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@soraya, never accept any negative words anyone is uttering concerning your life, they are not the one that created you, the One who created you says, you are created in His image, that is, you possess the likeness of Him and that you are wonderfully and fearfully made by His, so how can you agree with an ordinary person who is not your creator that you are ugly, no, you are not, you are handsome and beautifully made. Soraya, never accept failure from anyone, you are responsible for your happiness, create one for yourself, always move with positive oriented people, who will always inspire your life and who will appreciate you the way you are. When anyone ugly call you ugly, tell the person that he's jealous of you because you are more handsome than him.always remember that you are God's image and that you are wonderfully made.
Do away with self pity and self condemnation and it shall be well.

As for you not getting married when others have already done that, remember that, there is time for everything, and that God has made everything beautiful in its appointed time, your own time is coming, even far approaching than you can imagine. When it is time, everything will just happen like a miracle. However, you won't have to stay in a place, you will have to take action, always be in the midst of people, and believe in yourself that you can get what you want, if you put your mind there. You need to be strong for yourself. Not everyone is finding it easy, what people do is to fight for themselves and at the end of the day, you will discover that its worth it.
As for job, my brother, we all know the economic condition of our country, so, you don't have to stay at home sitting, find something doing pending the time you will secure a job, no matter how small, do not despise small beginning, before you know it, you might not need to look for job again. I will also encourage you to be visiting vacancy section of this forum, some people have been able to get job through this forum.
NEVER ACCEPT FAILURE FROM ANYONE. YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE. CALL YOURSELF SUCCESS AND YOU SHALL BE SUCCESSFUL.

IT IS WELL.

taryour: Seem to me like u don't intend raising ur kids to be respectful and responsible. Or have you forgotten your kids too will/are children of nowadays

My sister, how you dey o?
E ku ikunra o
Ayo la ma gbo loruko Jesu. Amin

May God continue to bless your family. Amen

Are these type of BS really happening in this country
Why couldn't he get his fertility test done in a hospital, instead of doing away-match with another woman to ascertain his fertility
SMH

ibkaye: True words, hope you feel better

Thanks, I'm fine now. It was just for about 30 mins and everything was ok.

@soraya

Sometimes, its like that, you just depressed when you engage in thorough thinking about life, it happened to me this morning, I locked myself inside the room, I didn't want to talk to anyone, not even my hubby, but after a while, I discovered that it wasn't good for me, so I beckoned on my kids to come play with me, after which we went out together and that was the end.
So, when you feel depressed, ensure you are in the company of other people, if there's nobody at home, take a walk or betterstill, go visiting some people, by the time you find yourself with people, the depression will disappear, but it depend on you, you have to be determined that you have to conquer the situation, remember, when there is a wish, there is always a way. There is light after the tunnel. Don't give up, it is well.

Double post

I take this as "joke of the year#

@op, I doubt the authenticity of this story, it looks like a nollywood movie.


However, if it's true, then, you shouldn't have done that, you should have helped her and believe me, after helping her and she made it, her attitude will change towards you, because you saved her life, no one can hate the person who saves his/her life, abi? What do you think?
My fear now is the future, because, karma?, you know, will definately catch up, and you know, it's not an easy thing to own up to, so the guilt is there for you to live with forever.
May God help you o

@kzokul, when any member of the family is living with a couple and their presence is a threat or always causing trouble for either of them, not respectful, always disregarding constituted authority in the house, not giving respect to their privacy or their opinion and always serving as a bone in the neck to either the wife or the husband, it's better to let the troublemaker leave, or else, it'll be a source of conflict in the marriage/home.
However, when any living in relative is respectful, resourceful and serviceable, there's no point asking the relative to leave, except the wife or the husband is selfish and self-centered.
Since 2009, one of my hubby's nephew has been living with us and you can never know that he isn't my son, why? Because he's respectful, if he's otherwise, I tell you, he's a gonner

@op, nothing wrong with your siblings living with you, if your hubby approves of it, but firstly, that your 22 years old brother is old enough to live in your parents house, he's an adult, and he need to learn to be independent and responsible, all you need to do is to continuing advising, counselling and admonishing him to choose the right path, because, even if your hubby do not complain now, by the time he start misbehaving and presenting himself as a big boy who is beyond correction to your hubby, then, wahala is looming around. It is better to prevent problem occurring that looking for a way to resolve a preventive problem.
Secondly, ensure your 12 and 17 years old siblings of yours do not disrespect or disregard your hubby, they also shouldn't see him as wicked when he tries to correct them when the err, or else, they may cause conflict between you two.
I pray that you two won't regret your good gestures on your siblings.
It is well.

You don't need to preach to her, she's passing through a turbulent period, all you need to do is listening and listening to he, always be there for her and continue to echo "it is well" to her ears always. With time she will find you "confidence and trust worthy". By then, she'll pour everything out.
It is well.

As for her mother, she should remember that her mother has right to live her life the way she want, that shouldn't be a problem to her, she need to respect her mum and even her mum's bf as expected.
May God help her.

Why would she do such a thing
What does she stand to gain for doing such horrible thing
What else can be done to find out the truth
I'm just confused!

berem: You are not a man - this statement can annoy most men if their wives tell them during a fight

You will kill me today - women are fond of saying this during a fight with their spouse. If im come kill you nko?

I will poison your food - a friend once said this to her husband during a fight and that was the end of the man eating her food.

Imagine!
How can someone say such a thing
Poisoning is not to be played with at all, even if its me, I won't eat in that house o. Who want to die. That woman will have to beg and beg before the man's relatives can believe it was just a mere threat or words spoken out of anger.
We all have to learn to control our tongue whether we are angry or not. Self control is one of the things that differentiate us from animals. Anyone who can't control his/her tongue is nothing but a........
May God help us all.

The truth is that anger is like madness, and any words uttered during that period can ignite fire, so it's better to keep mute or walk away when angry than to utter words that will easily be made reference to in the future or words that can break up a home.
May God help us all.

I pity the man, what can poverty not cause?

Poverty is the worst thing that can befall mankind. It's not a sin on its own, but can lead one into serious sin.
May God deliver us all from poverty.

Most times, some people think they're enjoying their lives when they take to drinking all these sugary drinks, not knowing that they're only dragging themselves to health problems.
May God help us o

If I come to your house as a guest, offer me water, I will appreciate it more than soft drink, especially warm water, infact........ I'll be so happy to drink all.

WATER still remain the best and most healthy drink to take anytime, anywhere.

Chai! See as Mr president dey woo the Northerners.
This man is just too wise.