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That must be one very angry insane woman!

I prefer traditional wedding. So much display of culture

It's good he mentioned it so you can see if his idea fits into yours before you take the plunge. Personally I don't think it is a good idea except he is working in another city. Though the way some men get home at 1am and leave at 5am the makes them no better than weekend husbands.

@Ajanlekoko
I gained a lot from your schedule and I love the idea of everyone cleaning up.
Some men just have to eat dinner every night!

@Kbdrim
I hope you maintain that mindset after marriage o, most men just leave everything to their wife.

chaircover:
Hbabe I am sorry to say but you havent been round millenium men

You have a point there. I don't visit people that much so maybe I have a small population for my data collection.

harmony5:
But madam Ngozi Iweala did same when she can't cope with the system. How suddenly do we forget. Even recently Mrs. Ayoka Adebayo resign from
REC. Wasn't this good enough to enter the books.

Did they resign due to scandals of bribery/corruption against them?

AjanleKoko:
Nah, most men who are saying that aren't married.
Outside kitchen duties and taking care of the kids, there is still a lot to do in the house. What most of us are saying is, the kitchen stuff is women territory, and it's an aberration to want to share that responsibility with your husband. Get a maid if you must.

Brother! So will you sweep, dust, fold clothes etc?
I am not saying SHARE responsiblity as in make sure no one gets cheated but assist each other to keep the home running.

As for having men in kitchen, the only married man I have seen cooking while his wife is around and healthy is my elder brother.

kbdrim:
Any man who doesn't help out with chores at home IMO is irresponsible. IF you really love your spouse, You would not even want her going through so much pressure, Our duties as men should be to lighten the burdens on women so much that she would be so glad to serve her family.

Thats good to hear. So what do you do around the house to lighten the burdens on your wife? (I am assuming you are married)

eseosa77:
beautifull,when would an african public officer resigns on his or her own voilition?.maybe not when he or she is alive.

Resignation from public office is not part of our African culture.
They would rather sit down there and bribe/bully their way through any scandal.

kbdrim:
"There is no solid satisfaction in any career for a woman like myself. There is no home, no true freedom, no hope, no joy, no expectation for tomorrow, no contentment. I would rather cook a meal for a man and bring him his slippers and feel myself in the protection of his arms than have all the citations and awards and honors I have received worldwide, including the Ribbon of Legion of Honor and my property and my bank accounts. They mean nothing to me. And I am only one among the millions of sad women like myself." - Taylor caldwell
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taylor_Caldwell
This quote was by a woman who accomplished far more than most of us here will ever dream of, she published over 40 novels, many of them best-sellers. Her works sold an estimated 30 million copies. She became wealthy, traveling across the world. Her books were big time sellers right up to the end of her career and yet she says I would rather cook a meal for a man and bring him his slippers and feel myself in the protection of his arms than have all the citations and awards and honors I have received worldwide, including the Ribbon of Legion of Honor and my property and my bank accounts Whatever choices you make now concerning your so called careers, remember that at the end of your life those goals might not mean much to you so dont be deceived by looking from a far into a lot of career women's lives now.
I have come to observe that women over the age of 50 irrespective of their careers who sit down to talk would rather brag about their children, grandchildren and family and hardly over their careers. so your so called careers might mean so much now you would be shocked a few decades down the line u wont hold the same opinions.

Having a career doesnot prevent a woman from having a man in her life or having children and grand-children!
When we mention career women, most men just remember their harsh/bitter unmarried female bosses in the office; there are happily married women who have a great career and family and also take time to be responsible mothers and wives!

jay bee:
Marriage => shared responsibilities
I wake up every morning @ 6am to get ma son ready for school
Finish work at 5pm, rush home so i can cook him dinner and go over his homework
My wife, a chemical engineer is one of those that do the long hours shift thingy so i def pull ma weight round the house to compensate for that.
Being a man of the house is not all about providing all/most of the finance.

I wish more men will reason like you.
Most men think providing the finance is all that is required of them but wives need help around the home.

Harbb:
Some chickens were crossing the road, 1 was infront of 2, 1 was in-between 2 and 1 was behind 2. How many chikens were there altogether?

5 chickens

Sagamite:
I hope you used my Ferrari analogy for him?

I hope you told him you were a Ferrari that needs to be handled with care?

It helps with the clarity.

Hahahaha!
You know most men think all it takes to maintain a woman is make money available; they forget about the wear and tear. But he did read your write up and argument.

I actually threatened to start doing my chores whenever he is Hot!

Dyt:
^^ hmmm
u v got a chicken dere ma'am
so sorry

Nothing to be sorry about. You will be surprised to learn where his strength lies.
We all have our strength and weaknesses.

ileobatojo:
Lol! At least he calls the technician!! Let me not talk again o!

I’m glad he listened to you when you spoke to him. He’s not doing the 'manly' or the ‘womanly' things? Ah ah. E wan kill you? Hopefully things will change now.

Things will change.
I plan to draw out a schedule over the weekend so we know who does what. He cannot cook to save his life so cooking still comes to me but I intend to teach him how to make basic meals.