according to and living by the word of God makes it easier to know what is required of you; it also lets you know God’s position on divorce.

3. Truthfulness: One other thing that would help you prevent divorce is truthfulness and transparency. When you are honest to your spouse, he/she learns to trust you. Your spouse gets to understand that whatever you tell him/her is correct. This helps to keep the relationship intact and stronger.

4. Define your roles: Each person’s role should be clearly defined from the outset. This helps to prevent constant friction or disagreements. The lesser the frictions the lesser the threat or possibility of separation.

5. Mutual respect: The marriage should be founded on the principle of mutual respect for each other. Each partner should make sure the rights of the next person are not intentionally violated. This also helps to reduce the incidence of grumbling/complaints.

6. Communication: The line of communication must be kept open and each person should be accessible by the other. Communication makes it easier to know when one is hurt and what to do to pacify the offended person. It helps to prevent little things from escalating to major problems that would eventually threaten the relationship.

7. Likes and Dislikes: Individual likes and dislikes should be made known to each other right from the beginning; these must be respected by one another to prevent conflicts from breaking out from time to time.

8. Finance: How the family finance or budget is to be handled must also be spelt out from the beginning. Disagreements bordering on issues of finance can easily tear the family apart; so it must be avoided by respecting the financial agreement reached from the outset.


9. Children: The number of children to have must also be defined early enough. No partner would mount pressure when the number is reached, irrespective of the sexes of the children. This issue is easily handled if the couple decide from the beginning what they want, without anyone feeling cheated or robbed. The couple should be willing to accept whatever God gives out to them in good fate.

When decisions are collectively made and respected, the problem of divorce would be prevented right from the inception of the marriage. The couples would be able to live together peacefully and happily.

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Ha ha, nice writeup, this is a lot better than the other tripe you wrote that was unfairly scripted to favour the man

^^^
Nah, i meant buy at your own peril and discover the true meaning of the proverb - A fool and his money are soon parted