jogojogo: My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.
The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.
Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.
I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.
I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation
Console her from all the verses from the bible like Rom8:28 on hope, the goodness of God in all circumstances and omniscience of God.
famousguy01: Don’t sleep bro just convert your interest or hobby into your calling, God don give you everything wey you need to make am work. If you no get any interest, look for something valuable and develop interest in it. The mind is a powerful tool use it and avoid distractions from social media
Tareq1105: Is he even accepted in kabba? Don't forget he's lost Senate election twice (2019 & 2023) now in kabba.
Why would people queue up in the sun 🌞 for you, then on getting there you were buying fleet of cars , showing your Car Garage on TV stations and social media platforms for your constituency members to see your worth.
Now, they should go out in the sun 🌞 again for you bcoz they're foooools abi?
Gbam! Brilliant point there! You just nailed it. Thanks
ganisucks: This is clearly a case of a townhall is different from Bulaba and balabu. 😁😆🤣🤣
Very soon The pretender will be sacked and his rent a sons and rent a wife will go back to their suspended gigs.
20 years is 20 years. Agreement is agreement.
I find it difficult to believe this news. If it's not nairaland, I wouldn't have given it much thought. It's well with Nigeria anyway. God is with us come what may.
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.
My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.
It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.
After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.
My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.
When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.
We had little issue then but he later resolved it.
He brought everything they asked for.
During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.
That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.
I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.
His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.
I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.
He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?
I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.
He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.
After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.
I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.
Have I said something wrong?
I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.
I am tired, I don't know what to do.
Advise this lady
Soft words turn away anger. Let your words always be with grace, seasoned with salt that you may be able to answer all men. Please, apologize to your husband. Have soft words. Love him, support him without condition. Ask him to forgive you on your knees. Invite God into lives and home and you will be fine
wittywriter: Working(writing) late into wee hours then missing out on appointments meetings with my online investment partners. Another is picking meals...my nutritionist is helping overcome my eating disorder.
Wittyness
Fast within 14 hours window, and eat within 10 hours window of the 24 hours in a day. Then, you can eat almost anything ( within reason) within your 10 hours of eating. Try to sleep early. If you do, you may not need more than 3-4 hours of sleep.
litigator: This is one area of our Biblical journey we often shy away from talking about.
I am certain I am not alone in this regard.
How does it feel if at 9. am on a Sunday morning, I come out for an altar call after a powerful heart-shattering and guilt-provoking sermon, give my life to Christ; I am prayed for and declare born again, but I unconsciously commit a sin on my way back home?
And with that guilt, I go back to sin full time like it was before the alter call?
I guess I am not alone in this regard. I have attended church services countless times and listened to sermons and teachings that I can't recollect, and at the end of such endeavour, I obey the alter call one minute, and the next minute, I am back to fornicating. This is one thing that has kept a lot of people out of this spiritual journey.
Even Pastors are not immune to sin, as some have found themselves committing sin at one point or the other. I guess Apostle Paul suffered same in the Bible. And this brings me to my question.
Does being again make you immune to sin, and is it a vaccine against sinning?
Is it that if I sin, it will no longer count against me because I have Grace?
Or is it a merry-go-round of sinning and asking for forgiveness shortly afterwards until we get better at not sinning anymore?
And if the latter is the case, why do churches hate and guilt-shame members when they sin but defend pastors when they do the same?
Please, WhatsApp me on 08088414431 if you are a sincere seeker
yemmit90: At 40, you must be more concern about humanity than being selfish and constituting nuisance in the society.
Anything aside that is a mere waste of energy because life has no manual or special procedure. As long as you are happy with your life, you have nothing to worry about.
Highly unmotivated and that is why u have nothing to contribute but quarrel which is also a product of where u reside.
Poor soul,everything shouldn't be fight.
Sorry,if I have just intimidated u.
You have just done the same thing you were trying to correct. May God help us all to see, not just the fault of others, but also OUR OWN FAULT. Thanks and God bless you. I love you.👍
9jahotblog: Indefatigable Senator Dino Melaye and Honourable Habibat was heavily received by the good people of Kaba LG in Kogi West Senatorial district. Check the pictures here. Senator Dino Melaye everywhere you go in Kogi State. November 11th governorship poll must Obey.
Tell Dino to network with other tribes in Kogi, as Kabba people only may not take him to the promise land.
It makes a lot of sense. We should go any legit length to overcome this period. This TOO shall pass. Don't give up. You don't know what will happen tomorrow. Hang in there! I see you give testimonies soon.
sukkot: So this is a very strange story which I think about till this day.
It was October 1st 2019 and I am coming to Nigeria with Lufthansa from Manchester and the stopover is Frankfurt. And so we get to Frankfurt and we had to ride this trolley tram bus thingy to our terminal.
That’s where I saw this character. He was sat in front of me clutching a small handbag. That’s all he had On him. His eyes looked cold and dead like someone who has seen everything there is to see in life and he had checked out of humanity. He had like a long Islam goatee. Young guy, maybe early thirties. He sat there and clutched his bag and stared with that dead empty look. He wasn’t being deported. He was on a voluntary journey of his own. I watched him for a little while but then we got to the terminal and alighted and I never saw him again.
I took the flight to naija. Got the cab at the airport and started the journey to the Airbnb I had booked in magodo. It was an evening and up in the sky were stork birds and eagles and the atmosphere was dusty looking as the sun was setting. So as I was in the car on the express about 3 miles away from the airport I saw someone climbing the dividers of the express way and trying to cross over to the other side to the bus stop to catch a bus , I adjusted my eyes very well and guess who it was? It was the strange guy who sat in front of me on the tram-bus in Frankfurt. He had absolutely no luggage with him. He had just the same small bag I saw him with and he was in the same clothes
Till today I always wonder what that guys story is . Did he actually walk out voluntarily on his own out of Frankfurt with a tiny bag and walk into the streets of ojota with nothing but the same bag and dangerously crossing the expressway ? Was he remote controlled into Nigeria ? It’s a very strange episode. I think of that guy to this day
You could have asked him what the matter was with him. A simple "Are you alright?" might have saved you all these nagging memories. Sometimes, a question, a smile, an hello, a greeting, a concern, a humanity is what we owe one another. Remember, the whole of the human race is flawed.
[quote author=sukkot post=124776232]So this is a very strange story which I think about till this day.
It was October 1st 2019 and I am coming to Nigeria with Lufthansa from Manchester and the stopover is Frankfurt. And so we get to Frankfurt and we had to ride this trolley tram bus thingy to our terminal.
That’s where I saw this character. He was sat in front of me clutching a small handbag. That’s all he had On him. His eyes looked cold and dead like someone who has seen everything there is to see in life and he had checked out of humanity. He had like a long Islam goatee. Young guy, maybe early thirties. He sat there and clutched his bag and stared with that dead empty look. He wasn’t being deported. He was on a voluntary journey of his own. I watched him for a little while but then we got to the terminal and alighted and I never saw him again.
I took the flight to naija. Got the cab at the airport and started the journey to the Airbnb I had booked in magodo. It was an evening and up in the sky were stork birds and eagles and the atmosphere was dusty looking as the sun was setting. So as I was in the car on the express about 3 miles away from the airport I saw someone climbing the dividers of the express way and trying to cross over to the other side to the bus stop to catch a bus , I adjusted my eyes very well and guess who it was? It was the strange guy who sat in front of me on the tram-bus in Frankfurt. He had absolutely no luggage with him. He had just the same small bag I saw him with and he was in the same clothes
Till today I always wonder what that guys story is . Did he actually walk out voluntarily on his own out of Frankfurt with a tiny bag and walk into the streets of ojota with nothing but the same bag and dangerously crossing the expressway ? Was he remote controlled into Nigeria ? It’s a very strange episode. I think of that guy to this day [
You could have asked him what the matter was with him. A simple "Are you alright?" might have saved you all these nagging memories. Sometimes, a question, a smile, an hello, a greeting, a concern, a humanity is what we owe one another. Remember, the whole of the human race is flawed.
famousguy01: Don’t sleep bro just convert your interest or hobby into your calling, God don give you everything wey you need to make am work. If you no get any interest, look for something valuable and develop interest in it. The mind is a powerful tool use it and avoid distractions from social media
Vilgax: In recent years, the world has witnessed an unprecedented surge in technology, with innovative startups and tech giants captivating global markets and imaginations. This tech frenzy has sparked hope for many developing economies, like Nigeria, seeking solutions to their unemployment woes. However, beneath the façade of success, it becomes clear that the entire tech boom is more of a bubble than a long-term solution to unemployment in these areas.
Without question, technology has revolutionized sectors and created various job opportunities around the world. Yet, the notion that technology alone can sustainably solve unemployment in developing economies like Nigeria is fundamentally flawed. Several things contribute to this challenging situation
Limited Inclusivity The tech industry, particularly in Nigeria, favours a chosen few with specialized skills, leaving the majority of the workforce out. The demand for a highly educated and competent workforce creates a huge hurdle for people who lack access to decent education, aggravating inequality and unemployment rates.
Automation Threat Rapid advances in artificial intelligence and automation technology may streamline business operations while also displacing traditional jobs. In nations like Nigeria, where many people rely on labour-intensive jobs, the automation wave could result in massive job losses due to a lack of alternative employment opportunities.
Infrastructure Gaps While technology has enormous potential, it is primarily reliant on sturdy infrastructure and a consistent power supply, both of which are frequently missing in many emerging economies. Nigeria's IT sector confronts problems such as inconsistent internet connectivity, frequent power outages, and inadequate digital infrastructure, limiting its ability to have a long-term influence on unemployment.
Vulnerability to Market Fluctuations The tech industry is no stranger to market fluctuations, and developing economies like Nigeria may find themselves exposed to the volatility of the global tech market. Dependence on this industry as a primary solution to unemployment leaves these countries prone to economic shocks when the tech bubble inevitably bursts.
As a response to these factors, developing economies must adopt a more comprehensive and diverse approach to address unemployment sustainably. This includes investing in education and vocational training to equip the workforce with a broader set of skills and ensuring that these skills are relevant to the local job market. Additionally, governmental policies that nurture traditional industries and encourage entrepreneurship in non-tech sectors can provide much-needed stability and opportunities for job creation.
In conclusion, while the tech craze has indeed shown its potential to generate employment opportunities, it cannot be the sole solution to the deep-rooted unemployment challenges faced by developing economies like Nigeria. A more nuanced and multi-faceted approach is imperative to build a resilient and diverse economy, ensuring that the benefits of technological advancements are accessible to all and not just a select few. Only then can these nations safeguard themselves against the bursting bubble of the tech craze and build a more sustainable future for their citizens.
But let me know what you think, am I being pessimistic towards the possibilities of tech? Or do you have reasons to believe the tech industry can usher Nigeria into a new chapter of economic prosperity? Kindly drop your opinion in the thread below.
On point. Agriculture should be looked into. It's one of the never-failing sure-bets out of poverty.
beautifulsoul12: Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this. I can't even sleep at night lately.
I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help. Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.
Have you found out if it's not depression? It could be occasional relapse owing to not identifying and avoiding triggers of depression. Let him observe intermittent fasting everyday, starting with 14-hour window fasting and 10-hour eating window. He could increase the fasting window as he gets used to fasting. It could literally change his brain chemistry and attendant problems. He add meditation, exercise, deep breathing etc
I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first. We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later. Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married. after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him. Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs. Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again. The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent. I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.
I'm trying hard but it's not enough. I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man. Pls, help us renew our house rent.
TheUnsure: I need sensible contributions please, no trolls.
I met a man recently who likes me a lot, maybe even love sef. He’s really serious and he wants to marry me but I’m not really feeling the whole thing for a few reasons.
He’s probably a dream come true for some women, rich, caring, generous and there is a possibility of him becoming a king in some years (which I'm not really a fan of, royal families, royal issues). But my issue is that he has a wife already but they don’t have kids (the issue is from the wife) and he wants to marry me as second wife because he does not want to continue waiting after 10 years of marriage. And I know he would give me the world if I have kids with him.
My main problem is attraction, it is not there. He has a small stature and I’m naturally drawn to tall guys. I’m taller than he is and I just can’t get over that. I know I would enjoy the relationship but I feel like I’m always going to be feeling like I settled. Please note, I’m a single mother of 2 in my early 30s and I’m not doing bad financially too. He’s been begging to be intimate and I’ve been responding with a firm No. I’m not interested in starting what I cannot finish. I know if I give in, I would grow to love him because he's actually a nice person but....
I told him No firmly last night that it can't work between us but this man has been relentless, I’m just wondering if I'm not making a mistake...
No insults please, sensible inputs. Thanks
Don't kill your fellow woman's joy. Would you be happy if you were the one in that woman's shoes. Have emphathy. Teach the man empathy too. Wait to get a single man. God will give you, if you believe.
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oxygeng: In as much as I love and appreciate cheerful givers, I am saying to any individuals, countries, organisations and every other donor entities to stop giving or rendering any form of donations to Africa; Especially food donations. This Idea of Africa retaining and maintaininthe begging status should be stopped immediately. These helps in food donations are not helpful to Africa in anyway, they are not different from Tinubu pretending to transfer 8k to vulnerable households. Africans are not handicapped, by whatever means, being it climatic or unrest caused by wars. People who are wise enough to know when they are hungry, and when to eat should be wise enough to provide for themselves what to eat. People who are wise enough to know they need medicines when sick should be wise enough to produce such, it cuts across other areas like military hardware, technology and the rest. The Europeans producing those Items don't have two heads each, rather they embrace themselves and take on every challenges together. Whatever it takes, Africans must hold whoever that chose to lead them to accountable with firm grips. Enough of worshipping Idiots. These donations will keep dwarfing the continent perpetually. Elective seats should be made hot as possible, the biggest hurdle shouldn't be just to grabbed the seats through shambolic process called ELECTIONS but the time spent on the seats, anyone short of expectations must be meant with stiff reprimand including capital punishment. Even the Abokis were able to recognise the danger of being a beggar, that was why they abolished the Almajiri system.
That's the question a young man asked many years ago.
The young man in question is the world renowned preacher, Oral Roberts.
He once asked in a prayer to God, "how do I know Jesus?"
God's answer to him was, "read Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, and The Book of Acts, three times in thirty days!"
"He did it on his knees. At the end of the thirty days, he testified that he now knew Jesus "better than he knew any man on the Face of The Earth!" - Kenneth Copeland.
Interestingly that was God's Own response to that question, but how many Christians would have given a similar response to that question when asked by those who sincerely want to know Jesus today?
Not many obviously but I'm glad to be one of the few ones that would.
God bless.
Hope you are not saying that to praise yourself! And don't condemn those who wouldn't.
bablon20: When some men of God predicted that Tinubu won't win d election which he eventually won through trickery, we all shaded and insulted the men of God forgetting that the corruption in Nigeria of today can upturn God's mandate to benefit their selfish ambition. What we r facing now is testimonial to the fact that Tinubu was never God's choice for Nigeria. May God have mercy on us who never believed in Nigeria politicians.
If the declaration of Tinubu is not of God, it can't stand.
Family › Re: My Mum Is Unconsolable One Month After by Godmind2022(m): 3:11pm On Aug 15, 2023
