I am 27years old i have been serving for 5years as a kenyan airforce man i married when i was a 23years old we were blessed with a baby girl , i was called for a two year peace keeping mission at somalia bt after coming back i came with alot of money because i was being paid by the UN and my country kenya. My basic salary in kenya sum up to 84k without allowances and I'm paid twice the salary of a kenyan soldier. when i came to my motherland, i decided to buy a car for my wife as a gift due to the fact that....

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I have been married over 15 yrs now endavouring to meet all basic needs for my family, i have 4 kids with this Lady, she recently changed n started displaying bad characters including direspect and less care not to only me but to the children as well, I discovered that she had joined a company of those women who leave their own life very carelessly, independently being unmarried,
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/11/my-wife-has-gone-to-join-the-gang-of-unmarried-women/

ADVICE TO MEN . BE WISE BE SMART;
You met a girl and you both fell in love..Months pass by and you still going strong then she gets attached, calls you all the time, double texts you, makes you her WhatsApp profile picture, she sleeps over at your house whenever you ask her to, she takes you to movies with her own money, she does everything to make you HAPPY.. Later, she starts hearing rumours, she confronts you and you deny (as usual).
She catches you with different girls you apologise and she forgives you because she loves you. She starts to be sceptical about herself, starts feeling like she is not enough for you, she is not beautiful enough, you cheat time and time again, she tries fighting for the relationship but she realizes that she is fighting alone.
She walks away and you don't even try stopping her because 900+ likes means you can get any girl you want.. Months later you are in a relationship with a new girl that is more beautiful, more curvy than her.. You take cute pictures and you start posting them with cute captions. She finds out and it broke her because you have never posted her pictures nor made her your WhatsApp Dp before...
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/09/men-pls-be-wise-be-smart-dont-lose-the-moon-while-counting-the-stars/

.I am a 37 year old woman, two kids and my husband is 35 years. married since 2012. My marriage has been so rough since we were married, husband is an alcohol addict, every weekend he is not home from Thursday and will see him on Sunday night or Mondays sometimes. We are quarreling and fighting a lot about this issue, during that fights he destroys my tablet fone he will beat me so badly on my face. i use to report him to the police.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/09/my-husband-drinks-and-threatens-to-kill-me-with-the-kids/

Greetings joe. Please hide my Id. I'm a 24 year old female who is engaged to a 27 year old male. We're expecting our 1st born and as you know when a women is expecting she has to go through all the tests and I found out January that I'm HIV+. I tried telling my partner but that didn't sit well with him which made me change my statement and said I was joking, I'm negative which is a lie. My partner then went to test February and he found out that he is negative. He again tested last month and found out that his negative again. Now my problem is that.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/09/im-hiv-positive-but-dont-know-how-to-tell-my-fiance/

Gd day sir,I appreciate this group and may God continue 2 equip you in touching lives positively.I want to remain anonymous.I am hooked up by pregnancy by a girl who I don't intend 2 marry.I never denied having sex with this lady,though she already has a child 4 someone else b4 me.This lady is so stubborn and disrespectful to me or any other person,including her parents.After much hassles I decided 2 take her in,hoping and blivin that she would change.1 led to 2 and 4rm 2 we now have 3 kids.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/09/my-wife-is-so-stubborn-and-disrespectful/

Hello, so I have been with the same man for 13 years. We have 2 kids and I recently had 2 boys as a surrogate mother. During the pregnancy he had to be patient cause I could not do a thing as I was high risk, and now that we are 2 months after birth we have tried, but it hurts so much more than when we had our kids and I am mentally not even in to it. Now don't get me wrong I am trying. But it is so hard to even want to try when all he is doing is throwing fits, talking shut in the morning while he is getting ready for work, thinking I can't hear him.
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/09/my-husband-tricks-me-into-surrogacy-but-now-he-feels-hurt-and-misbehaves/

Im with my husband for years, I assist him in everything he does. I play a role of a good woman in the house, but one thing I don't like about him is that, he doesn't romance me before having sex with me, which made my feelings stayed inside me. Sometimes, he will just say to me, 'remove ur pant' He only do it once n it only take 5 or 6mins.
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/08/my-husband-does-not-romance-me-before-having-sex-with-me/

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"I enjoy all you do in here. I just want to drop this advise to my fellow men! My marriage is 36 years. I am 65 years old. My wife 56 years, and I am still married to the same woman. We have been through ups and downs and we are still together. Not that we are perfect, but we chose to keep our marriage, forgive each other, keep loving one another and stay together to train our kids. 2 of my sons are married , same as 2 of my daughters remaining one. I have 5 kids. Everybody deserves attention be it man or woman. In marriage women are the people that need the most attention from their husbands. when a man neglects his wife, he ruins his marriage.

A lonely woman is a big prey. A lot of marriages these days crash because of this. It happened in my marriage and I drove my wife to have an affair outside. I was very young then, told her all sorts of......
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/08/sharing-my-experience-to-the-young-married-people/

Safeguard my reputation by hiding my identity while posting this issue for public help. Am a married man, I have a female friend with a 12 yr old boy who she got from a certain man. Since 10 yrs plus ago she got disappointed by him so she has never trusted any other man to the extent of sharing love to anybody else. As per women's anatomy she struggles a lot with regular sicknesses from backaches, stomachaches etc. She has gone to different hospitals, from government to private ones but no remedy. Long at last she has been advised by a gynaecologist to have a man to share intimacy with to relieve her illness....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/08/a-female-colleague-of-mine-is-sick-due-to-lack-of-sex-for-a-long-time/

SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP.

In CHOOSING A PARTNER, LOVE is the foundation upon which every relationship is built/established, BUT love ALONE CANNOT SUSTAIN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP.LOVE alone lacks the credibility to sustain marriage/relationship, because LOVE MUST be worked out or worked on,and not just love for loving sake.Hence the MAJOR things that sustains marriage /relationships are:....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/06/secrets-of-successful-marriage-relationship/

We have been married for 3years with one baby boy of 1yr 3months.Our first 2years of our marriage was sweet.Very amazing.We where the Envy Couple of the Neighbourhood.We were a happy couple.We always cooked and had meals together.We Mostly went out on weekends.We always had great sex.We enjoyed every moment we shared.We were a happy family.Things started changing Last year june after 3 months of working.I arranged a job for her in one of the NGOs where my Former Female Classmate happens to be the Program Coordinator in Lusaka Province Division. Up till now I havnt told my wife that i arranged that job for her.I got her dat job not becoz I wanted her to be contributing financially,but all I wanted was her to be busy with somthing coz she was complaining of being bored at hom doing nothin.We were managing and we still do.I was happy dat she was finally going to be busy with somthing. After three months of working,my wife started changing bit by bit.She wud come home late and just takes her bath and goes to sleep. At first I taught it was becoz she had not been used to the Job,but the same habit went on for 3more months. She later joined a certain female committee of Organisnig and Managing Kitchen Parties and Weddings and was Elected Secretary.Things become worse coz this led her to stop cooking and later decided to employ a maid.A lot of things became affected.She stopped giving me attention. Always telling me dat she is always busy and tired.She stopped being romantic and caring.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/08/should-i-have-my-wife-fired-from-work/

Please post for me in marriage counselling and withhold my identity. I and my hubby have been married for six years now and we have two kids together. We have been having problems in the past because of his beer drinking. When drunk, he was another person who became so vulgar with his language and would say things that hurt me. Regardless of all this, I still believed in our marriage and I still believed he would change and truly he has changed. The thing is that he has a diploma in a certain course and had been unable to get a job...
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/05/my-husband-drinks-alot/

Good morning uncle joe,,,pls post for me and hide my id
Am 28years and d father of my 3 kids is 31 years, we met in year 2012 but l mistakenly got pregnant for him in the yr 2013 l told him and he accepted d pregnancy,,but he had a fiance before i met him but due to my pregnancy he cut d relationship off with her. Since then, he as been promising me dat he will pay my bride price which he hasn't payed till now after three kids...Since all dis while, dis guy has totally changed he use to beat me in d presence of our kids when ever he is angry, he maltreats me badly, never gives me money and he doesn't allow me to work,he doesn't take care of me but he doesn't neglect his kids bcuz he love his kids, now l use to see him chatting with his ex and another woman he do call his ex once in a while. He told me dat he can not marry me now dat i shld look for a job. Whenever i cook, he doesn't eat and he doesn't sex me anymore..but he use to buy food in d house. Due to frustration, i went to police station to report him last week when we fought and he beats me in front of his mum bcuz his family and my sister knows everything dats is going on...
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/05/my-husband-maltreats-and-beats-me-in-the-presence-of-our-kids/

DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL, IT'S JUST AN ADVICE
Dear Ladies,

There is one thing I want you to understand about MEN.
When you post half- naked pictures of yourself on Facebook, doing a sexy pose, or showing us your boobs or lying seductively on your bed.
The only thing you are doing is making them feel lust about you
I know you will feel excited about the 500 Likes, 120 sweet Comments and countless inbox messages you will receive and you will feel so high more so to be on top of the world.
BUT ONE IMPORTANT THING YOU SHOULD KNOW, in reality, none of those guys who will like and comment on your photo or send you messages in your inbox loves you. They are just.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/05/ladies-please-dont-dress-seductively/

LADIES SEX IS NEVER ENOUGH.........
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It's possible for any man to ask for sex in a relationship, but is left for you as a lady to know that sex, can't keep him..(Sex isn't enough)
There are two major factors ladies complain about sex in a relationship:
1. After giving him my body he left me..
2. He left because I refused to have sex with him..
NOTE: Both
http://growinluv.com/2018/06/04/ldies-sex-is-never-enough/

Hello uncle Joe, plz i need you to help me talk to my brother. This happened 14 yrs ago. We were born in ilesha where we grew up with our parents. My elder Bro then was in FUTA, there is this young lady that comes then for tutorials in our house anytime my brother is back from school or anytime he is at home. Then she was in ss3 preparing for her waec, while my brother was in 200level studying geophysics in futa. Along the line, this lady became pregnant and she said my elder Bro is responsible for it but when they asked my Bro, he denied it. So this lady had to drop out of secondary school and stopped her waec exams to give birth to the baby. She gave birth to a baby boy. My parents took the responsibility of naming the child because they know the baby belongs to my brother despite the fact he denied it. On the day of the naming, they brought the baby to our house for the naming though my Bro was in school that Saturday. We didn't know who told him about the naming. When he came inside the compound and saw the baby on my mother's hand, he brought out a sharp cutlass to slit the baby into two but my mother used her hand to cover the baby and the cutlass cut my mother's hand almost into two. She was immediately rushed to the hospital and the baby was taken back to the ladies house. The mother of the baby later went back to school and she studied economics from university of ibadan. She now works and she is happily married. My brother too is married now up to 8 yrs now, he hasn't bee able to give birth. The problem now is that, that baby is big and grown now, he is almost going to the university..
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/30/help-my-elder-brother-whose-wife-is-barren-after-denying-a-lady-he-impregnated/

Greetings sir please post as anonymous for me. This so embarrassing for me I don't even know what to do. OK my wife and I occasionally enjoy watching porn, and when we pick the movie she would always pick movies that had lesbians in the scenes, one day I once took her phone and looked at her social media, there she is talking to strange women arranging sex with them, sending each other naked pictures, I confronted her about her......http://growinluv.com/2018/05/29/im-scared-my-wife-is-a-lesbian/

Please Sir post for me.
I am 24yrs and I,m dating a guy of 25yrs. We love each other so much and our family love both of us as we are together except his mother. I wanted to break up with the relationship because of his mother cause I lost my mother when I was very young, I decided to take the mother of any guy I will date/marry as mine. But this my Guy's mom attitude towards me is bad to my looking. I love his father and the rest people, they also love me. So last year when my guy was in final year. Then something came up in their family which lead to financial breakdown, and he needs money,school fees, he can't just dropout after all the years he has spent in higher institution. So I gave him the little I had and we went and borrowed to complete it, after his graduation we hustle to pay up the debt. During that time his mother don't even answer me whenever I greet her and I was even more confused, because I was thinking what she would do to me next. Earlier this year, she started to be friendly with me of which Im no longer interested cause she has killed the joy of my relationship with her. Now I and my guy is preparing to marry and I don't love his mom neither does she loves me but he always tells me to forget that aspect cause I am not going to stay with her. My problem is this, last month she now called me and was asking me why am I not paying them visit again or am I not walking with her son any more, That I should please come for visit cause she and everyone is missing me. Yet I refused to go. So I need your advise please...
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/28/im-scared-cos-my-fiances-mum-who-hates-me-as-suddenly-likes-me/

1- If you have Food in your fridge, Clothes on your body, A roof over your head and a place 2 sleep, You're richer than 75% of the entire world.

2- If you have Money in your wallet, a little change, and Can go anywhere you want You are among the top 18% of the world's wealthy people.

3- If you are alive today with more health than illness, You are more blessed than the million people who will not survive this week and die.

4- If you can actually READ this message and understand it, You are more fortunate than the 3 billion people in the world who cannot see, cannot read or suffer mental retardation..
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/27/weekend-motivation/

Hi joe
Pliz post for me as unknown
When I was 19yrs in my form 6 vacation, I conceived for my bf and on telling him... I was shocked by his reply, "u abort". I felt much pain imagining d only daughter to my parents amongst 8 boys dieng due to abortion n their wasted efforts to educate me.
I resisted his plan n took all d risking of keeping d pregnancy
Fortunately, I got a scholarship n joined one of d public universities with my pregnancy but delivered at d end of dat session....
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/27/314/

Good day sir please hide my identity I have a problem in my relationship and I don't know what to do any more I have been dating this guy for a period of six months now. I love him so much and I have been loyal to him at all time and do anything for him to keep him happy at all time as his woman but all he does is lie to me and he always keep giving promises but not fulfilling them and that's been happening for a while now sometimes I think maybe we are not meant to be with each other we just forcing things. ever since I met him I'm a changed person because he persuade me to do things which I'm not proud of ever since I let him come in to my life I don't know happiness,love etc u can name them all while back then I was that person who is always happy and share anything that happens to me to the people who are close to me but now that changed...
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/27/help-my-husna/

Anonymous

Pls sir I need ur advice,am 22 years old, I married last two years to a wonderful man of 30 years,I met him last 4 years wen I finished secondry skul,we exchanged contact so after 3 weeks he went back to his base (America) we do talk on the phone regularly.last two year he came back payed my dowry, did my traditional marriage after one month of our traditional marriage he went back to America. Am staying with his brother and family in abuja.
At a stage he started mmisbehaving,his brother will call me and say that why im I telling my husband bad things abt them, I will be surprised because I don't normally discuss them with my husband,if I ask my husband he will say he did not tell them anything, it continues so at a time I stopped telling, discussing many things with him to know where my problem is coming from,I was always feeling lonely later this year I met one guy here in abuja, i told him that am married he said no wahala DAT he wants to be my friend I accepted him with no bad intention and secondly am always......
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/25/i-cheated-on-my-husband-who-stays-in-the-us/

Please advise Miss Anonymous

Kindly help me with advice and hide ID my heart is broken, i don't know how take it. Im married with two kids have been with huby since 2008 but was officially married last year in May ( bride price fully paid ) my Huby is mischievous he sleep around with women of different kind , one time i found naked pics of his girlfriend in his phone on WhatsApp so i confronted him and he asked for forgiveness. The issue ended. He later put a password on his phone and...
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/25/307/

THINGS TO DO TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND UNDER THE CONTROL OF YOUR LOVE

1. Call him by a pet name.
2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.
3. Do NOT challenge him when he is hurt.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology n explain why you behaved that way that annoyed him.
5. Be quick to say "I'm sorry dear" when ever you offend him, insist on his forgiveness.......
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/24/things-to-do-to-keep-your-husband-under-the-control-of-your-love/

THINGS TO DO TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND UNDER THE CONTROL OF YOUR LOVE

1. Call him by a pet name.
2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.
3. Do NOT challenge him when he is hurt.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology n explain why you behaved that way that annoyed him.
5. Be quick to say "I'm sorry dear" when ever you offend him, insist on his forgiveness.......
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/24/things-to-do-to-keep-your-husband-under-the-control-of-your-love/

WHAT A MAN LOVES IN EVERY WOMAN

Some women are irresistible; everywhere they go they are adored by men, treated like angels and wanted by every man. Never the less, some are the direct opposite, the only reason a man would want them is for their centre region and when he’s done there, he’s out, never to come back except he’s bored again.

Do not be deceived; two things that would bring a man to you but won’t keep him with you are sex and beauty. They are not just enough; when he’s had enough sex and seen your beautiful face a million times, what’s next? Some women are extremely beautiful, you could call them a goddess but that’s that about them; they are loved from afar but hated when you get to know them.

Most women don’t know what would keep their man; they think it’s only about sex and beauty. Some things are way more important than that. There are a million special things a man can love in a woman, but I bring you 8 very important things that a guy would cherish in a lady.

1. A GOOD SMILE

There is nothing like an ever smiling lady; nothing would melt the heart of a man more than a woman who’s generous in her smiling. These smiles are like diamonds, they make the beauty of a woman sparkle. A lady that smiles often is thought by many as one with a good heart.

2. A GOOD LISTENER

Some ladies are blessed with this gift, yes I call it a gift because it’s rare; most women are more into complaining than listening to their man (and those complaints could drive men nuts). Alcohol is a man’s best friend when his lady is one that complains too much. Bars and pubs are places a man go to share his thoughts with himself or probably friends. But when he has a lady that has a good heart to listen to him, he’d be home with her rather than in a bar. Men always have issues to overcome and they would cherish a woman who would always be there to listen.

3. A LITTLE INDEPENDENT

Gone are those days when men value women that depend on them for everything,....
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/23/what-a-man-loves-in-every-woman/

Fellow brothers and sisters help me on this one. Am a Pastor and legally married to my wife but separated now. How did it get here ...we were married in 2005 and had 3 kids and our marriage was good until 2015 when my second born was brutally murdered by the brother to my wife which he never denied and he removed all my son's teeth for ritual purposes. The painful part on the day of the murder of my 4year old son is that,the late boy was with the 2year old brother and it happened at a rural home of my wife's parents. After brutally murdering the older son.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/23/help-my-brother-in-law-brutally-murdered-my-4-yr-old-son/

Been desperate of getting married and trying to get a good man is really pushing hard on me. All the guys had ever met will always take an advantage of me, may be they feel I'm desperate. I met this guy in my aunt's church here in lagos, though he told me he was working with an oil servicing firm in akwa ibom. He looks calm and tender, so we talked. At first I wasn't really ready to go out with him due to my past experiences but his persistence made me give in. I work with a betting company in lagos so last December, the guy came in during the festive period and stayed with me in my apartment. All through the time he stayed, I will be the only one doing the buying and the spending......
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/15/im-fed-up-of-falling-in-love/

Tunde visits my shop where he comes to buy things. Though he is a really nice person with a good heart. Then he works with a new generation bank in ikeja. We got talking and i agreed to date him because he was good and so supportive to me. He later lost his job in the bank due to this economic down time they were downsized. Due to him not having to start thinking about it, i asked him what he can do temporarily before he can secure something meaningful . He told me he would go into laundry business. I now withdrew 200k from my shop proceed, i gave him to start up the business. He finished the shop, closed it down within 6months. I dont wnat want to leave him because he had issues where he was working. The second time i asked a friend of mine to act like she borrowed me money then i gave it to tunde to open a saloon shop since he said he will get someone to manage the place for him. I got abit lucky to supply some malls in lagos. I was given the contract to supply them some goods like tomatoes, potatoes etc. Which i travel from lagos to jos and maiduguri almost every 2-3weeks. Tunde later decieved me about a fake travelling plan and withdrew 1million naira from my account. He took.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/20/thank-you-so-much-for-reaping-me-off-what-i-laboured-for-tunde/

Anonymous

Good day mr joseph I need a serious advice

I am a 24 year old lady currently unemployed. I live with my mother and she is a single parent, I studied paramedic but its been very hard for me to get a job. I met my boyfriend in 2016 and he wasn't working. I loved him so much coz he was a good guy and treated me good. he also studied paramedic and he is from an unfortunate background but I didn't care I loved him and supported him.

I got a mini stroke early last year(2017) due to depression of not getting a job, I called him and he promised to come but he never showed up even when my mom called him. I was very hurt but he sent me money to go see a doctor and my mom told me to forgive him. he got a job and he was always busy but we are doing fine. Till I suggested to him that he must buy a car so we could spend more time together and he is currently busy paying off the car. he then got a better paying job and he changed. he is so selfish now... he doesn't do anything for me anymore
he always tells me that he is paying the car. he promised to help me get a job but he is very busy right now. everything is about him now.......
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/22/my-fiance-said-i-need-to-be-an-independent-lady/

Hello admin
Lately i started noticing some changes in my husband's attitudes, I felt it was due to his usual work stress, think its normal not until i started noticing a strange number calling him. He saved the number with Patrick on his phone. I copied the number on my phone and used my true caller app to detect the caller identity and its one Nike ogundare. This number he stored with patrick will always call him so incessantly both day and night. Yesterday, my husband dropped his phone to go refill our gas cylinder. The same number called again, so i was forced to pick and I heard a female voice talking to me saying all sort of rubbish. When my husband returned, i confronted him.....
http://growinluv.com/2018/05/21/254/