12 years old. You need to return the maid and look out for your daughters. If he has actually abused her, he needs to be reported to his family and religious organisation. He's a sexual offender and he definitely doesn't have any sympathy from me.

That sounds strange but why do u care so much wat she think. Restrict her access to your feeds.... also, I think you are overthinking this

mamagee3:

If she thinks I need Jesus then why does she always post videos about motor vehicle accidents just because I had posted my new car?

Nah, she thinks you need Jesus and i think so too...

mamagee3:
Hello, facebook friend posts Christian/ motivational videos/ reels whenever I am online. I can’t even remember the last time she posted pictures of herself like she used to in the past.

She never likes my posts but “loves” other’s post including her brother and mutual friends. Since we connected on Facebook three years ago, she has only liked two or three photos of mine

But she would ignore mine and instead post Christian memes. I have a feeling she’s jealous of me. What do you all think?

Ah abi

tensazangetsu20:


. Probably he meant a future second wife.

Its nice but i cant eat it with swallow. It is similar to peppersoup.............

descarado:

Ahnie
Spicy chicken and fish light soup.
Ghana special.

My only problem of which I keep asking them is how they eat that. Its just like water.

After a wife and 2 children, you want him to get a future wife based on a smile, no less

Wodu89:



Choose it. It puts you in the spotlight where you meet alot of people, unlike teaching job that can box you in a room people hardly meet you. You may even meet your future wife out of the many girls that smile to you. You also learn new skill and set of experiences.

Watever.....

MrBrownJay1:


its called BEING REAL, and has nothing to do with being sensitive and/or emotional (about this issue)... like many of you women out there.
you'd rather a man be miserable for the rest of his life, with a "possibly" infertile woman, rather than finding an easy solution to their problems.
ok madam...
***spit on floor***

May my paths never cross with anyone as insensitive as you. Peace

MrBrownJay1:


you see, you again are focussing on the wrong things.... you are hellbent on making this "possibly" infertile wife happy, while i am just trying to give MY opinion on what the OP should do. but hey, we DONT have to have the same opinion on this subject. you have yours and i have mine.

see how you are quick to come up with irrelevant issues such as:
A) the feelings of the possibly" infertile wife (while disregarding the feelings of the husband) and/or B) their marriage being "only" 3 yrs old (while disregarding that it takes just a second to get someone pregnant) and/or C) them possibly wasting millions on IVF (while disregarding the fact that it would be WAY cheaper to simply get a new wife)

we understand that NO woman wants to be looked at as a failure but sometimes you have to accept the facts. in Nigeria, this woman (who cant give her husband children) is a failure.
dont shoot the messenger and blame Nigerian society for that mindset!

Waoh, I marvel at your short sightedness. Heck, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I have a problem with magnifying wat the husband desires above so many things like his ultimate well being, his conscience and his wife's feelings.
Its just 3 years and hes yet to explore the Ivf option.

Omg at some Nig men and the kind of well meaning advise you all dish out on this Nairaland. Walahhi, I am in shock...

MrBrownJay1:


again, take away your misplaced emotions from that matter and instead focus on what this husband DESIRES. nothing else!

truly, who cares what that "possibly" infertile woman thinks?! marriage here doesnt matter; wifey here doesnt matter...what matters is that IN NIGERIAN SOCIETY, a married man needs children (even better if male ones). now, you can sit here and pretend that having children is NO BIG DEAL IN MARRIAGE (and you would somehow be right if you lived in the west), but not in Africa.

in Africa, having children in marriage is a BIG DEAL.... 99.999% of African men get married to have children, and if you take children out of the equation, then majority of these African men wouldnt get married, to begin with. so getting a 2nd wife is a Better solution than divorcing the "possibly" infertile 1st wife

at least, let us all be HONEST here.....

Go for the IVF. It is going to be cheaper in the long run. Its hormonal imbalance for Chrissakes no be say she be retired runs geh.

That 1.5m is probably what you will spend to marry second wife. What about the cost of HBP from everyday settling of quarrel from old and new wife? I Don't think all fertility clinics take 1.5m. I know at least one good one that takes less than 1m. Even if your heart is with the N1.5m own, you can raise the amount in 9 months.

Peace

Waoh, to hell with what a woman he took vows to cherish and care for throughout the course of their marriage thinks.

Yeah, I could buy into that school of thought if she was troublesome or a bad partner but for a health issue which is outside her control, waoh, just wawu

MrBrownJay1:


use your head wisely and stop focussing on what others want... ask yourself these simple questions: WHAT DO YOU WANT? and WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO ATTAIN IT?
if you believe that the solution to your problem is to get a 2nd wife, then by all means, get a 2nd wife and to hell with what wife #1 is saying.

What is the essence of this picture? Is anyone disputing the pregnancy bayi?

Irritating man...

They will trust him. He has fulfilled his mandate..

maleekberry:
Even if jandor goes back to APC, the party leaders will never trust him again. He should go back to the drawing board and come back 2027.

Going back to the APC is just a waste if time.

How did he win?

Wagwanbrethren:
Despite all the useless noise, trolling, threats to topple this man, he still won. These obidients mob are only good at causing nuisance online!

Wife or girlfriend?

But PO's only joking like Mc Oluomo. They can't take half of what they dish out. Between Peter Obi and Mc , who's more likely to act on their threats?

Stay safe ma'am

Oh puhlease

Why yall are so preoccupied with encouraging woman to accept cheating spouses is beyond me. Her life, her choices... if she accept am, come kill am nko if he cheats, na double wahala for deadi body. Abeg a cheating spouse is no prize, take it or leave it.

gfelo:
but know this, there will be a woman that will come and manage this man, i mean this cheat of a man when he will cheat no more.

No problem, just campaign na or is the godfatherism the reason youre barely campaigning

E pain am. Congratulations are very very voluntary.

This is a lot of assumption.....

On the other hand, maybe the hubby is laccking something that other men who dont carry side chick matter on their head to this extent have like maybe common sense.

marlow1962:
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop.

Since it's still a gradual effect, come back when the impact is rapid, u hear?

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Stay calm and figure out an exit plan. How cheap can some people be?

Insultme:


😂😂. It's just funny though that am laughing.
And the reason is because when you get to a certain stage in life ehn, and you're comfortable, you will understand everything no be gra gra. You need to be diplomatic about things. That by the time you call a family meeting, you have all the Ace's with you. If I confront her now and it turns to argument and she calls the police, and I was sent packing. It is same you that would say I should have waited for a perfect time. UK no be Nigeria that you can just send her packing no questions asked. Think think and think.

Looks scary. What does it taste like?

Akeem79:
Late lunch here

We don't bloody care. Did you work?

He will definitely cheat on you. He's already half way there.....

And I don't think relationships should be this hard 😪

Hmmmm

Odewaleadesoye:

Drinking well prepared Semovita isn't bad at all. It is the same as eating the solid semovita but without soup.

People dey drink semo, with or without sugar? Abeg talk true cos we learn everyday....

Odewaleadesoye:


I came home angrily and drank semovita with no Sugar.

The policy is just so annoying.



It may sound funny and unbelievable but I prepared it the same way you will prepare Pap.



No, he hasn't but he called me that he has seen the alert.

I haven't gone back to him yet due to my busy schedules of the day.

Falling into hard times is different - losing a job, ill-health and others but being wasteful in this economy doesn't necessarily merit a VIRTUOUS wife. Virtuous husband na im deserve virtuous wife.....

Of course, there's that element of your conscience otherwise gambling hubby gets his match with an irresponsible and inconsiderate wife.....

ElijahIme1992:
loool u no see where the man dey do house chores... But u women are so fond of hanging out ur partners to dry wen tins are rough... Na im make I no fit use my mama play, because na she I take know the benefits of having a virtuous woman as a wife wen my papa fall into hard times.. that's why I as a bachelor wen I dey pray for a life partner I always use proverbs 31 vs 10 - 31, every Shiloh I attend na my most important prayer topic..

Thats the problem, she says he's never fed her and the children. The thing is the way most stable Nig homes work, husband and wife share the financial burden so hes missing in action.

To make matters worse, he lost his job due to gambling. So either he dey divert office funds to gambling or im dey use office time to gamble or im get problem with im colleague as per im collect their money no gree pay back. The options are endless and needless to say, rather gory but im sure you get my drift.....

ElijahIme1992:
so wen the man was feeding her and the children it was not stressful for the man abi?

But she's also feeding him, his children,
paying their fees and paying the AC bills too... dat one na real stress o

ElijahIme1992:
then why the complaint, no be her family too?.. so for her to comot money feed her children don come be stress abi?