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richmond500:
I was in a Virgil in one reputable church in portharcourt on Friday and the preacher said "let those experiencing unexplained setback in their lives come forward".
Truth be told, about 70% of the people went to to alter, almost the entire seat became empty and this is a big church that have almost 5,000-7000 members yet many of them are not better than the average Nigerian.
He also said things about those single people looking for marriage or serious relationship to come forward. Almost every lady went out.
Yes first timers went out too but they don't make up majority in the church.

I begin to wonder why are christians going through hell? What's the essence of churches that preach success and supernatural, financial, marital etc breakthrough yet members are just clinging on faith while nothing has changed.

Many Christians in Nigeria experience setbacks not because faith doesn’t work, but because:

1. Christianity never promised a problem-free life—it promises strength through trials.

2. Nigeria’s harsh economy affects everyone, including believers, regardless of how prayerful they are.

3. Faith without practical action (skills, planning, discipline) leads to frustration.

4. Many churches overemphasize miracles and breakthroughs, neglecting the importance of long-term growth and strategy.

5. People going to the altar often do so out of emotional pain and desperation, not necessarily spiritual failure.

The church is still relevant, but faith must be combined with wisdom, skills, and practical life choices to see real transformation.

it is noble to promote sexual discipline and fidelity, especially from a religious or moral standpoint, framing all premarital or non-traditional sexual behavior as purely immoral or sinful is overly simplistic. Human sexuality is complex and influenced by a combination of biology, psychology, culture, religion, and personal values. Here’s a more nuanced perspective:

1. Sexual Activity During Courtship Isn't Always Immoral – Context Matters
In many parts of the world, more than 70% of couples live together and are sexually active before marriage, according to Pew Research and WHO studies on global relationship trends.
Research by the University of Denver shows that couples who communicate openly about sex and compatibility before marriage often have better marital satisfaction long term—not necessarily the opposite.

Not every relationship that involves premarital sex is immoral, abusive, or unserious. Many are committed and end in long-lasting marriages.

2. Suppressing Sexuality Can Lead to Psychological and Marital Problems
A study by the Journal of Sex Research found that people raised in overly restrictive environments regarding sex often suffer from sexual guilt, anxiety, and dissatisfaction in marriage. Waiting for marriage without sex can lead to sexual incompatibility—a major reason why many Christian marriages, especially in conservative cultures, face divorce despite both partners being virgins at wedding.

3. Paternity Fraud is a Real Issue – But It's Not As Widespread as Assumed
Data on paternity fraud is often exaggerated. A 2006 study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health found that only 1–3% of paternity cases worldwide involved deception. Painting women as common perpetrators of paternity fraud fuels misogyny and distrust, which are contrary to biblical love and unity in marriage.

4. Marriage Is Not a Cure for Adultery or Immorality
Being married doesn’t automatically prevent infidelity. According to the General Social Survey (U.S.), about 16% of married individuals admit to cheating on their spouse at some point. What reduces infidelity isn’t just marriage or religious morality—but good communication, emotional connection, and mutual respect.

5. Sexual Morality Is Culturally Relative
What is considered sexually immoral in some cultures is normal in others. For example:

In many African and Middle Eastern societies, premarital sex is taboo. But in most Western cultures, it’s considered a normal part of adult dating and bonding. Even within Christianity, there is no single biblical verse that states "kissing, touching, or all forms of sex before marriage is sin"—though sexual immorality is clearly condemned, the exact definition has varied over time.

While Christian values rightly encourage self-control and fidelity, blanket condemnation without understanding context or the realities of modern life can be harmful. Instead of shame and fear, Christian teachings should promote:

Grace, guidance, and growth over judgment.

Sexual education alongside spiritual discipline.

A balanced view that doesn’t promote gender stereotypes or unnecessary guilt.

In this world, what young people need is truth with compassion, not fear-driven purity culture.

Yes, pray for grace—but also educate, empower, and communicate. Because God's grace is not just to avoid sin, but also to understand truth, live in wisdom, and walk in love.

ebubeson:
As good Christians, it is of God we avoid all forms of sexual immorality in courtship and Marriage. This is by God's grace.

Pray for God's grace in this corrupt and polluted world because the rate of sexual immorality and temptations is on the high side.

As people in courtship, pray for grace not to sleep with your Fiance, Fiancee, EX, friend, bestie e.t.c

Please avoid:
(1) Avoid sleeping with your Fiance or Fiancee.
(2) Avoid sleeping with your EX before wedding day.
(3) As married persons, avoid committing adultery with others, your EX, your colleagues, childhood friend e.t.c
(4) Avoid paternity fraud: bringing other children into the marriage or even having child outside.
(5) Avoid other forms of sexual immorality that is not of God.

May God give you grace in Jesus name. Amen.

The hardest lessons they’ve learned from men:

1. Love alone is not enough
"He loved me deeply, but that didn’t stop him from being emotionally immature and avoidant. I learned that love needs to come with responsibility, communication, and consistency."

2. If a man wants to, he will
"I kept making excuses for why he didn’t call, didn’t commit, or wasn’t showing up. Turns out, he just didn’t want to enough. That lesson hurt."

3. Men can compartmentalize emotions differently
"He moved on a week after we broke up like I meant nothing. That shattered me until I realized men are taught to suppress, not necessarily feel less."

4. Silence is an answer
"He stopped calling, stopped texting, no explanations. I kept hoping for closure. His silence was the closure. That was brutal."

5. Don’t ignore the red flags just because you’re wearing rose-colored glasses
"He told me who he was early — I just thought I could change him or love him enough to heal him."

6. A man’s potential is not your responsibility
"I saw his potential, supported him through everything, built him up — then he left me for someone else. I learned the hard way not to date potential."

Your argument is detailed, informed, and rooted in personal experience—which makes it powerful. But here’s where I disagree with some of your points while still respecting your insights:

1. “I call BS” on people not succeeding in Corporate Nigeria after working abroad.
You’re absolutely right in pockets—especially in multinationals, oil and gas, or top-tier consulting firms where performance and pedigree can matter more than local politics. But this is not the norm for the majority of corporate Nigeria.

Many people returning from abroad struggle not because they aren’t competent—but because the ecosystem values connections over capacity in many sectors. Outside of blue-chip companies like yours, recruitment is often opaque, biased, and favors the familiar.

Even in oil and gas, how many people from abroad actually break into those high-paying roles without “insider links”? So yes—it’s possible to thrive coming back from abroad, but it’s not the average experience. For every person that breaks through, there are dozens who get frustrated out of the system.

2. “Who you know” vs “What you can do”
You’re right that private companies want delivery. But the reality is that “who you know” opens the door, “what you can do” keeps you in. High-paying corporate roles in Nigeria are often a blend of competence + connection. Yes, people get fired for non-performance at the top, but many never get the chance to enter the room without strong networks.

There's a reason why top business schools in Nigeria spend as much time on alumni networking as on curriculum. It's how the game is played.

3. “A lot of Nigeria’s issues are solved by getting a high-paying corporate job”

That’s only true for a tiny fraction of Nigerians. Less than 5% of graduates land such roles. The massive unemployment rate and underemployment in Nigeria means high-paying corporate jobs are the exception, not the solution.

Relying on corporate jobs as a solution to Nigeria’s problem is like saying "just win the lottery"—it’s possible, but not scalable. The structural problems remain: lack of SME support, weak institutions, bad public infrastructure, etc.

4. “People from abroad assimilate because they can get away with more”

This point is valid but also troubling—and proves the system is broken.

The fact that returnees can come and exploit loopholes, sexually harass, or take kickbacks without accountability is not an advantage. It’s a reflection of how unethical behavior is normalized. Many who return expecting professionalism are disillusioned by the culture of silence, abuse, and “smart corruption.” Not everyone wants to "game the system." And when they don’t conform, the system often chews them up.

Finally, tou're absolutely right—some thrive in corporate Nigeria after returning from abroad. But that path isn’t as open, fair, or rewarding as it should be.

For every CEO that welcomes returnees, there are 10 hiring managers who think “abroad people are too entitled.”

And while the perks are real, the culture can be toxic, unpredictable, and unforgiving to people who don’t know how to play the game.

So yes, Corporate Nigeria has potential. But for most returnees, it’s still a high-risk, high-friction gamble—unless they’re entering elite, networked circles like you described.

GloriousGbola:
as somone who has worked in corporate nigeria i call BS

most of what you said may apply to people coming to nigeria to work in government roles. but in corporate nigeria - i worked in an oil company and the ceo regularly employed and elevated people from the abroad.

and private companies do who you know [networking] and what you can do. no one in corporate nigeria is going to employ and pay a person a big salary for not delivering, especially at a higher level.

a large number of nigerias issues are resolved by getting a high paying job in corporate nigeria. most corporate companies have former police commissioner as security officers. back in the day we had one who we used to call and he would shut down any issue sharp sharp.

and the other irony is that a lot of people who worked abroad actually do assimilate because there is so much more you can get away with in nigeria than you can get away with in the west. sexual harassment in nigeria is simply not a career killer. getting kickbacks is expected. gaming the system is expected. i have seen people from abroad make far more and get away with far more than they could outside.

Metrics4tea:
I have a friend, we served together during our Nysc days in Abia state and I was his bestman during his wedding
He confided in me about his plan to end his marriage on these three reasons

1: The wife still contacts her ex, as in they are flirting on WhatsApp messages
2: His wife always visit his senior brother, my friend senior brother without his knowledge. The senior is leaving alone because his family resides in USA
3: His wife has reported him on several occasions to her family and his family saying negative things about him and he is angry that his wife always speak negatively about him to people

The best advice I gave him is to have a private discussion with his wife, if they are to involve people, it should their sponsor not family members

Before ending the marriage, he should:

Set boundaries and give her a chance to adjust.

Be clear with what behaviors he will not tolerate again.

Decide based on patterns, not emotions. Once trust is broken multiple times and she doesn’t change, then separation becomes a healthy choice.

Let him know it’s okay to walk away from a marriage that feels unsafe, toxic, or disrespectful—after making honest efforts to resolve it.

Firebox123:
Marrying an unemployed lady who respects you is way better than marrying a successful woman who does not respect you


Sense or Nonsense

That statement is more “sense” than “nonsense” — but it depends on your values.

Why it makes sense (emotional intelligence view):

1. Respect is foundational.
A successful partner who belittles you, talks down at you, or constantly reminds you of your "lower" status will slowly destroy your self-worth. Without respect, even love begins to feel like a transaction or manipulation.

2. Peace of mind is underrated.
An unemployed partner who genuinely respects, supports, and believes in you can bring emotional safety, which is priceless.

3. Success can change. Character rarely does.
Today’s “unemployed” woman might be tomorrow’s CEO. But someone who lacks respect for you will only get worse as they gain more power, not better.

Where it gets tricky:

Respect alone is not enough — shared values, ambition, communication, and purpose also matter. If "unemployed" means no vision, no effort, and total dependency, that’s different.

If "successful" means driven but emotionally toxic, that’s a red flag — not the success itself.

Success without respect is oppression.
Respect without success is potential.
Both together? That’s partnership.

So, yes — the original statement makes sense, especially if your peace, growth, and emotional well-being matter to you.

Mizessy:
For me, Efe thought he was a good man. He practiced goodness and kindness initially. He had principles, but fell victim to circumstances and ended up loosing himself in the process. He didn't stand for what he believed in the long run, like just choose a side already, good or bad. Staying true to himself. And if he really didn't want the business, he could have decided to leave after getting enough money, maybe relocate his family to another country and start life afresh... Have a plan. That escape he wanted to make at the end, it should have been at the beginning or a normal part of the plan in the long run, but both Efe and Oboz were greedy. Efe never held himself accountable for his wrong actions. He was displaying wannabe street smartness, but not strong enough for the street... He was a victim of circumstances, showing the ugly side of humans in certain tough situations. But, Who are we to judge though cos who knows what we would do if we were in his shoes??

I actually see Efe differently. I don’t think it’s fair to say he wasn’t accountable or didn’t have a plan. Efe was thrust into a brutal system where “morality” alone couldn’t guarantee survival. He wasn’t trying to be street-smart for show—he was adapting. And in a society like his, survival often demands compromising one’s values just to stay afloat.

Saying he should have just “chosen a side” oversimplifies what was clearly a complex, soul-crushing situation. It's easy to judge from the outside, but real life isn’t black and white. Efe wasn’t greedy; he was desperate. Even the so-called plan to escape isn’t as simple as “relocate your family and start afresh.” With what visa? What job? What safety net? This is Nigeria we’re talking about. The system makes it almost impossible for honest people to thrive.

Yes, he slipped. Yes, he lost himself. But instead of viewing him as a failed man, I see him as a symbol of how broken environments can fracture good people. And unlike many others, he tried to do right several times—he just didn’t have the power or privilege to follow through.

We want our heroes clean and decisive. But maybe Efe’s indecision was the point. He reflects the average Nigerian youth—smart, talented, principled, but cornered into morally grey choices. Maybe the tragedy is not that he didn’t choose a side, but that the system never gave him one worth choosing.

Your points are compelling, but To Kill a Monkey might not be about offering answers or moral clarity—it may be about mirroring chaos, exposing societal contradictions, and holding up a mirror to a broken system.

Kemi didn’t fail to “show us what they could do instead” because maybe that wasn't the story she wanted to tell. Efe is representative of the hardworking, brilliant Nigerian youth, yes—but he’s also a metaphor for what happens when brilliance lacks guidance, systems fail, and desperation replaces direction. The tragedy is intentional: it’s meant to be frustrating. We don’t get “solutions” because in real life, most Efes are navigating a similar fog.

As for the women, maybe the point was to show everyone’s hypocrisy and complexity—not just Efe’s. His wife taking the offshore money after condemning the source is the contradiction of survival. Anita might have had her own agency and motivations we weren’t shown because, again, this isn’t a moral tale—it’s a maze.

Even Mo’s seemingly shallow investigation could be Kemi’s jab at institutions that don’t really care about truth—only headlines and arrests. The same applies to the lack of resolution with his sleazy supervisor or his daughter’s choices: they are threads left loose, like in life.

Yes, it could have been executed better—more depth, more inner dialogue, more clarity. But maybe what you call “poor execution” is actually deliberate discomfort. Maybe To Kill a Monkey isn't a guidebook—it’s a warning.

bukatyne:
I just finished 'To Kill a Monkey' and my verdict AAin one sentence?

Excellent material, poor execution.

Poor execution!

There are more than ten million Efeminis in Nigeria: brilliant, excellent grades, entrepreneurial, hardworking, willing to start from the bottom, and persistent.

This was Kemi's opportunity to tell them what to do. Efe's choice was the easiest and most obvious however, why didn't she show us what they could do instead? If they had blind spots (as every human, why didn't she point them out instead)?

Or does she have a grouse with the Efes of this life?

Efe's wife was not making any sense. If she hated the dirty money (which they both decided to pursue), why did she collect all the other offshore accounts after the divorce? And their marriage broke down before Anita came along. Strangely, Oboz's wife wasn't even a bad influence. Because at the store, she still 'advised' Nosa to 'hold her husband tight' and 'bring him home'. She cared for the kids, she was a good hostess so where did Nosa learn her craze? Her mother?

Then his daughter; is she daft? Or was her father not providing enough for her that she went after Oboz?

Then didn't Efe learn enough from Oboz that engagement with men like Teacher never end well?

The movie tried to amplify his faults: he has an issue with his wife, he flies to Anita permanently.... he has issues with Oboz, he flies to Teacher (even if it was to protect his family). He also never shared his issues with his wife. There was no reason why. What was the deal with him and Ivie's mom?

Inspector Mo should have interviewed Efe to give us more glimpse into his mind or have him to a soliloquy. Why did he want to leave Anita behind? Did he find out that she was working for Teacher or? Why did he never confide in his wife? At what point was he going to realise that Oboz was never to kill him and he was a better choice than Teacher? Why didn't he try other software companies?

I expected Mo to interact with him beyond 'I will put you in jail for a long time'. You met this guy in the hospital unable to pay his hospital bills. You meet the CMD of the hospital that would have told you that he felt relief when one of the babies died and you did not explore his story further?

What happened to his sleazy supervisor? If she was male, some people.would have tried to throw a 'rape' angle in.

What does Anita get as recompense? All the women who testified against him are same with him. In what hypocritical world do they get to be suddenly 'victims'?

Chai!

Calling the deployment of keke (tricycles) for fire-fighting a sign of development is deeply misleading and reflects how low the bar has been set for public service delivery in Nigeria.

Let’s be factual:

1. Fire Response Needs Heavy Equipment: Fire outbreaks, especially in urban areas, require:
High-capacity water tanks (minimum of 1,000–5,000 liters),

- High-pressure pumps,
- Hydraulic ladders for high buildings,
- Oxygen tanks and protective suits.

A keke can barely carry 200 liters of water. That’s not enough to douse a burning room, let alone a house or market.

2. The National Fire Statistics Show Scale of the Problem:
Between 2016 and 2022, Nigeria recorded over 9,000 fire outbreaks across markets, homes, and government buildings (Federal Fire Service). Lagos alone reported 1,070 fire incidents in 2021, resulting in damages worth billions of naira. A major fire, like the Balogun Market fire, takes multiple fire trucks and hours to control—not tricycles.

3. Global Fire Standards: No developed country deploys keke for fire-fighting. Instead:
The U.S., UK, South Africa, and Kenya all prioritize well-equipped fire stations, hydrant systems, and fire engines with proper capacity. In Ghana, the government recently spent over $49 million to procure fire tenders and rescue equipment—not tricycles.


4. What This Really Shows:
Deploying keke is a symptom of state failure, not innovation. It means the state has failed to invest in proper emergency infrastructure and is managing decay instead of solving root problems. It’s like using a bucket to fight an inferno and calling it "innovation."

5. There Are Better Alternatives:
Instead of keke, deploy mini fire engines like in Japan or Singapore, which can still carry water, foam, and pumps in narrow streets.

Install neighborhood fire hydrants and train locals in early response techniques.

Invest in community fire stations and regular fire drills.

Fire-fighting keke are not a solution, they’re a desperate improvisation caused by failure to plan and invest properly. If your house is on fire, you deserve real help—not token PR stunts dressed up as “innovation.”

Exousiang01:
Are the keke for public transportation.
You are just one of the many enemies of good development in this country.

If fire starts in your house and the fire men arrive with the keke, tell them not to put out the fire, tell them you are waiting for the state fire service with their big trucks...

The keke is to manage fire incidents before the state fire service truck arrive.

omoredia:
keke is always good enough for the people. when will Sanwo Olu and lagos house of assembly members use keke as his official car? smh

It such an eye sore.

Grammys don’t always reflect quality — they reflect politics, popularity, and positioning. African Giant was Grammy-nominated, and that doesn't mean it was better than Outside or Twice As Tall. Likewise, if I Told Them or Sign of Weakness doesn’t win, it doesn’t mean they aren’t great. Saying 'come back if it wins a Grammy' ignores the fact that awards are influenced by many things beyond just music quality. Also, music is subjective — what hits home for you might not hit for others. Let’s not invalidate fair criticism just because you love the project.

whippersnapper:
6.5 na low rating. Please come back to this comment if the album doesn't win a grammy award. For me this is his best album so far. Far better than African giant

Ah yes, the Grammy — the ultimate seal of musical greatness. Because obviously, no average album has ever won one, right? Let’s just ignore personal taste, ignore critique, and base everything on whether some folks in suits overseas give it a trophy. If that’s the standard, then I guess we should rate music like it’s an Olympic event. 6.5 today, gold medal tomorrow — music complete!

Burna Boy – No Sign of Weakness (2025 Album) – Summary:

Rating: ★★★☆☆ (6/10)

Style: Genre-blending (Afrobeats, soul, rock, funk, R&B)

Vibe: Confident but defensive, emotionally distant


Strengths:
- Ambitious production with global influences
- Highlights: “Pardon” (feat. Stromae), “Born Winner,” “Buy You Life”
- Big features: Travis Scott, Mick Jagger, Shaboozey

Weaknesses:
- Lacks emotional depth and cohesion
- Lyrics focus too much on critics and proving himself
- Some collabs (e.g., with Travis Scott) feel underwhelming


Verdict:
An experimental and bold album with moments of brilliance—but overall, it feels scattered and less emotionally powerful than Burna’s past projects. Fans of African Giant may find it less relatable.

jadyclem:
The guy was just being consciously stupid.
The U.S refused to sell weapons to fight boko haram during goodluck regime because he refused to do their bidding. Imagine what will happen if we relinquish our food sovereignty to the west and white corporations. They can easily decide whether you live or die.
GMO is a population control weapon and the sooner we realize it the better for all of us in coming together to fight against it.

Our food sovereignty should never be put in the hands of anyone else

The claim that GMOs are a population control weapon is unfounded. Over 70 countries safely use GMOs, backed by 4,000+ scientific studies confirming their safety. GMOs improve food security by increasing yields, reducing pesticide use, and cutting post-harvest losses — especially in countries like Nigeria and India.

In Africa, many GMOs (e.g. Bt cowpea) are developed locally, not by foreign corporations, and regulated by national agencies like Nigeria’s NBMA. Rejecting GMOs risks greater food insecurity and dependence on food imports.

True food sovereignty means choosing the right tools to feed your people — not rejecting innovation out of fear.

Zambia doesn't equal Morocco: Morocco plays a more structured, technical game. Beating Zambia 5–0 doesn’t guarantee Nigeria will dominate Morocco the same way.

Morocco Is Resilient: They haven’t lost all tournament, and they’ve beaten strong teams like Ghana and Senegal. They know how to manage tough games.

Watching replays isn’t the same as live play: Replays remove pressure, but real matches are about handling the moment—crowd, tension, momentum. That’s what makes finals hard.

Conclusion: Nigeria is strong, yes—but dismantling Morocco won’t be easy. Respecting the opponent is key to winning the title.

aremubabs:
The Zambians played well against the Moroccans, and even led twice before Morocco forced them to a 2-2 draw.

But we saw what happened when Zambia met Nigeria.

Their two prolific strickers could not even register a single shot on target. Then, to make matters worse, the whole team was dismantled 5-0.

It is easy to see the good performances of other teams. It is hard to see the good performances of your own team because you will be in too much pressure to see beautiful football even if it is being in full display.

To really see how your team fares, watch their matches after the live match. With no pressure, you will see that the Nigerian team can actually dismantle this Moroccan team.

Nigeria vs Morocco – WAFCON 2024 Final: Summary of Counter Analysis

1. Mental Toughness:
Nigeria has the experience to handle Morocco’s home crowd. Many players compete in Europe under high pressure, and they’ve already faced Morocco in a packed stadium before.

2. Discipline & Temperament:
The current squad is more mature. They've kept their cool all tournament with no red cards and improved emotional control, especially in the intense semi-final vs South Africa.

3. Controlled Physicality:
Nigeria’s strength is an advantage—but they must avoid reckless fouls. They need smart tackling, especially around the box, without losing their natural edge.

4. Tactical Flexibility:
Long balls alone won’t be enough. Nigeria should mix it up with short passes, wing play, and quick transitions to break Morocco’s compact defense.

5. Defensive Readiness:
Nigeria’s back line isn’t fast, but they’ve only conceded one goal thanks to solid midfield support and sharp goalkeeping. They must stay compact to avoid through-ball traps.



Conclusion:
Nigeria is better prepared than in 2022. With experience, discipline, and tactical balance, they have what it takes to win their 10th WAFCON title—even against a spirited Moroccan side at home.

Seunfretty:
Few teams I see they have to do

1) Build some tough skin....I don't think they have played infront of a full stadium in this tournament... Especially when 80% of the crowd is your opposition cheering them to kill you

2) Work in there temperaments ...what happened the last time they met morocco...was sheer indiscipline and then failing to control emotions

3) Physicality will need to be watched against Morocco and they need to play more with the ball ...anyone who is in pal with African Football will know north Africans use there frail physical attributes to get fouls...the falcon girls are tough but against this team the toughness might get them in trouble. ...causing fouls close to the box ....in the box and other dangerous regions carelessly could lead to Doom...hence ,they need to be clinical in their tackle and win the ball rather take the ladies down ...

4) They will need to take their chances....they will need other approach asides the long ball thing they seem to be good at...cos ,.the Moroccans are quite taller too ..not like the south Africans


5) The Moroccan are quite technical and will put the balls behind them.... the center back will need help from the midfielders....our center backs are very physical but there aren't fast and not so proactive to moments....south Africans exposed that from the ball leading to penalties


Hopefully they can win...Good luck to them

5) If the can

robosky02:
https://www.cafonline.com/caf-womens-africa-cup-of-nations/schedule-results/

Nigeria

Defensively organized and consistent

Proven winners under pressure

Balanced scoring across multiple attackers


Morocco

Home advantage with passionate local support

Strong attacking trio in Chebbak / Jraidi / Mrabet

Slight defensive fragility–haven’t kept a clean sheet since group stage

This match represented a clash between Nigeria’s seasoned WAFCON dominance and Morocco’s energetic, home‑ground rise. Nigeria entered as favorites due to experience, defensive solidity, and scoring depth, while Morocco counted on host support and attacking

I'm really sorry you're going through this. That kind of change—something as small but symbolic as a contact name—can carry a lot of unspoken emotion, especially after conflict.

Here’s what this might mean and how you can think about next steps:

What Could That Change Mean?

Changing your contact name from “Hubby” to a neutral label like “Dele – Airtel” could suggest:

Emotional distance: She might still be hurt or emotionally withdrawing. Symbol of unresolved resentment: Even if the elders helped "resolve" things, she might still feel unheard or unsafe.

A silent protest: Sometimes people change small things to express dissatisfaction without starting another fight.

Protective wall: It may be her way of not being vulnerable with you anymore—especially if trust was bruised. It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s given up—but it does show that something still isn't healed.

The Children Factor

Wanting to part ways is a serious thought. But children change the stakes:

They need stability, even if the parents aren’t in a loving relationship.

But they also absorb tension, even when no one’s yelling. If there's a cold war in the home, it affects them. Your emotional health matters too. If you’re deeply unhappy or walking on eggshells, that’s not “sacrifice”—that’s slow erosion.

Consider Before You Decide:
1. Have you asked her why she changed your contact name?
Not in an accusatory way—just calm curiosity. Her response will reveal a lot.
2. What do you want: Peace, Connection, or Exit?
Are you hoping she comes back emotionally? Or have you checked out yourself.
3. Would you both be willing to try counseling?
Even if it’s just once or twice, it can reveal hidden hurts and help both of you think clearly.
4. What are your non-negotiables?
If respect, affection, or communication have collapsed completely—and she’s unwilling to work on it—then leaving may not be selfish, but wise.

What You Can Do Now:

Have one honest conversation. No blame, no drama. Just say something like:
“I noticed you changed how you saved my contact, and I feel like something between us still isn’t okay. I want to know if we can talk about how to rebuild or where we stand. I’m not looking to fight—I just want clarity.”

Protect your peace. Whether you stay or leave, make decisions rooted in calm—not pain or ego.

Document your thoughts. Write out your feelings privately—it helps you gain clarity about what exactly is hurting and what you want.

Whatever happens, you're not alone—and you’re not weak for hurting. You're human.

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

How to Stop Letting People’s Opinions Weigh You Down

1. People will judge no matter what – so live on your own terms.
2. Not all opinions matter – only value feedback from people who genuinely care about you.
3. Pause before reacting – remind yourself their opinion is not fact.
4. Limit exposure – reduce time with negative people or social media.
5. Affirm yourself daily – speak positivity into your mind every morning.
6. Even great people get dragged – you’re not alone.
7. It’s a process – you get stronger with time and practice.

Take back control. Don’t hand people the remote to your peace.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

7upnigeria:
You took your time to write all of these?

They are building "BRANDS!". Shey na yansh be the brand?

Anybody using shaking of body/ yansh to build a brand will need that body or yansh to sustain it WHICH IS EQUAL TO PROSTITUTION.

First of all, calm down — not every woman shaking yansh is selling it.

Yes, some women build brands with their bodies — just like some men build theirs with fake flex, rented cars, and empty motivational quotes. Everyone’s marketing something these days — but don’t confuse visibility with prostitution.

When a fitness coach posts body content, is she selling sex or promoting health?
When a dancer posts moves online, is that prostitution or talent?

You see yansh, we see audience. You see seduction, we see strategy.
That’s the difference between people who think with sense and those who react with insecurity.

Let’s be real: If shaking body automatically equals prostitution, then strip clubs and Instagram are the same thing — and they’re not.

Some of your faves in entertainment, Nollywood, and even politics used charm, body, and charisma to rise. Are they all prostitutes too?

Bottom line: If you think every confident, body-positive woman is selling herself, maybe the problem isn’t her brand — maybe it’s the poverty of your mindset

Ah, so now women shaking waist online are the downfall of society? Please.

Let’s not pretend like the "good old days" were heaven on earth. That so-called “age of moral responsibility” you’re romanticizing?
That was the era where women were seen but not heard, married off at 14, and told to stay with cheating husbands "for the children." You call that honour? That was oppression with better packaging.

You say women today are "brands" — but who’s doing the buying and selling? It’s the same men pretending to be victims of modern times while jumping from woman to woman like they’re shopping on Jumia.

Don’t drag women for being visible and expressive in the digital age when it’s men like FFK that treat marriage like a subscription plan — cancel anytime, no refund.

And by the way, peace of mind didn’t come from women being silenced. It came from them being afraid to speak up.
This generation is not morally bankrupt — it's just no longer afraid to expose double standards.

So if you miss the old days so much, maybe go back there — but don’t expect applause when you do.

7upnigeria:
Ms logic, I don't really belong to this age of moral decadence where women BEHAVE and are THEREFORE TREATED as commodities for money exchange. And thats why its easy for a guy to "FALL IN LOVE" with a waist-shaking BRAND online today and throw her away latest 5 years after that meeting, and then move on to the NEXT BRAND that money can buy, which is the practice of people like FFK, Frank Edoho etc. I belong and still believe in that age of moral responsibility that brought peace of mind to our local societies which also gave MORE HONOUR to women

Respectfully, your nostalgia is selective and misleading.
You speak of a so-called “age of moral responsibility” that supposedly gave “more honour to women,” but history doesn’t support this fantasy.

In that “honourable” age:

- Women were often denied education and basic rights.
- Many were married off as teenagers — not out of love, but as part of family bargains.
- Domestic violence was tolerated, even normalized.
- Men cheated freely while women were expected to “endure.”

So, what exactly was honourable about that?

The truth is: the problem isn’t waist-shaking or social media. It’s how people choose to view and treat others.
Women shaking their bodies online are not the problem — the mindset that reduces them to mere brands or transactions is.

As for FFK or Frank Edoho — their relationship choices are personal, not moral yardsticks.
If a man discards a woman after five years, that says more about his character than about her waist.

And finally, moral responsibility isn’t tied to any era. It lives in individuals — both in 1965 and in 2025. There are honourable women and men today, just as there were wicked ones in the past. The difference is, today women have the voice to call it out.

Wow! What a thread!

7upnigeria:
You took your time to write all of these?

Not enough original content

Yes, I took my time, because critical thinking deserves more than recycled hot takes and emotional outbursts. If you’re looking for originality, try facts mixed with logic. That’s rare these days, especially from those who only know how to sound loud, not sound right. Have a wonderful weekend!

Nappsy:
Continue dey defend

Lawyer ikpama

"Oga Lawyer Ikpama, calm down. Nobody is dragging wig with you. You're just intimidated by facts presented with intelligence, not emotions. If truth sounds like an attack to you, maybe you should question the strength of your argument—not the person presenting it."

While @Arianacrush949 may be expressing frustration with certain online behaviors, reducing every woman who dances or "shakes yansh" on social media to a commodity "for sale" is a harmful generalization, rooted in misogyny and lack of understanding of digital culture, self-expression, and economics.

1. Dancing or expressing sexuality online ≠ prostitution
Fact: A 2022 Pew Research study on digital expression shows that over 60% of women who post dance or fashion videos do so as a form of self-expression, fitness, entertainment, or influencer branding — not solicitation. TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Reels are platforms built around performance, and dance content ranks among the top 3 most-watched categories globally (Statista, 2023).

Many popular female influencers from Nigeria (e.g., Janemena, Liquorose) are dancers or entertainers, not sex workers. They're building brands, not selling bodies.


2. Respecting bodily autonomy is basic human decency
Saying “price her” because she dances implies women lose their right to dignity because of how they dress or move. That’s like saying a man showing abs is automatically a gigolo.

UN Women reports that sexual objectification leads to increased gender-based violence and online harassment, especially in Africa where cultural norms are often misinterpreted.


3. Not all attention is sexual – many men and women admire, without desiring
Surveys by YouGov (2021) show that over 70% of social media users follow creators for content — not for sexual interest or solicitation. A man asking "have you eaten?" may genuinely care. Assuming that kindness is misplaced because of how someone dances reduces human interaction to transactions, which is unhealthy.

4. Economically, female influencers earn more from partnerships than “pricing”
Influencers like Papaya Ex, Priscilla Ojo, or Nancy Isime make millions of naira monthly through ads, shoutouts, affiliate links, and brand deals — not from selling sex. Suggesting that women on social media are “for sale” ignores their entrepreneurial power in Nigeria’s growing creator economy (worth over ₦20 billion annually).

Instead of labeling and demeaning women who express themselves freely online, we should acknowledge the diversity of intent behind social media behavior. Some dance for fun, some for money, some for art — but none deserve to be automatically dehumanized or priced.

Let’s move away from judgment and toward understanding and mutual respect.

ediko5:
A Nigerian lady @Arianacrush949 have adviced men on social media not to waste their time to ask ladies who shake their bum bum on social media questions.

According to her;
Any yansh wey dey shake for social media Na for sale, price am.
No go ask am have you eaten o.
Price am straight up

Actually, there’s no biblical record or historical evidence that King Solomon died at age 50. The Bible never states Solomon’s exact age at death — that’s speculation passed down through tradition, not fact.

Here’s what we do know:

Solomon reigned for 40 years (1 Kings 11:42).

He became king as a young adult, likely around age 20 (based on 1 Kings 3:7 where he refers to himself as "a little child" in experience, not age). That means he likely died around age 60 or older, which was a respectable lifespan in ancient times.

Also, regarding God “leaving him” — yes, the Bible says Solomon turned to foreign gods in his later years (1 Kings 11:4-10), and God became displeased. But it never says God struck him down or that his death was punishment. In fact:

God allowed Solomon to live out his reign in peace. Judgment was postponed until after Solomon’s death — the kingdom was divided during his son Rehoboam's time (1 Kings 11:12).

So saying “he died at 50” or “God left him and he ended in waste” is not supported by facts.

Solomon’s story is complex. He made mistakes, but he also left behind Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and the Song of Songs — texts full of wisdom. His life wasn’t a waste; it was a mirror of human imperfection, power, and the consequences of choices — like many of us today.

ZombieDredd:
You do realize Solomon died at 55, very very premature.
God left him...

What's the point of all that money and wisdom only to die at 55..

What a waste!

asiga:
It is even people who engaged in premarital and extramarital sex that makes it bigger these days and even in the days of old.

King Solomon is my witness. Them plenty.

True, people have always engaged in premarital and extramarital sex — even in the Bible. King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines, so yes, it’s nothing new. But here’s the twist: it’s often the same people who indulge in it that later start preaching the loudest about the “consequences.”

They make sex seem heavier than it is, turning personal choices into community panic. They spiritualize everything, even when the real issue is just poor decisions or lack of self-control. Let’s be honest — it’s not sex that ruins lives; it’s hypocrisy, silence, and judgment.

Sex is not the problem — it's how people react to it. If society normalized honest conversations over fear and guilt, many wouldn't fall into unnecessary shame or secret struggles.

cutecommend:
Hope you are not trying to console yourself. Avoid sexual consequences.

Let’s be real — sex isn’t the sacred, untouchable topic it once was. In today’s Nigeria, it's not just happening behind closed doors; it’s practically on display. From the streets of Lagos to the corners of TikTok and Instagram, it’s obvious that sex has become casual, even transactional. You can literally buy it in broad daylight — it’s no longer a mystery or something rare.

Social media mirrors the society we live in. From influencers flaunting seductive content to open conversations about hookup culture, it’s clear that times have changed. Whether you like it or not, sex has been normalized, commercialized, and even glamorized. So painting it as this deeply consequential act for everyone might be out of touch with the reality most young people are living today.

ScamDemicEra:
... of course a rag tag Boko Haram existed long ago but do you think late Yussuf's Boko Haram have anything to do with the 2014+ sophisticated Boko Haram ??

The powers that be do this all the time to fool the gullible.

Yes, Boko Haram under Mohammed Yusuf started as a local radical group. But suggesting the group's later sophistication (post-2014) was purely staged by “powers that be” to push a GMO agenda oversimplifies a complex crisis and shifts focus from real, urgent issues.

1. Terrorism in the North isn’t about GMOs — it’s about power, poverty, and failed governance.

The insurgency grew because of poverty, poor governance, ethnic tensions, and weak state institutions, not to push biotech crops. Boko Haram has targeted schools, markets, farms, and infrastructure, causing widespread displacement and hunger. The conflict’s impact on food security is real — but not proof of a GMO conspiracy.

2. GMOs were being developed in Nigeria before the insurgency escalated.
Research on Bt cotton and Bt cowpea began in the 2000s — long before the insurgency intensified in 2014. These were developed by local institutions like the Institute for Agricultural Research (IAR), not Western companies. Claiming terror is used to push GMOs ignores decades of local effort to solve food insecurity through science.

3. If there's a real plan, it’s to weaken Nigeria via food insecurity — but rejecting GMO worsens that.

Over 1.3 million hectares of farmland in the North can’t be used due to insecurity. That's the real danger. GMOs like drought-resistant maize or insect-resistant cowpea are tools that can help rebuild local food production, reduce imports, and cut hunger. Resisting all GMO tech based on fear plays right into the hands of those who benefit from our hunger and dependency.

Yes, Boko Haram evolved — but linking that evolution to a secret GMO agenda ignores real facts and delays solutions. We should focus on restoring security and embracing safe, local innovations that secure Nigeria’s food future — not push fear-based theories.

CyracksMrBlogger:
here is the truth nobody cares to know. We are so dull in this part of the world

We’re not dull — we’re underserved, misrepresented, and often let down by poor systems, not lack of intelligence.

Africans have produced world-class thinkers, innovators, and leaders. What we need isn’t more shame — it’s better opportunities, stronger systems, and belief in ourselves.

Insulting ourselves solves nothing. Empowering each other does.

1. GMOs are not banned in Europe — they are strictly regulated. Many EU countries import and consume GMOs, especially for animal feed.

2. Scientific consensus says GMOs are safe — top bodies like WHO, EFSA, and the US National Academy of Sciences agree there's no credible evidence GMOs are harmful.

3. GMOs benefit food security — they increase yields, reduce pesticide use, and support drought-resistant farming, especially in Africa.

4. Many countries accept GMOs — over 70 nations grow or import them, including Nigeria, Brazil, USA, and South Africa.

5. Not all GMOs are corporate-owned — public institutions in Nigeria and across Africa also develop local GMO crops like Bt cowpea.

6. Food sovereignty comes from self-reliance, not rejecting science. Growing GMO crops locally reduces dependency on imports.

Bottom line: GMOs are regulated, not banned globally, and they can help African nations grow more food with fewer resources when responsibly used.

jadyclem:
You're being deceptive. GMOs are banned in most European countries. Countries that previously accepted the GMO have all reversed their pro GMO laws and banned it.
Y'all should research of the dangers of GMOs before you ignorantly sell yourself and generations back into slavery.
Whoever controls your food controls your health, survival and existence. This is not a joking matter