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Welcome on board!

But answer Rukemi's question.

bigass: y

may God have mercy on you.

Did the guy tell you that you aint physically attractive?

Do you realise that it is what you think about yourself that really matters. How can you believe within you that you aint physically attractive. You said you are a practising christian, yet, you dont believe that "you are fearfully and wonderfully made".

Have right mindset about yourself. Possess self confidence and maintain your dignity, and ou shall attract that guy that is made for you.
It is well.

bigass: take your medicine

may God have mercy on you. Amen.

@Efe, its weekend, and TGIF
so you think if its not today, i will have time.


Besides, its not bad if we give time for fun, it cant always be family, family family, sometimes, we need fun, be it online and offline, and i think this is one of the ways to have fun.



O ya, my sister, take this......muah,muah,muah and lets have fun.

Its not abut RR, it could be anyne and i wuld have still make myself available if its another poster.
God bless you

timothy001: @greatgod2012 Don't blame me please.The Dream is big.But honestly speaking I do love my wife to do things while am around. But my point is As a woman make sure the Home is clean ,Dat can't be compromised.
What is dere to do.You stay at home to take good care of the kids .Take care of the House.veyr simple my dear.

yeah! Yeah! Yeah!
I now understand, your dream is big and i pray that your dream come to pass.
However, know this, no woman, i repeat, no woman will like to live in a dirty place, or let me say, no woman will want her husband to come back from work and meet the whole place dirty, but dont make it seem married women are suppose to be slaves, you cant achieve the best of your wife if you behave like that towards her, everyone deserves to be treated with respect, before it can be reciprocal, so, get that.
From your words, do i take it that you have a stay-at -home wife? Even at that, dont look at her as a slave. Treat her with respect and you will get the best of her.
Once again, may your dream come to pass. Amen.

I am surprised that some peole are really believing the BS the op posted here.

I already know and recognise her username, seems she takes interest in any useless intimacy talks, hence, my not contributing in her(if its actually her) threads. If you want to prove me, go to "her" profile and you will see what im talking about.

@debrief, you are so on point
@tayour, omo iya mi oniniire, so, you believed the story, stop your advice please, it never happened, it was just a pigment of her imagination.
May God help us all.

TGIF!


Fun Galore!

Now, how do i start?
Ok, my username,
Greatgod........that is my name, the English translation of my name, if you are Yoruba, that is an assignment for you(i know some people will be cracking their brains by now).
Well, im a Nigerian, born, bred and married in Nigeria. Stays here.
My religion, born as a christian and christian by practice, but not fanatical.
Married, yes, married to my best friend and blessed with three wonderful and glorious children.
My believe about marriage....marriage is what you make it, if you make yourself a right person, you will attract the right person.
Favourite colour..........white and chocolate brown, blue sometimes.

Hobbies...........reading, chai! I love reading, even when i buy akara or puff-puff, i must read everything on the wrapper.
2......playing with kids, i have been doing this from my chilhood, and when i started having kids, it became an added advantage of opportunity for me.

My favourite exercise......walking!
About myself.....i am a very disciplined and contented person.





My general belief............whatever you sow, you shall reap.


I think that's enough of me.

@timothy, with this your million, million and my wife must do this, my wife must do that, going to work and coming back at 9pm, while she stays at home,etc mindset, are you sure you married or going to marry a reputable and woman or a slave? Also, with this your mindset, buying 50 million naira house with no house help, so the woman must be the one to sweep the whole compound everyday, do the laundry, go to the kitchen everytime, take care of the kids, etc, abeg, i no fit laugh, that woman must be a slave, i tell you.
Or should i ask if you are talking about marriage or slavery.
It is well.

passionate88: Very funny how the girls think. Greatgod I never knew you of all people could write such. The woman isn't working yet you expect the husband to come from work and sweep the house with his " housewife ! This one na real end time thingz. We give up

sir/ma, i didnt read where the said women is said not to be working.
I am still me, im not a dirty person and i cannot marry a dirty person, but everyone has his or her weakness, a wife should not be seen as a slave or a cleaner, if she doesnt know how to do it, since the man have agreed to marry her despite her dirtiness, then he must be ready to sacrifice, sacrifice in what sense? It's either he lead and correct her in love, or employ someone to do it for her, afterall, he must have known this weakness of hers before marrying her, if it was before marriage, i will be the first person to advise him not to marry her if he is not ready to live with her, but now that he has married her, he now want to divorce her, haba! , on what he already knew, and if he did marry her with the believe that he will change her, how many times have we been saying it that one should not marry someone with the mindset of changing the person? nobody can change anyone, my brother, there is an hidden thing here, unfortunately, we dont know it, but based on what is written here, i still believe that is not enough to file for a divorce.
May God help us all.

debrief08: A younger colleague was dating a guy, a lot of us were carried away with his good looks and his seeming politeness, she kept saying hehad hygiene issues but I was thinking it was the normal sometimes careless nature some men including my husband exhibit, till one day she got me to his place, I still have nightmares from what I saw.

He lives is a different town so she would go every 2 weeks, she spends all weekend cleaning up only to return and meet it more dirty.
When we got there he was at work, she said she got tired of cleaning his bathroom so she locked the second bathroom for her own use.
His bathroom water and pee all over the floor, poo in the toilet and stains of poo, the bath was discoloured with dirt and layers of it.

His clothes thrown all over, rats and roaches had made a permanent abode in his kitchen, the 30 mins we spent there I was scared for life, cockroaches strolling comfortably, I went to the hotel and showered 3 times, never nagged my husband for not properly mopping after that.

She tried and gave up, I always wonder who he will end up with, me I will de dead in a week

There were week old dishes in the kitchen sink, some developing maggots, coackroaches lazying around them.

My dear friend told me "see what I come to meet every weekend"

After that day I never told her to "manage" again.

debrief08: I forgot to add his curtain had finger and oil stains meaning when he eats he cleans his hands on the curtains.
Almost throwing up now as that memory returns to me.

madam Debrief, i love what your colleague did, infact, your colleague did well, she knew she couldn't stand the dirtiness of the guy and she took to her heels, she didn't marry him and later start complaining after the marriage that he is too dirty and therefore she must divorce him.
One thing i still dont understand is what people do during their courtship, to me, i think it is the time to study the person you want to make life contract with, and if there is what you cant live with, then call the relationship off, a broken engagement, they say, is better than a broken marriage, i am sure that the man in this thread must have courted his wife before marrying her, why didn't he call the relationship off when he discovered that he couldn't stand her dirtiness? why did he marry someone he knew he could not live with? why whinning after marriage?
To me personally, it's just an excuse, a flimsy one for that matter, he didn't complain while dating/courting, and now after marriage, did the woman turned to a gip overnight?didn't he knew she was dirty when he went ahead to marry her?
Abeg, let's call a spade a spade, this woman must have really offended this man and the offence seems what both of them can not narrate in the public, hence, resorting to her weakness, which is dirtiness.
P.S......im not in support of dirtiness, but all im saying is that, why did he went ahead and marry her when he knew he couldn't live with her?

I can not but laugh on this thread

CC, on monday when my boy was going to school, he demanded for another biro, i asked why, he said he couldnt see its cover again, i told him that he should go and continue using the biro like that, that, that is the price he is going to pay for being careless with his biro cover, by the time he was back in the noon, he came back with another biro cover, i asked where he got it from, he said his aunty gave it to him, i immediately called the aunty on phone and she asserted to it. Now, that is just a biro cover o, can such boy bring home other things that is not his into that house? i guess no, because, he knows i will get to the root of the matter, but what do we see today? some parents call it "smartness"....heeeee, im afraid of the future o.


And as for the church, some of my church members have ran away, and when we asked why, they said our Rev. is "old school", he doesnt preach prosperity as such, they have ran to new generation churches and some of them have been moving with the trend, again, im afraid of the future o. The roles played by our "prosperity, without fear of God" pastors nowadays is nothing to write home about at all. And that is why one must personally have connection with His God. If we read the bible with open mind and understand and practise what is written therein, nobody will be able to brainwash anyone, and the society will be more sane.
May God help us all.

debrief08: CC, I am suddenly totally depressed.
I see young girls with no means of livelyhood with 3 or 4 very expensive phones. Was it not here I complained that a neighbour tried to get me to "Hide" her daughters car ( daughter was a 200 level student then oh) so her father won't see. When I spoke to the mother and asked why she will encourage that I was tagged enemy of progress.

As you said, now everything seems to go, I really really put my hands up for the ones who see all this and choose right, at least before there were lines not to be crossed, now there are no more lines or is it the social media that makes it visible to us?

Previously when we hear crazy actions from men we become scared for our daughters, now we should also become scared for our sons.

my dear sister, so many things have gone wrong, wrong things are now celebrated, parents are not excluded, no more morals, the roles played by some parents sef is questionable, just like in my area, a 100 leve lady student came back with a car and the parents are giving testimony in church, saying God works in a mysterious way, that their daughter said the school authority gave him a car gift as the best behaved student in the school, can you imagine? Even, if they are illiterate, shouldnt they enquire from the literate ones around them?
You see students with expensive BB, cars and the parents will not bother to ask how they got money to buy them.
What of the useless old "rich" men who wouldnt allow the girls to rest nko?
The society is decayed, i tell you
but i still maintain that if all parents carry out their parental duties as expected of them, there will be more sanity in the society.
May God help us all.

Desperation..........anyone who is desperate to be with someone by force can kill if anything wants to stand on his/her way.
Selfish interest/Greedy..........the guy or the lady in question might be wealthy or possess what they consider as money or flashy materials, hence, not allowing any other person to snatch him/her from them.
Charity begins at home........anyone who is raised by violent parents and has been exposed to being violent will always act violently when fighting for what he/she believes to be his or hers.
Hot temper.............it is better to live alone in a whole city than living with a hot tempered person. Hot tempered person do not think before they act, they first act and then regret their actions, some of these violent actons are carried out, out of too much anger and frustration.
Insecurity/Jealousy also plays role in this type of mess.
The society.......the way the society looks at and react to ladies who are yet to get married at certain age can make a lady be desperate in hooking up with any guy that comes their way by force, by fire.
P. S....im looking at it from both sexes'angle, its not only girls that are guilty, we have heard on so many occassions where guys beat hell out of their babes, because she said she is no longer interested in the relationship.

What can we do?
Much of it lies with the parents, we should try and inculcate good behaviours in our children, both in deed and in words and always educate our children not t be desperate about boyfriends or girlfriends.
Secondly, we should all realise that anything or anyne that belong to us will get to us easily and not by force, if one has to fight and fight and fight before getting someone, then we should look well, that someone may not really belng to us in the first place.
May God help us all.

Nice pics

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Lol!

No, not really. Just a bit bored, that's all. [/quote]

debrief08: Efe you are screaming grammer to someone who believes that because a man doesn't answer their endless pings it is evidence of "guys meaness"

you people are just making my evening hilarious. I cant stop laughing, walahi!



@op, it was just coincidence and unfortunate, that doesn't really means men are mean or inconsiderate.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]^^ Can you kindly make the necessary adjustments to your mis-spelt title? It's an eyesore and an embarrassment to your school and the Nigerian educational system.

Thanks.[/quote]Efeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
you wan kill person!
I don laugh knock my head on the door, dont kill person with laugh oooooo




@op, the title should be "Is he a blessing?
I guess its an oversight.

I have been doing it since 2003, and i dont have any reason to regret at all. It even helped me to keep fit.


It is called "water therapy" and it is a very good thing to adopt. For those who have not tried it before, i will advise you give it a trial and you shall not regret.
For more convinction, you can goggle "the benefit of water therapy".

Heeeeee, confession time!
I cant really remember i did it, but my only girl wore it like that till age 4, and each time i tried to correct her and my mum is around, she would say.........."fi omo yen sile, iwo lo fi jo" which means "leave that girl alone, she took after you"......lol.


But the thing get as e be, my first son NEVER did it, not even once, since his infancy, i dont know if it has to do with intelligence sha, but he never did it.
And the baby of the house, he is still very much in the business of wearing sllipers and even shoes wrongly.

The little girl is definitely an angel for that family.


Sometimes, we dont know what some other people are until we have an encounter with them.
She didnt sleep because she knew a distaster is about to strike, and someone will tell me such a little girl is not an angel.
That girl is a God sent=an angel.

Moral of the lesson: Never underestimate anyone whether an infant, a child, a teenager or an adult, because, you never can tell whether the person is an angel who can save you in an unknown future.
May God help us all.

[quote author=Ms_Steph]Silly excuse. So when he was "courting" her nd knacking akpako he forgot she is dirty dat man has sumtin in his closet[/quote]abeg, dont mind him jare, what exactly is he doing to assist the woman at home to make sure the house is neat and tidy to his taste, or does he think house chores is that easy or did he employ a househelp for her to assist in the house?

Something is definitely hidden jare, its only unfortunate that we wont be hearing the outcome, i mean how the second wife enters the house.


I keep my leg crossed!

May God heal our country.

slimyem: Are you planning to go into the business?

haaaaaa!
Anti Yemi, what an intelligent question

Another mistress on the way, ready to enter, probably pregnant sef, hence, the one at home must leave by fire by force. Chai! Human beings! I hail o.



On a serious note, if the wife was actually dirty, why cant the man correct her in love and with love. In my opinion, if the man takes his broom and also ask his wife to take her broom, tell her, sweep that side, i will sweep this side, i think both of them will benefit from it and with time, patience and tolerance, peace will reign in the family.



Infact, im so amazed and sad over excuses being given nowadays for divorces. No more tolerance and compromise in marriages again. Na wa o! If all of us think toward this direction in our marriages, i doubt if anyone will still remain married. The "for better, for worse" no longer make sense to a lot of married couples again.



Abeg, Mr Emmanuel Kayode, divorcing because your wife is not as neat as you expected is not an enough and cogent reason o, IMO, there is no perfect person o, take it easy and assist your wife to change for better as she has promised to.
May God help all we married people o. Amen.

tobnical: that's true!!!!

Very true, my brother, instead of making derogatory comments or abusive posts, its better to just read and ignore and move to other threads that may likely be more interested to us, because, we never know where and who will be reading our comments. Our words should always be seasoned with salt, not with abuses and bitterness.
May God help us all.

tobnical: thats a cool one.............. for Mr Aboki. so these people do read Nairaland posts..

And that is why it is advisable to always make sensible comments.
One never can know, it is Mr aboki's time today, it may be some other posters tomorrow.

debrief08: Planning is not spmething we like doing, why Plan when we can always make spiritual things responsible for our failures and Pastors responsible for our success?
Note: this applies to some Nigerians not all.

We don't plan for marriage, we marry because "Its time" "My mates are getting married" Mama wants grand children

We don't plan for kids, we have kids because "Kids are a blessing from God" "so many are looking for kids so if we produce every year its a blessin"

We don't plan for theur future "God will provide"

We don't plan for accidents and death because its not our portion

When it all goes wrong we can always blame goof old devil and witches and wizards.

Planning means taking responsibility and we don't like that.

Ma,
I don't think its about religion, its about irresponsibility. The so-called people are just using religion to cover their irresponsibility.

Anyone who is responsible enough and who will always take responsibility for his actions and inaction will always plan for everything he/she want to embark on, be it marriage, childbearing, business, old age, etc.


Anyone who doesn't plan and just accept things just the way they come is showing the whole world the type of person he/she is.
May God help us all.

Ich liebe dich: I believed that satan lived under the ground and God lived in the sky

Funny enough, my kids believe so much in this, everyday, they usually say.............."My mummy, sebi satan lives under the ground and Jesus lives in the sky? Me, I don't want to go down o, where satan is, I will always go up where Jesus is"..........lol
They still said it this morning before leaving for school.
May God help our kids.

birdman: your life has a tendency to go in the direction of your strongest belief. hopefully you guys arent feeding your fears

my brother,
As much as i can say you are right, do you know that one cant know how to conquer one's fears if one doesn't identify the fears, and identifying the fears doesn't really means those fears will overtake one.
Therefore, my dear brother, it is better to identify one's fears and fight hard to conquer them, but if one doesn't identify them, how can one conquer them.


Besides, this parrticular type fear ie fear of old age is real to everyone, except if one doesn't desire growing old, and who doesn't?, none, i guess.
We see all these happening to our older folks and we pity them, but it is not wrong if we start believing that, we are also going to be in their shoes someday.
May God help us all.

collynzo2: Only dirty people deal with mosquitoes.

for real