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Career › Re: I Agree With The Statement Of What The CEO Of Moniepoint Said And Here's Why by Hamachi(f): 6:06pm On May 06

InvertedHammer:
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Nigerian problem is not purely financial. Pay them N1 million per month and still the output will be dismal and below par. The first few months may be great, then they get comfortable and the Nigerian factors start rearing their ugly heads.

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Education › Re: What's The Highest Score You Had In A Course In Tertiary Institution? by Hamachi(f): 1:13pm On May 06

Nice score, but honestly, that’s not the real test.

In tertiary school, especially in courses like Clinical Pharmacy, it’s not about whether you can pull 88 in an exam—it’s whether you can take what you learned and actually apply it when things aren’t written neatly on paper.

Can you recognize a real patient situation and respond correctly? Can you make the right judgment when there’s no multiple choice guiding you? Can you translate theory into safe, effective action in the real world?

That’s where competence shows up—not in the score sheet, but in practice.

Kemistri3:
What's the highest score you ever had during your tertiary institution days? And which course/level was that?

Me: 88
Introduction to Clinical Pharmacy
400l 1st semester

Let's go✍🏽

Career › Re: I Agree With The Statement Of What The CEO Of Moniepoint Said And Here's Why by Hamachi(f): 1:11pm On May 06

gabicon:
My dear these guys are more ruthlessly productive and efficient than Nigerians. I was seconded to a company that was purchased by a British company and they decided to remove the Indians in the company and replace them with Nigerians after 6 months that decision was reversed. I say nepotism, sabotage, craftiness, politics and highhandedness our Nigerian brother caved the Indians survived. I asked an Indian how they managed to always end up on top, he said India is very similar to Nigeria and they have to master the act of survival and competition while doing the job but we Nigerians can't do both at the same time.

The bolded, it would take a miracle for us to get pass that honestly and the italicized is a statement of fact. To even see a good electrician today or even someone that his good with a handwork (from screening, painting, tiling and carpentry) it extremely difficult as many of the youth ain't ready to learn.

Career › Re: I Agree With The Statement Of What The CEO Of Moniepoint Said And Here's Why by Hamachi(f): 1:06pm On May 06

SpencerForbes:
The truth is, we all collectively discouraged the system. When the root was starting to rot, that was when it should have been cut off. China didn't build their powerhouse economy in a day.

If we look back at how they did it, they followed a blueprint: they brought in foreigners to train their graduates through intensive internships with competitive pay. If we had adopted that same strategic mindset, we wouldn't be in this mess today, or at the very least, the damage would be minimal.

I respect the Chinese because they actually believe in their own. If a Chinese man opens a profitable business in Nigeria, he will go back home and bring his brothers to join him. It’s not that other foreigners can't do the same; it's just that he has a deeper belief in his people and is willing to train them until they become world-class experts. We need that same level of intentionality here.

It would not work in this part because half the time the person doesn't want you to grow more than him.

Career › Re: I Agree With The Statement Of What The CEO Of Moniepoint Said And Here's Why by Hamachi(f): 1:04pm On May 06

A lot of what you’re saying comes from a hard truth people don’t like to sit with: talent is not proven by confidence, certificates, or potential. it’s proven by systems, scale, and repetition under pressure.

In Nigeria, we have no shortage of intelligent people. That part is not in doubt. The real gap is exposure to environments where talent is stretched by scale.

Take your marketing example. Managing $10k/month vs $1m/month is not a linear upgrade. It’s a completely different universe:
1. At $10k, you can rely on intuition, small experiments, and manual oversight
2. At $1m, you’re dealing with segmentation at scale, attribution models, fraud prevention, creative testing pipelines, regional variations, compliance, and coordination across teams and tools

Someone who has never had to lose $200k in a week and recover from it with data cannot be expected to naturally operate at that level. Not because they are unintelligent, but because they have never been forced into that environment.

That’s the structural issue.

India, parts of Asia, Europe, and the US didn’t just “have better talent.” They built ecosystems where:
- People get access to large budgets early in their careers
- Mistakes are expensive but part of the learning curve
- Companies operate at scale consistently, not occasionally
- Knowledge compounds because there are thousands of similar roles doing similar things

So when someone from those systems says, “I’ve seen this problem before,” it’s often because they’ve literally seen it 100 times in production environments.

In Nigeria, many “talented” professionals are still operating in sandbox conditions:
a. Low budgets
b. Small teams
c. Fragmented markets
d. Limited global exposure

So what gets called “talent gap” is often really a scale gap.

Even our refinery point makes that clear. You don’t build a complex industrial system and then look for talent inside an economy that hasn’t operated one for decades and expect instant readiness. Skills in those environments are not theoretical, they are forged through years of operating, failing, and iterating inside similar systems.

And that’s why outsourcing or hiring foreign expertise often happens. Not because locals lack intelligence, but because:

1. The foreign talent has already been “burned in” at scale

2. They’ve made expensive mistakes on someone else’s system

3. They’ve operated machinery, budgets, and teams that look like the target system

The uncomfortable true is this: You don’t develop “international-level talent” by debating it or defending it online. You develop it by building systems locally that are expensive, demanding, and unforgiving enough to create it.

Until that happens consistently, comparisons will always feel unfair — because they are comparing trained production experience vs emerging potential ecosystems.

And in global business, potential is respected… but performance at scale is what gets hired.

gabicon:
Nigeria's can be emotional about many things. We claim to have top talents, were are the stuff they have built? The talents in India, Asia, Europe and America build stuff. The true test of talent is in what they are able to deliver. What have our talents in Nigeria built?

Because of the developmental nature of our economy, talent development can be pretty difficult. For instant I was in an interview for a candidate that had to do with online marketing, the job required managing a seven figure dollar marketing budget monthly, all the talent that were interviewed had not spent up to $10,000 on marketing. It would be risky to give $1m to a talent whose capacity is $10k, it most likely will end in premium tears. I probed further, and found out we don't have up to 10 organisations in Nigeria with that budget for that role and those organisations don't have more than 2 people each in that role. Safe to say an Indian got the job.

We have not had a functioning refinery in the last 30 years, were is Dangote going to get talent to run the refinery? Some say he should train new engineers, how long will it take to train them? What happens to the facility and the loans while these people are being trained?

There is a difference between you being a programmer and you actively working with a team on a project of international scale. The skill is different.

Within the week a discussion erupted among a circle and the India guy was complaining about the Nigerian talent, he said he has to hold his hand on most tasks and he has had same issue with many Nigerians. A last chance was brokered for our talent if he doesn't cut it they are going to India to get a replacement.

In this same discussion, the India guy checked the engagement on the topic on X and it was like 42k and he questioned our productivity.

If we are as good as we think we are let build stuff that can compete on the international market, being a keypad warrior is easy.

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Politics › Re: Nigeria Won’t Restore Fuel Subsidy – Oyedele by Hamachi(f): 12:51pm On May 06

Fuel subsidy removal didn’t just increase petrol prices — it quietly rewrote survival in Nigeria. And the darkest part is that many people are still acting like the worst is over when, for many households, the real long-term damage is just beginning.

Parents:
Many parents are now choosing between feeding their children properly and paying school fees. Transportation costs have doubled, food prices keep rising, and salaries remain stagnant. Families that once managed two meals a day are now stretching one pot of soup for days. Some parents are pulling children out of private schools, while others are delaying hospital visits because basic healthcare has become a luxury.

Businesses:
Small businesses are bleeding slowly. Higher transportation costs mean more expensive raw materials. Electricity remains unreliable, so businesses rely on generators—and fuel is now painfully expensive. Many SMEs are reducing staff, increasing prices, or shutting down entirely. For startups and informal businesses, survival now feels like gambling.

Aged parents / retirees:
This may be one of the most vulnerable groups. Many elderly Nigerians depend on their children for survival, but those children are already overwhelmed. Pension payments are often delayed or insufficient, medication costs are rising, and frequent hospital visits are becoming harder to afford. Some older Nigerians are silently suffering because they don’t want to become “burdens.”

Students:
Transportation to school has become a daily struggle. Some students skip classes because they can’t afford transport fares. Feeding costs on campuses have skyrocketed, and many parents can no longer sustain tuition payments. The dream of education is becoming increasingly difficult for low-income families.

Bus drivers:
Transport operators are trapped. Fuel prices have gone up, vehicle maintenance costs have risen, spare parts are more expensive due to exchange rate issues, and passengers still complain about fare hikes. Many drivers are working longer hours for less profit while dealing with angry commuters.

Vendors / petty traders:
Street vendors and market traders are feeling the squeeze from both ends. They pay more to transport goods to market, but customers have less disposable income. Perishable goods get wasted because people are buying less. Many traders now make far lower profits despite working just as hard.

The bigger picture:
Subsidy removal was sold as a painful but necessary reform that would eventually free up funds for infrastructure and development. But for millions of Nigerians, there’s little visible relief. Instead, what many are experiencing is shrinking purchasing power, rising desperation, increased migration pressure, crime risks, mental stress, and a growing distrust in leadership.

The danger isn’t just economic hardship—it’s a generation gradually normalizing survival mode as a permanent way of life.

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Career › Re: I Agree With The Statement Of What The CEO Of Moniepoint Said And Here's Why by Hamachi(f): 12:46pm On May 06

i noticed a consistent behavioural pattern among Nigerian billionaires who run big businesses.

This behaviour is pronounced more among Mike Adenuga of Glo Brand and Aliko Dangote.

The behaviour is this: these business owners hardly hire Nigerians as business executives to run their businesses.

They prefer to travel as far as Pakistan, India, or Lebanon to hire their nationals to come to Nigeria to run their business.

Dangote's top executives are mainly from India and then Lebanese, while Mike prefers hiring Pakistan nationals to run Glo for him with his daughter Bella.

Dangote started hiring indians business executives when he was a trader and since he transitioned into an industrialist, he has not looked back as he has doubled down in hiring them.

Hiring these guys comes at a steep price.

Most Dangote Group executives are Lebanese or Indian, and their annual salaries are up to 300 million naira per annum when converted to our local currency.

Aside from the high cost that they charge as salaries, you provide a duplex accommodation in Ikoyi or Banana Island with an SUV for them.

You also provide Hilux vehicle with policemen protecting them against kidnappers since they are endangered specie because of their white complexion.

Devakumar V. G. Edwin is one of Dangote's trusted lieutenants, as Aliko does not joke with him.

He has been with him since 1992, when he joined the business as a general manager.

At that time, Dangote was still a mega importer and a trader.

Edwin helped to transition the Dangote group into the industrial behomth that it is today from a trading company.

He is the one supervising the refinary project in Lekki for Dangote as Dangote trusted him so much, having supervised the building of the cement plants for the group all over Africa.

When you convert what Devakumar V. G. Edwin earns into Naira because he is paid in dollars by the Dangote group, the man earns more than 350 million naira salary per year.

Just like the rest of Dangote's top executives, he is an Indian national, and it is the same story across the whole gamut of Dangote's executives. .

The CEO Of Dangote sugar, RAVINDRA SINGH is an Indian national.

The same with the CEO of Dangote Cement.

Now i want to understand:

why, despite the high cost of hiring them, are these Forbes billionaires more comfortable hiring Pakistanis, indians, or Lebanese than Nigerians to manage their businesses in Nigeria?

Are they more ruthlessly efficient than their Nigerian business executives?

Is there any reason why this is so?

Gagare1:
Probably for security reasons, which is a wide area with many possibilities. Certainly not because they are cheaper or more skilled than Nigerians.

Career › Re: I Agree With The Statement Of What The CEO Of Moniepoint Said And Here's Why by Hamachi(f): 12:26pm On May 06

Why do Glo and Dangote employe Indians and Lebanese?

Gagare1:
I think your first paragraph contradicts all the rest. Clearly, your point about Nigerian employers undervalueing local talent is spot on. But since the expatriates are paid more for the same skill a Nigerian employee possesses, then I don't think it is about paying less for more. It is more like paying more for even less, due to inferiority complex or a lack of trust.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Unconditional Things I Have Done As A Recruiter by Hamachi(op): 7:03pm On May 05

chatinent:
I'm a job seeker. Do you have a job for me?

Politics › Re: Always Display Name Tag On Your Uniform’ – IGP Orders Officers by Hamachi(f): 6:58pm On May 05

Bodycam would solve a lot of things in the Police.

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Atletico Madrid: UCL (1 - 0) On 5th May 2026 by Hamachi(f): 6:57pm On May 05

Game over for ATM. Arsenal has picked form

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Crime › Re: Police Reel Out Multiple Achievements In Tackling Crime (Video, Photos) by Hamachi(f): 5:25pm On Apr 26

You see ikate is a bed hub of crime down to freedom way petty thieves to pick pocket and minor harassment.

jaxxy:
What achiements when people are being kidnapped in their numbers every other day?

In lekki the other day touts and hooligans were brandishing weapons and fighting on the expressway around ikate.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Chelsea Vs Leeds United: FA Cup (1 - 0) On 26th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 5:22pm On Apr 26

They haven't beaten Man City so ve UCL 2020.

geoworldedu:
Chelsea to the 17th FA Cup final to face Man City. Despite how poor the World Champions is, in fact, one of the poorest seasons they ever witnessed since year 2000, they still managed to get to the final of the FA CUP. Now what do you think an in form Chelsea will achieve? Arsenal fans need to answer that question.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Chelsea Vs Leeds United: FA Cup (1 - 0) On 26th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 5:21pm On Apr 26

How?

iwaeda:
Chelsea will win FA Cup.

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Properties › Re: House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report by Hamachi(f): 5:18pm On Apr 26

Facilities and amenities. You cannot compare a 2 bed in Abijan to what you have in Lagos. Just do a little google search.

xxxx999jon:
it's crazy.. What's the reason why?

House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report ...Abidjan's rent is higher than Lagos due to a chronic shortage of quality housing, high construction costs, and a massive influx of expatriates and international organizations. While Lagos has a larger population, Abidjan’s smaller, concentrated, and rapidly developing luxury market often leads to higher premium rental costs in top areas.

Key factors contributing to higher rents in Abidjan include:
Limited High-End Supply: Compared to the demand, there is a limited supply of modern, luxury apartments in premium areas, pushing prices up.

High Development Costs: The cost of building materials, land, and labor is exceptionally high, which developers pass on to tenants.

Expatriate Demand: Abidjan is a major regional hub for international organizations and businesses, attracting a high-income expat population that drives up rent for luxury housing.

Infrastructure Growth: Similar to Lagos, Abidjan is experiencing rapid urban development, but a faster pace of economic transformation in select areas has increased the cost of living.

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Properties › Re: House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report by Hamachi(f): 5:15pm On Apr 26

Ivory coast rent is over the roof top compared to Lagos.

xxxx999jon:
but what exactly is driving cost of rents in Abijan and Accra.. It's insane.. But actually Lagos, Abuja and some part of the one or two cities in the southeast actually need urgent mass housing scheme.. I know government moved away from those kind of project because alot of rich people are always at the end of the day the landlord.. I think a method should be in place.. If you are not living there you can't pay rent or own it.

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Properties › Re: House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report by Hamachi(f): 5:15pm On Apr 26

Visit Lagos State censor board. A research in 2024 says over 8 million come to Lagos daily via air, road, sea and through the borders from neighboring countries, the report did state the % that stay and do not return to their base. I bet you over 500,000 never return back to their base.

Believeintruth:
Show us the statistics and show us your data gathering technique and also show us the percentage rate at which they troop to Lagos.

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Properties › Re: House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report by Hamachi(f): 5:12pm On Apr 26

You should be happy mine increase from 500k to 3m.

Onewazobia:
You are right 👍, my rent was just increased from 450k to 750k last week and it's a government built property sold to citizens (civil servants) at a very low price some 30yrs ago

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Properties › Re: House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report by Hamachi(f): 5:10pm On Apr 26

The reason you have a rent relief. Submit it and get a relief.

Truvelisback:
The government contributed alot to it by making the cost of raw materials to increase like cement through taxation and poor governance which has ruined our economy.

Properties › Re: House Rent In Lagos Fourth Most Expensive In Africa— Report by Hamachi(f): 5:09pm On Apr 26

Have you seen houses in Uyo, Kano, Delta and Benue?

Hungrychicken:
This is solely my opinion. I speak for my self when I say, Lagos is not worth the hype.
It lacks every structure a modern city should have. It’s just an overrated expensive slum

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Business › Re: Introducing Driveinhud: Save Transport Cost When You Share A Ride With Others by Hamachi(f): 5:07pm On Apr 26

It going pretty well, follow them on all socials.

Slimdan360:
How did it all go?🥲

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Chelsea Vs Leeds United: FA Cup (1 - 0) On 26th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 5:06pm On Apr 26*

Football is a game of two halves, never say never.

dequir:
To be candid this present Chelsea team cannot win the FA Cup against Man. City.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Chelsea Vs Leeds United: FA Cup (1 - 0) On 26th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 5:05pm On Apr 26

Did you watch the game?

GEJDHERO:
UWith determination they can do it.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Newcastle (1 - 0) On 25th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 5:03pm On Apr 26

Dont be too quick, Arsenal need a slip from City or even a draw and it's game over.

Bukola94:
Aston is messing up in games, City will beat Bournemouth and Everton should be easy for them

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Newcastle (1 - 0) On 25th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 5:02pm On Apr 26

Of course not. I doubt they would beat Diego Simone side.

Usmanovic95:
This is the way we intend to play what? Hope you're not trying to defend this football.

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Newcastle (1 - 0) On 25th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 8:35pm On Apr 25

Truth, is the the way we intend to play AM? I seriously doubt it.

Usmanovic95:
The only positive I will take out of this game is that the win can boost the morale of these players, been a while they won The match was such a depressing game.This was not the arsenal team that made us dream ,filled us up with confidence at the start of the season. What the hell happened to that team, watching this team is like a pleasurable torture naw OMG.

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Arsenal Vs Newcastle (1 - 0) On 25th April 2026 by Hamachi(f): 8:34pm On Apr 25

True because Arsenal remaining matches are with tram in the mid table while the ones with City are with those fighting for a place in Europe competition

helinues:
The pressure is back on City. Arsenal only need to win their remaining matches and score more goals

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Career › The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by Hamachi(op): 8:02pm On Jan 20

There was this guy, Tunde, who spent years manifesting a remote job. Every morning he’d tweet, “Remote work will locate me,” like it was a lost wallet. He took courses, optimized his LinkedIn, and even practiced saying “You’re on mute” in front of the mirror.

Finally—boom!—he got a fully remote job with a foreign company. Dollar-paying. Slack access. Welcome email and everything. Tunde almost cried. Remote work had finally located him.

But remote work did not locate NEPA.

On his first day, five minutes into onboarding, NEPA struck. Generator came on sounding like a tractor fighting for its life. During stand-up meetings, his mic picked up the generator, his neighbor frying akara, and a rooster that clearly had opinions about Agile methodology.

Then came the internet. If rain thought about falling, his connection disappeared. He’d freeze on Zoom with his mouth open, looking like he was passionately arguing… while actually gone for three minutes.

To make matters worse, Tunde didn’t have a noise-cancelling headset. So one day, while the CEO was explaining quarterly goals, his mother shouted from the background: “TUNDE! HAVE YOU WASHED THE PLATE?!”
Silence on the call.
The CEO: “Uh… is everything okay over there?”

Tunde smiled confidently. “Yes, just… uh… local notifications.”

After several “local notifications,” missed deadlines caused by NEPA, and one unforgettable meeting where a generator drowned out the entire team, HR sent the email.

“We love your enthusiasm, but we’re going in a different direction." Tunde lost the job—but gained wisdom.

Today, he has three things before applying for another remote role:

1. Stable internet
2. Backup power
3. Noise-cancelling headset

Because remote work is not just about skills.
It’s about surviving NEPA, network, and noise. 😭😂

Leke is a writer, lecturer and founder of El-Johnson Academy

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Investment › Re: Nigerian Stock Exchange Market Pick Alerts by Hamachi(f): 9:06am On Jan 20

Good morning, a friend of mine would retire in 2031 but he has a child of 6years.She needs a reliable and viable investment for the child so that the burden of school fees won't be much on him when he retires. His budget is 50k per month

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Personal Accountant by Hamachi(f): 5:06pm On Jan 19

Olusaha:
Hello,
I'm a chartered accountant, I offer remote accounting and bookkeeping services for individuals and SMEs(Small and medium enterprises).
Other services I offer;
Tax consultancy
Business registration
Business consultancy
Business plans
Budgeting .

Contact me on 0707 904 1067

Hope to hear from you soon.

Can you work remotely? Let me know

Romance › Re: Please Help Me Reprogram My Life, I'm Tired Of Patronising Prostitutes. by Hamachi(f): 6:12pm On Jan 17

I’m really glad you reached out. What you wrote sounds exhausting, frightening, and lonely—and it also sounds like you want your life back. That matters a lot.

First, let me say this clearly: you are not cursed, possessed, or beyond help. What you’re describing fits very closely with compulsive sexual behavior (sometimes called sex addiction or hypersexual disorder). It’s a real condition that affects the brain’s reward and impulse systems—very similar to substance addiction. That’s why it feels reflexive, urgent, and almost automatic, even when you know it’s destroying your health, finances, and peace.

None of this means you are weak or immoral. It means your brain has learned a powerful habit loop over many years, and right now it’s running unchecked.

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A few important truths (please read slowly)

1. This is not about sex drive alone If it were just “high libido,” you wouldn’t feel loss of control, shame, debt, weight loss, or desperation. This is about:

Dopamine dysregulation

Compulsion and relief-seeking

Escaping discomfort, stress, emptiness, or anxiety

2. Willpower alone will not fix this You already proved that. Resolutions, religious guilt, or “trying harder” tend to fail because the behavior isn’t happening at the level of conscious choice anymore.

3. There are treatments that help The pharmacist wasn’t wrong to hesitate—but not because help doesn’t exist. It’s because this needs a doctor + therapist, not over-the-counter meds.

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About medication (important and honest)

There is no safe medication that simply “kills” sex drive permanently without serious consequences. However, under a doctor’s care, some medications can reduce compulsive urges:

SSRIs (used for OCD and impulse disorders)

Naltrexone (used for addictions, helps reduce urges and compulsive reward-seeking)

These are not magic, but for many people they create enough mental space to regain control when combined with therapy.

⚠️ Please do not self-medicate or look for underground solutions. That can make things far worse.

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What you need is a 3-part reset (realistic, not idealistic)

1. Immediate damage control (next 24–72 hours)

You already know Sundays are dangerous. So don’t treat tomorrow like a “test of strength.”

Do this instead:

Stay physically away from known brothel areas

Be around people or public spaces (even a café, mall, long walk)

Remove easy access to money if possible (transfer funds, give cash to someone you trust, uninstall loan apps temporarily)

Sleep. Eat. Dehydration and exhaustion increase compulsions

This isn’t cowardice—it’s strategy.

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2. Professional help (non-negotiable)

You need:

A psychiatrist or medical doctor (for assessment + possible medication)

A therapist experienced in addiction or compulsive sexual behavior

If you say to a professional:

> “I have compulsive sexual behavior that is out of control, causing financial and health harm. I need help.”

That is enough. You don’t need to be eloquent.

If money is an issue, there are often:

Public hospitals

Teaching hospitals

NGOs

Faith-based counseling centers (the healthy ones, not shame-based)

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3. Community support (this is huge)

People recover from this faster and more sustainably when they are not alone.

You may want to look into:

Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)

These are anonymous, free, and full of people who sound exactly like you. Many meetings are online if privacy matters.

A hard but hopeful truth

Your brain has been trained for years to associate relief, excitement, and escape with this behavior. Brains can be retrained. Neuroplasticity is real—but it takes structure, support, and time.

You are not broken. You are not beyond repair. And this does not have to define the rest of your life.

I’m here with you. You don’t have to fight this alone.

KiNg0G:
Just this year alone, I have had sex with over 20
prostitutes. It's almost like I am cursed or swear for with this kind of lifestyle.

While people were in church Jan 1st I broke my resolution before the year even started, had marathon sex that night and one would think it will be enough but it never is.

Before then I have been trying to change the whole last weeks of December, even on Christmas eve and the 25th I was still holding myself, the urge to patronise them kept calling but I kept my cool was adamant on my resolution but on new year eve I lost it all and the relapse is so bad that I haven't rested since Jan 1.

From one brothel to another, different spots carrying daybreak, short time. I have lost a huge amount of weight within this 2weeks but I can't just stopped it's almost like I am jazzed... like a reflex action that I don't even think, it just happens..

I know it's the price I got to pay for starting with prostitute in my teenage days and it became a habit but now it's getting worse and I'm starting to think this isn't normal, they've gotten to me.

If I know anyone to go tomorrow to get a permanent solution even if it means paying for it I will. I met a pharmacist sometime last year if there's any medication I can take to kill my sex drive. He didn't give me a reasonable response, I just need help on how to reprogram my life, my brain to live like a normal human being with purpose and focus in life other than patronising prostitutes..it gets so bad that I take loans from friends and app to expense this lifestyle. I can't watch 2026 passed me by yet again with this kind of living. Now I am sober but give me 24hrs time especially tomorrow Sunday, I'm back to the same ways.

I need help.

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Sports › Re: Nigeria Vs Egypt: AFCON 2025 3rd Place Match 4(0 - 0)2 On 17th January 2026 by Hamachi(f): 1:48pm On Jan 17

Egypt to win

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