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[quote author=Mynd_44]When will we realise that there is beating and there is torture?[/quote]Help me tell them o.

While torturing children, they will claim they are correcting them. Why can't they correct in love. Why must they torture before they can admit that they are correcting? What does a 3 years old child even know?
Psycho people.

Freiburger: People are so confused and stressed up that child beating is what they use as stress relief.

My brother, can you imagine? Beating up a 3 years old child! Isn't that gross madness

Strange things are really happening. Some people are just very and so wicked, even more wicked that the imaginary devil.
Imagine! Is three years old girl too old to vomit or deficate on self Instead of her to find out why such thing is happening to the little girl, she resorted to beating her. I don't know what to say, maybe, she has to be examined mentally, too many sick people living with and around us, and this is even making this life scarier to live in.
May the little girl's soul rest in peace and justice be done, but what happens to the 10 months old baby she's having.
God have mercy on us.

A 21-year-old woman, Rebecca Bassey, has been arrested by the Lagos State Police Command for allegedly beating her husband's three-year-old niece, Deborah Bassey, to death.



According to police authorities, the suspect beat up the girl because she vomited and defecated on herself.

A police source told PUNCH Metro on Thursday that the incident occurred at Ijaiye Ojokoro area of the state on July 22, 2013.

He said, "The victim (Deborah) lost her mother in 2010. Early this year, Deborah's father was evicted from his home and he decided to send Deborah and his second child to go and stay with his brother, Vincent, until he settles down.

"Deborah and her nine-year-old sister were living with Vincent and his wife, Rebecca, in a one-room apartment at Powerline, Jankara, Ijaiye Ojokoro. However, Rebecca was always maltreating the two children."

According to police investigations, on the day of the incident, Deborah woke up around 5.30am with a high temperature.

The three-year-old girl was said to have started vomiting and defecating soon after. This was said to have angered Rebecca, who instead of administering treatment to the child, decided to beat her up.

A police source said, "In the process of beating the girl, the suspect pushed her and she fell, hitting her head against the edge of a wooden chair in the room."

PUNCH Metro learnt that the victim started to bleed from the head. Some neighbours rushed her to Ahmadiyya Hospital, where she was referred to Orile Agege General Hospital where she later died.

A woman leader in the area, Kudirat Ogunseyi, was said to have reported the matter to Ijaye Ojokoro Police Division after which the suspect was arrested.

Some neighbours, in their statements at the police station, described the suspect as a hot-tempered woman, who was fond of beating the children.

"The way that woman beats up the children was very worrying to the extent that the landlord had threatened to evict them," one of the statements reads.

Vincent told the police that he was not present when his wife beat his niece to death.

"I was not at home when the incident happened. I am a photographer during daytime but I work as a vigilante group member. So I hardly sleep at home," he said.

The suspect however said she did not kill the victim deliberately. She said she only pushed Deborah and she hit her head against the chair.

"I am a housewife and I have a 10-month-old baby. I did not mean to kill her (Deborah). I only pushed her because she vomited and defecated on the floor. I was only trying to correct her. It was not deliberate. I am a mother too and I know how I would feel if my son was killed," she said.

It was learnt that the matter had been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department, Yaba.

A source at the SCID said the police were waiting for autopsy. He added that if other wounds were found on other parts of the victim's body, it would prove that the victim was indeed tortured before her death.

When contacted on the telephone, the Police Public Relations Officer, Ngozi Braide, said she would call back.

Source: naij.com

Thank God no casualties.

slimyem: How did and CC get the op?

Your question has been answered.
She modified the post.

Not everything that is important to you that must be important to others. Your parents are human too and they have their preferences, birthday wishes may not be part of their preferences. So as others have said, if its that important to you, then inform them a day or two days before the D-day.
May God be with you.

She should go and see a doctor.
Please don't waste time.
It is well.

I saw this and I thought it's worth sharing.
I think it's good for us to examine and asses ourselves.

As for me, I'm so guilty of Number 5 and I've learnt how to correct it.
May God uphold our marriages. Amen.

Nai.com presents the list of top seven marriage mistakes which even smart couples make from time to time.

1. Splitting the housework 50/50.

This is often considered the "fairest" way to split the chores, whether it's washing the dishes or walking the dog. But aiming for 50/50 means you're constantly keeping score, making sure that neither of you is getting the short end of the stick, and bickering every time you think you are. Spend too much time fixating on fairness today, and you risk not making it to the long run when things often balance out.

It's better to use a system similar to what economists call "comparative advantage," where each of you is responsible for what you're best at, relative to other tasks. You might handle all the bills, grocery shopping, and laundry, while your spouse sweeps and mops and fixes things when they break. Some weeks, you'll end up doing more, other times it might be 75/25 in his favor-but you don't keep track because if your husband handled the grocery shopping, you might end up with a pantry full of Tostitos.

2. Waiting until you're in the mood to have sex.

Unless you're both extremely hot and share an obsessive addiction to monogamous sex, odds are you're not in the mood as often as you were when you first met. So if you wait 'til you're turned on, months might go by before it occurs to you that maybe sex would be a fun thing to do.

The economist George Loewenstein developed a theory called the hot-cold empathy gap, which says we have two selves: a cold, clear-headed rational self that might say, "I will have sex with my husband when I come home tonight because I love him and I will enjoy it and heck, it's good for my marriage" and a hot, impulsive, emotion-driven, irrational self that says, when the time actually comes, "I've had such a bad day, I feel fat and bloated, my husband is annoying tonight… No way am I having sex. I'm going to watch the TV and go to bed."

When the time actually comes, we may not be in the mood, but we need to listen to our "cool" selves, the voice before we had a bad day. You're not in the mood NOW, but you were THEN, when you were thinking about it, and you'll enjoy it - so just do it. You might not be in the mood, but you won't regret it, either.

3. Assuming a rough patch is the end of the world.

Relationships go in cycles. There are ups (booms) and downs (busts), just like in the economy. They're not only inevitable, but they're actually healthy. They force you to see where you've let things slide, taken each other for granted, or just lost sight of what's important. Embrace the rough patches and borrow a concept from economics called "creative destruction," or innovating in the face of crisis, and think up a novel solution to an issue that keeps dividing you.

4. Staying up to resolve an argument, even if it takes all night.

Bad idea! At a certain point - and we've all been there - we just want to be right, whatever it costs. And because someone at our bridal shower advised us to never go to bed angry, we beat up ourselves and our spouses into the wee hours in the name of "resolution." But the more we try to resolve (aka, win), the later it gets and the more exhausted and resentful we become. So yes, go to bed angry sometimes. Get some rest and sleep on it. Reconvene the anger summit in the morning when you're both more open-minded and less riled up. This is the economic concept of "loss aversion," which, in simple terms, means we hate to lose. Recognizing how much we hate to lose, we need to take actions to minimize the damage we do attempting to win at all costs.

5. Trying to mind-read, or expecting your partner to do so.

This one should be obvious, and yet again, we all assume our spouse knows we need a hug (or a cocktail) after a bad day at the office or figure that he'll wash the car on his way past the car wash because it's so obviously dirty. The solution: the economic principle of transparency. Give your spouse the information he or she needs, rather than expecting him to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps your little economy functioning.

6. Putting off kind gestures.

We think we'll give him that well-deserved back rub, or watch the kids so she can get out the door for a child-free afternoon, but then we flake. The time never seems right. The to-do list remains too long. We think we're great spouses but sometimes we're just not. The best solution to our procrastination is to devise something economists call "commitment devices" - ways to force ourselves to commit to things. Send your husband a text promising a back rub and you sort of have to do it. Arrange a personal training session for your wife and the kids are all yours for the afternoon.

7. Underestimating the power of small changes.

Long commute and big house, or shoebox in the city and more time with the kids? When you start to think about one person quitting a job because the demands of housework and childcare are too overwhelming with both partners working, consider the smaller changes that might help first. What if you cooked more meals on the weekend? Or hired an occasional cleaning service so neither of you has to spend your free time scrubbing the sink? Instead of grand solutions, look for the incremental changes that can improve situations.

Austeenxx: I wore it better.

Any other question?

Let's see yours then.

Gee001: Most at times the fault isn't theirs for showcasing their wares. Reasons being that guys admire ladies with big boobs aπϑ most times when such picture ℓ̊§ uploaded, Ʊ'll see more comments 4rm d male folks which makes them(girls) feel "oh Ɣε̲̣̣̣̥άн I've got Ά̥" aπϑ also the "if you H̲̣̣̣̥ɑ̤̥̈̊vє̲̣̥ Ά̥ flaunt Ά̥ thing" among them but you aπϑ I can't stop this act cos Ά̥ has always been λ trend among ladies.

Hhhmmm, and that is good enough, abi

What does it cost someone to dress decently and responsibly

[quote author=Mynd_44]I dont inderstand why ooo. Put it on and upload jorh.

Something still tells me you will rock it better[/quote]I love my privacy on NL

[quote author=Mynd_44]Goody bags might come in form of different things though[/quote]Like................

NO!

Is this man mature at all?
I believe a mature man should know that it's not everything said by people that he should respond to.
His attitude is really matching his description of a tout, garage boy, immaturity and illiterate.
May God help him o.

[quote author=Mynd_44]I will love to put the OP in that dress too and put them beside these two women.

GreatGod2012 would beat them hands down[/quote]My brother, have you seen me before?

Sincerely, this is one of my styles of dresses and that is one one of the reasons I was tempted to open this thread. I love the dress and I've even asked my tailor or fashion designer to sew it for me. How I wish I could upload my picture when I put it on, but I couldn't, you understand why? I believe you do.

Thanks for the compliment.

Some might say this is totally unnecessary… but indeed it's an issue worth bothering about. While others could seemingly acknowledge the fact that such is becoming a trend among the female students in Nigeria's tertiary institutions.

This piece, is not aimed at any person(s) whatsoever, actually brings forth the simple realities for this rising situation. Here are notably 5 REASONS:

Reason 1: The feeling of INSECURITY among peers, in an intellectual terrain;

Reason 2: Priority for ATTRACTION rather than simple admiration;

Reason 3: The FEAR FACTOR of being on the losing end in relationships;

Reason 4: Misplacing CHEAP SLÚT with actual appreciable beauty;

Reason 5: Ultimately, POVERTY has made a deep cut through.



It's really a shame. And these apply to others as well parading bòòbs in the open.


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Well, as for me. I love it more on Monalisa.

It brings out her real shape.

Nigerian actress, Monalisa Chinda and US reality star, Kim Kardashian have decided to battle it out.

A fashion battle, that is...

Check out the picture below and let us know who you think wore it better.



Live and let others live!

That's their own lifestyle and it doesn't affect my own life/lifestyle in any way.

Aso nla ko ni eeyan nla

Happy birthday, president Obama.

AmberDelRio: Yes. you are correct, I met him online on a dating website. We talked off and on for a year or two while he was still in Nigeria. He came to America May 2012. I live in New York and He lives in Chicago. We still talked throught this time. He came to New York and stayed with me for a spell and I did the same in Chicago. On one of my trips to Chicago we talked about how much we love each other and how he didnt want someone to take me away from him so we got married at the courthouse. I am not trying to bash anybody. And now that there ia a child in the mix, i don't know what to do. My impulsive nature has gotten the best of me.

Since you didn't do your home work very well before you married him, I will like to advise you to relax and put your mind at rest, stop traumatising yourself, it's not even good for your present condition.
Confront him with all those things you mentioned above, and if he deny, believe him until you have a concrete evidence and proof to back your suspicion, which you can later decide to stay or leave depending on what you can live with or without.
Leaving now without confronting him and a concrete proof that he cheats is like when you don't really believe in the marriage from the beginning.
It is well with you and your home.

The two of them need to see a pyschariatic doctors. Their brain have to be examined.


Poor children! You have been delivered, enjoy your freedom and rights as children.
God be with you.

But all these signs were glaringly obvious when you desperately married the man now.

Don't you know that a happy and fulfilled single is better than a miserable and unhappy married?

Well, I wish you a new and better beginning.

LesbianBoy: Instead of this FAT FOOL called uche jombo to be thinking of how to GET PREGNANT for her husband she is there talking rubbish! St.upid geh!

Must every couple have children, how do you know that it's not a joint decision for them to delay pregnancy and childbirth?

Or you think pregnancy and childbirth should not be properly planned for, abeg, it's not something to gamble with o.

Yungwizzzy: that's if he gets caught right??

Nothing hidden under the sun.

ROSYL: She was joking right? Uchenna you'd better wake up now and smell the coffee. All men are cheats. Start getting your castrating tools ready,cos you gonna need them sooner or later.
His poor husband will be somewhere now laffing at her response..

Not all men are cheats, there's still some responsible men out there, who takes their vows religiously. So, Stop generalising, its not fair on men.

Truth be told.........
She's really beautiful in these pictures; the blue/white combination; the bag; the place she took the picture really added flavour to the pictures.

@VP,It is good to be optimistic, and because of your optimism, I join my faith with your faith and declare that, SO SHALL IT BE. Amen.

Poverty is the worst thing that can befall mankind.


May the souls of the dead ones rest in peace, and quick recovery to those in hospital.