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It's not hubby's money to me. Didn't you grow up in Africa and see for yourself what happens in polygamous homes? Take for instance, Yul who's reportedly unwilling to pay his children's fees since he had a second wife!

It's simple maths, this N5m he wants to give his wife. He could have invested it and let's say it appreciates to N30m in 10 years, can be shared among 3 children. If there's no second wife, all the investment goes to her children. If there's a second wife with 3 children, if he's fair or rational, he will share N30m for 6 kids, or he can even choose to ignore the 1st wife's children, there are no guarantees in a polygamous home.

Let's not forget she has invested in him. He says she sold her gold.

Now as per social stigma, divorced women are usually seen as inferior In a culture where marriage is seen as the ultimate achievement.

PrinceofAgoAre:
financial implications 😂😂😂


Sound like I don't want to part away with hubby's money to me . 😁😁

Social stigma in 2024 .. hahaha.. Another cheap excuse not to to part away with hubby's money ..

If only, if only Nigeria is like the U. S which getting a divorce comes with a special package i.e 50% of hubby's assets ..

Would there be a case of social stigma 😁😁😁

Soooo annoying and I bet these are some of the keyboard warriors forever giving misogynistic advise on nairaland.

cococandy:
Entitlement doesn’t even begin to cover it.
I’m mentally so far removed from the average Nigerian man’s mindset I can’t even begin to comprehend how they think this means anything.

He compensated her with money. Which money? The money that he earned while married to her? Which means it’s her money too? I’m trying to imagine how someone can compensate me with my own money in order to get my permission to disrespect me in my own home. That’s just hilarious. She should have already had access to that money to begin with. But hey. Different worlds.

Can't see how she's better than his wife, not that altered looks are a justification ...

Thanks btw

1Sharon:
This is her.

I don't know much about fetish stuff but I assume the intent for her was to change his mind about marrying a second wife. Personally, I understand her POV perfectly. She's most likely making sacrifices in her marriage expecting her children to be the major beneficiaries. His introducing a new wife alters everything. And this one na Twitter advertiser , the dynamics of the marriage has changed.

I say he's insensitive cos most times motherhood changes a woman's body. Even if you are unchanged, most women are reluctant to remarry cos of their children. He's actually taking her for granted...

Personally, I remember reading MKO's biography and for several years, he was married to only Simbiat. Right after he married Kudirat, he kept remarrying.

PrinceofAgoAre:
insensitive ..


😂😂

Did he not mention he informed her before the whole bruhaha ..

How was he insensitive again !!

Was the other Lady trying to use voodoo-ism to harm him like she was going to ..

She didn't target the new lady but her husband ...

That's a clear stupidity..

This is ridiculous and for me it's the height of entitlement. I feel so sorry for the wife with the way he's publishing the compensation he thinks are good enough for her. N5m etc. Has he saved enough for his children's school fees?

cococandy:
some of them don’t think before they post

He brought it online

leisuretym:
You have already ruin his image online, it's a big scandal, all his online competitors have employed hatchet men to finish him, the man you depend to give you everything and you want to bring him down, by the time you do, be happy, be very very happy

Yen yen yen. Most likely the incoming wife was fetish too or u think it's normal to marry a woman advertising herself on Twitter instead of just having a fling with her. The wife was desperate and desperate times call for desperate measures. Her desperation in itself was fueled by her husband's insensitivity.

I definitely will have dumped his sorry ass but every Mallam to his own kettle.

PrinceofAgoAre:
what exactly is your problem with all this ..


She went fetish.. why Should she do that ..

She already knew she married a Muslim and with time he'd be bringing in a second wife ..
.he compensated her with all that gift in which she accepted why does she still wants to ruin his life by going fetish .. if she wasn't comfortable with the whole setup she could have asked for a divorce ..

She definitely deserves that beating for going fetish which is even suppose to be against her religion ..

Some men can be so naive. Pretty sure she was the greedy one, not the first wife.

Would have loved to see her pic

Ensa777:
Polygamous ke? The woman has left and Twitter descended on the lady he was to marry.She was always advertising herself on twitter and saying how she can even be a 2nd wife on every rich man's post.well her net caught Jarus .

I for bring her pic but she deactivated quickly.

Lucky!!!

TheSuperX:
Okay let's say he flirted, but I doubt if he'd slept with her. JARUS is a Muslim and he knows what is good and bad in Islam.

My problem is with the wife not agreeing to his wants/demands, she's so greedy that she wants everything for herself. she's lucky some Muslim men won't even inform their wife before they marry second wife.

U can't make up stuff like this. A wife of 14 years is too greedy because she doesn't want her husband to marry a new wife

TheSuperX:
Let him marry another wife if he can cater for her, the woman is just being too greedy, she just want all the attention and money for herself.

The financial implication of divorce is wat makes us so uncomfortable with it and of course the social stigma....

cococandy:
What if she divorces him first?

One can only stipulate though. We don’t really know what any of them are going to do

I wish my Nigerian sisters would get more comfortable with divorce. They would be spared A lot of the BS they tolerate

Oh my God. Stop wishing people evil and calling God.

Pastorjohn2:
I pity davido marriage and his unborn children with chioma.

The God I serve can NEVER honour a marriage of Pre martial sex and adultery. It is written in the Bible, Any marriage without God's blessing is a cursed marriage honoured by a false prophet.
This marriage will end in sorrow!

N6m

So nce deserves 30k

Sapasenator:
How old are you Victor and what is the level of your education? Do you have any marketable skills or are you able to learn? Do you know beyond a certain age, you become your own background and your parents cease to be your background?

Your parent is paid less than 30k because that is what they deserve based on the level of their skills. It is the way things work in the real world, my friend. The way to solve your problems is not to pray or complain about them all the time, you will have to change your mindset and learn a tangible skill.

Does the 700k cover the fees? If not, I'm flabbergasted cos you no even get a car. In my honest opinion, slash the money by 2 cos wetin? A bag of rice is 80k for heaven's sake so the only thing I can see again is fuelling cost so if possible let em all attend the same school. Sending wishes of wisdom and loads of it across

Ndi social media like love and some insecure partner will be there comparing a great relationship with this social media pipo

Nemesis0147:
Bomb Facebook ke😂😂
You guys were clearly not ready for this marriage 😂

Doubt that he created this thread for that. I think he's venting....

cococandy:
This literally the reason why OP created this thread. So he’ll have people come join him and tell men not to be good husbands and fathers.

On Father’s Day for that matter.

Make una rest small. At least for today.

immortalcrown:
This generation!

Na the company owner I pity.

Extremely funny

Tonytonex:
chai! This funny actor. It's well.

8 years na your mate?

humilitypays:
Hahahaha


I said he should be nearing or over 70, so I am still right if he is 62

All your long epistle started with a statement thats not true. The writer said the deceased was 62, they still wrote he was born in 1962 but you no gree. You must dash am 70

humilitypays:
He should be near or above 70yrs.

You need help and loads of it. How you can think its ok to pay a faithful woman by doubting her integrity makes me certain that you are a dubious one...

Notfogotten:
A faithful woman will never see anything wrong in having a DNA test.

At least, the woman is not going to turn around to domineeringly control the woman while trying to assert himself as the head of the home.

My dear, no need to confront the single woman cos the cheating guy will have a replacement in a heartbeat while consoling himself with , something must kill a man.

TheWinterBird:
I was going to say you should go to the single mother and tell her to leave your husband alone. She must be very shameless, having an affair with another woman's husband. That said, you've no business with her and your wedding vows were exchanged with your husband and not her, therefore it's your husband you need to confront but if he's a chronic cheater and shameless cheater himself and refuses to stop, there's nothing you can do in that regard. You should, however, stop giving him money, as he's most likely giving her the money you're giving him, smdh. Don't give him a dime of your money, and further report him to everyone in your family and his so they all know what's going on.

By being passive aggressive. When 2 toxic people meet, the lesser toxic one must bow. Improve the quality of your work, study your opponent and decipher their weak points and use it Wisely while being nice about it. This only counts if you're at your dream job, otherwise first step should be to aggressively look for a new job.

How do you wash the inner part of this fish without it disintegrating

Just negodu the illiterate...
In his weird world, children only look like their mothers when there's an affair involved....

Ulunne777:
Oga,forget that cheating thought.You cheated and now suspecting your last child looks like his cousin because you think your wife was doing the same thing you werr doing.
My 1st son and my sis 2nd son could pass for twins。
Same age,same names,same face.
It is blood .
HOW WAS I EVEN ABLE TO RRAD THIS EPISTLE

You the Born again Christian cheated but your wife's child is not permitted to look like her first cousin, a relative by blood. So your narrow minded brain can't comprehend that children are also allowed to look like their mothers, so your child can't look like her mum, while the sis in laws child looks like his/her mum, explaining the resemblance.

Look, your lifestyle / your guilt are fueling your suspicions and maybe your biased mum! What a mess....

Forget ibo girls and work on your grammar! Can't believe you are a graduate