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ayettymama:
circumstance is important

what if your ambition was unrealistic??

any woman that has dated or fallen in love with a 'footballer' will feel me on this one

ambition is good---whether its realistic or attainable is another thing

 TRUE

i wouldn't do it. i know that people might do it to cut costs, but it's still better for the girl to have her own place.

no i won't, not for such a flimsy excuse.

it's not good for a woman to pay her bride price, if the guy cannot afford it she should ask her family to waive it but she shouldn't give the guy the money. i don't like this bride price thing, it's like selling your child. thankfully we don't have 'elders' in my family, everyone minds their nuclear family's business; so my parents would be the ones to decide.

none of these issues apply to me. in fact, i'm concerned that my need for personal space and independence is excessive. one problem i have though is i over-analyze things to death and it's bad for relationships.

i don't think a girl should ask her boyfriend for money. if the guy wants to give let him do so, but don't ask.

well behaved.

iice:
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For me, i'm lazy about hair. . .don't have energy for the everyday combing and styling _{Yea, i look like a mad person sometimes, i no send} It's either cutting the hair or braiding it or something for me. [/color]

i'm also lazy about hair, i cut my hair twice in the last 3 years because it was taking too much time to maintain.

i've been transitioning for just over a year, and i'm mostly natural now. i've trimmed 3ce and there's only a few inches of relaxed hair left. i really don't know what to do with short hair, so i wear braids all the time. it's not too good for my hairline, and it takes forever to get them done because my hair is too full.

@ OP,

E. the woman owns her body.

i don't think i can be in a casual relationship, at least not for long. i don't see any problem with a girl or guy wanting a casual relationship, as long as they would be straightforward about it and not string the other person along. i don't like the idea of casual sex however.

sure, as long as he is making enough to justify all the time spent at work

Frasier (season eight),
House.


i also love Hugh Laurie!

yes, thirteen is more attractive than cameron, but cameron was much more interesting than thirteen is. i miss cameron, hope she comes back to the series.

chocolate

the thought is irritating, but it can't be more unhygienic than kissing.

uc nduka:
Rubbish, so they can as well wear the same undies because the are 'doing  it' abi? @ poster, love does not undermine personal hygiene, so get her a bag full of toothbrushes.

i've actually heard of a couple sharing their underwear.

@ poster,

your pastor is married, that's wrong. you recently separated from your husband, why would you want to break up another family? just forget about him, there are many single men waiting to be loved.

Dyt:
I guess dis wz supposed 2 b a matured thing 4 matured minds,i can really c u r all dumb. U cant question love only if u v neva bn dere

what's dumb is wanting another woman's husband.

break off the engagement or at least put off all marriage plans for a while. it'll be easier for you to decide what you really want if you don't have an engagement ring on or your wedding looming. what do you really feel for your fiance? if you've fallen out of love with him, don't marry him. it might seem unfair to break up with him at this stage but it's even worse to marry him if you don't love him anymore. if you're in love with someone else you shouldnt be marrying this guy. maybe when you break off this engagement you and the guy at your office can decide what to do with the affair.

spend a lot of time with natural jokers, it'll rub off on you. tell her funny stories about your childhood. hear her funny stories and tease her about them. watch lots of nights of a 1000 laffs and tell her the jokes. notice odd things about people and joke about them to her. speak more pidgin; pidgin expressions are usually funnier.

some of us are naturally serious anyway so don't expect too much or try too hard. just try to have fun in the process, chances are you'll still end up making her laugh every now and then.

before i start to think of a guy as the love of my life we would have gotten very close, and the feeling would be mutual. if a guy leaves me at that stage for another woman, i would assume i am not what he wants. i would move on from that relationship, though it may take a while before i go into another. i dont believe in holding onto a guy who wants to be with someone else, i expect to be loved as much as i love.

doyin13:
There is so much hypocrisy going on here. . . . .

I doubt there is one lady that has posted here about
class reh reh reh who wouldn't jump at the chance
to be with Dbanj.

i wouldn't; his style is somewhat crass and that's not something i could live with.

the main reason girls run after d'banj is his money and fame. but Genny has her money and fame and shouldn't be impressed by his. if we put his celebrity status aside what's left is his personality, which clashes with hers.

Utali:
Story story, Story

If Genevieve could date Dbanj then she is no longer my idol
Tufiakwa!!

i feel the same way too. i like D'banj but he is quite loud and crude, whereas Genevieve has a refined demeanor.  if this story is true i hope they truly love each other, and that she'll polish him up a little.

i wouldn't advice you to get married on that salary, but it's only you and your fiancee that can tell really. it all depends on how much she earns, the life she is used to living, and whether or not she can adapt to living a 40k life. also, is that salary meeting all your needs presently or are you barely making ends meet. so gate-men and labourers raise kids on even less than 40k, is that the life you want for your children? unless your wife earns at least the same amount, it'll be best to shelve any child-bearing plans for a while. kids are quite expensive and it's not fair to bring kids into the world to suffer.

Intelligence
Confidence
Good looks
height
wealth
fashion
power

everything isn't spiritual. she should see a urologist, there are drugs that can help

yes, exercise is the cause of your increased appetite. exercise depletes your glycogen stores and when the glycogen in the liver falls below a certain level you feel hungry. you only need to be careful to eat healthy foods and not too much calories, but you shouldn't go for low calorie foods after serious exertion. if you don't eat enough and you are weight training you'll undermine your body-building efforts. weight training builds muscles which increases your basal metabolic rate, so even if you aren't exercising you burn more energy.

you really shouldn't be bothered if you're eating healthy, protein-rich foods after exercise. and about the calorie intake vs. calorie output, your exercise is only one part of your total energy expenditure so you need much more calories than you expend on your exercise. you can search online for a BMR calculator to give you an idea of how much you expend daily based on your activity level.

i'm also considering LASIK; i'm so dependent on my glasses and would really love to be rid of them. i know it's painless and all but i'm scared because i'd have to be awake during the procedure, and i'm very jumpy.


@ blackcypha,
i read that -15 or worse usually requires a lens replacement surgery, but not even everyone with better prescriptions are suitable candidates for LASIK. other issues such as the thickness of the cornea are very important, so you have to get a consultation to know for sure.

about your question from the other thread, i don't know which is better, USA or UK. but i should say that if you find a hospital that does this procedure in Nigeria you should talk to patients, and ask about their success rates and guarantee. sometimes there are over-corrections or under-corrections and other minor complications. in the US (and i think UK too) they would correct these problems free of charge. some in america even offer free lifetime touchups. plus, you can sue them if something goes wrong. they bear so much responsibility for the outcome once they accept you for the procedure. so if you decide to do it in nigeria you should be sure that you're getting very good guarantee and that they are willing to take responsibility for any complications that might arise.

no way! even though i wouldn't do it, i can understand cohabitation when it's just the boyfriend and girlfriend living in the house. but i can't understand how a girl would move into a house her boyfriend shares with friends/siblings, much less his parents' house. that feels way too cheap.

googles:
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am sure the babe will be doing some serious washing o
cater to the boy's family all round,cook,sweep
be kneeling up and down the compound to greet everybody, even the gateman
na wa o your friend go pick beans tire
shior   [/size]

you bet.

No i can't change my religion but i can switch to his church if i agree with their beliefs.

I don't think i can marry a jobless man, probably except if he loses his job very close to the wedding. i won't put wedding preparations on hold but i would seriously encourage and help him to find a new job. this doesn't mean i can't love a jobless man, i can. i just think there should be financial stability before we even start discussing marriage. i cannot break up with a guy just because he lost his job, or because he isn't rich (afterall i should have noticed that before i started dating him). what would make me break up with a jobless man is laziness, inability to keep jobs, or some other negative attitude that he refuses to seek help for.

4teelaw:
yes, i will marry him over and over again!!! if he has d right character, the right attitude towards life and has great ideas! if i am the one making the money, what happened to having a business together after marriage? abeg, as long as we love each other and mutually respect each other, and he does not see any problem with me making all the money, i dont mind.
i have a friend that her husband lost his job(dat makes him jobless abi?), he's up at 5am before her, arranges d kids for school, drops them off, comes home and arranges for their arrival, uses his spare time to job hunt and is the sweetest man ever, he eventually got a job, and is about to drop it cause the kids are suffering. (she's a banker). so whats wrong with that. they've finally agreed that a business for him to run will be the best decision to avail him time take care of the family cos she's d one with the better pay!

the major issue is male chauvinism, can he take up d role of a woman when he is jobless? or just be a plain bas, tard, like i said, the right attitude

they were already married, it'll be cruel to divorce a man just because he lost his job. besides the man was keeping busy and actively searching for a job; that's the good kind of jobless man. some jobless men wake up by 11a.m., and all they do is eat, read newspapers and watch tv.

Wrex:
What kind of lady who ever think of marrying tubaba after all his attricities,i doubt if some ladies use up to ten percent of there brain

you'd be surprised how many ladies run after these musicians even when they are known to be players. 2face is a saint compared to some of our politicians, yet girls are still running after them with their pot bellies. abeg leave 2face, many guys here on NL have impregnated women as many times as 2face has. difference is they make the women abort while 2face decided to have the babies.

ovo4u:
Oh my God, does this mean that Tu Face doesn't like Condom?

most likely, not just him, a good percentage of nigerian guys dont.

mafioso2:
You know there is alittle difference between the yoruba culture and Binis, BUT OUR MARKS NO WOWO LIKE THE ONES WEY I SEE NOW SHA, LOL

i didn't even know that Binis have tribal marks. i unconsciously touched my cheeks upon reading your post  

THE AMAKA:
[color=#ff00cc]lol i don't have any. not too deep about the igbo culture, but do igbos even have tribal marks?
THANK GOD i don't have any though, wouldn't want those. [/color]  

yes, some igbos do. but they are usually small, vertical, barely visible marks.

adetoru:
If you're Paranoid about marriage remain single. Chikena!
Well said.

yes, well said.

pro01:
Sorry to disappoint you. I cant do without the delicious succulence of women (hmm, yum yum); only that i CANNOT COMMIT for reasons that are already well-known.

many men & women are coming to this conclusion nowadays, so you're not alone. just add oyinda's advice to go for a financially independent woman, and you're good to go.

kodewrita:
My own opinion:

I can't prevent it happening. (I'll simply treat her like a lady if that doesnt work then asta la vista baby).
I can't be everywhere and definitely cannot know where she is at any point in time or what she's doing so there's no point second guessing her.
If it doesnt work and there are no babies yet, then she goes her way.
If there are kids, we stay separate and I fix my will so she gets nada if i suddenly pafka/kaput.

I'll marry but apply the same principle to getting a wife that i apply to all other areas (Measure thrice, Cut Once).

very matured, i like this.