IyaTola:
is farming that easy in the north

Well it is relatively easier.

Cost of labor is cheap. I can imagine the vast amount of work you can get done on a farmland for just 1k unlike here in Lagos.

Land is ready available for a little sum you can rent for as long as you want, if he is lucky enough and can negotiate, he can get land in exchange for a little portion of the land’s produce during harvest.

80k is a reasonable sum for an up-north location. So that a enough capital to start and up scale an agric business in the north.

Speaking the language makes life easiest for him.

Acidosis:


You mean your mother works in a top management position in a big firm and she had all the time to clean, cook, do market runs, babysit two kids all by her sex without spending a kobo on house assistants, etc?

Well, I like to believe you; that's why I am wishing you luck in finding a woman like your mother in a digital age.

Working in a top management position isn't even the issue. My grandmother no go school but she had assistant at different phases in her life. By all means reduce your workload. Stress is not a flex.

Lets not make your mom a centre of this discussion tho. Op's issue is mainly about sex. I believe you would be responsible enough to not involve your mom in such discussions.

Logically speaking there are thousands of women better than my mom, they own corporations (so what is working a top mgt position) and still have their marriage. Anyways I am also responsible enough not to mention your mother.

Back to the point at hand, every smart woman knows what it takes to “keep her marriage”.

For some men, it’s their wife cooking (even if he is a billionaire and can afford 10 house maids), for some its sex. There is always a requirement because men would be men irrespective of if the woman is a billionaire.

You saying it like its one thing or the other, like she can’t work in a multi-national and give her husband amazing sex or keep her marriage. Which is a lie cuz their are millions of amazing women doing that and more.

What makes many women outstanding is their ability to balance many priorities. If she chooses to ignore it, in most cases the truth would be that she doesn’t care about you.

Acidosis:

No wahala. Marry someone like your mother. All the best.

You mean I should marry an intelligent woman that knows how to cook, keep her marriage all while working a top management position in a big firm. I pray I do.

Besides is she the only one that does that, is there any sensible woman with a functioning brain that wants to spend all her free time cooking as against relaxing.

Oga you don’t have any reasonable point. Sit down.

If they were actually stealing from the bus, I wish the bus had a security detail and one person was shoot at point blank

We say Nigeria is bad that the real truth is that Nigerians are not bad people. An average Nigerian would take any given chance to get ahead not minding the illegality involved.

Acidosis:
You no try, sir. You earn 700k and all you have to spend on your family with kids is 100k every month, leaving your wife to cook, clean, wash, do nanny work and market runs, and probably still do her regular job, and you expect her to give you hot sex? With which energy, please? The same energy you could have preserved by spending extra 50k on a good cleaner or cook?

Give yourself a heavy knock on the head.

What are writing, is it everyday you clean your house vigorously?

Oga when i was younger, my mum would cook for a whole month on one Saturday and put all in the freezer.
You don’t any reasonable point. Someone earning 700k in Nigeria, do you think he goes to work to play?? Do you know the emotional trauma some people endure to keep their jobs? Is wanting sex from his wife out of place? From the look of things she refuses him sex for an extended period of time.

Well I can’t advise OP

I would maintain my stance, marry someone that matches your sexual energy. You see early he/she doesn’t like sex and you like sex. Madam/Oga don’t marry him/her, leave him/her! Or it would end in tears

IyaTola:

morning Madam,

Please I need your advice.
I work in Sokoto but am thinking of relocating to either Lagos or Abuja for greener pasture, to go hustle and search for better job.

Please what your take on this.

From my NYSC experience, this something to actually ponder on. How much would he be earning in Abuja?

With 80k in Sokoto (if he is an indigene), he can easily buy/rent farmlands for cultivation of produce. If he is savvy enough, he can turn it into a multi-millionaire business within 2 years.

Paystack:
He looks guilty

Any accused lecturer in a Nigerian university is 99% of the time guilty.

He “looks” guilty?

Hmm i pray you never experience false witness in your life.

If the man’s actual guilty, let justice take it’s cause.

I have told the story of a girl that tried to black mail a lecturer during my final year university days, cause she knew she was going to fail his course.

I am against this nonsense woke culture of woman been being taken seriously without evidence, history has shown that some if them can be evil.

Left to me false rape accusers when caught should be handed the same prison sentence as rapist.

Usefulsense:


I earn a little less than, N1.1m monthly net.
I am a qualified accountant.

But you see, working for a private company in Nigeria, not easy bro.

You are a qualified accountant, you are valuable.

Oga don’t be afraid of change. Go and join your madam!

gaby:
This is evil.

Brother that’s just what is it.

When you think God burning a soul in hellfire for all eternity is a bit excessive.

Even with this global knowledge of hell, you still see things like this. So eternity in hell is well deserved.

Never put your lifelines in the hands of anyone, only God!

GraciousWords:


For PNP - page 1 FAQ 8
I would advise you go through the CRS grid on page 1 post 2 again to see where you may be leaving points on the table.

Always best to just get in the pool, people who have thought their scores were too low have got ITA in the past from being in the pool at the right time.....even with "low" scores.

French is a CRS booster as well......do you have a spouse who is younger but has your same (or better) credentials in terms of education & IELTS?

Thanks

I have submitted my EE profile. Hoping for the best.

ednut1:
difference between 7.5 and 8 in listening is 50 points .

Edit.

You are correct.

Thanks for your input.

Afolavid:


Your IELTS score would have been perfect with an 8 in listening... It'll increase your CRS scores drastically, apart from that, you should explore 2 or more certificates, French or PNP if you haven't looked into it.

But the thing is, i am just about 14/15 points from maxing out IELTS. At 401, additional 15 points won’t do me any good.

I am thinking PNP, I just need to know how to go about it.

I just submitted my express entry profile, my score is 401 (apart from age and my ielts score (7.5, 7.5, 7.5, 7.5) I have no idea why it is this low.

What are the options available to me to boost my scores?

I hear i can use PNP. How do I go about this? Ontario is on my mind but I’m open minded. What provinces are the easiest to obtain Province Nomination from?

Wodu89:



I never log out my accounts and it could say I'm online all year round. Doesn't necessarily mean I am always available for online activities. Relax

Nairaland doesn’t count your time spent online like that.

You need to have your browser/app open. So this person has been steady active, scrolling, clicking.

Nowadays i too don’t log out, i have been on NL for 5 yesrs and my time spent online is just 1 month.

Dangote is one of Nigeria’s major problems, I have stated it on this forum years ago.

The moment he announced his refinery i told y’all prices of fuel and related products would skyrocket before that refinery is finished.

Y’all haven’t seen anything before his refinery is finished, the stage would be set for him to recoup his investment faster than Uncle Abacha looted Nigeria

slimzypink:

I will get the divorce. Thanks .

And you will restore him to his former position, either by getting him back into Asia or financially.

Like I mentioned earlier you that you have issues making up your mind even after seeing the sign is your problem.

If you don’t get rid of this trait and have a proper thought/decision making process, you would just keep making one bad decision after another.

You can see all the red and even black flags you are still here asking questions when you know what needs to be done.

You didn’t listen to someone close, so it’s us you don’t know from Adam you want us to waste energy typing so you can ignore our advice too abi

It’s like some people bellful the next thing on the agenda is to cause problems for themselves lol. I don’t want to believe that this story is true.

By the way i so much dislike people that have difficulty in making up their mind. They waste other people’s time, effort & resources. Even God has little regard for them.

James 1:6-8 King James Version (KJV)
For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

Starships4u:
By leaving them!

You couldn’t have said it better.

You have only one life to live, why spend it with someone that makes it difficult.

Evestar200:
Maybe You are not her dream man

That Woman Married you because of Marriage pressure not because she loves you.

There is no way a woman who loves, Cares and has feelings will not like to do anything with you no matter how angry she is.

Torr. All the indications of lack of love is there.

He should just divorce her and move on.

When you talk about sexual compatibility some people would hypocritically shake their heads

If she/he doesn’t like to have as much sex as you do, don’t get married to ‘em.

Marry people that match your sexual energy.

addmole:
……

@Op I hate to break it to you, you are staring down the barrel of divorce. Plus you wife is even lacking wisdom required to handle the matter.

Remove all resentment, sit her down, table the matter and initiate the divorce conversation, assess her expressions closely.

Smh. People we should gather in one hall and open fire on from all angles for the hundred and thousands of innocent souls, killed, maimed and displaced

Nigerian would be on its way to being great again, when we stop negotiating with terrorists.

I have mentioned it times without number, Nigeria is a secular country.

We need to stop tolerating intolerant religiosity.

They come at innocent people exercising their constitutional right to choose their religion, the community should rise up and come for them Tit for tat

Iqtest:
She is lying, I know her family so well

Anything for clout. She looks the part.

****************************

As a man if you don’t have many energy (mental, physical, spiritual…), avoid any lady with daddy issues.

Especially the ones that bad-mouths their father, trust me you no fit do pass. You would just take her father’s place.

Olosho would take huge money from client buy asset come to social media to shout “On God”

Yahoo boy same thing.

Slithering Politicians same thing.

Thank God I am not God, If i were God I would be very pissed off by now.

Honestly this is even rampant in lagos

I suppose the beating of these vandals to an inch of their life

Then they should be thrown into jail to cool off

brunobaba:
nice one,someone should tell Polaris bank to do same for their SOF/contract staffs,awon alayebaje.

When this topic came up, I confirmed from one of my guys that they actually budgeted for contract staff salary increase by more than 50k sef.

But remember contract staff are not actually their staff, upon approaching the outsourcing company that they want the whole money to go to the contract staff they refuse (No be Juju be that).

The outsourcing company has vehemently insisted that they must cut from it and the bank refused. Nigerians are wicked to themselves aswear.

Even the yeye contract staff don’t even know who their enemy is, they went to social media to drag the bank that is on their side lol. I just hope that their no nonsense CEO don’t fire them all.

bassdow:


...and someOne used FAKE biShops and nothing happened

We are too tolerant of violence by Muslims in Nigeria.

I was amazed about the very little tolerance Muslims are given in Indian. Which makes them as meek as doves over there, cuz there; you do anyhow = you see anyhow

Check the picture below. If a Muslim is found with a gun, he/she is shot on sight!

Note: I have Muslims as family members and I have told them, if you claim violence in the name of islam is propagated by the uneducated muslim but you the educated ones refuses to check their excesses or speak against it, you are as guilty as them are. So when appraisal comes don’t expect to be spared.

Puss360:
Ewww chai.. Poor man... I just dey pity the man... Uneasy lies the head that wears a crown... No leader, either elected or appointed has ever gotten a good record after leaving office in Nigeria...
Except Yaradua wey die for power...
Chai..

With the amount of fund he moved. Poor and Emefiele have no business being in the same sentence loool

RedboneSmith:
It doesn’t take much to offend conservative and even moderate Muslims. Their sensitivity is more fragile than a fabregé egg. Nigerians should know that by now.

Well just like the way Muslims and Hindus co-exist in Indian, it’s time other religions in Nigeria that matter into their own hands and put the fear of God in eachother.

Peace is not absence of war, peace is both of us acknowledging eachother’s prowess in the act of war and choosing to refrain from violence because of the resulting exigency.

Nobody has monopoly on violence.

Not all muslims are evil but I think the situation is still unchanged cause the masses have taken the right action.

I came across a post on Quora about violence by Muslim and why it is not prevalent in Indian even with their growing population.

The answer was intriguing, it turns out that muslim police themselves cause they are very much aware of the unforgiving repercussion of propagating violence. If Muslims kill 1 Hindu they know the resulting action would be Hindus killing 10 muslims.

Apparently Muslims have no such fear in Nigeria.

Personally I think the propensity for violence of some Muslims in Nigeria over trivial issues is getting out of hand.

Imagine the number of deaths threats, one even posted a picture of the young lady that was burnt alive by muslim zealots some time ago and said Davido was next

The other day, an Alfa was threatening to stone to death Some Osun worshippers peacefully going about the business of their own god (can you just imagine in a secular country like Nigeria not an islam country).

I came across so much ranting from Muslims about the music video by Logos Olori, Davido’s new signee.

At first I thought he must have spoken blasphemy against the Quran, or one of the Holy Prophet, or he used half-naked muslim style ladies in the video.

When i finally watched the video causing anger, only to see well dressed muslim brothers dancing and in the lyrics, the artist praising Allah for his new found fortune.

This is the same video that had some Muslims sending death threats to Davido and Logos (which is illegal in Nigeria).

My confusion knew no bounds, so I am here to ask Muslims in Nigeria what is wrong with the video to warrant so much murderous intent.