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Sad tale, I just wonder what happened to contraceptives like CONDOM that they couldn't just adopt. I just can't imagine what you are going through, this is real mess.

Like someone suggested, you may need to confirm that your wife is the mother of that child by doing a DNA test since the child doesn't look like either of you. Make your decision when you get the result, if you decide to keep her, spiritual cleansing would be advised, I learnt some of these things have spiritual implications. Be very CAREFUL and PRAYERFUL. So, try and stay strong, don't like it get to you. I hope you've gotten a job for yourself now. It is well.

Whether you choose to pray is your business, God put in place several things to take advantage of. So it's your choice, whether you pray or not, it doesn't affect another person or even God, it's you that it affects, for your own good. It doesn't change who God is in any way. If you like stubborn, say u nor go pray O Y O 4 u!, if you like say I won't pray so it would pain God na u know, God is still God........salvation is personal, at the end u go answer your own name and face your own issues...... Remember to say that little prayer, wetin dey dis world pass ordinary eye.....cheers

I go collect labor party rice and i go still vote PO, i go collect APC n pdp, i nor go vote dem

Firstly, I would say for the masturbation issue just sincerely tell God to help you and avoid anything relating to porn, it would work like magic for you.

Secondly, don't blame your parents much, when you become one you would understand what they did, just be positive, everybody has their temperament and interaction pattern, yours can be explored to your advantage.
If you are a christian, I would advise you join an ever active group in church where you can socialize and have friends, but you have to also know and be careful not to have bad friends because you want to socialize, be tactful.
I would not completely advise you to leave your parents house in haste, the outside world ain't that easy, make it a progressive thing, 270k would not sustain you long if you do not have something doing. If your parents can afford a lot, use it to your advantage, join a skill acquisition class or learn a skill (socialize there carefully), use this few periods to develop yourself and get new paying skills. Also, cultivate the habit of saving (financial intelligence) don't be wasteful, avoid babes wahala, maintain healthy relationships with them, have them as platonic friends so you understand them better.

My guy nor rush comot house if nothing dey hand o, make u nor go rush back. just keep developing yourself and saving, later you can leave. If you eventually decide to leave, nor give girl belle o or enter drugs o because freedom dey sweet well well o....Nor forget your God.....cheers

We may all take these things as joke, but seriously if we don't get it close to right this time, its a big problem, that would likely be another 8 to 16 years of waste. You may think you are young, before you know it, 8 years would pass then 16 years without reasonably moving forward. Add your current age to that figure and see your possible age at the end. Partisan politics, fighting & insulting on social media, tribalism, supporting a candidate because he is your tribe or religion would at the tail end not put food on your table. The truth is, Nigeria is in mess and there is hunger in the land, we need reasonable solution. At this point, I have to be selfish because na my belle matter be this, na my future be this, na my children future be this. If I deceive my self that I am not affected by politics, na me know...after every every, politician go enter im office, e go get access to money, you go enter your house, wetin you go get access to for 4+ years. Make we smart o. Na as e go benefit my future e dey me now. Imagine price of things still dey like 2014......the small 150k I dey receive I know wetin I for don use am do. THINK SMART and vote wise.

Correct guy man....age gracefully

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
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Fisrtly, note that good men/relationship can be scarce, so if you find one, work things maturely and appropriately with him.

Personal as an introvert i find difficult to relate as well, d thing dey hard us...i feel u well.

I suggest you need to understand properly what's making your man act the way he is acting.

Think deeply, assume yourself in his shoes, also assume he is your brother and think what advice u would offer him if his babe was behaving like you.

You should understand that no one wants trouble in marriage, hence, every possible test and analysis should be carried out before the "say i do".

Possibly, your guy and family doesn't understand u very well, our introverted personality always make people fear us, some think we pretend. But u must accept this fact and know how to make them feel comfortable and not scared.

I think his family just want to help out in understanding you better. Dem dey fear u, dem wan understand u well b4 their brother enter wrong hand.

You don't have to be angry, its the ideal thing to do....just find a reasonable way to relate, but remember don't overdo it.

When relating, make them understand this is you, don't say it verbally but rather let it reflect in your behavior, be nice and comfortable with them. When you are tired of relating at any point, pull out politely...work with wisdom.

Cheers

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Useless cowards, why dem nor come out during election period make dem tak dem shine......nonsense

Funny you, if this story is true.

Firstly, you need community koboko.

Secondly, u need good deliverance from any spell or juju.

Thirdly, 1 more kokobo to straighten your head.

Fourthly, if you are to seek divorce, i do not think it would lead you to pay any alimony of any kind. You have to stand on the ground that you were deceived and not told she had 3 kids ( it would be taken as a case of deceit, you can discuss with a legal professional on this...my advice is based on common sense).
If na me sha, i know say i nor go do again...because the real intention of the woman is not clear.


If you eventually succeed to divorce, i would advice you go for another "koboko", to refactor and reprogram your brain cells.

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Mynd44:
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So, Which firms are dedicated to skilling Nigerian youths in tech?

For sleeping try....soaking garri with pear ( not avocado pear) preferably in the afternoon.

Get a book and read while lying on your bed, avoid pressing your phone especially at night(switch off).

Sleep early, possibly b4 9pm.

Have physical exercise for like 30minutes above.

I think a stronger foam would be best for you instead of a soft one.

Avoid anything noise too. I hope this helps you sleep better

Hanty, one thing you should know about guys is that they know how to arrange their wish/chopping list. Guys plan ahead, your ex is probably booking you for future chopping. It is easier for him to get an ex to chop when he visits and still be taken care of. Run far!....

As for your marriage, leave all those advices and articles that encourages women's independence, most are just deluded and nurse anger thereby wanting others to join them.
The only time i support disolving marriage is when its highly toxic. If not, please try and work on your marriage, talk to your man either verbally or with good behavior avoid quarrels and add prayers to it.
Try and be calm this period, don't think much, get books and movies.

If he is a movie person, introduce some good christian relationship movies to the house, get good books with good titles, always place them where he can see, don't forget to care for him, he is still your husband.

Then for you, work on yourself, get busy. Remove the thought of divorce, lust (especially with your ex) and stop comparing your marriage with others (i will tell you, marriage ain't rossy everywhere, some of the worst became the best, and best became the worse, focus on yours).

This is the much i can contribute.
Run away from your ex. that chases married women.

Remember hold God strong.

Must you attack people to make your point, why not just make your point and allow others make theirs(whether it sound childish to you or not). Emotions or not, yes, nukes are very dangerous but there is no monopoly to its usage currently. And who says if a conflict starts now btw russia n USA, russia would use it first. We all pray it doesn't get to that. But whether we like it or not, US with its strong allies and military bases around the world gives them the advantage to take on countries like russia and china.

Also note that US has strategically stationed a minimum of 20 nuclear war heads each in Germany, Italy, Turkey, holland and belgium aside those of UK, france, israel and may be India....US is damn too smart

It amazes me how people just think that NATO and America is very weak (that Russia would nuke the entire NATO). Do they even know the members of NATO, Have ever heard of "NATO nuclear weapon sharing", do they also know the strength of allies. Most allies of America are nuclear weapon holders, apart from Russia, China and may be Pakistan...the other nuclear holders are America faithfuls. Why do you think America is great and a world leader, one of the reason is its power of its allies ( don't joke with it). I can tell you it would be very difficult for an intercontinental missile to reach US without been spotted or detected. Peoples, make una fear USA o, those guys fit infiltrate you from the inside.
Technology dem get, level dem get, politics dem sabi, money, dem get, friends and allies dem get....fully equipped military bases dem get round the world.....make una leave that matter, China,Russia, Iran and North korea never reach there....

Issok...welcome my guy....all road leads to french league

Nor be only export ship...how many dem don build for themselves..... economy just dey scatter dey go, hyper inflation everywhere..... make dem fix economy...
Common nepa neva fit work well..... abeg jorrrrrr

Inspiring...worth reading!....may God bless his hustle

Truly nice kit