HeavenlyCherub:


You are a fool. How would you like it if someone beat your sister or mother? God punish you. No matter how angry you are, no need to make anyone your punching bag. Better to give each other space and talk about the issue. It’s you against the issue not you against each other.

Lol

Aderewah:
I beat my wife mercilessly again yesterday. It was a total beat down. After I beat her like that, she will go inside and cry for three hours, then wipe the tears come aside and ask us to play pes again. I'll still end up beating her like four zero. Should I let her beat me back? She cant even score..please advise.

No insults please

You are a fool. How would you like it if someone beat your sister or mother? God punish you. No matter how angry you are, no need to make anyone your punching bag. Better to give each other space and talk about the issue. It’s you against the issue not you against each other.

Ent3rpreneur:
Before you jump to conclusions, hear me out let me give my opinion along with truths, half-truths and supposedly outright lies.

As the case is usually with women, they have a phase some people aptly call the "hoe stage"
and this is the period they want to explore everything: drugs, lesbianism, countless diicks,
clubbing, abortions, prostitution, juju and all other things.
This period is between 14 and 26 years of age and when they have "tasted" all these, they
would aim to "settle down" with a 'God-fearing' man. Inadvertently, they want to put their
past behind them but unfortunately, a leopard doesn't change its spots.

During their 23 years and above, you find some of them becoming 'serious' in church,
cleaning the church, heading the children department, being efficient ushers, so courteous
and amiable. Some mothers actually use them to give examples to their errant children,
"Don't you see Sister Ann,see how well behaved she is and how much she loves God, try
and be like her".
From age 25 and above, they become more desperate when they are yet to "tie down" a man
and have a marriage and family like some of her peers. She doubles her efforts; she starts
coming earlier for mid-week service,wear long skirts, join the prayer warriors, etc etc.

So, you as a male,you have also lived your own rough life, fuucked countless women, smoked,
done drugs, done yahoo, even was a hitman for a cult group and now you're 38 you want to go
to a church and find a 'well behaved' woman to marry, lmao .
You'll now meet Sister Ann that is well behaved and speaks in tongues and cries whenever
there is a worship session and you think to yourself, 'yes, this is the one'.
She probably has a nice a.ss and boobs with shape that she has been 'religiously'opaquing
with her 'holy' clothes and attire.

Woe betide anybody that is reading this that is having this thought, just know that God is
not to be mocked, whatsoever you sow, that you shall reap.
I'm no psychologist, but i'm 100% sure someone would comment, "But Ms.F lived a rough life
and now she lives happily with her family".Yes, you are right, there are cases like that but
believe me they are in the minority and there is a good chance Ms. F genuinely repented and
left her old ways for good.

Sister Ann 'changed' because she knows her biological clock is ticking and wants to secure
her future that is why you see cases of men coming to make lamentations in threads,
"After i married her, she changed and was no longer the nice God fearing girl i knew",
chances are that you met her in a church when she was speaking in tongues, you made
discreet inquiries and was told that she was a faithful church worker.


My closing statement, "A 28 year old party girl does not suddenly 'change' and become a
wife material."
"Always judge her by her past, you won't ever go wrong"
"Women are very predictable, ignore everything she says and focus on what she does"

cc lefulefu
lalasticlala
pdudd
chris525

Don’t go to church to look for a partner. What matters is the persons heart. There’s a big difference between someone that allows Christ to work through them and someone that says they’re a Christian.

On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?' And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from me, you evildoers'" (Matthew 7:21-23).


Ladies I can never warn you enough. The advise I give normally is based off my personal experience. Just because someone tells you they’re a Christian doesn’t mean they are. When you meet a man don’t talk about your beliefs and what you look for in a man. Allow him to show you with his actions. Does he say he loves God but tends to forget that in how he lives his life? When you reveal too much about what you’re looking for people tend to act so they get what they want from you.

Don’t sleep with a man until marriage. You might have made that mistake but ask God for forgiveness and repent. You can’t expect God to bless a Union you did not invite him in from the beginning. Normally we make someone our spouse without asking God if that’s the right person. We get involved with them. Then you start asking God to change them. Did you ask God if this was the right person to begin with? Don’t create your own problems. My 2 cents take it or leave it. So many people cry in relationships and marriage as they’re not with the right person.

Linadinna:
Ex Big Brother Naija reality TV show participant, Ifu Ennada has advised Ladies to stay single and have children because every man is a cheat.

She shared this on her Instagram story saying that no good Girl needs to be with a man who is a cheat.

She said Men embarrasses Ladies that she has concluded that no man is honest. Men can embarrass a lady for tiny bum bum and perky boobs. No good girl deserves to stay with a cheating, lying nonentity. Just stay single and have children by yourself if you want to have children and make money and live your life. She advised.

Source: https://www.updatemegist.com/2020/07/stay-single-and-give-birth-to-children.html?m=1

People should not get married if they can’t stay true to the vows they make to a spouse.

Ahumanbeing:

Why do contemporary Christian Church goers neglect the Almighty father, and centre their whole being on his son, whom is just a part and depends solely on the Almighty for sustainment? Y'all be screaming jesus jesus jesus but if the crusifixion was today, you'll be among those archaic murderers who killed him and blamed it on "The will of God".
Shame!

You my dear need to read the word. God is a holy trinity. The father, son and Holy Spirit are one. There’s only one God

Lustknabe:
Hello friends!

I am 28yo white man from Germany and I looking for nice black women to make babies with so the woman can then move and live in Germany. Making babies with man from Germany automatically means you are allowed to move to Germany, so this is your chance! So here is what I thought: You visit Germany and we meet, then we make love (very sweet and gentle, I am good lover) until you are pregnant with my baby. Then you go to government office and say you pregnant from German, so you automatically get residence permit. German government also pays you good money for having children here, because birth rates are low, very low. Then you can live here and child automatically have German passport. I think this is a great idea and win-win for all, because all I want is making many beautiful mixed babies with beautiful black women.

If you interested please write me I looking forward to make love and babies with some beautiful black women.

XOXOXO,

Jonas

Nothing in life is easy.. be careful not to be used as a drug mule or trafficking

mamagee3:
My mother brought I and my brother to America as children and I’m beginning to hate America and their non stop working and the culture in general. In fact, I regret coming here.

I miss my cousins and aunts who I grew up and spent time with and I cannot move back due to having a chronic illness that would require lifelong medical treatment that I cannot get in Nigeria. And my mother who I came here with does not even want to bond nor talk to me. I have to force her to try to even speak or have a conversation with me.

I feel stuck, disappointed and neglected by everyone around me. Please what do I do?

I too plan on returning home. However make sure you have established yourself here first. Make investments and save as much money as you can. Before you go back try save a minimum of a years expenses. You also need a bit of money to start a small business. Let your target of money saved to go back to Africa for good be a minimum of 100k usd. Make sure you establish yourself here so if you change your mind you can always come back. What state are you in?

SweetBuns:
Why would they have one?
Why should they have one?

Having an erection means you're ready to take a responsibility. A tasking responsibility that is not for broke boys and effeminate males.

Having an erection signifies that you're ready to copulate, take care of an adult like yourself and a child/children. Having an erection means you're ready to build a home.

Hence, if you're incapable of doing such, why are you carrying your silly erections everywhere? Erections that will only add to the problems of society,?

Nigeria is an example of this terrible trend. Lots of broke guys having erections and the result? Lots of children uncared for plus numerous juvenile delinquents.....There is a motorcycle rider here, the guy has 8 CHILDREN... I am sure he earns between 1-3$ everyday but why will a broke guy like him have 8 good children? During this pandemic, his children run around and beg for food in our street, one of his oldest sons was caught with his bad company of friends while they were trying to burgle an old grandma's house.

Long story short, if you're broke, don't have erections. Stop bragging on dick length FGS. Hide your erection and work on your life!

TL;DR Get your shit together and stop disturbing ladies with your broke and problematic erections.

I laugh in Spanish

SweetBuns:
Why would they have one?
Why should they have one?

Having an erection means you're ready to take a responsibility. A tasking responsibility that is not for broke boys and effeminate males.

Having an erection signifies that you're ready to copulate, take care of an adult like yourself and a child/children. Having an erection means you're ready to build a home.

Hence, if you're incapable of doing such, why are you carrying your silly erections everywhere? Erections that will only add to the problems of society,?

Nigeria is an example of this terrible trend. Lots of broke guys having erections and the result? Lots of children uncared for plus numerous juvenile delinquents.....There is a motorcycle rider here, the guy has 8 CHILDREN... I am sure he earns between 1-3$ everyday but why will a broke guy like him have 8 good children? During this pandemic, his children run around and beg for food in our street, one of his oldest sons was caught with his bad company of friends while they were trying to burgle an old grandma's house.

Long story short, if you're broke, don't have erections. Stop bragging on dick length FGS. Hide your erection and work on your life!

TL;DR Get your shit together and stop disturbing ladies with your broke and problematic erections.

Lol you want to start trouble on Nairaland

lexy2014:


I didn't give an opinion. I asked questions

Ok

sharone21:


U must be a shameless....bitter soul...idle....ten kobo boy who drags talk with women.... Upon your oversabi women still show u, that is y you're bitter to women even when u can choose who u marry easily as a man..... Run along bastard son of a thousand fathers....at least ned honourably married Regina..... Get off my mention boy

My dear let me teach you something. It shows he doesn’t respect women. No need for him to say all those things he said to you as anyone can pass their point across without cursing someone. Next time someone insults you if they want to over sabi just say “ Ok” not everything warrants a response. Some people are just miserable

integritylady:
Should a man take permission from his wife before sending his parents money?

Should a woman take permission before sending money to her parents?

ImaIma1:
I hope he will be as forgiving if the wife gives birth and the baby is not his own.

My dear, don’t you know forgiveness is only for men, according to men

luminouz:



Wrong!!!

At least, I didn't say it was bad to desire a successful man. People have priorities. You keep missing the point I tried on the other thread to pass on to you.

Your attitude was the major issue. You made it seem like you did broke men a favour by dating them. You may have been born into wealth but you weren't born successful. The fact that you termed men who disagreed with your mindset broke(not even stingy like the other thread) says a lot about your own character too.

At least 5 of the men who countered you on the other thread are millionaires that I'm aware of. One worked in a multinational oil company for fuq sakes.

Ok

ibkonekt:


NO...and the reason why is because men and women are different in wants and needs.
it sounds misogynistic but thats the real truth.
infact depending on his value in society the more women he has bedded the more attractive he is to other women

Ok

Freeeanijor:
The guy is spending His own money on His body, it's his money we are talking about here. He that pays the Piper dictate the tone.

That is why it’s important for a woman to have their own money. Ladies on the blog. If you depend on a man they will buy you and treat you like meat.

ibkonekt:


there is no problem here, this is female nature. this is hypergamy, women only date up. men know that women are attracted to 6feettall, 6 figure income, 6 inch manhood (mark of the beast). the point is a woman always desires a man that is above her financially, intellectually and in all ways. this is normal and healthy and is good.

the problem is this demand comes with responsibilities because nothing in life is free. if you want a high value man then he also has his demands that you must meet. so men dont really care about a womans wealth. we care about her sexual history, her beauty, her youth, her child bearing ability...these are the innate things that men desire first and foremost.

so to be fair the balance would be you can demand the highest value man as a woman if you are in your highest peak fertility as a woman. successful tall rich intelligent man and young pretty virgin loyal woman

Only one thing stood out to me. This virgin requirement. Is the guy also a virgin?

Toks2008:


LOL... Many nairaland males are boys still been fed by their parents. Only very few are men.

I tell you.

When a lot of these men think of success they think ceo, dangote, managers. One can be successful if they manage well the salary they receive from a regular job and investing it. The problem is a lot of people these days rush to buy car before establishing the wealth. Manage what you have to the best of your ability and you will be comfortable/successful.

God made no mistake when he said be equally yoked. This should apply in every sense of the word. Faith, Drive, Goals, Mutual respect, Attraction. That way you have a PARTNER! Not a leech, lazy person and disrespectful companion.

I enjoy reading your work Toks. Thank you for also not being biased because you cover both perspectives.

Toks2008:


A lady must first strive to achieve financial independence before any other thing and not make searching for a man to take care of her the priority...That is the point.

And note that a lady having that innate desire to be with a man that can take care of her is way different from a lady with an entitlement mentality...the former will not make demands but will support the man to reach his goals whilst the latter will outrightly make demands cos she strongly believes she is entitled.

I will say it again. You are very one of the only few men on earth that think like you do.

Toks2008:
Whilst it is very sacrosanct for a guy to avoid stinginess towards a lady he deeply desires, I strongly believe that It is perfectly normal for any lady to want to be with a guy who can provide but not for her needs but for his family and until she becomes part of his family she has no right whatsoever to make demands except what the guy chooses to give to her.

Many ladies are quick to say... "I can't be with a man who can not take care of me, I can't suffer from any man''... and I tend to ponder over this statement...'' does it mean their ability to make wealth is dependent on a man or are they destined to suffer without a man fending for them?''...

In My opinion, the entitlement mentality is an easy bondage every woman must avoid at all costs. It breeds redundancy and loss of self-worth... It makes them look like leech only in search of a host to feed on. .. gives them a deluded self-belief and inflated sense of importance and in most cases makes them easy prey for sexual predators and men with Satanic motives.

I want ladies reading this to understand this homemade truth... YOU don't need any "well to do" man in your life before you can survive or make wealth regardless of your background, ... It is a silly mindset. You can make insane wealth all by yourself and this should be the paramount focus so that meeting a man ''who can take care of you'' will only be a plus and not a hustle...

Hope this makes sense.

This is what I have said a million times. But the fact you desire a successful man is a problem to a lot of broke men. What’s the problem, I’m successful I can do it on my own. Why is it a problem for me to desire a successful man. Automatically you are labeled a leech and a gold digger by the men on Nairaland

lexy2014:


U have in no way answered my questions. U are just dancing round in circles:

Which family are u talking about? Are two people dating a family? I don't understand d family u are referring to and what it has got to do with d discussion. Infact I fail to see how d issues are raising answer d questions I asked. Who asked u about gender roles?

If u aren't talking about reward, then what does this statement imply?:

"Why is it hard to cater to the one you love, if she caters to you?"

According to u: "Women need security, time, love and provision".

Under what context are these supposed to be provided for a woman by a man?

Ok. A mature adult discussion ends by saying. That’s you opinion I respect that. This is mine I will stick to it. Good day

lexy2014:


Which family are u talking about? Are two people dating a family? I don't understand d family u are referring to and what it has got to do with d discussion. Infact I fail to see how d issues are raising answer d questions I asked. Who asked u about gender roles?

If u aren't talking about reward, then what does this statement imply?:

"Why is it hard to cater to the one you love, if she caters to you?"

According to u: "Women need security, time, love and provision".

Under what context are these supposed to be provided for a woman by a man?

You know we can go on and on. On this topic. I can’t continue to explain and go on In circles. For a relationship to be balanced both parties need to contribute in all aspects. I’ve said this a million times if you have read any of my other posts.I’m not saying a woman should leach off a man. I was referring to a marriage above/but this can also apply in a dating relationship. Men expect non wife/girlfriend to cook, clean and have sex. Women expect love, security and provision. Men and women are different. This has been around for centuries I didn’t invent the gender roles. Please tell me I’m lying that a guy you are dating expects you to do wifely duties? To solve this both (people in a relationship) need not do wife or husband duties before time.

Take time to read “ Men are from mars women are from Venus.

It will be very hard for a woman to submit to a non provider. If you do right by a woman that same woman will also support you when in need. Men want to be a head of the house until it’s time to do the work. Respect is earned not demanded.

I’m really tired of responding to this thread dear. The beauty of life is God gave us free will. Everyone is entitled to run their companionship how they want. I’m only giving my 2 cents. My spouse needs to learn my love language if they want me to learn theirs.

lexy2014:


Who are d "you men" you are referring? Am I a men? What are d needs u are saying d men u are referring want women to cater for? Is there a reward for a lady because she cooked 4 her boyfriend? Pls what is d reward?

All I’m saying is a lot of men expect a woman to cook, clean, wash the laundry and be there at back and call. Women need security, time, love and provision. No one is getting a reward. The problem is you refer to it as a reward. Two people should just work together to balance the relationship. No one should be tied down by a gender role. Both people must contribute in love, financials and chores.

Nonetheless on the other hand, you know how men can complain if the woman does not do certain things like cook, clean take care of the family etc. most men think this is a role of a woman. Why is it an expectation? Both should share responsibilities. Balance

Danielfx:
It really not my style of life. This lady has made me spend money on her too much only for me to discover she is breastfeeding another guy with my money. I have seen her for what she is now and it's affecting my work, i feel useless and i find it difficult to sleep.

She knew from the on set that my intention for her was marriage. She knew i wasn't strong enough to manage another heart break after my previous one and yet she played me for a sucker. Very obvious she never loved me and was there to destroy me. After all i have done for her, now i am finding it hard to concentrate and to do what i do to make money...

I know it's part of life but i have decided never again would a girl play me for a fool. I decided this after several attempted suicide when my ex girlfriend left. The funny part is, their reason for cheating is not justified, they only come and push other ladies away and even made me draw myself from my major female friends.

So, after the thinking i thought to myself, i would be a monkey cousin if i allow this girl play me for a sucker, an idea popped up. What if i use love charm on her ?

Obviously i haven't done it before so it kind of not my thing because i know there is a fu*cking repercussion, but i am ready for whatever repercussion later than to face this now, this is not a case of a simp, not at all, this is a regular guy that is always falling in love with the wrong ladies...

Heartbreak hurts, suicidal thoughts keep coming in and i have decided to do this....


Don't judge me, i am hurt and i am only taking this measure due to my emotional emptiness and betrayal

God heals. Let her be. For every action you take the universe has a reaction. Let go and let God. She will get it when the time comes. Forgive, focus on loving yourself and forging so that when the right person comes along you won’t be bitter and take out your bad feelings in them

lexy2014:


Bro, am glad u made d observation u made. I was also seeing it that way. D lady sixfeetbelle made nothing less than five posts. And in all d post she made on d subject, it was only about what her boyfriend is supposed to do for her. At no point did she even make d mistake of stating what she is supposed to do for her boyfriend. So as far she is concerned, a relationship is an avenue for her to meet her financial/material needs. D relationship exists because of her financial/material needs.

Take a look at d following reasons y she is or wants to be in a relationship:

"Dates, hangouts and meet ups at cinemas, etc. calls, car rides and texts, birthday messages and celebrations, random gifts and cash".

She can't go to the cinema to catch a movie on her own. She needs a man to do it for her. She can't do her b'day without a man's money. She can't buy herself a gift without a man's money. She can't enter a taxi without a man's money. Infact, her whole life revolves around provision from a man.

D most ludicrous of them all is d cash she put on d list. I had asked her several times that if she says she has a means of livelihood, y would she still depend on a man for cash if she isn't d epitome of an economic liability?

D problem is that she feels she is entitled to all manner of financial, material & pecuniary gain from her boyfriend just because she is dating him. That is just a predatory mentality meant to suck d man dry. In all, she says that is a relationship even when she has no idea what she ought to contribute to enhancing d life of d guy

Some of you men say this but you want that same woman to cook for you and cater to your needs. Why is it hard to cater to the one you love, if she caters to you?

luminouz:


Then why say to me 'no woman loves a lazy and broke man'... Is that not presumptive that no woman will want me(worthless) because I'm broke and stingy?

I’m sorry that you translated in that way. That’s not what I meant

luminouz:


*sighs*

You see where I have issues with you?

You automatically assume I'm worthless because you presumed me to be lazy and stingy,just because I told you not to use your two bad experiences to judge all men.

There are no assurances that the men in your social class will make you happy or sad and as a xtian,placing your hopes on status rather than God's direction is crazy.

You are the one assuming it’s on status alone. Did I tell you that?

luminouz:


I don't want to ma'am.

I hope your philosophy works out for you even though I disagree with it

You better get to work as no woman wants a lazy stingy man

luminouz:


Lol...so according to your faith,when looking for a husband, he must be successful abi? What if God wants you to marry bro. Jude the hustler instead of bro.Tunde the rich guy?
God sees the future right and he knows best for you but according to you myopia, you will think Tunde is better than Jude cuz he is more successful and there goes your marital happiness.

The topic ain't even about broke till you added it,its been about stingy men and entitled women. I still maintain my stand. That you spent on your ex(for how long exactly) and making all this noise shows you hated being their destiny helper yet men do that and way more for women. I bet you never even paid your ex's house rent or school fees before and yet you no wan let us hear word

I blame those exes for being lazy enough to depend on you though.

Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. I have dated men who earn less than me about 3 times. They were always a burden. When I say he should not be broke I’m not saying he should have mind blowing money. If God allows it so be it. My husband should just earn more money than I do. I can’t date anyone who makes less as a lot of these men are intimidated by success and they become toxic and start calling you controlling and all these things/names you are not because of their own insecurity.

One of them actually had money but he was selfish. There’s times I would send the sisters my own money for upkeep but not a kobo he ever gave me. He was not doing bad either but he was stingy. Sometimes rich and stingy go together just like broke and stingy can go to.

Frankly you can think what you want. In the end God judge us all. This is my opinion and I’m sticking to it

luminouz:

Lmaoooo...

Nawa o...just because you achieved some success in life made you seem better than those exes? When you had nothing,I bet you were humble in church. Now,God has blessed you and you suddenly remember that others were broke and 'took,took and took from you', segregating yourself from them. I wonder what God thinks about that.

You don’t know me. You are allowed to think the way you want

luminouz:


I still maintain that being broke is a state,not a crime.
Why dont you practice your last line and reap the fruits then?
You love God yet you condemn someone based on his perceived present state?

You will not guilt trip me into anything I don’t care. I dated broke and stingy men that just took took and took. Never will I ever. I’m not saying one party should be a leach. There needs to be a balance and both people working together. The thing is people should just stick to their level. If you make 30k date someone who makes 30k. Both of you are up to par and one person is not using the other. It is not a crime to want someone who has their life in order when you have your life in order. Everyone has a spec. Just like you men specify the woman that you want in terms of looks. Nothing wrong with me desiring a successful man as I am successful. I will never let anyone guilt trip me. Instead of abusing me online go to work.

What do you term broke? Different translation to that one word. Why not ask what I meant?

mrchineke:


Tell your brothers to go and SOW their lives into a walking yansh and pussy only women. Go and ask your father what plan he has for your life when he ‘born’ you....yeye woman! Getta a here!!

You will not guilt trip me into anything I don’t care. I dated broke and stingy men that just took took and took. Never will I ever. I’m not saying one party should be a leach. There needs to be a balance and both people working together. The thing is people should just stick to their level. If you make 30k date someone who makes 30k. Both of you are up to par and one person is not using the other. It is not a crime to want someone who has their life in order when you have your life in order. Everyone has a spec. Just like you men specify the woman that you want in terms of looks. Nothing wrong with me desiring a successful man as I am successful. I will never let anyone guilt trip me. Instead of abusing me online go to work.