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May God console the bereaved.


I hope the driver wasn't drunken sha.
Because the way those drivers take sepe and all nots before taking off is alarming.
Just my thinking.



Once again, my sympathy to the bereaved!

You know the right thing to do.
And btw, how old are you?

byvan: Real father material!!!

You can say that again!

As far as I'm concerned, there is no big deal here. If she ask you for something and you can afford it, do it for her and if on the other hand, you can't afford it, then, tell her that you would have wished to do it, but that you can't afford it. If she want to because of that leave you, then, let her, yours who won't see you as ATM will come your way.
One thing I'm even thinking is, if she can be so demanding when you are not yet working, how will it be when you start working and she's aware of your fat salary?
You need to think very well on this your issue o.
May God help you.

Awww, so cute a boy. May God always be with him, you and all of us.
Unfortunately, I don't have a little girl, I would have booked him down.
Well done sir/ma

The "join the pdp is hilariously true. But who is bold enough to publicly declare himself as Tinubu's enemy?


And about the "starting a mega church, isn't that one of the reasons we have so many church and no fruits to show for it.
And sincerely, this man just spoke nothing but the truth in everything he said here.
May God heal our country.

nerodenero: Product of failed Country!

Partially Right, but have you thought about this?
Families constitutes nations!
Product of failed family values!
Product of failed parental responsibilities!
Product of failed proper training!
Product of failed self discipline!
And finally product of failed country!

@op, if you have sincerely and consistently assured her of your love and she knew about your status before you both married, then, leave her alone, she will sort herself out someday. The problem I guess with her is that, she's insecure, but for now, there is little you can do about that, since you are already married.
Keep on taking care of her and your child, keep on updating her on when you are going to visit him and when you are back, also tell her what happened there. Do not allow her to turn you to a bad dad, continue doing good and keep informing her, with time, she will realize you are being honest with her and will relax.
But sincerely, I will advise you not to bring your son over to your place now until she comes around to reason with you and believe and accept everything you tell her concerning you and your ex relationship as true, because jealous people can be hard to predict o.
May God uphold your home.

Dear op, let me be sincere with you, you don't need to be asked to say a thank you before you say it, no matter how close related or knitted you are to each other and vice versa.

Saying thank or being appreciative is a virtue that mustn't be taken for granted at all. It is the kind of training that must be given to every child and I want to believe that you have been given such training, only that you are thinking it's your sister, so you don't need to, but you really have to, even if it is your parents. It shows you have a sense of gratitude.
Even we say thank you to God and it provokes Him to do more for us, not to talk of humans.
Let me tell you, if you want to change your impression with anyone, especially positively, learn to be polite, grateful, appreciative and expressive about it to everyone.
There is no one, again I say, no one, that do not deserve appreciation, even for the smallest thing that is done for us.


And as for asking for thank you, I can only ask my kids probably they forget to or carried away with what is done for them at the moment, to say thank you as a form of training, apart from that, I can't ask any other person to say thank you, if I give or do something to someone and he/she refuse to say thank you, I will just assume the person is not properly trained or refuse to accept proper training, and I will move on, but I bet if such a person can go far in life because everyone likes to be appreciated.
May God help us all.

Are these points not also meant for husbands
Or is it only wives that must make marriages work
Or is what is good for the goose not good for the ganders again
Abeg, it takes two to tango.
I believe in joint effort in making marriages work.
Women aint super beings.
My slogan: Treat others the way you want them to treat you, including in marriage.
May God help us all.

Dear op,
I know what your wife did to you was very painful, I know you are really hurt, I know that you're really vexing now, I know you never believe she could do what she did, I know you still think you're dreaming, but I must tell you, everyone faces one problem or the other in his/her marriage. No marriage is ever problem-free, and that is why I always advise people not to use any marriage as the yardstick for theirs.

Now, what you need, as others have suggested, let her get tested, if........
1. She was actually pregnant.
2. She actually aborted the pregnancy.
3. The condition of her womb, ie if she can still conceive again.
After that, you two need to involve in effective, efficient and meaningful communication. Discuss on why she did what she did and when she actually want to start raising children and if she even has interest in having children at all. Discuss on how both of you can make your marriage work and what she want you to do to make her happy, because, she might not be happy or in love with you at all.
Then. I will ask, are you sure you have not really make her so sad in the past, in such a way that she has been looking for an avenue to revenge, if yes, then you have to start from there. I said this because of one of your posts where you said you will go back to your former skill.
And I will not paste this comment without letting you know that, you both are selfish towards each other in your marriage, from what I gather from your posts, but you can still make it work by forgiving each other and being selfless in your marriage.
I sincerely wish you two well in your marriage.

Can this story be true?
I doubt it.
Except she has mental/psychological disorder.
How can a sane person, especially a mother decide to kill herself and leave 3 children alone to suffer because her hubby refused to buy her an ipad.
The NPF better carry out their investigation/research work out very well and quickly too and keep us updated.
I may not say precisely, but something is definitely fishy.

@op, na fashion now!


Crazy sytle for crazy people.

That type of gown is meant for decent ladies.

I may not like that lady, Bev, but sure, i really love her dress or gown they call it.

Hhhhhhhhmmmmmm!
*sighs*
Marriage! Marriage! Marriage!
Every marriage with it's unique challenge.

I can almost swear that, there is no marriage without its unique challenge(s).
May God give all of us the grace and power to overcome our marital challenges.


For all yet-to-marry peeps............ Never envy anyone's marriage, pray for your own, i mean what you really want in your own marriage, never tell God to make your marriage be like Mr A or Mrs B's marriage, because you never can tell what is happening or the challenge(s) in that person's marriage.
May God help us all.


@op, it is well, keep on the good work.

[quote author=Mynd_44]**Dies**[/quote]**sprinkle hot water on Mynd 44 to wake up to the truth**.

In fact, i will join Debrief in the protest if threads like this continue to have their ways into this section. This is a section of mature and serious-minded people for goodness' sake ke.
The influx of ASUU strike is just too obvious jare this recent time.
May God help our country.

Treat her like your mother and let's start from there.

What a thread!!!
This is one of the threads that will make Debrief vow to protest nak€dly in front of National Assembly complex for refusing to call ASUU strike off.

My mother!
My father!

crystalballs: Not that am a saint, but i knoow what my mum went through.

Hence, i vowed to be a loving husband.

And that means you're still a nice person, some dont learn from other people's experience. It is well and may God continue to be with you, your marriage and all yours.

crystalballs: ok thanks, will definately give it a try.

i just love your approach, you aint selfish at all. May God help you to find a lasting solution to this.

@op, God bless you for looking for solution and for not being selfish. Some men wont even bother to care whether she's happy or not, once their own se*ual needs are met.
May be you can send an e-mail into her inbox about how you feel about the whole issue and ask her to reply you via the same route, maybe she's not expressive enough or might be too shy or not comfortable enough to explain verbally what and why she is behaving as such.

May God help you both.

Great job, my dear sister.
I also have the book in my library its one of the great books to have and read always.

There Is a particular statement in that book that has really helped me to stop being anxious and that is.................
85% of what we worry about never happen and 15% of what we worry about happen comes with its solution, ie, we just do it anyhow and it looks like we know the solution already.
May God continue to increase your wisdom ma.

LWKMD
LWTMB
Ojuju calabar corpers.

@Jidegirl, kpele o, what you need is adequate rest and sleep, please, do have it.


@YPP, good for you, nothing with advantage without disadvantage. Having so many names comes with such experience.

@tayour, olowo sibi, how far now? You never update us say Tinuke don come out, anyway, congratulations, and I love your catering concept, may God continue to bless you and yours IJN.



@RR, you intentionally ignored me, abi?, because of my award abi, I know where to get you, I will tell tayour not to grant you that beautiful angel, until you give me my right.

To me, i dont know whether it is rude or not, but, i believe that, most times, it's a spontaneous question, as in, unknowingly, people just say... haaaaaaa!"kilopaaa? But if i'm in such situation, i have also designed my own spontaneous answer........"na death kill am"


for example;
Mr A: we heard that your dad died, ha, wetin kill him?
Me: yes oo, na death kill him!



Very simple.

I saw this and I thought it's worth sharing on this thread.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Too much to do...

School runz stuff... Shopping ... Uniforms...

Oh, how I wish the summer holidays last longer! Gonna miss my babies!! {and helpers! } [/quote]Efe, im still waiting for you o
im sure you are already enjoying the fun, dont worry, its normal to miss your babies but they are in safe hands(God's hands).


RR, good concept, where is my award for opening the gate of this lovely thread, i so love it, because at least, we are knowing every family section individuals username's meanings and why they chose them and we already know that family section folks are amala folks.
Baba oyo, RR broght you out of your hiding place, that's fine, welcome sir.
Jidegirl, dad's girl, dont be jealous when your queens and princesses' turn out to be dad's girls.
CC, thanks for letting me know that you aren't comfortable with my madam, noted for action.
YPP, i want to add bororo to your names, that's what we call very fair people in our area.

Happy Weekend to all.
Love you all.

No wonder my hubby is so healthy, he likes to eat onions, at least one in a day.

Congratilatios!

byvan: I think op is the one not physically attracted to the guy.

ok then