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Seems ok but don't understand no 3

Can't happen cause we are in the days of "take mine and I take yours",plus even tho there is a 0.0001% chance of that happening(I think its simple but not easy) then you must have made effort to be the best version of yourself.

TushiPree:
Well, I won't bore you with too much of details.

I met my gf a couple of years ago. We used to have sex on a regular basis until this year when she travelled to another state.

She's not a religious type. She's a fashionista to the core.

When she travelled, she told me her phone had a fault. That she won't be receiving my calls.

I believed the story for a while until one day I called her second line with a strange line. To my surprise, she picked the call. I spoke to her. I faked my voice, and she replied me. I later called her with my main line that day. She acted like she didn't hear me. Meaning, she had been lying about her faulty phone.


Few weeks ago, she came to my state. I was even the one that paid for her tfare and some other bills, because according to her she had nothing. I encouraged her to come home to his family. Since she still has one.

Ever since she came back, she had been demanding for money. This was unlike her.

I showed her my account balance for her to know how broke I am at the moment, but girl won't listen. Always demanding.

Few days ago, she came to my place to charge her phone. After gisting about life and all, I attempted to touch her, and her response shocked me.

She told me she's practicing celibacy. That having sex with me would distort her goal.

She further told me she read one book when she travelled and that was what changed her life.

Also, that since when she had left for another state, she had been keeping herself to prove to her family that she's not a bad girl.

That she's has grown now and her hormones are sensitive to easily pick up pregnancy at a slight mistake.

All of these she tabled down as reasons for why she wants to deny me of having sex with her. I won't lie. I enjoy having sex with her. Lol

I didn't act like I was worried. I simply told her everything is fine. But deep down of me, I knew something is fishy.


For about three days now, have been inviting her to come see me, she won't come.

I plan to ask her to tell me the truth. So, I won't have to keep wasting my time with her.

I can move on easily, but my problem is: she might not want to open up. I need a trick to know what's going on, so we can negotiate and finalise on what next to do.

I notice she had gotten bigger, and she gets tired easily. To me, those are signs of probably pregnancy.

I wouldn't want to assume. Last time she came to my place, she took some of my things, even despite telling her not to.

I'm just tired. And that day she came, she was accusing me that I invited a lady over to my house the day before.

Why would she not want to have sex with me and still want to tie me to herself?

The lady in question is 24 yrs.

Side note: she won't allow me to touch her phone. She has a number of someone on her phone she saved as indispensable. I wonder who that might be.

In fact, there are lots of questions running through my mind about the loyalty of the lady.

I'm totally confused right now...

Elders in the building, please help me see to this matter.

I am advicing you to look for a " replacement girlfriend"

Ilegend Omar09 Martinez39 Ubunja

Chris525:
Yesterday I got on FB & stumbled on a young lady I had been in contact with a while ago. I really liked her then, told her of my intentions, she agreed.

The relationship never happened because I asked to see her & she told me she wasnt around. Only for a friend to meet me up later that evening & she was right beside him. She apologised but I wasnt having it. That was years ago.

Fast forward to yesterday, I visited her profile on FB & I had suspicions so I called my friend & my suspicions were confirmed. She's now an OLOSHO.

One time I went a law firm, one of the staff caught my eye, long story short she was a working class OLOSHO.

I meet a lady online, we had good rapport. She would send me nudes & swear I was the first person. I put her on a flight to lagos - I'm not rich but she said she's never been on a plane - only to ask me the day before her flight 'how much are you giving me?'

Pretty ladies who should have men eating from their hands, selling themselves men who are beneath them. Shame.

You can call it "pleasures of the cash".

So true but not sure a lot of people will listen. BTW best post I have seen this week

Omar09:
I just figured.

Try and read models by mark manson and mate by tuxer miller

PoliticallyInco:
It is quite interesting is it not? Allow me contribute to this.

It still fascinates me the way people try to live to impress a woman. Crawling all up to her, nodding in agreement with anything she says and being at her beck and call. It is a total lack of self esteem. A fellow human, born with arms, legs and a brain and then provided with a few different organs to produce and raise offspring, by nature. I have my life to live and she has her's. Why should I leave my goals and personal development and advancement because of female distraction?

Every man should know that first he lives for himself and no one else. That is the first rule as a man. Live for yourself, achieve your dreams and goals. Think big. Because this is first yardstick the society will judge you with/by. No one will see you and say oh he is doing alright because he has muscles, or because he can last 3 hours in bed, or because he dresses well. Well, such might initially deceive people, but the cover-up will not last long as eventually they will use the main and core parameter/yardstick to judge you. Which is "What have you been able to achieve as a man"?

After a man lives for himself he then considers his dependents, if any. Dependents who MUST BE unable to fend for themselves due to age (young children) or health (Aged Parents,relatives). It is after this he considers a woman. And even when he considers her she shouldn't become a burden or something his life rotates around. Someone says while I am chasing my dreams she will cheat on me. Oh well. It doesn't matter how and when I find out. It doesn't matter if we have 1 billion little children. There will be no reason to not end the relationship. I will spend less than 1 hour to end the relationship and continue chasing my dreams, building my business, achieving my goals and giving back to the society.

Chasing a woman and flooding ones mind with being with a woman is a total waste of time. Chasing a business is more interesting. Negotiating a contract is highly fun. Sucking up to a woman is a total waste of time and energy. And time is the currency we spend in life. All the fantasies going around about women and all that I do not believe in or see a relationship that way. I am too pragmatic and logical. I do not believe in "oh she is my soul mate". I do not believe that a woman is my "destiny" and she was sent from above specially for me. I do not share these stupendous idiotic sentiments used to garnish what a sexual relationship is between two people- a simple biological process to procreate in a pleasurable way. That is all there is to it. To me, there are more than a thousand women I can comfortably date and/or marry, and still live a long happy life enjoying the dating/marriage process. There is no "special woman" for me. If I am lucky to meet one of the thousand of women I can settle down with, and I am ready to settle down at that time, then lucky her. So why should I then bother about a woman?

While a man might share any fantastic sentiment about being with a woman-I don't, he should please focus on himself. If a woman comes along the way, he puts her way behind chasing his dreams and goals, he puts her behind this.

I also expect women to do the same. Focus on those dreams. They have brains and hands and legs and are not mentally retarded. They should also put a man last and focus on their dreams and chase these dream. Their respect will come mainly from financial independence. Anyone who feeds you and caters for you has put himself on a pedestal above you. Especially when the person knows you cannot do it yourself.

As a man:

1. Live for yourself and no one else. You are the real prize. You are the one who most likely will cater for her needs. That is if you have the time and decide to do so.

2. Have dreams, goals and aspirations you are constantly working towards. You will be judged based on these. What you have achieved as a man will be what defines your value. Constantly work towards financial freedom and independence.

3. The attention you pay to her, your friendship with her and your finances are not to be wasted freely just like that on a woman/women.

It is classic drifting for you to expend that much time, attention and resources on a woman. It is first to yourself and to your dependents (if any). Don't keep women as friends, buddies when they aren't related to you or they aren't your lovers. And even when they are, focus on yourself first. A woman will always crave attention from people. Don't spend your time joining the cheerleadrs team. Focus on whatever the hell you are doing. There are many people cheering for her already. You needn't join the bandwagon. A woman doesn't go about throwing her vagina everywhere. Why should you throw your finances, attention and efforts on women anyhow? Unless they are paying in some way to get little of it, one way or another. The woman should be the one dying for your attention. She should be the one seeking your validation.

Bro oil de ur head

Omar09:
You just pop in and out like nepa this days. BTW I later downloaded that movie "the tao of Steve" pretty old, but very interesting. I learned a lot.

That movie is like the basic principle of game

Rilwayne001:
I have seen guys talk about their relationship problem on this board a lot of time. You see many of them on Twitter and on IG simping on every girls post like their life depends on it. A real alpha male, or beta male or whatever you may call it, need not, and never be obsessed with a girl, it's a total waste of time and effort. We all need to stop it and take the red pill. No matter how appealing she may, you don't ever need her as much as she needs you.

First of all, you have to understand no one gives a Bleep about you in this life, AS A MAN. Both male and female no one cares about you. The closest thing you can get as a man to being cared about is if you're useful. Implicit to the role of a provider isn't being loved for who you are but what you can do.

You must have heard that saying "true love is rare", it's just one of the bitter truth that you must drink and let it radiate throughout your body.

Most people are just using one another out of practicality. MEN HAVE NO INHERENT VALUE. Women and children on the other hand are valued simply for existing. One of the major reason why it's always a hard transition for man transiting from boyhood to manhood. THEir NO LONGER LOVED SIMPLY FOR EXISTING. THEIR WORTHINESS MUST BE PROVED OR THEY REMAIN NOTHING IN THE EYES OF EVERYONE.

Women preserve their value, while men create it. This is why average woman is more valuable than average man especially in this society that favors women.

A typical example is the fact that, an average women gets provided everything by her father till she's married to her husband. Her husband continues the provision. When the husband is aged and couldn't produce, her son takes over in the provision. So obviously she practically does nothing or really need not do anything. And this is why the feminists argument on inequality is a total balderdash as it only focuses on the winner.

This is it, for you as a MAN, success isn't a lifestyle choice for you. It's a must for you, because it's a matter of LIFE and DEATH. Life, because you can only be cared for and loved for, solely for what you can provide, and it's a death sentence for you if you can't, because you'll be useless to everyone and even yourself. No one will even pay you an eye.

Success is a lifestyle choice for women. Because a woman that fails in academic or business-wise can just give up and become a mother. The husband role is to take up the role. She'll still be wanted for who she is.

But who's interested in a loser man

Bro, nobody.

So to make things easy, make your academic/career or business, whichever like you'll like to venture your FIRST PRIORITY. Your SECOND PRIORITY should be your family, your parents and sibling, because if everyone runs away from you, at least to some certain extent they can't run away. Then you can make her your 3rd.

Don't waste your mind thinking of a woman that'll probably leave you for a better successful man when e red for you. A word is enough for the wise..

This is not saying you shouldn't have a girlfriend, but never make her your priority until you're married to her. Don't spend your money unnecessarily on her.

Take the red pill..

Cc: lalasticala seun

Nice write-up,very realistic and true.

That's harsh

generationz:
Oh my God, have you sought treatment for the heart palpitations?

Yes,I am getting better but my doctor told me "The most appropriate way to treat palpitations is for me
to avoid the triggers that cause your symptoms.". Which is quite difficult but am still doing my best.

Justbehave:
Sorry about that bro. Is good men are speaking up too. It's just a pity that no one believes us. May God deliver us from these wicked women. Say No To Rape.

Funny thing is that people will protest about this "rape" but at the end of the day people really don't care.

generationz:
Sorry, about what you went through.

Where you able to tell your mom?

I wasn't able to talk about it till her death three years later(may her soul rest in peace) cause I was confused. I remember jokingly telling my religious education teacher(male) and he said "a boy can never be raped". I shrugged it off and since then I have to cope with the trauma cause the drug I was injected made my heart to race faster, my erections are very painful and the occasional migraines.

It is so funny when people talk about rape(especially on nairaland) like they know better. I am like dude wtf are you talking about. Rape is a vile crime that should be punished by death not on only just men but women also. Yes women get raped often by men(your opinion) but could you tell me what do we do about men that get raped by "women"?
STEOREOTYPING
I have seen the threads of the likes of Badboibipo,missimelda09 and the likes about why are all men rapists. I have to say they asked a valid question but. They are stereotyping for cheap likes and shares. I don't support their whole generalization but let's ask ourselves(we men) that question. Why are "all men" rapist?
ANS: All men can not be rapist because that means your grandfather,father,brother and males from your family tree are rapists. Its as simple as that,am not trying to knock anyone down but that was what you are trying to say. Yes some men rape,doesn't mean all men. Making that statement its like a white man saying all blacks are drug dealers or all nigerian males are fraudsters. Is it really true? Tell me is......... It.......... Really.......... True?(Your opinion)
THE INJUSTICE
Why is it that if a man is raped and if he reports it he is shamed with answers like(did you not enjoy it?). Seriously could people be more retarded? Like dude,cause I don't have a vagina means I can't be forced against my will to have sex? Or cause my John Thomas(dick) raise up when am romanced means I consented to sex but if a lady is wet and achieves orgasms during rape means she is raped and am not? Right I forgot we are only humans after all,always seeing your side but can't even check my side of the story to see the "other side of the moon". I dig that.
Its a fact that women get raped more times than men(don't know how true is that cause I sure know male rapes are not that acknowledged) we (think) know that but the truth is we don't. Our society is bleeped up, government is bleeped up,our judicial system is bleeped up, the world is bleeped up and sorry to say,we the people are more bleeped up. Just tell me why if a female is raped by a male is a crime and the vice versa is not(just tell me). Men are raped day in day out nobody is saying anything and you are expecting the same men to show sympathy to a lady that just got rape. Sorry baby doll but no one gives a bleep about your "so called" trauma. Let me fill you in on this short story.
I was raped at the age of 7 by my mother's friend. My mom sent me a message to her and when I got there, I knocked on the door and she opened the door. She told me to sit down and offered me juice not knowing it had sleeping pills(mind you,this is a woman who is divorced with three kids and youngest happens to my close friend). I drank the juice without question and two hours later found myself naked. I felt weak and asked her what happened that I am naked,she said that I was the one that took off my clothes by myself while sleeping(like are you fucking kidding me,lady). I delivered my message and went home. I know you are wondering how do I know that she raped me? We almost close. To cut the long story short.......
On September 20,2000 I was coming back from school when I was called by that same woman to come and help her to buy 5 bottles of coke. I obliged thinking I was a good boy not know that what will happen on that day will forever leave "scars" that will haunt me for years to come.
I brought the bottles of coke for her since she was staying outside but she said I should take it inside which I did. I entered and found four other older women. As I was dropping the bottles, I saw her locking the door and putting the key inside her clothes. I didn't initially see the red flag,when I was done,I walked up to her and told her I was leaving and she looked me eyeballs to eyeballs and said I was going nowhere. On cue the other women in the room grappled me to the floor and that was how it started........
I was beaten with belt in order as I was told by my assailants to "remove the spirit of defiance in me" then I was forced to give "head" to each of the lady there including my supposed mother's friend. Then I was romanced all over in other to get an erection which it didn't work. They decided to inject me with drugs,I got a full erection and the rest they say is history.
MY SINCERE OPINION
Some people will believe,some will diss me that didn't I enjoy it since I got an erection,some will even mock me and say am a liar but its all your opinion,you entitled to what ever you want to say but don't come here to say "all men are rapist" that what you are reading now doesn't justify anything. Yep hon,it might be true or not. More men are raped but nobody listen to our plight because we are men,we are supposed to be strong,we can never be raped because we are men. Well I was,I still remember what those drugs injected in me have cost me both emotionally and financially. I have every right to be angry but am not because that's just LIFE. Not all men are rapist,the same way not all women are whores,the same way rape is not female based. It is just what it is.
To all those genuine rape victims(both male and female). It is tough at first but you need to move on,I know it feels like the end of the world but trust me when I say there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Yes grief,but don't let it pin you down,they(rapist) won you physically but don't let them win you emotionally.
Don't think you can't start life again,you can and you SHOULD. Look at the likes of Oprah Winfrey,if she can do it so can you. Those of you who are looking for someone to talk to,you can always dm me and I will do my possible best to help. Let's say
#No to rape
#No means No
#Justice for rape victims

Omar09:
Took my time to read and understand it. Now I know why women act the way they do. They just don't understand that respect comes with responsibility, and you can't be respected and cared for at the same time.

Till next time bro. Always tag me. Cheers.

Women just have a herd mentality and are incapable of handling responsibility. I will tag you next time.

CAPSLOCKED:
I HAVE NOT SEEN ANY SENSE IN THIS POST.

That's why is not for people like you

Thoughtfeed:
I need that next post

Love this

Thanks

Disclaimer: this post is comprehensive and factual based on research and statistics. So if you find it offensive,misogyny and boring(long),sorry and it is not for viewers that are asslickers,white knights and so called feminist. Viewers discretion is advised.
Octavio pas once said that “When hypocrisy is a character trait, it also affects one’s thinking, because it consists in the negation of all the aspects of reality that one finds disagreeable, irrational or repugnant.”
There is parallel advantage and disadvantage to living as male or female, for men are by and large deemed more
credible, whilst the womanly form is more coveted. As such,if you are a man the world is more likely to respect you than it is to desire or care for you; whereas if you’re a woman,the world is more partial to be desiring and caring of you,than it is respecting. On some level, be it conscious or not, it would seem our fair species recognizes women as
dependants and men as their guardians, treating each accordingly.
Now on the surface this sounds like men get a better deal,and within the infinite remit of ideological feminism and the intrinsicality of feminine self-pity, this is certainly what much of womankind believes as she takes a perverse sense of pride in being the prima facie victim. Yet in reality, man’s position comes with a burden, loneliness and difficulty of life that is as equal parts alien as it is undesirable to the feminine.
Protestation & Petitioning:
Womanly complaint makes it a common point of contention
that there are matters in which by injustice of her womanliness she suffers gross disadvantage, and it is this line of thinking which serves as the foundation for feminist
thought. Let it be clear, the root and core of feminism, that is the psychological seed from which it is sprung, is the notion that one is inferior by merit of their sex, and that this inferiority is not the product of innate deficit, but of a systematic oppression that must be corrected for politically,economically et cetera. For whether a woman identifies as a feminist or not, for as long as she perceives herself as unprivileged by comparison to man, she will for all intent and purpose behave in much the way a self-identifying feminist would. This is to state that although she may decline to call herself a feminist, all too aware the connotations of such a word bode poorly for her reputation,
she is ailed by the same penis envying inferiority complex that the most rabid and outspoken of feminist ideologues are. And yet as men, we consider complaining, irrespective of its justification or substantiation, to be hallmarks of the
feminine character. For even if a man has good cause to
complain, he is hard pressed to do so, for the act of
complaint fills him with a kind of unproductive self-loathing
that appears not to plague the female. As such when one is
to complain without good cause, be it that man is remiss to
complain even with good cause, he is filled with nothing but
disgust for the caricatural pretentions of insolence
attempting to pass itself off as justice seeking.
A man acts upon, he is not acted upon, therefore if he
wants, he does, he does not wait, he proceeds. Should he
deign to complain, there is little chance he will be helped,
and even if he is, there is yet littler chance he can be helped
whilst retaining his dignity. You see whilst women are ailed
by eternal dissatisfaction and a need to communicate this
dissatisfaction in the petition that man will remedy her
contemporary concern, man is ailed by extreme pride. As
such, even when a man is truly worthy of help, he is as likely to request it as he is to receive it, and by that I mean, in much the way society is unconcerned with caring for man,man himself does not wish to be taken care of.
A man’s primary emotional concern is his pride, respect but
the corollary on which it rides. If a man cannot respect
himself, he cannot expect others to, and therefore a man
only requests help when he has no other option, be it that
seeking help is the last thing he would look to do and not the first. Rather than complain about the unfair, he will seek to rectify it through nothing but sheer volition of whatever
means he has available to him. Man tries to help himself,
and only after he has been massively unsuccessful in the
endeavour will he attempt to seek assistance. For women
the principle is reversed, she is quick to seek help, but slow
to help herself should she even attempt to do so at all.
Naturally, exceptions abound, but as a general statement of
observation such a maxim should hold true.
It is not man’s goal to bask in the catharsis of emotional
expungement and to petition others to do the bidding his
emotions see fit, but rather to understand what is
unoptimised and alter it so that it may improve. It is for this
reason “nagging” has a strongly feminine connotation, be it
that it is women who find all manner of things to gripe over
as her insecurities are made fully manifest, for whilst a
man changes the world via his hands, women change it by
petitioning men.
Men do and take pride in doing, when they’re not doing,
they’re ashamed of their unproductivity. A woman’s doings
compose of influencing others to act on her behalf, be it that it may, she feels no shame in complaining, and in actual fact feels she is only exercising her natural rights in doing so.
Alas, irrespective of woman’s social position, rich or poor,
conservative or liberal, educated or uneducated, it is her
nature to be dissatisfied with her station, and where she has
little or zero problem, she will manufacture and amplify
purely so she may enjoy the catharsis of complaining and all its attendant attention. Act Or Be Acted Upon
Inherent too is the magnificent difference in the standard
of responsibility each gender holds itself to. Almost as if by
Some cerebral echo of sex, a woman believes the world is
acting upon her, rather than she on it. Therefore when
unsatisfied, she infers her condition is the fault of something external to her, and be it that it is man who acts upon her sexually, it is man she holds responsible for her
dissatisfaction.
This brings us to a double standard that men dare not
complain of and women care not to acknowledge, when a
woman treats a man poorly, it is asked what he did to make
her behave so unsightly, yet should a man treat a woman
poorly, it is hastily concluded he is a monster without
further investigation. Women are given the benefit of the
doubt even when they have done wrong, with justifications
being sought to explain away their wrongdoing – no such
instinctual courtesy is extended to men.
This is a social privilege women benefit from most
emphatically, to the extent that even in courts of law their
punishments are less punitive, should they even be
punished at all. He is acting upon and she is acted upon –
this line of thought continues to reassert and perpetuate
itself all around us irrespective of the material facts.
Womankind sees the double standards she does not benefit
from, but is blind to those which she does, incorrectly
believing in all earnest that she is most oppressed when she
is in actual fact freer than her counterpart. She wishes to
reform the social standards from which she does not
benefit, be it that she may increase her liberty by limiting
her social consequences, but she is without either concern
or impetus for the reformation of double standards from
which she derives preexisting benefit. This is why women
lament how unfair it is their reputations suffer from
promiscuity whilst man’s benefits, but are oblivious to the
fact they enjoy a level of compassion and assumed
innocence that is all but alien to men.
Respect Vs. Desire
When a woman asks to be evaluated on the basis of her
merit in the way a man is, she knows not what she asks for.
She seeks greater respect and thus the recognition inherent
to said respect, but is blissfully unaware of the drawbacks
that come with this. Be it that were she to be respected in
the way exclusive to man, she would no longer be cared for
in the way exclusive to women.
Women are objects of desire, retaining enough infantile
aesthetic in adulthood to elicit the compassion and care the
species feels for children. Whereas men are objects of
success, that is, a man is to be evaluated on the sum of his
utility and achievement. There is no cushion, nor safety net
for a man who falls too far into the abyss, yet were he a
woman, his decline would be cushioned and prevented by
social and governmental support alike. Nobody
fundamentally cares for man on the basis that he exists, this
privilege is but the preserve of women and children. Rather,
his position in the world is predicated on what he can
produce and solve, and it is by living in accordance with this
nature and having the fruits to show for it a man comes into
his own.
Simply put, women covet the respect exclusive to men, but
do not understand that the respect men receive is a
substitute for the care they do not. That is, society does not
fundamentally care for those it respects, in much the way it
does not look to guidance from those under its care. When
you look up to someone, you respect what they can do and
what they have done, but you don’t care for their
weaknesses nor their fundamental person, for if you did,
you would pity rather than respect. And one may either
benefit from the care of pity or the admiration of respect,
but not both, for each form of love is mutually exclusive, the presence of one precluding the materialisation of the other.
An aspect of the negative feminine resents not being boss,
and yet it is only because of her secondary role that she
benefits from a compassion of care and empathy that men
cease to receive after the infancy of boyhood. Indeed,
people may respect men more than they respect women,
but it comes at the cost of being cared about merely for
existing, and having the freedom to be vulnerable. Alas, focusing on what she doesn’t benefit from whilst neglecting what she does, many a woman abhors being the second sex,but she does so only because she doesn’t realise she’d hate being the primary even more.
CONCLUSION
The yin-yang energy is transferred from men to women. We men should stop wasting our time on entitled women that believe the world should be fair to them cause they have a pussy. Women are confused species that don't know what they want. Untill my next post. Cheers!!!
#Ubunja
#Martinez39
#Emmadoet
#Omar09
#red pill

Smkinhawt:
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?

Get a healthy dose of vitamin D3 and B. You can thank me later

OYENIYIJK:
quote me if you need it. when something like this happens to me, I do sweat drop your Gmail if you need it

Faroukyusuf13@gmail.com

Long time brother.[/quote]No see bro. How have you been faring in our covid 19 era

MY OPINION(My two cents)
The Manosphere vs Feminism movement will continue to be debated for a long time but the essence of this writeup is not which is politically wrong or right but for you the reader to see things from the other person prospective. If you are redpilled,purplepilled,blackpilled,Alpha male and PUA artist,make sure to see things from the other persons perspective and vice versa for the feminist also. Whatever you think about this piece is your choice not mine. Stop calling people "SIMPS" just because they don't share your views or your ideologies,Different strokes for different folks. Learn to voice your opinion out in a way that sees things in another perspective.
BOTTOMLINE
Over all this internet wars between both genders is not going to help neither sexes cause we both need each other whether you like it or not. That's the fact about life. We can't always get what we want and learn to give a Bleep about things worth giving a Bleep about. Cheers!!! And have a covid19 free day.
#Enlightenment
#Red pill

THE MANOSPHERE VS FEMINISM MOVEMENT
This part is debatable cause is just like the scenario where you say which religion is better between"christians or the muslims".
Many of you will say christians and vice versa,but what lead to this so called movement is like I said in "patriarchy" because people(especially women) feel that they are being cheated,sure they are right but are they really.....? Let's ask one of the phenomenon that has been on earth since the establishment of humans on earth,let's ask MOTHER NATURE. (enters mother nature.....).
ME: did you create the "patriachy".
Mother Nature: no I did not.
ME: there has been debates about mankind's gender role. What's your take?
Mother Nature: Mankind will always complicate things. Man is the provider while the woman is the nurturer,its as simple as that.
ME: so why do we have this movements?
Mother Nature: cause everyone wants everything to favour them and that is simply impossible. There will always be inequality in the world no matter what you think. The lion can not be forced to be equal to the fox neither an elephant to a hen and so man cannot be equal to a woman. That's just facts...
ME: touche......
I know you are wondering what is this manosphere vs feminism concept. In order to understand we will treat them as separate entities.
MANOSPHERE
The manosphere is a term used to describe a collection of predominantly web-based ideologies associated with the far-right and alt-right. Movements within the
manosphere include men's rights movement, antifeminism,incels (involuntary celibates), Men Going Their Own Way
(MGTOW), pick-up artistry (PUA), and fathers' rights groups. While specifics of each group's ideology sometimes conflict, the general ideology of manosphere
groups centers on the promotion of some forms of masculinity, hostility towards women, strong opposition to feminism, and exaggerated misogyny. Some of these groups have adversarial relationships with one another, a phenomenon that author Donna Zuckerberg writes has
increased since 2016 when some manospherian leaders adopted a more political tone.
A common belief among Manospherians is that feminists and political correctness obscure the truth that society is
dominated by feminist values, and that men are the victims of a misandrist culture who must fight to protect their existence. The severity of the antifeminism espoused within these communities varies, with some espousing fairly mild sexism and others glorifying extreme hatred.
Racism and xenophobia are also common among groups in the manosphere, and perceived threats against "Western civilization" are a common topic. Social stratification is also a common theme of discussion,and men at the bottom of sociosexual hierarchies are sometimes referred to as truecels in incel communities,or omega males by manospherians in general.
The manosphere has its own distinct jargon. Red pill and blue pill imagery borrowed from the film The Matrix is common: accepting the manosphere's ideology is equated
with "taking the red pill", and those who do not are seen as "blue pilled" or as having "taken the blue pill".A red
piller (or redpiller) is someone who has shifted from previously held mainstream or feminist persuasions towards those that are widely held within the manosphere.
They sometimes pejoratively refer to their detractors as blue pillers. The terms "alpha male" and "beta male" are also commonly used. The "red pill" philosophy is a central tenet of the manosphere, which
concerns awakening men to the supposed misandry of society and delusions of feminism. The term originated
on the antifeminist subreddit /r/TheRedPill and was later taken up by men's rights and MGTOW sites. Author Donna Zuckerberg writes, "Red Pill represents a new phase
in online misogyny. Its members not only mock and belittle women; they also believe that in our society, men are oppressed by women."
The manosphere has been associated with online harassment as well as some mass killings and other real-
world acts of violence, and has been implicated in
radicalizing men into committing violence. Sounds harsh....right? But just every thing has good and bad so as the manosphere is. I learnt a lot about being the kind of person that attracts value in my life. The manosphere is what it is today because of individuals with varying ideologies or interest. Am sure they are some people here that has used the self improvement strategies in the manosphere (especially the red pill philosophy) to not just excel at getting a partner but in life generally. I don't say the manosphere is bad neither is it good it is just amoral. Roger that now let's look at feminism.
FEMINISM (THE FACADE)
Feminism comprises the narratives
(chronological or thematic) of the movements and ideologies which have aimed at equal rights for women.
While feminists around the world have differed in causes, goals, and intentions depending on time, culture, and
country, most Western feminist historians assert that all movements that work to obtain women's rights should be
considered (by whom actually?)feminist movements, even when they
did not (or do not) apply the term to themselves. The feminism movement is so confused about what its really based upon. Most feminist are just doing it for their individual gains that's what make people not to take it seriously and the fact that most Feminism has been associated with strong, forceful and angry women that are bitter about the fact that they are no more desirable having spend the better part of their years screwing around. I used to think that but after reading "the art of not giving a Bleep" by mark mason,I started to see Feminism in a very crystal clear prospective. Now Feminism at its core is about equality of men and women,not “sameness.” So many people offer up the argument that
women are not the “same” as men so there can’t be equality. In other words, because their bodies are different (many say “weaker” and smaller), and because men and women have different physical capabilities, these physical differences
mean equality is not possible.
It’s critical to understand that “same” does not mean “equal.”
The issue here is about equal rights and equal access to opportunities. Men and women don’t have to be the “same”
in physicality to have the right to equality. I’d love to see that argument (that women and men aren’t the “same” so they can’t be equal) disappear forever. From my view, it’s a
misguided one.
Here’s an example of why: If there were two young boys in a
classroom, and one was physically weaker and smaller than
the other, would we believe it’s right to keep the weaker,
smaller boy from having the same access – to the teacher, to learning, to the computers, to the books and class resources, to other children in the class — because he didn’t have the same physical strength as the other boy?
Sounds shocking right so am I right now. But all in all.......

The history of man has always been flooded with segregation,factions and even sectarianism. You can see it in the Sunni
Ottoman and Shia Safavid empire at the
Battle of Chaldiran, 1514. Or Over 1,000 Muslims and Christians killed in the
sectarian violence in the Central African Republic in 2013–2014 and the list goes on... Now we have the "Manosphere vs Feminism" gender sectarianism which has been going on since before we were born and will continue after we are gone. But what actually lead to all this is..............?
GENDER SECTARIANISM
Before we dive into gender sectarianism,let's know what the meaning of sectarianism is?
Sectarianism is a form of prejudice, discrimination, or hatred arising from attaching relations of inferiority and
superiority to differences between subdivisions within a group. That means "Gender Sectarianism" is basically a form of discrimination between sexes.
It is my belief that the cause of this has to do with the diverse view of people on the our current social structure called the "Patriarchy". Patriarchy is simply a social structure in which men are considered to have a monopoly on power and women are expected to submit. So how has the patriarchy lead to the creation of this distinct sects?.
HISTORY OF THE PATRIARCHY
The origins of patriarchy are closely related to the concept of gender roles, or the set of social and behavioral norms that are considered to be socially appropriate for individuals of a specific sex. Much work has been devoted to understanding why women are typically thought to inhabit a domestic role while men are expected to seek professional satisfaction outside of the home. This division of labor is frequently
mapped onto a social hierarchy in which males’. freedom to venture outside of the home and presumed control over women is perceived as superior and dominant. As such, rather than working to destabilize the historical notion of patriarchy, much literature assess the origins of patriarchy or a social system in which the male gender role acts as the primary authority figure
central to social organization, and where fathers hold authority over women, children, and property. It implies the institutions of male rule and privilege and entails female subordination.
Though less popular in modern academic circles, there has been a traditional search for biological explanations of gender roles. Before the nineteenth century, this conversation was primarily theological and deemed patriarchy to be the “natural order. ” This took on a biological
trope with Charles Darwin’s ideas about evolution in The Origin of Species. In this work, Darwin explained evolution from the biological understanding that is now the accepted scientific theory. Biologists such as Alfred Russel Wallace quickly applied his theory to mankind. To be clear, though, the line of thought called Social Darwinism, or the application of evolutionary principles to the development of human beings and our social practices, was never promoted by
Darwin himself. With the popularization of the idea of human evolution, what had previously been explained as a “natural order” for the world morphed into a “biological order. ”
The modern term for using biological
explanations to explain social phenomena is
sociobiology. Sociobiologists use genetics to
explain social life, including gender roles.
According to the sociobiologists, patriarchy arises more as a result of inherent biology than social conditioning. One such contemporary sociobiologist is Steven Goldberg, who, until
retirement, was a sociologist at the City College of New York. In 1973, Goldberg published The Inevitability of Patriarchy, which advanced a biological interpretation of male dominance. Goldberg argued that male dominance is a human universal as a result of our biological makeup. One evolutionary sociobiological theory for the origin of patriarchy begins with the view
that females almost always invest more energy into producing offspring than males and, as a result, females are a resource over which males compete. This theory is called Bateman’s principle. One important female preference in selecting a mate is which males control more resources to assist her and her offspring. This, in turn, causes a selection pressure on men to be
competitive and succeed in gaining resources in order to compete with other men. These sociobiological theories of patriarchy are counterbalanced by social constructionist theories that emphasize how certain cultures manufacture and perpetuate gender roles.
According to social constructionist theories,
gender roles are created by individuals within a society who choose to imbue a particular structure with meaning. Gender roles are constantly toyed with and negotiated by actors subscribing to and questioning them. But all in all,the patriarchy is about man being the primary authority of the family.

Damnnn that is true. We should learn to play by the cards we were dealt with and also learn to squeeze lemonade(solution) out of lemons(situation)
Thank you iLegend

drnoel:
Says the guy who is confused?

Confused? Well that's your fucking opinion

drnoel:
Lol, looks like this Jewman @ hazard7 or is it @hardon is back again with his myopic views. But I was really surprised to see that he actually gave the OP the best advice so far apart from the Nr 2, pls at no time must the OP read that crap written by @Ubunja. I can only advice, but what the OP does is his problem.

Looks like you have a real case of jitters

Am surprised that guys like you still exist in this 21st century. You made a mistake that's all,just don't try to force the issue. You can still get your girl back by:
1)DHV (demonstrating high value)
2)Reading Ubunja's miseducation and apply it.
3)Go and make money as some SIMPS will tell you.
Whatever choice you choose may the force be with you.

Its surprising that guys are the one complaining about this. We are the ones that caused it beside the economy of nigeria is so bad. Women are basically using what they have to get what they want. Society now is a scam so I don't advise any dude to marry a nigerian girl except you do a quality background check. If you know you know.

Omar09:
How quick can you write it, I wanna learn that.

I think its basically things you know like negs,push and pull and my favorite reverse shit testing.

Omar09:
Is it like, you like a girl so much you can pull the whole world for her, but she don't mean the whole world to you?

Its mostly used for 10s to break their social defense mechanism and then build it up again with your personified configuration