No wahala. Me sef dey joke

highchief1:
lol was joking though.feeding no be our problem again.

Is nor by title. You are high chief, hes a billionaire onye ji cash. Chopping and spending the money. Maka why o ji cash

highchief1:
how does he feed 7 kids.I have 3 and I’m bleeding.

His wife is fit too

IyaebeTheGreat:
Billionaire without potbelly , very fit and can still handle a 20yr old lady very well but see all this chewing gum boys that call themselves young men of this generation are already carrying potbelly everywhere, some can't even see their dick again. They depend on all sort of useless drugs to satisfy their women, some left to the great beyond as a result of that. Make healthy lifestyle your priority while you make money and stop carrying belly meant for pregnant women everywhere. I've said my own .

And here's the empathy we were anticipating all along.....

MrBrownJay1:
the man doesnt want you any longer, go your merry way, abeg, let him find a fruitful wife to bare him some children... not everybody want to have several wives at home.

Boya everybody must work for nafdac

You should have sounded an alarm earlier and thats putting it mildly. Your husband,
a control freak, is the cause of everything. There are some actions you take that automatically converts you to an enemy in my books. Asking thugs to beat me is one of them. Apparently, your son thinks the same way. This seems like applying medicine after death but its important you don't repeat the same mistakes with your younger children.

For your son, your son needs an apology from his dad and corresponding actions that match his apology. Create more family bonding time. Your husband needs to create an enabling environment to bond with his son. Abroad, your husband will either have been arrested or you guys lost custody of your child. Calling him sir will have been the least of your problems. I will have called him Idi Amin, Hitler in my mind at least. And don't ever underestimate the power of prayers and kind words. Na you born your pikin.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Thanks

placeofallure:

Yes, please.

Prawns are superb with okro

placeofallure:


Prawns

Ayobammi20:
Please love, I know you don't love it when people offend you. Please can you postpone the journey to december, the you knee to make him feel pity. That will work, and don't forget to thank me later

Wats ede?

placeofallure:


I cooked mine last week with less than 5k and we are a bunch. Ila Alasepo, apart from the fish, should have ede, akan, pọnmọ and iru. It is best if you finish the pot the same day. It's my favorite soup because it's sweet, easy to cook and fast too.

My husband's friend a US returnee came to visit and he asked me what I have. I initially didn't want to offer him cause I just made that particular Ila rush rush, nothing special. I told him, he said I should bring it that it's been long. Na so e chop leak plate o come reward me handsomely afterwards.

He later left Lagos for Abuja, all through his stay, I was sending packaged Ila soup from Lagos to Abuja till he left.

Efo riro is overrated abegi!

My opinion and my prerogative. Shes under no obligation to accept my suggestions. Know this and know peace....

Kobojunkie:
1. Please, let's stop propagating that evil bullsheet that a man or woman should not be held accountable for their actions in all cases. It is partly to blame for why so many women sit tight in abusive situations when they ought not to. And no, God is not going to come down to save anyone from or in marriage.

Have you ever heard of duress? Maybe you should educate yourself first before being gullible enough to swallow everything youre told unless youre practicing self deception

IgOga:


Police has a point though.

saying "mama Chukwudi if you don't wan't to vote for my party stay at home" is not thesame as "Igbos stay at home"

The said mama Chukwudi later appeared in a video with MC Oluomo to claim it was a friendly banter.

There is no emotion in law just fact. If you can provide evidence against MC Oluomo police is your friend

Like queuing to board a plane is a sign of effective leadership. Duh. I no still like tinubu sha but wat happened to flying business jo o

Sis, you got this. I can't understand why a human being will want another person
terrified of him, not to mention a terrified wife.

You are being emotionally abused and i wont be shocked if you're being physically abused as well. If you are being physically abused, get out ALIVE. Practice self affirmation, speak positively to yourself and tell yourself you don't deserve this. Pray for yourself too and your spouse if you think there's a negative influence at play and otherwise he's a good guy but if there's physical abuse, RUN first.

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Native soup, afang, edikankong, atama, ewedu, black soup, efo riro, oha soup, bitterleaf soup....

Love800:
Gloryhomemaker

I have a funny but is kinda educative question too

Apart from egusi okro ogbono pepper soup vegetable soup banga soup nd groundnut soup, wich other soup can one see again in nigeria

I will love to learn dem if there is any

God forbid o

clockwisereport:
El-Rufai as NSA. Nawao

So make I fry beans

Who ever told you that feminists live off men? Yall dont bother to find out the meaning of a word you hate so much but manage to categorize everything you despise in women as feminist.

obynokoko:
The earlier you stop that nonsense from her,the better for you.if you are not careful she will stress your life till you die and she will marry another man.teach her to be responsible, delete every feminist mentality from her.teach her that she is your helpmate not liability.allocate some responsibility to her to take care of.
Failure to do this,you will be pushed into the well by your wife.some women bring that useless, selfish and lazy mentality into marriage that your money is ours but my money is mine.it is your duty to reset her brain to reason properly.

Lets not ever forget to blame the victim. Odi veli veli important.

Failure2019:
We Africans emulate the bad side of the west like divorce, LGBTQ etc..


Why divorce when you separate and live peacefully??


To sustain the mental health of your children , please don't try divorce instead try to separate and do your best for your children


In the cases of abusive husband's , I blame women for not paying attention to the red flags in the dating stage .

You are doing it from a place of love which is really commendable but is this sustainable? I think you need to have a talk with your wife and dont let her attitude stop you from sowing good seeds but always think long term abeg. Take a long term view to giving vis a vis investment.

Femmyfamous4u:


As a female what is your advice?

No go do pass yourself. I wonder what youre trying to prove. Now you are forming Messiah, hope your actions dont come back to haunt you as you are setting a precedent.

Femmyfamous4u:


My total income is actually higher but it was far lesser. My major worry is that she does same to her family, she has younger siblings and mother bit she doesn't give them as much, I have bridge the gap by placing the mum in an allowance and assist the siblings too. I assist in the house chores but she complains I leave her alone in the kitchen.

O ya mi lenu o. My own is when did his bad behaviour start? Cos after cooking, ironing etc, they say she's too comfortable.

Klass99:
@ Fortyishcouga, please read the original post and the original poster's subsequent posts then tell me if divorce will not be a good recommendation in her case, now that water never pass garri too much and she only has one child to deal with.

I called your attention to this because of your thread where you asked why people are quick to recommend divorce. Does the OP's situation make tolerable sense? As in, is this the sort of thing anyone should tolerate or endure beyond 180 days? But she has done so for 1 year plus, how much longer will she have to do it to keep her marriage?

This is just one year and three months of marriage o. If we encourage her to endure, fast and pray as usual, five years may go by without her spouse/in laws changing, she may also have 3 or 4 kids by then. Leaving an intolerable/disrespectful situation may also become harder to do.

We shouldn't glorify marriage, cherish or value staying married above our peace of mind and overall well being abeg. I can't even wrap my head around what I read in the post below.

Dont mind the clown

ahnie:

More like *HUMbLe rie nsi

Just negodu. So many women have died daily pleasing men that already feel emasculated like you perhaps by their income or bosses or wateva. Humble my ass!

Fiscus105:
I haven't read half of ur post when I stopped reading, having realised that indeed u need marital tutorial, I pray ur marriage won't scatter before 5 years of ur marriage, I noticed of high ego in you and a wife who will not accommodate in laws for whatever reason and above all anger issues.

AN HUMBLE WIFE WOULD HAVE PICKED UP HER WRAPPER AND WASHED IT HERSELF AND LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIES.

I biliv that 70% of marital issues that are coming up in ur marriage are caused by you, because of ur domineering tendency.

if ur story is true, I will tell ur husband that he has succeeded wifed" his boss.

T for Tenz and thats for the bolded. Im indifferent to tribe.

teegurl2:
Yoruba People.

And before you come for me. Am yoruba too.


Their mindset is that your an outsider. And you have to be treated like one. And the intrusion never stops.

This is what you ll do. You have to apologize to them. Yes! Everyone of them. Smiles and all. Make dem commot your name for their mouth.

Thereafter lock up in a very matured way. Greet who you have to greet, don't waste time discussing with anyone about anything.

Don't even discuss about light. Always give an excuse for wanting to leave a discussion, calmly.

And please get busy. Don't be at home always.

Familiarity breeds contempt. So be careful please.


Dear single ladies please observe very very well before you marry into some families.

Waoh! Can you guys move bikonu? All this stress is not worth it. Regarding your husband, well wat can i say? Be nice to him but not emotionally attached otherwise hes gonna drive you bananas. Start looking for something to do where u can save like crazy. Be polite but firm with his family but be unavailable as much as you can.

There's always one irritating woman enabling a male relative to act entitled so we move! Tueh!!

Olamidegal:
seriously this people has access to the house , I don't see any reason why I should be territorial , my sister in law goes to my shoe rack wear my best shoes casually , she takes my best jewellery and I just let it slide ,one thing I realise is that my sister in law discuss all sort of things in front of her workers who are 10 years and 12 years younger than me and those girls started reacting based on that, I left work when I got married because of distance and I start applying for job that will be of close proximity to my husband house but I got pregnant immediately after marriage which marred my search for job so I started learning fashion designing anyway , my baby is 4 month now and I have started applying for job again, my sister in law is always going on and on about how I couldn't get something doing making reference to hiw hardworking she was when she was pregnant and all, this is a woman that shamed me that I gave birth through cs because i am lazy . Even while learning my fashion designing and as I was pregnant I cook for my husband 2 times daily atleast, do his laundry , iron hus clothes and clean the house everyday . She and my husband still sit to say stuffs like I am too relaxed because he is making me too comfortable

Choi

Karleb:


If you return thunder will fire you.

Suffer no dey tire you? What do you even do with 11k monthly? Is that money?

Grab your phone now and tell that your stupid boss he is a motherfucker.

So has he paid you wat he's owing you?Don't go back o, just thank God u escaped with your life!

As I said, you need to have a discussion with her like yesterday. Her orientation is clearly different from yours and i see you being short changed and ultimately resentful, if this is not nipped in the bud.

Some people are hoarders or stingy even to themselves. Note you said shes stingy even to her family. There was a thread about a woman whose family was complaining about her stinginess , though without more info on her circumstances in canada. I bet you, she will be stingy in marriage, even without intending to. Some women build houses and watch their husbands pay rent. What a mess!

Unfortunately, money is one of the 3 leading causes of divorce so you have to tread carefully. Explain to her that you are bothered cos theres rent, u need to buy land, soon you will be paying fees so she needs to be your helpmeet and try to earn her trust. I wish you Gods wisdom.

Femmyfamous4u:


She likes to look at her bank account and say yes, u have made XYZ or complain that I had certain amount but It has depleted to this usually after she buys some things in the house like groceries. ,Y major worry is that she doesn't assist her own family much.

Wat about investments? Wat about school fees?

You need to have a discussion with her on this. Wat does she do with her income? If shes saving, will the savings be available to you?

Truly this should have been spelt out before marriage. Who bears wat and your savings plan. Come up with a monthly budget too.

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting. My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough. I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get. She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food. Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about. It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours. My income is more than hers though. Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

It's her dream wedding. Make she confirm before she says its her husband's dream wedding as well

90k is a joke... same reason the country is losing doctors...

larrypourl:

Big mess. The problem with Nigerian govt is that they failed to review wages in accordance with inflation, which to me is plain wickedness. You see ASUU and other unions crying and begging for help when govt refused to review their wages for 13/14 years. How can wages remain static for 13years with the double digit inflation we keep having. A graduate assistant employed 13years ago received 90k and in 2023 you're still paying a graduate assistant same 90k, tell me why such lecturer won't extort students to get more money to survive.
The truth is that govt is fueling corruption. Majority of civil servants in Abuja survive and live on corruption because I don't know how they afford to pay rents there.