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antontech: Starting a new relationship is both wonderful and tricky.You are infatuated your partner and you love being around him all the time. Your partner makes you happy and it seems
like you make him happy as well. However, there seems to be a disconnect in your new relationship bliss: your partner wants to have sex with you and you don't feel ready. This
might be your first time, or you decided that because this person is so special to you, you don't want to rush things.
Whatever the reason, you have the right to wait as long as you feel necessary. It's your body and it's your decision.

Instructions
1. Don't do sleepovers. If you don't want to have sex, you shouldn't put yourself and your partner in situations when sex will be an option.
Stay away from your partner's place when you are finished with your date and just go home.You should also wait for romantic getaways or trips which require you to spend the night together.

2. Don't get drunk. Drinking while trying your hardest to keep sex from happening with the person you care about and find attractive is not a smart idea. Alcohol could get the best of you both by clouding your judgment, and once you cross that line there is no turning back.

3. Make an excuse your partner is likely to believe. If you do end up sharing a bed and your partner is making it clear they want to have sex, you should have an excuse at hand.
You can always say that you are not feeling well, or are tired and have to get up early in the morning. However, lying is not a good way to start a relationship so consider if it's worth it.

4. Be honest with your partner. This is your best option if you want to continue having an open and loving relationship. Explain to your partner that while you care for him, you are just not ready for sex and would like to wait until you are. Even if this sounds corny, if your
partner really likes you, he will have no problem! respecting your wishes.

You can share your methods also to help others.

freecocoa: Duh!

Tell me which of us especially those raised in Nigeria didn't feel like slapping a parent when we were growing up?

coogar: so what's the difference between what was said behind you or in front of you? the only reason a child in nigeria will not talk back to his parents is because he would get thrashed not that he's not offended by the actions of his parents like his counterpart abroad....



your child is human not an animal or a slave in the 6th century.



yet more hypocrisy....
in spite of the draconian corporal punishment and strict upbringing, nigeria still ships the highest number of pröstitutes to europe so what happened to the strict upbringing and the religious beliefs? make una dey deceive unaselves with the barbaric ways of raising a child!

coogar: this is the mistake you guys are making -
the one abroad would say these things but what makes you think the ones in nigeria do not harbour the same thoughts on their minds but lacked the balls to talk back. the key here is the intention! the kid who says "Bleep off" to his parents and the one who says it in his mind are the same thing......what the nigerian kid will not say to his parents, he says it behind them.

Policewoman: I bought my 1st line for 14k in 2003.

vivian chinaza: They both own and rule the home. They can enact laws and implement them together with the man as the umbrella body, IMHO.

Yield: Co-operative efforts.

candygosh: Then you shouldn't have married! You are making the bride price look like you bought a slave.

Jarus: 4, Why should I hire you? : This is somehow related to the above. The answer to the above may also suffice, but in addition, you may add your strengths, your special skills. If I were to be on the hot seat, in addition to the above, I will add: I have been involved in a number of engagements in the past and I have never failed. From my primary school through university, through professional qualifying examinations, to the places I have worked in the past, I have been outstanding. I don’t believe your organization will be an exception. So if you hire me, I have no doubt that I will excel. Your organization cannot be an exception.

5, What are your strengths? This may not be the success decider because truth is, everybody, including your competitors for the job, will always have something good to say about himself. So common answers to this include: I am a fast learner; I am a team player; I have always exceled in all I do; etc. I don’t know of any stunner of a response other than these common answers. This question can also come as: what are your selling points? Also, depending on how you are able to maneuver, answer to question 4 above can also be modified as answer to ‘what are your selling points?’ too. It can also come as, what are your competencies?

6, What are your weaknesses? I remember an interview I did with an investment institution in late 2006, my first interview experience, just few weeks after finishing university. I had read a lot about interviews (that was basically what I spent the most of my final year doing) and known that you don’t say you don’t have any weakness. My response to that question was:

“Hmmnnn, a couple of people have told me I can be impatient while working with a team, especially with slow members. When two, three people say something, they may not wrong. So I think this is a weakness I am working on. In actual fact, the desire to achieve a team goal drives my impatience as I hate failure. But I have come to realize individual differences, especially in pace, and I’m beginning to adjust.”

Need I say, I saw the panel interviewers nodding their head sub-consciously. The basic principle in answering this kind of question is, don’t say you don’t have weakness, tell your weakness and make it known you are working on it. Also, ensure it’s a weakness that is tolerable. God help you if you say your weakness is sleeping on duty.

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