XullySwt:
Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.

I will be brief with my post here i promise
Indeed i have seen life at its worst....

After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.

I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.

Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year

Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.

Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ?

we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.

So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??

Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.

Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....

He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.

Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double

BamBamK:



Awwn ...

Congratulations...

So happy for u... Extend invitation for naming ceremony when it's time oo

highchief1:
true but life is deep.

highchief1:
he has been drinking.life is programmed.he was destined to exit the stage that day.Ppl who don’t drink die too.

Blessedmercy8:


Ok.
Thank you so much.

Blessedmercy8:


Not that I'm looking for someone into shady deals. I just want to be sure that amount can sustain us a married couple plus he might not be willing to wait for sometime for us to start making babies due to his age..

Now, with that amount, he's living in ikoyi. I wonder how he gets the money to pay such rent. He was staying in VI. Then moved to ikoyi. Who knows why?

I don't want a situation whereby all our money will be going into rent cos ikoyi is expensive. I was born and brought up there before. Worked and lived the most part of my adult life there before my dad retired and we moved. I know how expensive houses are in ikoyi.

I'm just fed up. I like him. He's everything I want in a man but hmm... I see what other people who didn't prepare well before going marriage are passing through now and sometimes I silently thank my stars I've not brought any child into this world in this harsh economy because I hate to see children suffering. I dread it!

sisisioge:


Yes o....you will wonder how they do it. It is well.

sisisioge:
I do not understand addiction....I find it unreasonable. Anyways, would you want to stay off your phone and the internet so you dont get triggered to bet? Your debt is still minimal at 250k....people get into millions of debt before realising their follies. It is well with you.

Gavinsamuel001:
Stop it is not good what can kill you finally is playing virtual I lost over 2m my family and my friends left me alone about 1 year ago since then I never make 30k for saving just pay loan I never pay my house rent till now am using second year stop betting please

MadarasBlade:


If the man provides solely for his family, then i see no reason why he should help out at all.

He has fulfilled his part, and that is sufficient i think.

Anuoluwa12345:
Humm..at the bolded, you are right tho!. It is we :-Xll.

toprealman:
Very humble wife.

OKOATA:

Women should learn to dress sexily at home, and husband's should get sexy lingeries for their wives. To be honest I can't get hard at the site of a woman on wrappers like that.

paschal47:



This is hilarious
What would you say about my "Oga's" like Gboyega.D, Preston.n, Akposk.y and they nice men keeping this thread alive.


Thank you ma

paschal47:
Made 2 soups for the week

Nsala

Egusi



CC; gloryhomemaker

dacblogger:
We the people of anambra DNT add uziza to our bitter leaf soup at least my own side of anambra. looks yummy tho.

Pinkie2018:
I understand that he hate that I threw the money but I think where there is love, he wasn't supposed to react in that manner. I tried to explain but he wasn't having it. Heaven knows I didn't intend to insult him but for the effect of the concoction I drank

jify:
I think you should help yourself and leave. Same thing happened with me, each time we have issues, my husband asks me to leave his house, before I come back from work, he would change the door locks and I would be outside with my kids and sometimes running to my sister's place to sleep.
The last time he tried it again, I simply left and went to rent a house. 6 months later he's begging me to come back.

For those saying she is troublesome, you have not met a troublesome man. My husband whenever we have issues and I refuse to fuel the conversation, would keep insisting that I must talk and when I refuse to reply in order not to provoke him, even telling him that if I open my mouth to comment he would not like what will come out, will still throw me out for refusing to join in the quarrel.

Please leave, when he throws you out just leave and not come back. I left without a single thing, even with 2 kids and today he's the one bringing our clothes in batches, it would help to restore his brain to factory settings.

Filly3:

Yeah no kids yet still hoping on God.

I do home lesson. You know the pay is not reliable due to the fact that most of the parents are lecturers.
When there's a delay in their salary payment someone will tell me to stop while some will owe till I see it.
Thanks dear.

RightToReject:
Everything you have tabled here revolved around thoughtlessness (insensitivity) on his part and your expectation of thoughtfulness from him instead. The truth is that only you here know whether he is truly dispositionally thoughtless or your bad attitude all this while has made him so towards you. For instance, at that point where he was giving you money that you claimed to have thrown on the ground; under normal circumstances, a thoughtful close person in his stead would have detected the slight changes in your demeanor even before giving you the money and would have accorded you both the emotional care and physical support you needed.

Well, if your attitude all this while has made him become thoughtless towards you, the onus lies on you to retrace your steps and work and walk yourself back to his mental nervous chamber so that you can start commanding his emotional care, this will take time to materialize but the end will be worth it.

If he is, however, dispositionally thoughtless, there is nothing much you can do to change him, especially since it is obvious that his "mumu button" is not under your command. The best you can do is accept the hard truth that he is a thoughtless person (which doesn't automatically make him an evil person) and stop expecting emotional care from him. To make him sit up a bit and for your mental health balance, deliberately stop taking him seriously even without treating him like an enemy and watch him adjust gradually.