micomails:
I paid for addition of dependents for two different NHIS enrollees using the remitta platform and was issued remitta reciepts for their separate payments. On getting to NHIS office Yola, the staff there refused to honour the reciepts, rather they generated another remitta RRR code for the same payment before they could be honoured. The staff at Yola said that there has been a change in policy where by the enrollee can no longer generate an RRR on his own and present proof of payment afterwards. They insisted that the NHIS staff is solely responsible for RRR generation.
This calls for a few questions;
1. What will happen to the money already paid into the government account through remitta?
2. One of the aims of remitta as a payment platform is to automate government revenue payments inline with the cashless policy of the CBN, so why will NHIS insist on generating and issuing RRR so that an enrollee will have to go to the banking hall with cash before payments can be made which negates the principle of cashless policy?
3. Remitta also tries to minimize human intervention in payment process which curbs corrupt practices, so why would the NHIS now have a policy that ensures that payment can only be done after visiting NHIS office?

I will like the NHIS authority to look into this issue and possibly reverse the policy to enable enrollees make payment without having to come to NHIS office.
However, if it happens that the policy cannot be reversed, then the payment window for addition of dependent should be removed from Remitta so that the general public will not fall victim to this same cricumstance.

lalasticlala mynd44 and other mods, please push this to the appropriate section.
Thanks

Pls can I have your email pls. I no longer have access to the email address I used in opening this account.

micomails:
I paid for addition of dependents for two different NHIS enrollees using the remitta platform and was issued remitta reciepts for their separate payments. On getting to NHIS office Yola, the staff there refused to honour the reciepts, rather they generated another remitta RRR code for the same payment before they could be honoured. The staff at Yola said that there has been a change in policy where by the enrollee can no longer generate an RRR on his own and present proof of payment afterwards. They insisted that the NHIS staff is solely responsible for RRR generation.
This calls for a few questions;
1. What will happen to the money already paid into the government account through remitta?
2. One of the aims of remitta as a payment platform is to automate government revenue payments inline with the cashless policy of the CBN, so why will NHIS insist on generating and issuing RRR so that an enrollee will have to go to the banking hall with cash before payments can be made which negates the principle of cashless policy?
3. Remitta also tries to minimize human intervention in payment process which curbs corrupt practices, so why would the NHIS now have a policy that ensures that payment can only be done after visiting NHIS office?

I will like the NHIS authority to look into this issue and possibly reverse the policy to enable enrollees make payment without having to come to NHIS office.
However, if it happens that the policy cannot be reversed, then the payment window for addition of dependent should be removed from Remitta so that the general public will not fall victim to this same cricumstance.

lalasticlala mynd44 and other mods, please push this to the appropr iate section.
Thanks

Hello, trust you are doing great. Can I DM you pls

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flyca:
Counselling ke?
Has he admitted any wrongdoing?

He eventually admitted yesterday. But blamed me for it. He also said that i am over reacting that "did i hear he impregnated anyone?"

I feel he only admitted because of the burden of proof against him. Even though he knelt down to beg, i certainly feel he would not have stopped seeing the lady if he wasn't caught.

I am so angry but looking at this children, i am just weak to take action. I don't want to involve family and when i mentioned counselling, he said okay.

I am so heartbroken.

Thank you all for you time and advice. We have decided to go for counselling. Anyone knows any professional marriage counsellor im Lagos that you can recommend?

yettymuse:
The only part wey concern me is you covering up his financial loopholes and giving your own car to fly bike??. As in you actually swapped your own luxury for a marital supka... Stop eeeeeeettttttttt!!!!!!!!

Na love be this one too...I no fit abeg..

Dear Queens, make we dey camdan for this love thing o.. These men didn't come to play at all at all.

OMG! Yetunde, i just took a second look at you peofile name. it's me. You introduced me to Mr Tunde. It's the same car they are using to carry women all around Lagos o. Egbami ke

eniolorunfe:


Better! Since you have evidence and he has accepted, you have basically two options: To stay and resolve this or to walk.

Several women in similar situations have stayed and several have walked.

He who wears the shoes knows where it pinches the most, the ball lies in your court!

The advice that is given to the woman that wants to stay is different from the one given to the woman that wants to walk... Just saying...so you will know who to listen to...

This is what I am thinking - If we do stay together it will eat at me every day for the rest of my life. Things will never be the same again. I will never trust again and I will always be bitter about what he did. My head wants to explode right now. Human beings are wicked o.

I wish i could share some of the chats here. He was already calling her "baby", someone that calls me by my real name.

Dyt:


oh well family members will sort it out
thats usually how it works

its his first time right?
its hard to forget sha

tough one
i wish you well.

i know how it hurts cos i have been there
that shitttt hurts deep down
it destroys everything
and then you start to fight on a weekly basis

i really do wish you can stay strong

I don't know if this is his first time, as I'm not sure if i know this man anymore. The way he initially denied with so much anger that i was beginning to think may be he truly didn't do it makes me conclude he's a pro at this. He only ran out of luck this time. I have been so gullible. I feel like beating myself up.

eniolorunfe:

Why do you believe the girl more than your husband
I thought it should be the other way around!

This goes to show how insecure most women are, hence easy preys for most slayers out there

I just got whatsapp screnshots. I have a serial cheat on my hands. I just confronted him with the chat and now he's trying to guilt trip me. He said i caused it. I am so done!

Terryindeed:




I really would have love to insults you but imma keep my mouth shut for now. What do you mean by what you get snooping through his phone, who is she to him? His fffuckking wife. She has every right to know what is going on with her husband. What If the man infected her with STD or STI or something worse than that? Madam I feel so sorry for what you are going through right now. Also his inability to apologized and make come to his senses. I hate to say this, but you should tell his mum or dad. A man like that will never change, the fact that my wife knows I cheated and I still act like I did nothing wrong? That means I have no value for my wife. Madam, you need to make few changes in your life, if you have a job, focus , take care of your kids, your house is divided and the head of the house ain't ready to fix it. I know how sad you are right now, trust and betray are two worse things to live it. Give your husband SPACE to continue fooling himself, mhen I know its hurt a lot. Some men eh.

Thank you for the advice. I just can't stop wondering why I wasn't enough for him. Yes things got a bit stressful sometimes, we have busy lives and young children, there has been arguments but we still had nice times and a healthy, good sex life. I'm one minute sobbing, then so angry.

He's still denying! He woke me up during the night and said we should talk. I ignored him and then he started his sob story that the lady is lying against him. I am more upset about the fact that he's taking me for a fool.

This is a man that is in a messy financial situation for the past months and barely meeting his financial responsibility in the home. I have been covering up in the home front. He sold off his car in June and have been driving mine (i bought with my money) around while i hop on bikes. He obviously was using my car to take another woman to a hotel and he still doesn't feel an iota of guilt about it.

I am in a very tight corner and i can't think straight right now. All I can think about is our kids and how I don't want to deny them the right to grow up with their father. But i certainly can't continue in this marriage if he doesn't even respect me enough to admit what he did.

I noticed he has been exchanging calls alot with a particular number on Whatsapp. So I asked him about it and he bacame defensive. He angrily asked for me to give him back his phone, and when i refused he forcefully collected it from me, twisting my fingers in the process.

I later got my hand on his phone at a later time and was able to get the number of the person. I called and i received the shock of my life when the female who answered the call said he's her boy friend and they have been seeing for a while now. She admitted they have been having sex in a hotel, that my husband told her he isn't married.

Thank God my call recorder was on. I have the qhole conversation stored on my phone. I was very calm although my conversation with the lady, wven though it's the hardest thing i have ever had to do.

I confronted my husband and he denied it. I played the recorded call and guess what? He still denied!

We have been married for 4 years with 2 kids. I feel so devastated and awful right now not knowing which way to turn.

He's not apologizing or feeling remorseful. This is too much of a betrayal and I just don't know how we could ever get past this. I feel so betrayed and can't believe he would do this and not think of the impact it would have on me and our kids. I thought we were soulmates and would grown old together.

I have been sobbing all day since i found out.

Has anyone ever gone through this? What is the right way to handle this?


Moderator* (Please no front page. Pls i beg of you

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FrankNetter:
The truth is, at night, people tend to speed more, 'cos the road would be somehow free. We were driving jejely o following map jejely too o.

Next thing, map carry us enter freeway.


My sister (who isnt much of an experienced driver) started fidgeting. While changing lanes, she misjudged the closeness of the vehicle on an adjacent lane and tried to switch lanes, it was by divine intervention we didnt bash the lady's car. the woman was like



After the incident, We jejely entered one street by the side in order to dodge the mad speeding drivers. The plan was to wiggle through smaller streets and find our way to the Domino's pizza outlet.

this map showed us shege that yesternight. From carrying us to a dead-ended street, to taking us round in circles, our night was bad already, we almost gave up on the pizza.

After like 40 minutes (which seemed like an eternity), we arrived at our destination. picked our pizza and started heading home. Finally, we got home safely with all our body parts intact.

When we got home and told our siblings the gist, they were dancing like:




Imagine if we had bashed the car or gotten into an accident, what would we have told our mum?

Finally, we ate the pizza with glee while laughing over the incident.

Quite interesting in here! Following ya. I might be visiting Chicago soon

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Flowerlady01:

Clap for yourself.
If I were your husband, I will send you back to your parents house immediately to learn how to keep a home. And you will only return on your knees. That is if I ever change my mind and take you back.
Women breaking their homes with their hands since Bible days.

Hmmmm. Don't judge anyone except you have walked atleast a mile in their shoes.

Other mamas here have told her what she did is wrong. Which ofcourse it is. But they used a better tone with empathy. We should learn to not castigate people because they bring up their personal issues to us. There are so many women who have done worse and didn't bring it here for you to be a judge.
You don't know what she's going through. The least you could do is be nice. Except of course you are not a woman. Pheeeeeeww.

MsJanez01:
Any Feb/Mar El Paso bound mama considering sharing an Accomodation?kindly reach out prettyjreal@Gmail.com. Considering staying at Intown suites...

You want to stay at Intown and you want to share with a stranger? Pls my sister don't try it o. Even without sharing sef, the drama in ntown is enough. Not to talk of sharing with someone you don't know.

And again it wouldn't be convenient when baby comes cos the bed in the double room is smaller than that of the single.

Madam Ujoan, this matter have been overflogged! Please don't 'resurrect' it again. Let the thread progress with meaningful posts.

Thanks

finegirlna:

Nne are u not funny. Pls am I begging u to be on my side. Mrs legal, I'm ignoring u bcs of ppl. Leave me to be illegal.did I ever ask u to b on my side,do I knw u,asin.u all can see nowoo.she has eaten and she has strength.ok. Let me just make it clear to u,if u like b on twoods side, if u like be sideless. 20 of ur type can't Make me blink

Babe let it go jare. Oya take this cup of thick milo

edirex:


was it sent to your mail or on their platform?

Email

Hi guys. Anyone got interview invite too? Just got mine few hours ago.

urchpath:


This is the copy of the Email I just received:


Re: Nigeria Chevening Scholarships , 2017 - 2018

Dear .................,

We are pleased to inform you that your application for a Chevening award has been progressed to the next stage of the selection process. You have been selected by the British in Nigeria Chevening Scholarships to attend an interview.

Please log into the online application centre and take the following actions:

1. Schedule your interview. Interview slots are limited, and available on a first-come-first served basis. We therefore suggest you schedule your interview slot as soon as possible. Please note that telephone or skype interviews are not permitted, and you must attend a face-to-face interview in the country that they are applying from in order to be considered for a Chevening award.
2. Upload your references. You must upload two references to support your application by Monday 27 February 12:00 GMT. References are an integral part of the selection process and if you do not submit two references then your application will not be considered. Further information is available in our References Guidance.
3. Provide your education documents – You must ensure you have uploaded your undergraduate degree certificate or transcript by the deadline of Monday 27 February at 12:00 GMT. You can also upload any postgraduate qualifications.
4. Complete your biography. You are asked to complete a short biography and upload a picture by the deadline of Monday 27 February at 12:00 GMT.

Kind Regards,
The Chevening Secretariat

Hi. Was also invited. Have you booked your interview date? I am seeing 3rd-7th of April as available dates. I thought they said Interview ends in May? Will more dates be released soon?

finegirlna:

Dnt mind him, visa officer, mr know it all, consular general, cbp officer. If u Dnt pray why not leave ppl dat pray and fast alone.diff tins work for diff ppl.okaramara

No chills at all

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Hi thermolady, congratulations! Pls I'd like to send you a PM.

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Dharniel:


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LadyGuinivere:
So drop box option hasbeen scrapped according to the rumour...
And the cbps have greater powers now. Make all man dey maintain and behave now o! Some Cbps will want to set preccedent now...

Huh! Where you hear this one?

Ok then! Thanks sis

We eventually enrolled our LO to a school. They call their class 'Toddlers Class' (1-2yrs). Before we enrolled, we asked them about their daily routines for the kids and curriculum and they mentioned most of what you enumerated. But i just asked another parent in another school whose child is about the same age as mine and she told me her child brings homework home (colouring, art, et al).
They don't give us homework at our school o

Also what do you think about a school that doesn't give uniform to kids in their toddler class? The kids wear mufti. I'm beginning to think this is a glorified creche