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This is a lot of assumption.....

On the other hand, maybe the hubby is laccking something that other men who dont carry side chick matter on their head to this extent have like maybe common sense.

marlow1962:
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop.

Since it's still a gradual effect, come back when the impact is rapid, u hear?

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Stay calm and figure out an exit plan. How cheap can some people be?

Insultme:
😂😂. It's just funny though that am laughing.
And the reason is because when you get to a certain stage in life ehn, and you're comfortable, you will understand everything no be gra gra. You need to be diplomatic about things. That by the time you call a family meeting, you have all the Ace's with you. If I confront her now and it turns to argument and she calls the police, and I was sent packing. It is same you that would say I should have waited for a perfect time. UK no be Nigeria that you can just send her packing no questions asked. Think think and think.

Looks scary. What does it taste like?

Akeem79:
Late lunch here

We don't bloody care. Did you work?

He will definitely cheat on you. He's already half way there.....

And I don't think relationships should be this hard 😪

Hmmmm

Odewaleadesoye:
Drinking well prepared Semovita isn't bad at all. It is the same as eating the solid semovita but without soup.

People dey drink semo, with or without sugar? Abeg talk true cos we learn everyday....

Odewaleadesoye:


I came home angrily and drank semovita with no Sugar.

The policy is just so annoying.



It may sound funny and unbelievable but I prepared it the same way you will prepare Pap.



No, he hasn't but he called me that he has seen the alert.

I haven't gone back to him yet due to my busy schedules of the day.

Falling into hard times is different - losing a job, ill-health and others but being wasteful in this economy doesn't necessarily merit a VIRTUOUS wife. Virtuous husband na im deserve virtuous wife.....

Of course, there's that element of your conscience otherwise gambling hubby gets his match with an irresponsible and inconsiderate wife.....

ElijahIme1992:
loool u no see where the man dey do house chores... But u women are so fond of hanging out ur partners to dry wen tins are rough... Na im make I no fit use my mama play, because na she I take know the benefits of having a virtuous woman as a wife wen my papa fall into hard times.. that's why I as a bachelor wen I dey pray for a life partner I always use proverbs 31 vs 10 - 31, every Shiloh I attend na my most important prayer topic..

Thats the problem, she says he's never fed her and the children. The thing is the way most stable Nig homes work, husband and wife share the financial burden so hes missing in action.

To make matters worse, he lost his job due to gambling. So either he dey divert office funds to gambling or im dey use office time to gamble or im get problem with im colleague as per im collect their money no gree pay back. The options are endless and needless to say, rather gory but im sure you get my drift.....

ElijahIme1992:
so wen the man was feeding her and the children it was not stressful for the man abi?

But she's also feeding him, his children,
paying their fees and paying the AC bills too... dat one na real stress o

ElijahIme1992:
then why the complaint, no be her family too?.. so for her to comot money feed her children don come be stress abi?

In her laziness, she dey go work, she dey pay bills and most importantly, she no dey gamble

ElijahIme1992:
looool see excuse, so was she thinking dat everything will be fine and there will be no bumpy ride? She is just a lazy person stop covering for ur gender..

Ose!

akins33:
Did you hear what he said,hes gonna cancel 5b of ALFA beta income leakage

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Sis, abeg how did he lose his job due to gambling? Did he use company resources to fund his gambling habit? He needs some form of intervention....

You are a strong woman and i commend you on that? Try to put a lil aside for the rainy day, rent and Medical bills.

For your husband, please speak to his parents, a religious leader, mentor or an elder sibling on the need for him to contribute. Odiegwu

E go better.

all4zionlover:
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't

Wat does she lose, Mr. Mama I no fit lie you?

Kingdollar28:
How do you know he doesn't have a plan?

He had money before bah?

But lost to gambling?

Sis, your husband is battling frustration/depression

Help him find his ways back

If you divorce him, na u loose

Mama I no fit lie you

I'm married and experienced

Apparently, only women can be wasteful spenders. There are no men who spend their hard earned resources on bet 9ja,
side chics and other money gulping addictions. Wehdone

dobnina:
That 300k monthly is enough for a family of 5 if the wife is not a wasteful spender.

Why do a fake wedding? Why not take her suggestion and apply independently for an admission and/or visa? Dont force relationships so she doesnt start resenting you in future..........

Lifeinbits:
UPDATE

My girlfriend has advised that i should renew my passport which i have but I am yet to collect it. So, most people are advising that we should a fake marriage so that she can submit it in order for me to get the needed documents. I informed my babe and she agreed to it , initially but after a long thought,I felt I don't like the idea that instead, we should do a small court marriage but it seems my babe does not want a small wedding, she wants an elaborate wedding and she will wait to get a good job before getting married to anyone. Gurus in the house, what do you suggest I should do?

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Put in the deep freezer. The taste will remain relatively unchanged..

JASONjnr:
The last time I got much pepper and blended it and store them in the fridge, I didn't like the taste...

And if I buy much and store them, they drop up during harmattan and spoil during rainy season.

So I buy whenever I want to cook...

Do you even love her or she's just for procreation

Literally rotfl

@op, se u were 36 years old, 2 months before Nov 21 so why your age dey fluctuate like Phcn half current? But if u get conscience, treat the banker how u want your sis to be treated. As for me I see you becoming Baby Daddy 2

I wish I had her number, RUN

Waoh , N5700 for a meal for u alone. E be like say, u dey chop oyel money....

On a more serious note, se u can see why wives are undervalued... Her food may even taste better than this over priced meal.

Anyhow, chop ya money

In your worlds, the woman is always lucky to catch a man. The man wey see 4 children dey chook eye knows the woman is his spec but nah, she's the lucky one to you.

The 57 year old man wey wan marry 36 years old is lucky to me cos 21 year gap is not a laughing matter. Won't his sex.ual prowess decline with age? N he's gonna be retiring soon, who's gonna pick the bills?

All the best, op.

ValCon888:
Firstly, a single mother of four is a steep hill to climb for any man. You're lucky someone is ready and willing to accept you and your four kids into his home.

Not to cohabit, but to make an honest woman out of you by asking for your hand in marriage.

At the end of the day, the choice is yours. If you don't want to then don't. For me, I'd advise you to for the security and companionship.

One thing's certain; offers like this only happen once in a lifetime.

I hope 20 years from now you won't look back at this moment and be gnashing your teeth.

I talk am....

nlfpmod:
He's a troll

But you're also cheating na from your thread history. E be like say your girlfriend wan leave you wen u wan relocate from Taraba to get job. If you're not cheating, then u should be a troll - creating topics for fun.

GeorgWashinton:
She has been cheating for almost a year now and I know.

lwkmd

Kobojunkie:
Who's the one paying for your schooling in Canada? Na that person I pity pass.

N shes still complaining upkeep money no reach...

BlongTrendies:
You don't know how bad some moms can be when melting out all manner of attitudes on their daughter-in laws. He knows his mom better than anyone. And I can sense that he is even hiding a lot of things his mom has even done. All in a bid not make her look bad.

He knows that he is in deep shit that's why he is speaking out. The fact that none of the people he is reporting to is talking to her speaks volumes.

When it was both of them alone, things were fine. He is in a situation he can't understand yet. And he has alot to learn cos that mama won't stop until she's done.

Did you see his emphasis on: I made her comfortable before my marriage so she won't have an excuse to hate the bride coming in. The mama get for hand on a good day.

I bought my mother in law a car to get on her good side. She opened a whole black book of encyclopaedia on my head. Your wife should not worry herself OJare. She should be of good behaviour not confront her in any away.

Se kosi?

GOFRONT:
Madam, after you have disgraced this man when he was alive, you are now here to celebrate Val with him.

I know Okposo wont survive the National embarrassment his wife has brought upon him.

Randy man