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If im you, I will be more interested in defining my own future and that is one in which age is not a barrier. Invest in gmat and shl tests, try to serve with an accounting big 4 and start your ican.

The only person that can stop you is you.

Covenant97:
Good evening Nairalanders

I write to seek your view on My current situation.

I am a final year student in one of the best Federal university in Nigeria(Name withheld) and certainly, will be graduating with a second class upper within the 4 point range CGPA.( I was on a first class cgpa But my cgpa was slashed no thanks to my department I was a victim as well as others)

My worry is, I will be 26 years when i eventually write my final paper as a student then come service(NYSC) by then 27 max after service.No thanks to COVID- 19 pandemic and ASUU which engulfed my chances of graduating below the 26 age bracket.

In light of the above, Do I stand a chance of securing a graduate trainee position in top multinational organization requesting for 2.1 and above within the age bracket of 26 and below post NYSC,Given that after my service I will be 27.

Ps:I am an accounting student and I intend to start my ICAN exam during service.

My current CGPA is 4.20 ,resuming for my final year come July this year.

Black don't crack....

Wats pap made of? Looks like eba

Samantha124:
12. Pap and chicken intestines... I'm not going to lie, I love chicken intestines, but I don't like the process of preparing them because you have to make sure that the chicken feaces are properly removed before you can cook them... They always remind me of home.. .. most of the time when I'm alone I buy those ones that are already cooked... But when I'm at home I'd convince my mother to prepare them and I'd cook them afterwards...

His office could be paying for him because he's paid his dues and he's entitled to a first class. He could be paying for his family cos he wants them on the trip, so should he pay first class for so many dependents?

Maybe try not dying first? What makes you think you'll die before your wife? Abi you Don do money ritual? Wat assurances have YOU given her not to remarry if she dies first?

Surprise, Surprise, your kids might actually benefit from a man in the house, if his head is screwed right. Now the question is, does your wife have a history of making poor choices? Are you a horrible spouse? Zukwanike and make the most of the present, where both of you are alive.

You are so mean! Get a life! See how you tie wrapper on top woman matter! Her water, her life, her choices! Tueh

Labadi69:
You can eat all this junk yet you no fit buy better water. Who drinks pure water in 2023? It’s even better to go and boil your own water than to be drinking this trash called pure water. See Yamayama coleslaw and fried orishirishi for your plate. And you dey wonder why your belle be like say you pregnant.

You better go and do cholesterol and blood pressure test immediately if you know wetin good for you. Nonsense

Honest advice, truthfully. You have to cultivate a platonic friendship with both so you can determine for yourself what their values are. You might think values are overated until you have to stay under the same roof with someone who thinks differently from you. You might feel calling your loved one Ode is OK? Wat does she think?

Who do you feel most comfortable around like you can totally be yourself with? And still can see yourself physically attracted to years later?

And who stays kind during a misunderstanding? Like which of them is likely to curse you out? This should be pointers

AllMight:
1. Toyin - She was my former classmate and friend back in school. She currently works in a bank as a CFC Agent. We met late last year during our school old student get together, we exchanged contact and kept in touch regularly. Our vibes have been good and encouraging. She had helped me very well many times since then. I'd say we are more than friends but ambigously because i haven't really asked her to be my girlfriend, though i have taken her out before on val day. Like i said, our relationship is ambigous. She doesn't have a boyfriend yet, but her mum is trying to matchmake her.

2. Sarah - Based in the States with her family for futher studies, though she's a Nigerian through her grandpa. We met early this year while playing game and since then we have become close that all her family know me. Her paternal uncle is one of my team sponsor here in Nigeria. Though this lady do give me green light steady, but because of Toyin who i haven't even get as my gf, i just laugh it off.

Honest advice please!

At what point did you consider it necessary to start counting?

She's not seducing you but only showing more care towards you. Or maybe she is, but who cares? The more important thing is what you're going to do about it. Get her out of your home. Open up to your wife and dont bring dishonour to yourself. Try to bond with your wife as well and spice up your sex life as much as you can.

They may have been living together for a while

Your wife sef go give em

Kingsize4eva:
You are married to a woman and not a man. You dare not speak Ill of my wife in my presence.
Fight my wife and watch me destroy you no matter who you are.

I am the first born with 4 sisters who are happily married, am Igbo but my wife is Ijaw, quote me if you know the fight involved in marrying a non tribe.

In other words, na winch or shes a hater

NoToPile:
Eyah they never liked you ( a lot of inlaws don't like their sons/brothers wife anyway) the only consolation was that you were financially okay.

The sister was not comfortable with the fact that you guys (especially you) were okay financially, now that you are broke and your husband goes to her for help she feels fulfilled.

The good thing about the story is your hubby stood up for you so you will still cope.

You are married you are married, try to get another job then keep your mind of inlaw wahala.

They hate your daughter? Don't let your daughter go to their place. Just do what is necessary, Ignore them mostly you should be fine.

No wahala. Me sef dey joke

highchief1:
lol was joking though.feeding no be our problem again.

Is nor by title. You are high chief, hes a billionaire onye ji cash. Chopping and spending the money. Maka why o ji cash

highchief1:
how does he feed 7 kids.I have 3 and I’m bleeding.

His wife is fit too

IyaebeTheGreat:
Billionaire without potbelly , very fit and can still handle a 20yr old lady very well but see all this chewing gum boys that call themselves young men of this generation are already carrying potbelly everywhere, some can't even see their dick again. They depend on all sort of useless drugs to satisfy their women, some left to the great beyond as a result of that. Make healthy lifestyle your priority while you make money and stop carrying belly meant for pregnant women everywhere. I've said my own .

And here's the empathy we were anticipating all along.....

MrBrownJay1:
the man doesnt want you any longer, go your merry way, abeg, let him find a fruitful wife to bare him some children... not everybody want to have several wives at home.

Boya everybody must work for nafdac

You should have sounded an alarm earlier and thats putting it mildly. Your husband,
a control freak, is the cause of everything. There are some actions you take that automatically converts you to an enemy in my books. Asking thugs to beat me is one of them. Apparently, your son thinks the same way. This seems like applying medicine after death but its important you don't repeat the same mistakes with your younger children.

For your son, your son needs an apology from his dad and corresponding actions that match his apology. Create more family bonding time. Your husband needs to create an enabling environment to bond with his son. Abroad, your husband will either have been arrested or you guys lost custody of your child. Calling him sir will have been the least of your problems. I will have called him Idi Amin, Hitler in my mind at least. And don't ever underestimate the power of prayers and kind words. Na you born your pikin.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Thanks

placeofallure:
Yes, please.

Prawns are superb with okro

placeofallure:
Prawns

Ayobammi20:
Please love, I know you don't love it when people offend you. Please can you postpone the journey to december, the you knee to make him feel pity. That will work, and don't forget to thank me later

Wats ede?

placeofallure:
I cooked mine last week with less than 5k and we are a bunch. Ila Alasepo, apart from the fish, should have ede, akan, pọnmọ and iru. It is best if you finish the pot the same day. It's my favorite soup because it's sweet, easy to cook and fast too.

My husband's friend a US returnee came to visit and he asked me what I have. I initially didn't want to offer him cause I just made that particular Ila rush rush, nothing special. I told him, he said I should bring it that it's been long. Na so e chop leak plate o come reward me handsomely afterwards.

He later left Lagos for Abuja, all through his stay, I was sending packaged Ila soup from Lagos to Abuja till he left.

Efo riro is overrated abegi!

My opinion and my prerogative. Shes under no obligation to accept my suggestions. Know this and know peace....

Kobojunkie:
1. Please, let's stop propagating that evil bullsheet that a man or woman should not be held accountable for their actions in all cases. It is partly to blame for why so many women sit tight in abusive situations when they ought not to. And no, God is not going to come down to save anyone from or in marriage.

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Sis, you got this. I can't understand why a human being will want another person
terrified of him, not to mention a terrified wife.

You are being emotionally abused and i wont be shocked if you're being physically abused as well. If you are being physically abused, get out ALIVE. Practice self affirmation, speak positively to yourself and tell yourself you don't deserve this. Pray for yourself too and your spouse if you think there's a negative influence at play and otherwise he's a good guy but if there's physical abuse, RUN first.

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Native soup, afang, edikankong, atama, ewedu, black soup, efo riro, oha soup, bitterleaf soup....

Love800:
Gloryhomemaker

I have a funny but is kinda educative question too

Apart from egusi okro ogbono pepper soup vegetable soup banga soup nd groundnut soup, wich other soup can one see again in nigeria

I will love to learn dem if there is any

God forbid o

clockwisereport:
El-Rufai as NSA. Nawao

So make I fry beans

Who ever told you that feminists live off men? Yall dont bother to find out the meaning of a word you hate so much but manage to categorize everything you despise in women as feminist.

obynokoko:
The earlier you stop that nonsense from her,the better for you.if you are not careful she will stress your life till you die and she will marry another man.teach her to be responsible, delete every feminist mentality from her.teach her that she is your helpmate not liability.allocate some responsibility to her to take care of.
Failure to do this,you will be pushed into the well by your wife.some women bring that useless, selfish and lazy mentality into marriage that your money is ours but my money is mine.it is your duty to reset her brain to reason properly.

Lets not ever forget to blame the victim. Odi veli veli important.

Failure2019:
We Africans emulate the bad side of the west like divorce, LGBTQ etc..


Why divorce when you separate and live peacefully??


To sustain the mental health of your children , please don't try divorce instead try to separate and do your best for your children


In the cases of abusive husband's , I blame women for not paying attention to the red flags in the dating stage .

You are doing it from a place of love which is really commendable but is this sustainable? I think you need to have a talk with your wife and dont let her attitude stop you from sowing good seeds but always think long term abeg. Take a long term view to giving vis a vis investment.

Femmyfamous4u:
As a female what is your advice?