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Lying down on my bed, just chilling and very exhausted after the previous day work. Then the phone rang, saw no number so I chose to decline but it rang again so I said lets see who is this. (since there was no name on it).

Me: Hello who am I speaking with?

Unknown caller: Am I speaking with (my name)

Me: Yes

Unknown caller: This is Goodness, long time you don't even ask of me again.

Me: Hey Goodness no see, how did you get my line.

Goodness: A friend of yours gave me your number and I heard you are kinda of a big shot now.

Me: really it's that so am just a nobody.

Goodness: Stop whining me, I see you on social media and you are looking quite handsome

Me: Sure however you see it, so let's just forgo the chit chat and go straight to the point.
What are you calling me for?

Goodness: just wanted to check up on you and ponder on what ever happened to us?

Me: ok listen carefully first thing there is no us and second I know you are pregnant cause the doctor that ran the test for you happens to be a close friend and also the fact that you stated clearly that even in a million light years from now I won't ever be your class. So I ask again what do you want?

Goodness: stuttering....... how did you.... I wanted to... ask... you for some........ money to...... take care of the... child.

Me: What of the child's father?

Goodness: he said his not interested

Me: Wow so me that you have not seen or called for 12 years now should be interested.

Goodness: You have changed, you are not the boy that was in love with me anymore.

Me: Well the boy grew up

Goodness: What do you want me to do now?

Me: Am not the dad so....... and please do not call this line again.

Goodness: wait I...... (I proceed to cut the call)

The thing is majority of men simped and will probably simp during their younger years but you have be careful not to continue this vicious cycle even as you grow older. The said lady in conversation you could denote was an ex and blah blah blah but key thing here is this days ladies are looking for guys to perform their cuckoldry act on and it's not funny.

The issue of this just be careful with your so called ex. imagine if I was not woke I would have welcomed her back and maybe marry her with the #i finally got her to love. we all know this is the theme of the day.

Caveat: The past is called the past for a reason and that reason is to learn something from it and not go back to relive it or change something. Learn to leave "well enough alone".

Stay woke Kings.

NB: Stop trying to rationalize things to the beings that can't even think for themselves like a prestigious member put it
"A K in time saves nine"

Mikester:
Thanks man. I wonder what Lalasticlala thinks about my signature.

He should know it is the absolute truth but I forgot society hates the truth.

Mikester:
In this single life we live, we are mostly categorized by the majority of us into two groups - the good and the bad. You're either good or bad.

True, we have the good people and we have the bad and very bad people but have you ever considered that nature doesn't seem to care if you are good or bad but rewards you only based on your level of strength and not how good or bad you assume yourself to be?

Yeah, you see people who you deem to be bad, arrogant and unpleasant progressing daily while you who faithfully held to the morals you were taught seem to be continously bleeped up by life all the time. You wonder why in spite of all your morality and upright living, you seem to be inferior all the time with no sign of betterment in sight.

I'll share with you what is going on. Life is a game and those who live are either players or non-players, Liberals or NPCs.

Those people you see took some steps you aren't taking. They grabbed opportunities ruthlessly and compromised on the sentimental messages society tells them. Unlike you, they live life by their own rules and standards unapologetically. They are neither moral or immoral, they are amoral as nature herself is. They do not send anyone or try to please anyone. They are "liberals" - people who follow their own thoughts, wills and rules unapologetically in spite of what society says. This doesn't necessarily make them bad, it makes them alive.

They are players (open-minded) while you are an NPC (subservient to societal whims and standards which limits you from being a better you).

Those who are familiar with game playing will have an idea on what an NPC is. The term non-player character (NPC) comes from the world of video games.

An NPC is a character not controlled by any of the players; the program controls the NPC to advance the plot. Since the character is controlled by the game, the range of actions the character can take is limited and predictable.

NPCs in real life are people who hardly think for themselves or make their own decisions; they mostly live life by what happens to them, what society tell them, what their family tell them and are thus limited and less productive.

An NPC is seemingly a human that is unable to think objectively. Someone using no critical thought or reasoning skills. Simply regurgitating a set of arguments and non-sequiturs bequeathed to them by someone else. In simple terms, If you blindly agree with whatever a person or group says without critical consideration, you're an NPC.

For example, if you easily swallow up what superiors tell you, if you simply believe what politicians tell you during their manifestos in spite of previous or recent demonstrations of incompetence from said politicians and sell your conscience, if you go for inferior products based on what people tell you, criticize you, guilt-trip you; if you go for poorer taste of women or men as the case may be by reason of what people tell you or to avoid shame, rebuke or criticism, you're an NPC, a human robot and not a player.

A)

John (NPC) - When I am 30, I'm going to get married

Pastor Paul (society) - Ha! Isn't that too late? Any man who isn't married at latest 25 is irresponsible and immature. Son, drop that delusion and be a real man. You don't know the happiness that might elude you for making that decision.

John (NPC) - (ashamed) Hmm, I guess you're right sir. [i]

B)

Michael (player) - (in good spirits. Hits the table with his fists)...[i] Guys, after this money set in, I'm going to get myself a young nubile virgin girl to marry. Can't wait! [i]

Rita (society) - [i] (looks at him with resentment) What about those ones you have used and dumped. Who is going to marry them? [i]

Michael - (unapologetically) [i] That's their problem. They knew what they were getting into when they agreed to me. I no kill person.

Rita - Unbelievable! So you're just gonna drop them like that, trash like you! (Hisses) Can you imagine?

Michael - (unperturbed) This sort of thing happen all the time, why is mine news? I'm still gonna get married to a virgin girl. Can't be having unnecessary wahala.

Taiwo (NPC) - [I] Rita leave him jor! Does virginity guarantee marriage stability. Guy I think say you sharp. As for me, I no mind if my woman no be virgin. Dem no dey chop virginity.[/I]

Michael - Whatever

From A and B, we have John and Michael. From societies, glasses, Michael seems to be the villain here, the bad guy but Michael is just securing his future and he is ruthless about iit even though those around him do not agree with him unlike John who was easily dissuaded from what he yearns for.

Sometimes, you have to bend the rules and do what will make you happy even though those around you aren't comfortable with it as long as you're sure it will yield you happiness.

Life shouldn't be what just happen to us. There is more to life than what people believe in and you can only experience this when you stop being an NPC and start living life on your own terms.

How to stop being an NPC in your own life

- Realize you are an NPC limited by societal views and you need to open your mind for your own life improvement and to be the best version of yourself.

- Create your standards and abide by them unapologetically

- Understand that no great genius ever existed without a touch of madness and societal criticism. If you want to be great, you must be mad and amoral as nature is. Karma doesn't exist. No one will flog you for the choices you make. You either get the good things from your life from your strength and wisdom or get the evils of life from your weakness and stupidity.

What am I saying?

I'm telling you to open your mind. You're the owner and driver of your life. Don't let others steal your seat or tell you how you should live thereby limiting your productivity. Stop being a zombie, a slowpoke, an NPC. Stop living to please society. Stop being a puppet for those who have small minds.

Take charge of your life and live it to the fullest.

Splendid, Wow what a mind-blowing piece. Nice one op, I caught cap for you

Ronnnie:
I have noticed some threads and most of these guys just confuse Redpill for woman hating.....They believe you are a true Redpiller when you sex counts start getting high or you became stingy to women believing they just want to extort them of money...trying to tell them otherwise will make them regard you as a simp...
They attach redpill to sex,romance and women without realizing Redpill goes far beyond that.
I just think they are suffering from an overdose of the limited Redpill knowledge...but if that makes them happy then so be it...

When a cause has a large following there are bound to be deviants. Which leads to misinterpretation but only those with the right lenses can see through the blurry lies of the deviants. It is what it is.

Tonnyray:
Lol. I hadn't even seen this post of his you quoted here when I responded earlier. So someone feeling like "GOD" will share his on-going experience here soliciting other possible mind views and perspectives. Truth is I got my cards to my chest alright but knowing the brilliance of quite a number of minds (based on their posts) here, getting extra light from fellow illuminated minds is always a welcome idea at least to me. Notice he had no solutions or advice, just mudslinging with disparaging words. Counter him directly now and our "alfa" will say he doesn't roll with "pigs" I suppose he's only interested in the pigsty and pig mattaz. lol Of course in the interest of civility on this great thread I'll maintain the energy of not directly quoting him too.

Anyway to more serious things thanks again for your take earlier on. You really saw the reservations I harbor only that you spelt them out more succinctly. As things stand the only possible casualty in all of this right now is the babe in question herself. But whether it's worth sacrificing on the altar of "uncertainty of possible family dynamics" is the real issh.
My overall peace of mind is still very intact by the way.
And that's key.

You are welcome. Hope it goes well for you

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] Maybe salvageable for another individual with a curious mindset but not an individual that feels like GOD, acts like GOD and he's all macho and alpha...Now Alpha has seen the one that pass ALPHA and whether he likes it or not that relationship will turn out to be very protracted dick measuring contest from all sides....little wonder we'll iterate that things will turn very very ugly in the coming days..[/color]

True, it could go sideways

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] Forget, that guy has already lost the babe the moment he started seeing pitfalls all around his relationship with the family, I tell you things will get very very ugly with her people in the coming days....When you tell folks to understand the substance and spirit of GAME and how it influences interrelational dynamics and what not, they thumb their noses at you...[/color]

True, but I think it's salvageable just depends on how he handles it. but to succeed in life one really have to understand thos interrelational dynamics.

Tonnyray:
The very challenge I foresee with the 22 year old girl I'm seriously considering tying the knot with right now. The envisaged problem isn't even her, it's the family. Obviously she's played down the caliber of her pedigree. Did my research and yes, thoroughbred aristocratic Fulani family (surprisingly Christians funny enough). Her grandfather na IBB boy (for those who know) and I also discovered her dad is even a board member in my organization. My fear is these guys are controlling as fvck. I've met only one of her brothers and even though we got along pretty well, that air of arrogance is unmistakable. Undeniable.
Long story short these ain't guys to fvck with. Fortunately (but potentially unfortunately) this girl is now hopelessly in love.
I cannot possibly thrive with or stand a controlling extended family and the little I've deduced so far points to just that.
At the same time losing her will hurt (I won't lie or form "Alpha" here).
Or maybe I'm just overthinking things.

Anyone been in a similar scenario before? As in married folks successfully handling/dealing with a controlling extended family.
Any thoughts on how this can be better managed?

I think I can relate, a friend of mine was in the same situation like this. I remember I teased him saying he is officially becoming a "peak blinder" just because of the way the family of the girl are .

Key things to note:
1) You can show that you are not a pushover cause this kind of people are always shit testing you to see what you are made of.

2) if the girl really does love you as you claim then I don't think it should be much for concern cause the girl that my friend got married to was like their father's favorite so she could easily cajole him to meet her demands if you get what I mean.

3) Expect a lot of power plays and if possible behave with an air of nonchalance as they will occasionally do things to piss you off. Stay frosty.

There is more but should be ok and let me say
"Congrats" you will need it

arthurwillia:
What would you rather they do? Sleep at home and watch tv right

We both know there is something else to do that is better than that

SkyFlint:
This is very valid.

I don't subscribe much to conspiracy theories, but it is very evident that someone, or a group is someones, is using movies/shows to brainwash the public.

It became obvious with the homosexuality trope. It was weird the first time we saw it on TV. But now, it is expected.

The desensitisation of homesexuality through the use of movies and TV shows has been quite successful. Few people, if any at all, think it's weird anymore.

That said, writers of movies and shows seem to have a list of mandatory characters. The list includes:

1. A gay person (preferably male).
2. A black man.
3. A patriarchy-oppressed white woman (usually the lead).
4. A caricature of a masculine man.
5. A lovable doofus of a man.
6. A very powerful man whose balls are in the palm of a woman (wife/GF).
7. A strong, independent woman .
8. A transgender (EXCLUSIVELY a man turning into a woman. Women are already perfect just the way they are).

For these writers, finding a way to slot in a "black gay man" character is like hitting the jackpot. It makes them giddy with joy. A black transgender man? That's bliss!

That aside, there's a fairly new narrative that movies/shows are pushing now. Writers, or perhaps their sponsors, are catching on quickly. And it's gaining ground rapidly.

The narrative is this:

Men willfully relinquishing their rightful positions of leadership or authority to pursue love or a life of mediocrity and frivolities.

Of course, the narrative is fostered by conveniently making the men in the movie/show grossly incompetent and the women overwhelmingly competent.

Somehow, the women are natural-born leaders with huge ambitions and transformational ideas. Whereas for the men, leaders are just "not who they are."

First time I noticed the new narrative was in Coming 2 America. A poor bastard forfeited his throne to a natural female leader to pursue love with an ambitious lady. And that's okay?

The next time I noticed it was in Cinderella (2021) where the Crown Prince, who's conveniently made out to be incompetent and irresponsible, also forfeits his throne to his ambitious sister to pursue love with an equally ambitious girl whose ambitions require her to travel.

Avengers: Endgame was the next movie I saw with the narrative. Thor forfeiting the Asgardian Throne to a Valkyrie. In Norse mythology, the Valkyries are just servants of Odin. But it's okay to give up the throne to one of them and then go jostle for the leadership of a small space shuttle.

The objective of the narrative is simple:

It's okay to be unambitious as a man. Leave the leadership roles to women, they are more capable than you anyway.

If the propagation of the narrative continues, it'll become imprinted in the minds of men. Men will become more laid-back and unambitious than ever. Women will have the reins of society more firmly in their grasps.

Then HELL will reign on earth.

couldn't have put it any better mate. The propagation of this situation is so alarming and it's shocking that it's not even noticed.
Thumb up to you bro, you really hit the nail on the head.

I talk about the gay people and how Dem make Nigerian looks like bad people cus we don't want Dem in our country in series thread ND some men in the thread was attacking me ND one guy for insulting gay people ND talking shit about human rights dat we don't have feeling,let the gay do wat Dem want in Nigeria
dey can only brainwash the weak [/quote]an still thinking of how to unwatch what I watched

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Isoright....although there is no job but the need to go to school can not be over emphasized and it is beyond just getting a job

how do you mean sir?

Gudbadguy:
They want to brag that their child has finished University.Omo he should change course o to I.T or computer science.what has biochemistry got to do with A.I?

my brother me set tire oo

Mbee247:
I don't even know cause the thing tire me.

It seems it's their mentality towards going to school,that when you go to school, you get good grades,have a white collar job, probably that pays up to 250k lol..


It's their mentality but it's actually not their fault at all, it's just that their environment is actually the one influencing their decisions and not them exactly.


If i were you,am gonna do the needful by letting your bro learn an high income skill for like 2 years before going to school.

Let's him make money with high income skill for a year, that's up to three years.


At least he must be earning at least 200 to 300k with that skill in a month,then after that he can shoot his short by going to the college.



In terms of financial issues, nothing can be a problem to him at the uni or college whatsoever.


Tell him he shouldn't rush and do the mistake I did or my friends did when we were in school, thinking that when we finish school,we would get a white collar job but it's actually false.

No job's coming as you need to create the job yourself.


He might be 18 or be in his early twenties,tell him he shouldn't rush,they are so many to achieve and many laddera to climb.



The world has changed a lot and it should be with your parents had well, sighs.. but it's not been what it is..


May God help us all..

Gbam you hit the nail on the head

Daily Reminder:

In this age of feminism, we should mind the kinds of thing we hear, see and even read. There is a reason why we have so many boys in this our era than men and why there is so much low testerone and simp and soy boys everywhere.

Especially the movies we watch, A friend asked me to watch a tv series called "sex education" that it's redpilled as Bleep. So I jumped in and watched, I was angry at the nonchalant promotion of homosexuality and the rest but the fact they even came to Nigeria to act a particular scene in which they wanted Nigeria to adopt a law in favour of homosexuality and feminism.

I got pissed off and ask my friend what that was about, he said something that hit me. He said the whole purpose of the movie was to show me the "new" normal cause a storm is coming and it is only the trees that can adapt while remaining strong that can survive.

AUTHORITY: Watch what you watch cause a Tv is also a good weapon for brainwash if you know what I mean

I was

Hi guys, I have a younger brother that got admitted into the university, the thing is I told him to forget about school for now and learn a skill so that he can make enough money to go abroad and study his beloved "Artificial Intelligence" but you see my parents are adamant about the fact that he should go to school to study biochemistry which I see no correlation with what he has plans for.

I see it as a waste of time and resources since have seen and know a lot of people that finished university with nothing to show for it. I will also be the one to sponsor him since his my younger brother.

I calculated everything from his 1st to 4th session and discovered we are spending not less than 3 million+. The money he can use to learn a skill that can generate a lot for him. Besides biochemistry is a very stressful course but my parents refuse to say that all his mates are in school and etcetera.

So now I want to know why do people send their wards or even go to the university despite knowing that there is no job or possible source of livelihood?

Daily reminder:

Only creatures in cages jerk off.

Oyin2212:
Wisely said

Thanks Sir

MJBOLT:

the future is female
https://twitter.com/Efe_philip1/status/1434447422713958412?s=20

Nothing were Musa no go see for gate

My son, Time is of utmost importance don't waste on superfluous things, find a purpose that you love, for every human must play their part in the advancement of the world. The life expectancy of a human is on the average of 50-79 years and when you factor out the years you use in watching tv, playing games, chasing broads, chit-chatting and negativities and the likes, then you know there isn't much time left.

You are going to die, am going to die and everyone you know will "cradle to the grave" but what's important is how well are you living your life to your truest self?
We both know you have something you wanted to be or do but here we are. Here we are!!! Find a way, we both know there is one. Block out the external notices and see yourself. Your real self and decide what you are going to do about your life. Do something.

Don't expect much from people not because they cannot be trusted but cause you just know their true nature. Learn to be the alone cause at one point, you will have to be. It's only when you stay alone can you know what you can handle or not.

Women are like cats, erratic and mood-swinging. Don't bother yourself on them if they come, fine and if not, it's still ok. "Asking a girl out and dating her is like your betnaija slip even if the odd sure die, the ticket fit still cut so what you normally do is no put your mind for the game". Apply that to women in your life. Maintain frame and set boundaries, it's not bad to show craze at times so that she knows who is the boss. You are the leader, she is the follower so do your job and lead.

Appreciate your parents if they were kind to you cause they are the only one that can genuinely love you for you. Remember it takes two to tango so don't neglect them most especially your dad cause the society we live in doesn't give fathers credit as they deserve.

Now for the final part, Don't live your life based on other people's opinions, most of us are quite guilty of this, myself included. There is a difference between advice and advise. Know the difference and know peace. We have and know of so many people that live and are still living their life based on family, friends, religious leader's opinions. You came alone to this world (except you are a twin) and so you will probably die alone. Don't react to everything in life cause no be every matter concern you. Enjoy life cause we are all going six feet no matter where our station is in life.
Cios
#stoic thinking

Remember my son, that you are not a man but a mere boy. It might seem harsh despite all you might have perceived you have gone through.
But the litmus test of a man is when your mettle have been tested and proved to be worthy not by me son, but yourself.
They say "no matter how you lie to others, you can never lie to yourself".

You can't lie to yourself son, First thing to remember son, it's not all opinions that you should follow no matter how smartly or eloquently it was delivered. Check with yourself first then you decide.

Second thing my son to know is life is too short to waste it on people that don't matter.
Our elders say that "don't get dragged in the mud meant for a pig when you are not one".
Which simply means reduce the urge to shalaye

No matter the redpill knowledge you have it cannot help you untill you apply it and it is not every thing you see, learn or hear that you must speak. Exercise self restraint not just in the area of women but life in general.
Women are neither good nor bad ,they are what they are. Life in general is amoral (sometimes the good get the reward of the bad and vice versa). Don't hate women cause you got burnt, the same way you can't hate the car just because you got an accident cause life just have a way of smoothing your rough edges.

Seek to drink from the cup of the wise and try to avoid negative things but don't become delusional as to what is real or not. Self affirmation is good but for how long can you keep it up? Don't think because you call your self Alpha or Rich is going to change the fact that you are not rich so start with the root not the fruit.

See son, there are lots of conflict in the world alone so do not be surprised when you see it in a red pill room cause any place filled with men is bound to be filled with ego and Ego is both a good and a bad in men. There are always segregation in life like we have Christians, Buddhist, Muslims, atheists etc so also you will find it everywhere so a red pill thread cannot be excluded.

Finally son, it is essential you maintain frame in all aspect of your life obviously, you can't do it all the time but you can try, So try.
Start from now and decide whether my opinion is valid cause that's the whole point of being a man which is simply " THINKING FOR YOURSELF". Cios
#Stoic thinking

Kantebets:
u have a great point but one question I would like to ask is: Do you think a man who is not successful with women can claim to be a complete man?
Doesn’t redpill teach about self development which is aimed at being near complete as a man

I don't know it depends on how you see it.
Maybe being successful with women could in itself mean different things to different men.

It's just like saying having money or not makes a man or breaks one but if I say so, I will be saying nonsense cause money value is higher than pussy value(at least that is what I think).

Success with women is relative cause it could mean banging them, having them fall in love with you, or something like that. But enough of my long epistles. Here is what I think

- I think (focus word: think) that it is essential a man knows about the manipulative nature of women and how he applies this knowledge to the "said" women that for me are successful.

Just because you get pussy doesn't mean you are a lady's man. it might just mean you had this rock-like frame or the moment was good or she was that Hot but for you have got it means you are doing something right.

Summary: Success with women is relative to all and subject to the individual but to me it's simply knowing about the feminine wiles and tactics and how to counter and defend against it.
That to me is a success with a lady.

Abeg me no sabi ooo so you fit correct me too
As you be senior man.

Kantebets:
conquering pussy is a sign of top masculinity which itself is one of the traditional qualities of real top class men
You say redpill teaches self development,in all its facets and how to launch one to become an all round top man
Testosterone is male hormone which drives ambition,strength and sex drive as well as masculinity
I wonder how a guy with high levels of testosterone can’t get a pussy it’s either he is gay or something is wrong somewhere

Hmmmm let me think �. You see bro this particular "conquering pussy is a sign of top masculinity" facade is the reason why we are where we are today.
I won't deny that we all just want to make a thousand bucks and Bleep some fresh pussy.

But this conquering pussy that you are just saying aren't valid.
Tell me apart from scientist that tell you pussy do this and that benefit, what have gained since you been conquering this pussy?

Caesar wanted to conquer Cleopatra's pussy, we all know what happened next.
It's the "men should conquer pussy" that we have so many NBA players paying child support in the west.

Look bro having pussy does not change anything in you and coochies only can not define your masculinity. Your masculinity is who you are as a man and what you do and don't do simple.

The redpill teaches about self development to make you a better and to see the world at a different lens or prospective.

Our biggest problem as men is we are too rigid and that might turn out to be our downfall. just like the issue of collecting back a gift you bought for a girl cause you caught her cheating (which am sorry to bring up) which we all know if the roles was reversed, a woman will not hesitate to get back her gift.

Pussy (in my own POV) can never be the reason for masculinity. We men, keep saying that "we can't hold our plug from connecting to any socket but you don't know which socket might blow up your plug"
Am not trying to diss you and please don't get me wrong, am just trying to smooth a few rough edges that's all. if pussy is your thing please by all means have your full of it��.

But pussy does not determine any masculinity and the red pill is not about getting pussy but about the nature of women and life in general and how that relates to you, if you are good in decoding this, then more pussy to you.

Please we all are learning so you can always correct me if am wrong��
#no hard feelings

Special thanks to all you guys still spreading the gospels like caveadullum, martinez39, bloodysperm, aomine etc. and to others I didn't mention. Keep up the good work.

allandutch:
This is an excerpt from a book I'm reading...

Op what's the name of the book?

Preach on

“If civilization had been left in female hands we would still be living in grass huts.” – Camille Paglia

Consider this: you have a friend whose friendship you would not recommend to your sister, friend, brother, or close acquaintance. Why would you have a friend like that for yourself? You could say it's out of loyalty. Loyalty, on the other hand, is not synonymous with stupidity. Loyalty must be negotiated in a fair and honest manner. Friendship is a symbiotic relationship. You are not morally obligated to be with someone who is wreaking havoc on the world. On the contrary, you should select people who want things to get better, not worse. Choosing people who are good for you is a good thing, not a selfish thing to do. If they see your life improving, it is appropriate and valuable to associate with people whose lives should be improved.
The reverse this with women and see how it looks.
#Enlightenment

zuby4real10:
Hello guys, I have this small issue bodering me about ladies these days. So please anybody that can advice me weather male or female can help. May be there is something I am not doing right.
I am a single guy in my early 30s looking for a serious and matured lady to start a relationship that will lead to marriage cos I am ready to settle down. The problem I am currently facing is that any time i try to toast a lady she will never tell me yes she have accepted or she love me too, the next thing that will happen is that she will start billing me with unnecessary demands which I will bluntly reject cos I did not even know my stand yet. This happens to me. This is the 5th attempt with in 6 months almost all from desame similar issues. The last one happened this morning from a lady I am disturbing all these while with serious romantic texts and calls full of i love u and other sweet words. The lady have never for once retaliate such gesture to me. Infact anytime I am chatting with her I try to bring love topic she will do as if as she did not see it. All of sudden this morning she sent me her account number that she need money to fix her hair and other stuffs to look beautiful for me on sallah day. This is a girl that I don't even know if we are dating or not.
My confusion now is that, these frequents demands are they a way saying yes that they have agreed or not or they are just testing us to know how serious we are with the love that we pronounced to them.? How can a lady that is feeling shy to even tell you that she loves you back will be comfortable asking you for money. I am very confused right. Is there anybody that can advice on what to do next time. My problem is not that I can't spend and care for woman that I know we are dating,but these girls did not even agree to date me.

If I say something, they will say I gave started

Please note this guys,
Don't try to rescue someone who does not want to be rescued, and be careful about rescuing someone who wants to be rescued...
I know the smart ones will code!!!

MJBOLT:

I hope he won't do the unthinkable (suicide/murder)

Am also thinking the same thing. I will try to keep an eye.

Ikillbrokehoes:
This is so heartbreaking, he should take everything he gave her and divorce her that's the best thing to do in this kind of situation, some women are just so evil and pathetic.

He told her to abort the pregnancy or he will divorce her but with that look on eyes i fear,he might do worse.