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ginaolo:
So how do I change my mindset?

I'm not a therapist!

Sorry!

ginaolo:
You don’t understand
I love her very much

I just don’t know if we are compatible socially. That is the only fault with her. But I didn’t know if this fault will be so huge to the extent that it will affect our marriage . She has social anxiety to the extreme. Very extreme.

It's already affecting your relationship because you see it that way. The problem is your mindset, not the lady.

appreciate001:
Hi Nairalanders greetings to you all. please can someone help me with solutions to this stage fright problem.

I Am in my late thirties married with children but this thing will not leave me alone. I have been battling with this all my life.

Just recently, I had a presentation to make but things were messed up because of this. I am a graduate but this is limiting my chances in life. What are the practical ways to overcome this problem? God bless you all.

Very easy


Join the ushering program or join the Alter shields men!

You'll see a tremendous change after 3 months. Thank me later.

ctleurocollege:
Thanks bro, it's not all but what I have earmarked for the wedding expenses for now

plan small. You can never satisfy people no matter how big you budget.

ginaolo:
We have been together for a year plus. For how long will this continue? When you marry, in my culture you marry the family and it’s very important that you can relate with each other’s family well. I’m just concerned honestly.

Man! Sounds to me like you're tired of her already. Las Las you will torment this girl for who she is because you couldn't change her. Only God can change someone. Free her now that you have doubts else it'll be sad for both of you.

How do you marry someone who you have no 100% like for? What do you really want Mr. Man?


I pity both of you really.

Bros! Choose one of two advice I have for you. In the end the decision is yours to make.


If N500k is all you have, plan well.
In the end, you'll realise that what you spend will be more than your budget because family and friends will assist in a way or the other. Go to God in prayers and discuss thoroughly with your woman before you begin.

I repeat! If N500k is all you have with no reliable means of income, invest it.

You can NEVER profit with gambling in the long run!

When I was gambling, it wasn't for the money per sé but for the thrill of beating the odds because I love challenges. But slowly, I got addicted and had to withdraw.

It'll be best to focus all the expetize and energy you give to bet9ja into other productive and creative things. Good luck in 2020

Give her time, she'll open up to everyone. The most important thing is that you understand her personality. What anyone else think is their business. If they gossip her, defend her! Everyone cannot be the same. The sooner you understand this, the better for your relationship. Else, you will see fault where there is none.

Abduletudaye:
This your dpi na die

Seriously! I noticed too

Might be a tablet though.

1. MTN
2. Glo

Total 34.55gb

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

You may not be different from the wife after all.

Gaggi:
Take charge, no matter how educated and intelligent a woman is, they need our guidance. Not that they are dumb, they let emotions sometimes override logic.

Never leave life changing decisions to a woman. Leave the interior decor and such less important decisions to them. You've been warned.

This is a fact I learnt after marriage! It is the ULTIMATE truth on so many levels.

Think about it. Women have a hard time deciding what to wear, how much more life changing decisions? It's the reason women love decisive men.

'00 sounds good to me for a decade

Neoteny:
Here you go...

You did this to yourself

I know what I wrote! Why bring it up here? I've been through your posts & comments too and find you a bit spiteful and overbearing but who am I to complain?

Let's just end this please!
This isn't how I plan to start the year!

Thank you!

Neoteny:
You and your mum believe in ghosts

That tells us all we need to know about your credibility

why bring my mom into this talk? Are you trying to insult my family on this happy day?

I'll ignore and pray for you to find common sense in 2020.

I don't do resolutions. After new year's day rice and chicken I tend to forget what all the fake goals & promises I gave myself.

This is how I want to jump into the New Year!

Xisnin:
But the Fulani woman is living in poverty.
SMH.

U won't understand!

jefff455:
who told you he didn't save

Na question I ask!

thats what they call "Over Her Dead Body" That incident suppose stop you from palming.

Jerkules:
Wasted my sperm masturbating to shyla stylez' video not knowing she's dead. What a painful loss

Incrediblepat:
I lost a job that pays me 1.5m - 2m a month
Now I jobless

While you were making millions, didn't you save?

viva1103:
Its very difficult to type it but i lost my darling mum today.

Take heart. My prayers are with you and your family.

BadRadio:
I fvcked 2wice

This is painful to read. Sorry bros.

In the act or your secret exposed?

Children are as a result of sex. No other proof.

One Fulani woman gave me a perfume... That's all I'll say.

I hammer since then.

Biafrareform:
I looked after this baby girl from when she was born till she came of age . She is so fond of me .

Now one nigga is trying to upset her psychological mindset all in a bit to have access to her .

This is so hard to bear

Bros, don't agree. The girl can know her real father but that's just it. He has no right to claim her. After all, he is not legally married to her mother & he rejected her.

He is only after her bride price. Wicked baskards!

itswell10:
Let's talk.

Over to the Fornicators.

What do you mean by "one thing led to another" and why do all of you who need advice use this phrase?

Thanks for responding.

it means both of them kept pressing each other's mumu button till it was too late.

I'm not a fornicator by the way.

Vyolet:
Is this his first time? If No, then nothing should surprise you again, you should be used to it while waiting till he kills you finally.

I don't understand why you still had to attend the party though, so after chopping beating in the presence of your kids, you still had the mind to attend party, who are you trying to impress exactly?

Anyways, when your husband calms down, try and ask him what you did wrong and if he asks you to stay on your lane, make sure you don't leave your lane to avoid more touching stories. While staying on your lane, you should expect more because he doesn't seem remorseful.

The woman stubborn and he's fed up.

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

I have questions for you!

1:When was the last time you both had sex? As in you really spent time just to satisfy him?

2: Go through your messages and chats and look for any trace of flirt. He may be suspecting you but have no proof.

3: Do you get on his nerves with pressure? Think about this carefully.

4: Do you follow his instructions without questions? Maybe he speaks and you do something else different. Might have been so for a long time.

I asked because your husband maybe going through one four turmoils

*Sexual deprivation
*Mistrust
*Disrespected
*Misunderstood

Please answer!

Mod!!!

olumide3367:
Very safe. Even to trans gold too

thanks sir.

dake40:
Myus.com

Register with myus. You'd be given a USA address to receive your items....

And you can forward to Nigeria address through the site...



Another alternative will be using an agent to help ship it

Just be careful

Thanks bro. I appreciate it

helinues:
Then you can't last long..

You mean if your house and your neighbours house is burning, you will prefer to put off the fire in your neighbours house first?

Chinyere, come and read something

Is your Buhari not minding other people's business?