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Well to all men who can not say no to single ladies who are pretty and seductive.... Your daughters will be so pretty and Married men too will run after them and they too will be carried away and won't be able to say no..
Be that man you want your son to be, and be that man you want your daughter to marry. Same goes to the Ladies, be that woman you want your daughter to be and that lady you want your son to marry.. Chikena

@pickabeau1, same goes to your choice of username... My username does not affect my seeking for advise if you don't have any advise to offer please let me be. Some people sha....

Thanks greatgod2012, and everyone for your contributions. But really Men enjoy flirting in the office with ladies while the ladies don't mind what they are doing. I don't know why.... But it hurts... Wanna be happy.

He was so open before we got married, and even few months after.

@greatgod2012, its just that he is too secretive, and since he started putting codes on his phone i have lost a bit of trust in him. Because after our wedding we were been open, his phones were open and he jist me about his colleagues and all that. But Few months after he started looking his phones saying his phone is his privacy. I let it rest cos its always bringing up arguement

@ nairalandbuzz, u feel its ok for ur female colleagues to call you what your wife calls you at home? Just for them to get what they want as you say and with no emotional attachment

Thanks Miss Jenny, i haven't asked him and i am feeling down about it. And also thinking maybe i should stop calling him that anymore is he does not treasure it.

Please i need advise on this issue, is it right for a colleague to call your spouse that special name you call him. My sis-in-law over heard my hubby's conversation with his colleague, the lady was calling him baby which is what i do call him. Please how do you think i should handle this. Thank You

up... 2A, 2D, 2B

My hubby didn't take me for honey moon. He didn't have much then, so we didn't go any where.

jay bee: Very simple, you are the perfect customer that most sensible banks would want to do business with.
Get a loan to bridge the difference needed to start your business and pay it back once profit starts rolling in.
You can use the land as collateral.

Haba na.... advise him wisely. Loaning money from the bank will only cost him huge consequences. Its not advisable at all. As CC and Ray had stated start with a small biz and develop it with your profits. Good luck

debrief08: Jeezzzz, Nigerian women will kill themselves haba.
Its is not your job to "stop him from cheating", its his decision and his responsibility not to.
Do yours and let him keep his, he is an adult and its him who will decide if he is responsible enough to be faithful.
Don't you carry enough already? Nigerian woman only you cook, clean, baff and change baby, he does nothing just watches TV and drinks beer, you are worn out from doing it all yet you still want to carry on his own job on your head, in addition to running around chasing his girlfriends away.
Kai, well done

abi oh.... Some women are real super woman oh....
A man that wants to cheat will cheat, no matter what.

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Op why are you guys so interested in why they are sex starved? Really forget the born again people, what about those that get quality sex and styles from their wife's and they still go about chasing girls in skirts. And what about the Monikas that can't allow married men be. Always chasing after them likes Bees. Remember Karma is sure a bitch, You can never run away from it at all. If you can't pity yourself at least pity your generation. Don't transfer curses to your children. Hmmm, i tire for some people sef. Is it by force to get married if you know you can't stick with one person why did you marry na? You should have remained single and sleep with as many girls as you like.

Sorry can't help it

baby.me:
Thanks. I started seeing my period when my girl was 4 weeks I mean it's God and postinor 2 or i'll have been pregnant again now because my hubby. . .

missojugo: My Sister pls pls and pls you are not paranoid. You don't need Holy Spirit to slap you first before you send her packing! Please give her a full months pay and send her back to her parents tomorrow!!! Take your baby to a good Creche when you resume work I beg you. A word is enough for the wise. How can u ask someone whose own kids died mysteriously to help you take care of your child?? Its good to help others so give her a full months salary and pray for her. That's all

Pls pay her in full and tell her to leave tomorrow. Even if your hubby objects to it since he was the one that brought her. Make sure she leaves your home ASAP.

tspun: does ur wife help in paying the bride price. If u say yes that some wife help then i say yes some husband help in carryin the baby also.

shey dem force you pay for bride price ni? you for remain single na. As if no be your pickin ni. You want to kill the poor woman alone cos u paid for bride price. Mtsheeeeeeeew. Is that the sentiment now, cos you paid the bride price does not mean she is ur slave. Repent......

reinedamse: I'm getting married soon and i've engaged the services of a firm that specializes in helping people get house-helps. Of course i discussed it with my fiance and he has no problem with it.Though he initially suggested we get someone that's family from any of the families(mine or his)but i kicked against it cos i would love to avoid any family drama or anything that may bring tension in the family.
But the issue is this;i discussed it with my friends and they were all trying to discourage me.saying it's wrong for a newly wedded couple to have a maid or house-help.They said since i don't have kids yet and i'm not pregnant either,i should be able to do all the house chores myself.
while growing up and even as a spinster,i have this mindset of "why stress myself when i can get people to help me out and pay them off"?
i see ladies struggling to do all the houework themselves and run all d errands even with kids.some barely have time to sleep.the first thing that runs through my mind is "what are u trying to prove?That you are mrs macho or wat?"
I believe stress makes you grow older faster and at the end of the day you become less attractive to the man you are trying so hard to please with your machoism.
i'm not the lazy type and i can NEVER allow anybody to cook my husbands meals or wash his undies or clean our room.but apart from these,i believe i should be able to delegate simple chores and not kill myself by coming back late at night from work and instead of eating and spending good time communicating and making love to my hubby,the next thing i'm thinking of is how to wash this and tidy that.and i cannot spend weekends dat is meant for resting and socializing doing house chores.
Pls i need advice cos i don't want to start out on a wrong footing.i've never been a people pleaser.i av always done things my own way no matter wat anyone thinks but i understand dat in marriage,u can't always have your way.
So pls,abeg make una advice me.is it bad to have a maid or househelp at the early stages of marriage? and if it is wrong,why is it wrong?

Really i won't advise you get a maid early in your marriage, start your life alone with you spouse, there not much to do. You can get a washing machine to do the laundry, or every Saturdays get someone who will come clean the house for you except you bedroom. It was hard for me when i started to, but igot over it especially when i was pregnant, now i have my baby and still do everything at home. Working and being a wife and nursing mother is no beans at all. But to same unforeseen had i known. It ain't easy just try and do things well, no body can do it better than you if you really wanna do it. Good luck

Yes oh.... Its so wonderful to see the smile on their face when they see you.... They are the best companion ever. I Love my bobo.....

Decryptor: Why do i have this feeling that the OP is no other than Mrs. Chima?

Na wa for some people oh. Instead of advising you are exposing the identity of the poor Lady. Mtshewwwwwww

WHICH KIND ?/ BE THIS OH........

dimeji37: how polite or rude is extramarital affairs

alaoeri: 30kids & 4wives.

Habaaaaaaaa

emmydee: Simple bad manners not just "bad table manners". It makes u look foolish, uncultured, uncivilized & unfit to exist among normal human beings.

whatever, you don't know what you are missing. Try putting buttered bread in ur tea before eating then report to me how it tastes. For your tosh sake please do it when no one is watching

saintdeby: if u eating alone its okay, but eating wit someone its not gud

I also do it oh and i really enjoy soaking it in my tea. But when i am in a cafeteria i don't or when i am with visitors

Na wah oh..... Some people don't know that what they do affects their children and grandchildren and great grand children. Curse follow, disease follow and other iniquities.... Omasheeeee ohhhhhhh.

honeychild: meehn....this Dayo guy...are you for real? I think you are just taking such an extreme stand just to be argumentative. I would not want to believe any man can be as mean as you sound. I hope, for the sake of the woman in your life, that you are many, many, many years away from marriage !

I tell you most men do this and they don't care how their wives survive..... They sit in their cars comfortably while their wife bike okada to creche with their 4mth old baby. just because he does not want to hump bus, or beat traffic or cos he comes late from work...

[quote author=honeychild]meehn....this Dayo guy...are you for real? I think you are just taking such an extreme stand just to be argumentative. I would not want to believe any man can be as mean as you sound. I hope, for the sake of the woman in your life, that you are many, many, many years away from marriage ![/quo
I tell you most men do this and they don't care how their wives survive..... They sit in their cars comfortably while their wife bike okada to creche with their 4mth old baby. just because he does not want to hump bus, or beat traffic or cos he comes late from work...

Ujujoan: This is a marriage, the question of who bought it should not even come into play.
Okay if oga wants to be driving the car he might as well go for the school runs na . . .
How can a man be comfortable seeing his kids on bike when he has a Car . . . just because he 'bought it'

thank you jare..... Some men are just not considerate at all. Just because he bought the car so he should be the one using it. Thats why they don"t know the worth of sacrifice and the worth of family..... I just dey lafffffff

dayokanu: You are wrong.

A family that lives in Abule Egba the man works in VI, the woman works around the area and the kids daycare is around. Who should be driving the car?

What law says a man has to help his inlaws? A man who is truggling to make ends meet whose wife is still trekking but na to help inlwas be the priority?

A man only has obligation to himself and his immediate family, Helping inlaws is tertiary

I tire for some people sha

You just said no laws for helping inlaws... But they go about spending all the have on their own extended families right. A man that lives around anthony axis and works on the island and the wife works at ketu. its not punishment abi. well i just tire for some men sha...

gbengaola: some men will not want their wives to work because of the fear that she might be taken away from them by her boss or colleagues,and ordinary monthly upkeep they wont also want to pay all in the name of they are responsible to the children,remember if u dont take care of your wife and she becomes ugly,she remains your property,some men could be so wicked,why on earth will u not give money to your wife?(if u dont have it,what of that ridiculous step of that man not giving money to his own in-law just for transport,obviously the man is heartless and not normal).In fact,some animals in human skin are in the institution called marriage,is marriage not supposed to be like heaven on earth?she is lazy,accepted but love her with that cos it is now your cross.I want to believe she needs his consent to search and get a job,or his connection(is this too much from husband to his wife)

NOW MY ADVICE: let her remind the so called husband of the monthly upkeep,if he refuses,let her tell him to not disturb her from getting a job,if he refuses,then at this stage,i dont think it will be wrong to call upon external bodies,the man needs a iron hand,let her inform her parents and his parents to come and judge the situation.

Well some men are just too self centered to help their wife's in any way. I have a friend whose husband has connections and her job is not paying her well and its also stressful but the man won't help her in getting a better job. How do u see that kind of man? A man who goes to work comfortable in his ride and allow his wife and kid trek and jump bike to get to daycare and work cos he says his work is tedious not minding the stress the woman is going through. A man that does not help his In laws but take care of his own family, a man who does not ask or discuss future plans with his wife. A man who is Selfish, selfish and selfish I need to be corrected if i am wrong please

tellwisdom: Next of kin being the wife??---GOD FORBID ...It has to be my mama or my papa

If you are married it should be your wife or kids and not your parents. cos no parents wants their children to die before them, it should be someone who will inherit or stand on ur before when u are no more...

I really enjoy ur comments in this family section Debrief08, you sure make a whole lot of sense. Married men use the excuse that they were lured and tempted.They can't use their brains instead they make use of their below without weighing the consequences of their actions.