Can someone dating for now partake?

A lady on only fans selling her x-rated pictures and videos online has been making business cards with services such as international concierge, brainstorming consultancy on it. Now her man is not happy because she's making cards for it instead of keeping the same low-profile they'd kept for a while.

If both keep saying that their business was doing well if not for this little problem. My question then is this, Are they business people or are they simply a prostitute/gigolo. I genuinely confuse o.

.. Olee!!! Love Kee u dia. Lol

tutidaplug:
Oh.. Issoraite.. tuti's a lover too sometimes you know.

Easy cowboy. Deep breaths...exhale... don't burst a vein. Just saying. You went in hard on this one. Mmm.

tutidaplug:
What?!

Brother Tuti. .. wow.

tutidaplug:
Sick people everywhere. I can sniff out a dark fantasy even when it's carefully wrapped with a sweet smelling alabaster story. Niggu take your twisted fantasy somewhere else and peddle it there or simply start another thread that simply says "Times are tough, I wonder if I could become my wife's love-vendor".. shit!

I was gisting with my elder sister's house governor and she told me her brother's wife just left him. I asked why and she mentioned that the babe won 1.2 million on naira bet and gave the dude the middle finger. I asked if there were previous issues and she mentioned that her brother had cheated consistently but ended up catching her once also cheating with her sales boy.

I laughed but on a deeper level thought, will a few millions help heal a struggling marriage or give reasons to break it irreparably?

Money dey stop nonsense but which kain?

Lying about your sexual orientation is to me a crime simply because in a country where it isn't allowed (same sex relationships) , You suddenly turn the heterosexual partner into someone living with a criminal after your discovery. this is just capital punishment.

Why will some wives not try saving some money for their self when oga will give them money like he's giving money to a servant. women are going through tough situations and this i am sure is the reason some of them start trying to get money stored. A good marriage to a good man and all this issues won't even exist.

I think the love between some friends are shallow from the go and not built on anything more than their love for basic things. When something good happens to one of the members, the rest feel this means they are not as succesful, appealing or favored. Which is wrong.

My husband who had been a serial cheater even as at 2 weeks ago said he had been thinking this period and then started reading. He saw it and then sent it to me afterwards followed by a request to assist him stay accountable (Jesu! i thought the guy was possessed initially sha i wont lie)... It's a topic i don't expect clicks or many comments for because it's a private,sensitive problem but just read and learn my people. Marriages are seriously under attack. Here's the article below..i just put a part of it here. i added the link to the source too.
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Marriage infidelity is now common among both sexes and after speaking to numerous clients who have either cheated or were cheated on, these six points below are some of the reasons most affairs happened.

-Little or no communication leading to distancing
-Lack of trust for a partner
-Unresolved conflict that is allowed to go on for too long
-Lack of value for a partner
-Expectations that were unrealistic pre-marriage
-Sudden financial worries.
-Retaliation or Revenge Affairs

All these needs that are unfulfilled will definitely look for satisfaction somewhere else. Couples, marriages are more at risk these days than ever and it’s important that you set wise boundaries with friends, colleagues etc. Most affairs started off as well meaning friendships but slowly evolved undetected until that first kiss, touch, groping, sexual thought or sex. Infidelity i have also noticed stems from childhood. Children who were deprived emotionally grow up seeking for constant attention and validation. These children grow to become adults who place unrealistic demands on their spouse. They feel let down if their spouse can’t fulfill this craving and then they look for attention outside of marriage.

Most clients caught up in adultery whom i have spoken to believed this was a quest where they were seeking for real love. At the end, it only turned out that for 80% of them, it was just a desire to feel better about themselves.

Retaliation or revenge like i mentioned earlier is one of the fast rising “star-reasons” many especially women are having affairs. On the flip side, many men begin affairs once money or their power positions increase because suddenly their sense of entitlement to life’s pleasures also increase. There are many reasons adultery occurs in marriages but it is overall a self-centered decision. A decision that is poised to satisfy selfish desires and sadly comes with a lot of deception.

There is good news and i want to tell you that even after YOU have cheated on your spouse or had been cheated upon by your better half both can still heal. So here are a few tips on adultery, affairs and how to recover from it.

ITS TIME FOR YOU TO HEAL
It mustn’t always end in divorce because what is the guarantee that the next relationship won’t have a repeat. I have seen cases where people who were hurt in previous relationship start to unknowingly self-sabotage themselves by triggering a series of abusive relationships after their first terrible experience.Healing after infidelity is not impossible. More and more couples are enduring the difficult healing process in attempt to restore their marriages.

The magic question. A very hard question to ask especially by the partner who has been wronged. However, the moment you ask this magic question “Why did you cheat on me”?, it suddenly balances you (the offended) out and in most cases creates an healthy environment for the adulterer to express themselves.
Full Article Here: https://templeobike.com/2019/09/08/how-to-rebuild-trust-after-adultery/
Audio Podcast: https://templeobike.com/soul-bodega-podcast/

I saw this article during this lock-down period and it helped me and my husband who had been a serial cheater heal. He saw it first and then sent it to me afterwards followed by a request to assist him stay accountable (Jesu! thought the guy was possessed initially sha i wont lie)... It's a topic i don't expect clicks or many comments for because it's a private,sensitive problem but just read and learn my people. Marriages are seriously under attack. Here's the article below..i just put a part of it here. i added the link to the source too.
----------------------
Marriage infidelity is now common among both sexes and after speaking to numerous clients who have either cheated or were cheated on, these six points below are some of the reasons most affairs happened.

Little or no communication leading to distancing
Lack of trust for a partner
Unresolved conflict that is allowed to go on for too long
Lack of value for a partner
Expectations that were unrealistic pre-marriage
Sudden financial worries.
Retaliation or Revenge Affairs
All these needs that are unfulfilled will definitely look for satisfaction somewhere else. Couples, marriages are more at risk these days than ever and it’s important that you set wise boundaries with friends, colleagues etc. Most affairs started off as well meaning friendships but slowly evolved undetected until that first kiss, touch, groping, sexual thought or sex. Infidelity i have also noticed stems from childhood. Children who were deprived emotionally grow up seeking for constant attention and validation. These children grow to become adults who place unrealistic demands on their spouse. They feel let down if their spouse can’t fulfill this craving and then they look for attention outside of marriage.

Most clients caught up in adultery whom i have spoken to believed this was a quest where they were seeking for real love. At the end, it only turned out that for 80% of them, it was just a desire to feel better about themselves.

Retaliation or revenge like i mentioned earlier is one of the fast rising “star-reasons” many especially women are having affairs. On the flip side, many men begin affairs once money or their power positions increase because suddenly their sense of entitlement to life’s pleasures also increase. There are many reasons adultery occurs in marriages but it is overall a self-centered decision. A decision that is poised to satisfy selfish desires and sadly comes with a lot of deception.

There is good news and i want to tell you that even after YOU have cheated on your spouse or had been cheated upon by your better half both can still heal. So here are a few tips on adultery, affairs and how to recover from it.

ITS TIME FOR YOU TO HEAL
It mustn’t always end in divorce because what is the guarantee that the next relationship won’t have a repeat. I have seen cases where people who were hurt in previous relationship start to unknowingly self-sabotage themselves by triggering a series of abusive relationships after their first terrible experience.Healing after infidelity is not impossible. More and more couples are enduring the difficult healing process in attempt to restore their marriages.

The magic question. A very hard question to ask especially by the partner who has been wronged. However, the moment you ask this magic question “Why did you cheat on me”?, it suddenly balances you (the offended) out and in most cases creates an healthy environment for the adulterer to express themselves.
Full Article Here: https://templeobike.com/2019/09/08/how-to-rebuild-trust-after-adultery/
Audio Podcast: https://templeobike.com/soul-bodega-podcast/

(Pouts) ...and i had just said bye.
Ok. Find my answers in-line.

cococandy:


Women are finer vessel. so if they behave badly, it’s terrible. No, we are fine vessels, regardless. I choose to listen to what my father taught me not what any b/f or man thinks

Men aren’t fine vessels like women: so it’s not a big deal when they cheat or behave poorly. I know responsible brothers that are hubby-goals, mature and decent. I advice women to identify and stay away from anyone that subscribes to this school of thought..

All it does is create an environment such that they don’t flinch when they cheat on you (that’s the bad treatment I’m talking about) because they are not required to be a fine vessel like you. But if you do, it’s terrible because you’re a finer vessel and aren’t supposed to behave that way.

It doesn’t protect you or your wellbeing or how you actually feel about such things. It just tells you to accept this or that because it’s the popular perception. But you know who’s interest that ‘harmless compliment’ is protecting? "This is a form of generalization borne out of something called a "Herd Bias". sometimes like i said b4, a compliment is simply that. A compliment

Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all fine vessels and don’t taint ourselves? Lol Abi o! I agree wuth you 100% on this one

You stay safe too. Wash your hands and try not to touch your face. (My hands are too occupied to be going to my face sef.

Bad treatment? pliable to abusive behaviour? all deduced from this one statement up there? Really?... amazing analogy indeed from you. I guess that settles it. I rest my case. #Staysafe

cococandy:


It’s different when it’s a compliment versus when it is used to make you accept bad treatment.

Harmless compliment?
There’s a world of difference between a compliment and something that is said to you to make you more beautiful pliable to abusive behavior.

Please speak for only yourself o, i am a woman and enjoy being termed a fine vessel. Maybe not pure but a fine vessel all the same. Inability to let some harmless compliment slide by itself is a serious thing o. Are you saying you've never looked into a parked car ? Now u are sounding pure o! No wait, whats that big word you used.. aha. hypocritical.

cococandy:


More like hypocrisy. and please miss us with the emotional blackmail of women being finer vessel, weaker vessel, supposed to purer and all the blas.
A human is a human.

Anyway I won’t tell you to mind your business because if you wanted to mind it, you wouldn’t have been peeking into the car in the first place.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Might tell the man and him and his wife will use you to reconcile .

lmao....peeps dey vex o..

valuedrvn:
Bros u no read the story? Na advice the nigga want no be kill e kill na?

Ok i have heard of him and read some of his articles.. @onyiiet no be your guy be this? on the matter sha just mind your business and God will give you wisdom.

tutidaplug:
haha.. he just told the truth as it is. I googled counselors near me.Temple's Counsel is his name

Hahaaaa... Bros abeg just dey go your own. That your counselor na correct guy abeg me i need im number o. Your wife is a smart woman too.

Over the years, amazing facts and insights have come to the limelight on Infidelity but i had to bring this down to an African level.

1) FELLAZ, YOU MAY CHEAT ON YOUR SPOUSE IF YOU DEPEND ON THEM FINANCIALLY
This point is something that concerns the men more than the women. A man who financially depends in part or completely on his spouse is 30% more likely to cheat on her than women. Women are only 5% likely. This is an important fact to take note of especially in African economies where the standards of living keep nose-diving on a daily. Job losses are also a constant and affected families are forced to re-adjust their family life.This adjustment is harder for the men. Now below is a point that i found interesting while researching. The solution to this problem is finding a job that can give you an opportunity to add value in your own little way. It works out great for your sense of manhood.

2)FLIRTING MEANS SOMETHING DIFFERENT TO BOTH OF YOU
This is an act we see everyday across Africa and the world over. Harmless as it seems, it’s fast becoming a serious issue. A report published in the Interpersonal Relations and Group Processes journal mid-2008 showed that Men who flirt with an attractive person of the opposite sex,become less tolerant of their partners mistakes BUT for women, they became more tolerant after they flirted with someone else.

Research says there a basically 6 reasons people flirt and this is

* Sex: A need to sleep with the other party

* Fun: It’s a sport

* Exploring: Gauging what a relationship with party 2 could be like

* Relational: Improving the intimacy of an existing relationship

* Esteem: Helps ones self-esteem

* Instrumental: When some other party needs to get something from you (ouch!)

3)THE SEX OF WHO MY PARTNER CHEATS WITH MATTERS
When speaking to client’s who had been cheated on by a partner, i noticed a pattern. Men who their wives cheated on with another man felt angry but in those colorful cases where the woman cheated on him with another woman, they “claimed” to be angry but on further observation and discussion, it turned out they were aroused and wished they could have angry sex with the other woman with their spouse watching �.

The women however would feel disappointed if their partner cheated on them with someone of the opposite sex BUT women who their partners cheated with someone of the same sex, 90% of them were up for ending the relationship. The top reasons being that a man who could hide his sexuality wouldn’t be able to tell the truth about anything else.

-------Copied from his blog..........

Click here for the full article https://templeobike.com/2020/01/11/facts-about-cheating-you-should-know/

Yep..December/January babies will come mos def.

goldenboyofpsy:
The worst thing is when you are ill prepared or unprepared for a crisis it's a crisis on its own.

Definitely this pandemic will shape so many things not just relationships but everything in general. It's now left to you to decide and determine the swing the pendulum will take.

Use this period to solve problems not to create more issues that will pass away.

By the way, more babies loading......

As in eh! Indomie people o.. Sharp sharp things...

SenorFax:
Nice one

The problem of this generation is that nobody want to fix, mend or adjust any situation (relationship in this case), they just want Ready-made due to the illusions flying around the internet.

Information age actually came with "the more you look, the less you see" kinda era.

Kai, bros na wah for you o... Truth dey bitter die..Always enjoy his posts and podcast. Nice write-up. .

Onyiiet:
There are three major licensed marriage counselors in Nigeria helping on a massive scale and i know most of them do travel outside of their primary locations.
1.Marriage Matters International - https://www.marriagematters.com.ng/
2. Temple's Counsel -https://templeobike.com
3. Psych NG - http://www.psychng.com/appointment-schedule

Yeah.. I know the first 2. My mentor uses the second option. Check his site https://templeobike.com/ and check 23/24 counseling too. those are professionals as well in this niche. thanks

I think you should try Temples Counsel, haven't used him personally but his write-ups do make a lot of sense and my mentor uses him here in Abuja or when in Lagos . He rates him quite highly on professionalism, trust and efficiency. I checked him out on google and his client reviews seemed good as well. Their number on google is +234810 905 5475 .. All the best on your search.

Onyiiet:
My elder sis is a nurse who lived abroad for almost 8 years but came home in 2019 and tried setting up a counseling practice. She visited plenty so called counselors and psychotherapists to see what happens here in naija. Boy were we dissapointed. but there were two people she said were as professional as it gets. I advice you check them out.


1)Personal Professional Counseling - His name is Temple Obike and he has been quietly helping marriages and individuals. He writes on some real issues on his blog.. Reach his office on +2348109055475 or https://templeobike.com
2) Counseling Center - They are Institute of Counseling Nigeria. They train counselors and have helped many lives in Nigeria. Their website is intimacyclinic.org and Phone is 0818 457 5377

You're right though, Temple Obike is one of the serious and professional marriage counselors/psychotherapists in Nigeria today . I've followed his write-up's online especially during this lock-down. He talks about real issues and has a podcast on some topics. I haven't used him personally but I know someone who visited his Lagos center with good recommendation. his mainly into reprogramming for ex-occultists, Marriage/relationship counseling and Addiction recovery. cutie too . God forgive me o.