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TruthHurts1:
This is actually Shariah law that you're justifying.

aroundtheearth:

InfernoNig:
Her excuse is stupid. There is a guy already fucking her, she just want to divorce to be free of guilt.

Sharjah woman seeks divorce after 25 years of marriage; court tells her to return to husband’s house

The woman applied for divorce saying she just wanted to be free, stay with friends.

The Sharjah Sharia Court has turned down a divorce plea of an Arab woman in her 40s after she filed a divorce case against her husband to whom she has been married for 25 years.

The court has ordered the woman to return “obediently” to her husband’s house and asked her to show respect to her husband and his family.

The judge also ordered the husband in his 50s, who used to give his wife Dh25,000 as monthly expense, to bring down the amount to Dh6,000.

As per court records, the case unfolded when the wife approached the court seeking divorce on the ground that she just wanted to be free, stay with her friends and travel widely,

The husband’s lawyer said that the husband showed great love for his wife and was taking good care of his family which lived in a villa. He was even paying his wife Dh25,000 monthly and had bought her a luxury car.

But the wife said she wanted freedom and told the judge, “I cannot live with him anymore, and want a divorce.”

The husband, in turn, told the court that he loved his wife and did not want to divorce her. He added that she (wife) was used to going out with friends without his knowledge but he did not object to it because he loved her. However, she was showing no respect to him.

Based on the testimonies, the court rejected the wife’s divorce plea and ordered her to return to her husband’s house.

Bibo007:
Bro what type of ID ?

Bibo007:
Please o I want to know if I can travel back to Nigeria with my expired passport because my contract is ending soon and I want to go back home

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

LagBlogger:
Effontery means foolish boldness, insolent behavior. Is that what Bello lacks?

Blesser28:
anyone who have moved out without doing that covid test

ebecode:
Lemme give u a sound advice regarding that..First go to a trusted Aboki and exchange your naira to dollars. When you get to Dubai Airport exchange your dollars to AED at 1dollar to 3.63AED . The reason is because Dirham is scarce and expensive in Naija but Dollar is common thereby making the few that has it to be rigid as per selling to u at favourable rate.

ogascomax:
We don't use nose mask brother. The day a Christian start being afraid of disease you ceased to be called one. If I parish I parish. I would rather die in faith than live my life in fear. How many times did you see fear not in the scripture.

Karemarealty288:
Only Buhari sees what over 200 million people cannot see...this is unbelievable....we never knew Buhari has a Binocular eyes.

tojahh:
Thanks so much bro.

I have almost zero fears lest for the warnings around here *Trust no one not even your brother in Dubai* but nonetheless I think since he's gonna help me get the visa (3 months) I wouldn't need much worry.
As for SIRA, he told me within the company security, just 2 persons has SIRA tho I would need it just when I want to be assured of better opportunities outside his place. Said the company is a freezone and they do change of Visa for staff (3 years), and again, said the Visa fee will be 1400AED and I can pay back in 4 months after I start working. I think this is a good deal, I just wanted to know if there's any possibility of truth in all these.

ABOKI9ja:
it came as expected, I'm 100% u are criminal

sgtponzihater1:
This is not correct at all. How about Nigerians in Diaspora?

Awesomefoodie:
Good morning and compliment of the season. I met one Alhaja yesterday she said there is a live-in maid Job available in Dubai and salary is 100k when converted to naira. She also said the Visa is 500k and I have to deposit 200k. It will be processed withing 3 weeks and I would resume work straight from the airport. She said I should send her via WhatsApp, my international passport, a passport pic and a portrait pic of me showing my full stature on a white background.

Pls is this real, plus is the salary for live-in maid Job 100k or more than? I hope she is not planning on using me for continued monthly business.

Akunna25:
Hello house i want to make some inquiries on behalf of a friend.
1. is it advisable to travel to dubai on a tourist visa and then extend it twice before applying for freelance permit.....as the freelance permit money will come later........does it make sense taking this risk?
2. can my friend rent an apartment using tourist visa during the times he will spend before applying for freelance permit
3. can nigeria atm card work in uae?

gurus in the house please respond
no private messages please

blvckcoder:
Hello, Please where can i change naira to Dirhams in dubai at night?