ahnie:
Kids they say can be naughty at times,but in this case,I refused to CAP.

This morning my kids(daughter) really got on my last remaining isoko nerves,and I was furious spitting missiles and RPG.

Out of anger,I had to get them food each in their coolers and I sent my son who spent time there playing, forgetting he has to go to school.I deliberately refused getting them snacks just to punish them.

They returned back from school,my son,my son requested for roasted plantain,and beans and Ugba as lunch.

Whilst my daughter requested for noodles and fried egg.i even went extra miles of adding 3 meats to my boys order and completely forgot to include *Ugba**

Like play,like play my boy refused to eat the food because I forgot to add *ugba*
Just to appease him I even added fanta cola to bribe him,he still insisted**Mummy m not going to eat.

Omo,no time,I gave my daughter her own and devour his meal....make he go sip garri flakes I don't have time for rubbish.

He said...m not a good mother


I want to know if m a bad mother,by helping him to eat his food?


First pics....the food that caused the lacuna.
2nd pic....The bribe fanta cola
3rd pics...me helping him to chow the cornerstone meal he aptly rejected

Channah1
Sageb

Romanoff:


Na why many of them dey find women wey dey ten years younger than them so them fit turn her to house geh.

Romanoff:


I even added that as long as she's not disrespectful to the husband but to these men, it's an abomination for a woman to send her husband on her errand.

The Umunna must hear it.

Ikpongiton:
you and Romanoff are the same.you are only living with wives and not husband.

NemoDatQuod:
I wish I were female in this instance and your sister in-law. You will talk?
I will put strong pepper in your mouth and you will explain to me what you are doing in my house, let alone asking me to explain myself to you. I am not married to you. I am married to your brother. Because I tolerated your presence in my house, you then have the audacity to ask me questions about my family affair.

Most of you need to have your heads examined. Really!

You don't understand the concept of boundaries and privacy. She owes you nada! and your own brother also owes you no explanation with regards to his relationship with his wife.

It seems most people in that Nigeria are mad in one form or the other. You wake up, dust your seat pants, go to someone else's home and start questioning her on how she relates with her husband. Come and try it here and see where you will spend the night.

It is men like you who will subject a widow to all sorts of indignities on the death of her husband, instead of having fellow feeling for her and comforting her on the loss of her closest companion. Mtchew!

Nigeria is backward, but it shouldn't be this backward.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.
I went to visit my brother yesterday was surprised while we were sitted in the parlour... the wife told his husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back. This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went..I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me.the anger was so deep but theys nothing I can do.
They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.
This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so his is wife.
As a man it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly.I just don't know how to say it.
Guys what do you think?

Nlfpmod
Mynd44

Stillwhites:


Is a woman supposed to leave her husband just because of allegation?

naijamanyoutube:
We don't have swallow here, but I wanted to be connected to Mama Africa, and Nigeria, so I got this corn flour thing called Polenta.

Messi1:
Two ladies rejected me in different occasions simply because I'm naturally dreaded.


I wanted to cut it but people say if I cut it I will die.

Chidiesta:



I have told him I wasn't happy with them they are not helping me to progress and I wanted my daughter to go and stay with my friend

Chidiesta:


I spoke with my in law yesday he tried manipulating me so I can leave my daughter with them , he said over his dead body he will release her to my friend because he don't want the world to tagged them wicked for abandoning her with a stranger while he and my sister are alive and able to take care of her better. I disagree with him he told me his battery was low and nepa took light ,we were supposed to talk again this afternoon because i wanted to do video with my daughter he refused to pick up my calls.

westlius:
Pls pardon my grammar.

Please men have mercies for your wives. My colleague's husband doesn't eat frozen foods, meaning she cooks every day for him. She closes from work by 5 and gets home before 7, she goes to market everyday to cook soup for the husband.

I really do feel for her, to the extent the man threatening her to resign so she can take care of him (He earns below 50k and she earns much more).

She says when a soup/stew/ other meals reaches 24 hours the husband cannot eat them again.

I feel for her seeing her in the morning at work looking stress out

Nawttiboi007:
your aproko too much.. at ur age?

Tunjibalogun:
I seriously don't understand how my dad is always broke. He's been paid pension monthly oo which is equivalent to the chunk salary he got while working.
He's not training anyone, he's not the one providing money for food in the house.

I have tried to investigate what happens and I found out that he keeps a lot of friends and spend those money on his friends buying drinks and living large. Well, I don't pity him again. If he likes he should always be broke that's his business.

07kjb:
To discipline a child is now abuse?

It always end in tears for anyone that reject the counseling of a child

I see you regretting in the future in tears over a lost child


Our people said beat a child with your right hand and draw him closer with your left hand

gloryhomemaker:


Oh, thank you for pointing that out. I used Uziza leaves, I have included it now.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

cococandy:
If her issue is not with you, why wouldn’t she pursue reconciliation first before any business ventures?
Sounds weird.

Sominablack:




Update:

I finally summed up courage and went to see my little daughter. My little daughter is well and doing fine of course I have been sending upkeep before now.

However, her mum is not looking as good as when she was with me. After a brief stay and discussion with my little daughter, I decided to take her out to buy some ice cream. Her mother opted to go with us too and in the process we had a heart to heart talk at the eatery. Guess what? Once again she told me i am not the issue that she does not have problem with me that she s gathering herself and that her father had disowned her because of me( they are angry with her for her negative actions towards me)

She told me to go and meet with her family in villa and settle with them since we first went there for a meeting, that I should tell them she does not have issues with me.

My response to her was that she has to tell her family herself that she does not have issues with me and that we have reconciled and not me telling them since she painted a wrong picture of me before them during the initial meeting their villa.

However I made some efforts to reach her fathers elders brother who she always confide in since she claimed not to be in good term with her own father. Response was that she herself has to inform them (her own family)she has no issue with me and that we have reconciled.

She agreed to do so ( communicate her family) but told me to assist her fix up the shop she newly rented for her business through a loan she collected and that when she will tell them about the launch of the shop she will use the opportunity to inform her family I assisted her and that we have reconciled.

I then told her that we have to get things right by truly reconciling with family involvement in the reconciliation process and every other thing will fall in line including the shop but she is insisting I fix up the shop first.

I also told her that since she will be visiting her villa soon to deliver some business good to a relation she should use the opportunity to inform her family that she does not have issue with me but the visit was not the right time to inform them as she may come back that day or pass a night and may not want much people to know she was around in villa.

I told her she does not care about my needs and feelings all these while she has been away despite my efforts but she wants me to do her own bidding. She then said I was giving her condition before helping her.

Men and brethren am not finding her idea of fixing her shop before she would use it as an opportunity to inform her family funny despite the fact she has opportunity to travel home soon which she can use to tell them.

At this juncture, I need ideas and strategies from experienced and matured minds on how I can go about this with her now. Thanks in advance for your inputs.

The case here is if she does not have any issue with me why is she waiting till I fix her shop before informing her family members.

Please if you wish to call me you can reach me at 07037854559. Thanks

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Juliusdaughter:

I guess you and your wife are both not big on sex. What if he is? He hasn't asked for sex and I don't think he will until we are married. He is a principled Christian