Bonjovi13: Hey you guys shouldn't blame the girl. She only responded to the guys game. The guy was a simp and girls dont sleep with simps. The guy was too good to her too attentive and too accommodating. " He catered to her every need" and when he got nothing except small kisses in return, he still continued to be accommodating reinforcing the fact that he is a simp. Girls dont sleep with you out of pity they sleep with you because you move them either physically,emotionally or financially. You must move them because a girl left to her own will always want to take and take and give nothing in return except you move her. He left the bed and slept on the couch the whole time she was there. I can understand the first night but after then you still didnt make her know that sleeping on the couch was not going to happen. Women love men who take charge. Men who know what they want and go after it. Not a man they would say shuuuu once snd the man will slither away and not insist.
I can imagine the dynamics of the relationship and I dont blame the girl one bit. He is the kind of man that will fly a girl out to Spain without knowing where he stands. They have had no prior sexual communication or connection yet he flew her out. SIMP. Its just funny that she is confused that the guy ghosted her after she came back. She was still expecting him to be her personal ATM even after the visit and continue to receive hia attention when she gives nothing in return except to "like" him. The guy must be ugly or retarded or doesn't think much of himself,but I think he was truly hurt. Lets hope he doesn't allow himself to fall back into the babes allure.
All these comments I read are so laughable. He didn’t pay for everything on this trip like most assume. I won’t go into detail on this. We were in a hotel. I took care of most major bills.
Surely you don’t expect me to open up to someone I just met the same week. Do you people not fear soul ties? I value myself I’m not reckless and I will not increase my body count for temporary pleasure. Why is sex the only way to show appreciation?My body is sacred and I’m not my own. I have made mistakes in the past. I’m just trying to do it Gods way as my own way has failed.
Imagine if I slept with every man that I came across? I did thank him for everything and showed him I liked him too. I just didn’t want to do anything sexual as this affects your judgment. I just wanted to take it slow.
I truly believe he was so persistent and wanted me to agree being his girlfriend because he wanted to have sex. This man said and did everything just to have me. Why are the words ‘ I love you’ used so loosely by some of you men.
There’s no way to tell if things would have been the same if we were intimate. I can only thank God for protecting me.
I met this guy on ig. He flew me out to Spain. This man was funny. He did a lot for me while I was there. Most times I would ask to help and he would refuse.( please before the silly comments start. I’m very independent and God has blessed me small. I want a man to be part of my life but I don’t need one. This was my attempt at dating again (first date since I posted my last sob story years ago) but every time I open my heart I get burnt. Why?
What is all this? I think I need night vigil �. This man was so consistent when I was there, he was kind, never wanted to leave me or get off the phone the entire time. Catered to my every need. He made several attempts to kiss although I declined at first I eventually gave in after some days. He made an attempt for sex and I turned him down the whole time I was there. We did nothing sexual, he slept on the couch my entire stay. He wasn’t so happy about this but still respected my decision. - I’m tired of doing things my way and now I decided to do things Gods way.
We laughed the entire time, it was a great time. I left on a good note. This man told me he loved me, made so many promises. I actually started liking him back.
Now I’m back in California and I feel like it was once chance. If I tell you this man has gone cold. I don’t know what I did wrong. Is it my ambition/independence that scared him away? Is it the fact I turned him down? How does a man who seemed so into me go so cold? Is it the case of Yoruba demon?
It’s mood swing after mood swing and it’s like I’m forcing him to engage in conversations. He is no longer as sweet as he was before. He barely communicates.
You guys I need prayer for real. I have toasters but none so far seem like the right man for me. I’m tired of attracting bad guys or good time men.
The worst I have encountered are Yoruba. I tire for una. I wash my hand�.
Those who are married. What am I doing wrong? Do I need to down play my education/achievements? Do men give up easy when they can’t have you? Why do you men give out what they can’t maintain?
Anyiiii: I had to open another account to conceal my identity. Please I need help. I have gone to several pastors and churches for deliverance, yet, no solution. I'm 35years old lady and I'm not yet married. My elder sister is 37years old, still not married. My female younger cousins are in their early 30s too but not yet married. They said it's forces from the family but we have carried out all sorts of deliverance but no way. We are all graduates, doing well and very beautiful. I'm almost giving up hope on this marriage matter. Please I need a solution to this problem��
In Gods time if it is his will for your life. There’s a sense of peace when you let go and let go. Take it easy and don’t end up with the bad choice. Men sense desperation, don’t be taken advantage of
mrblessed: I so much love this comment because it is a typical demonstration of an average Nigerian lady thought processing: pretend as if there is no problem and strenuously shop for externalist factors as scape goats.
Baba, the earlier you realise you don't have a girlfriend, the better for you.
Every time you experience a problem you will move on? You won’t try resolve? You will forever change partners as no one is perfect
Ambode4g: hello nairalanders, I seriously need your advice on a relationship I am currently into. I met this lady online and she seems so beautiful so we started a conversation and I get to know she stays in abuja while I am based in Lagos. she is 32 while I am 27 but she looks so young that you will really think she is 25. we knew about the age differences and we were cool about it and that was his this sweet relationship started but things start getting saucy 2 months into the relationship. anytime we are in a little argument she goes straight to her status and start posting some inspiration trash trying to get at me and after resolving the issue I would tell her not to repeat the status thing again but she won't hesitate to repeat this same thing over and over. recently while trying to explain some issues to her she seems to always lead it into an argument. now what made me made this post was that we had an issue last week where she told me she was broke and I told her I was too then she responded she will CARRY HER CROSS HERSELF. I tried to explain that with time things will be cool but she started raging and I only had to calm her down and we resolved the issue. then I notice a post on her timeline she made when she was angry in the argument and the post was like LADIES, EXCEPT A MAN PAYS YOUR BRIDE PRICE YOU'RE SERIOUSLY SINGLE. I tried talking to her about what that was supposed to mean and adviced her to take it down but she insisted what she posted wasn't wrong and she is seriously single. Now she is blaming me saying am taking that as an excuse to break up with her. we have stopped talking since morning and I am really confused if I have not stepped into the wrong relationship this way. pls I need you guys advice
Everything has its ups and down. Just depends if you’re willing to fight for what you have. Good things taken for granted are taken away.. think carefully before acting
Walexdubia: I do hear of Nigerians abroad complaining about not wanting to date a Nigerian lady...
So what are the experiences, merits and demerits of dating a Foreigner/white...
Lol let's try to make this topic interactive, I'm not in any foreign country but I aspire to come to one of those countries, preferably America....
Only lazy men find African women intimidated I swear. I know white men who take care of their wives. They work and the women are housewives. You men need to pick one. Do you want a submissive housewife you cater to. That means solely responsibility is on you, or you want one who works and you men on Nairaland normally label feminist and gold digger. Pick a side
ProudNg: It hurts me a lot as the woman I stays with and my supposed aunty belittles me a lot. It makes me depress while wondering when this kind of life will end.
Before now, I was a very bold guy, who always steps up his game among his friends but as a result of staying with this woman, I am now an introvert, who can't let a day go by without necessarily thinking about how my life is different from others.
Before now and while in the village, among my friends, I am usually considered one of the cutest but as a result of staying with this woman, he spoke so much about me not being a fine boy and now, I have no option but to see myself as not being a fine boy.
She always remind me of my height. I am not that tall (5 feet 4Inches or something). As such, he keeps reminding of how am not a man enough and won't be able to marry a beautiful girl even though I currently date one of the most beautiful girl ever (She is almost same height with me). He keeps telling me that his children will be taller than me and as such, the children even call me "shortman" and keeps assuming with me. A younger relative of about 19years, who is taller than me visited and her younger son of about 8years was telling me, the guy who visited can beat me. That is how they belittle me base on my height in this house. The funny thing is that the woman in question is a midget where I am but due to the fact that women's height is not that a big deal, she feels she can belittle me.
Anyways, I have tried to get over the height and fine boy thing and accept myself just the way, God created me but I still get hurt with one attitude of hers towards me:
When serving food, she will serve me, who is 23years as if I am his 7years old boy. He will serve my food and meat little and do reverse for his children. I notice when she calls me to come get my food, that is when she starts complaining about how "there are only bones in the soup or stew" and when she does this, I know definitely, she was serving me a bone for that moment while the children will have meat. even if she serves me meat, you can never compare mine to that of her small kids.
Many of you won't understand but I get hurt a lot. Please, is this just normal stuffs with staying with someone, who is not your mother.
I’m so sorry for this mental abuse you are going through. Always remember you are wonderfully and fearfully made. Don’t think about what people think of you. What does God say about you
TkhGuy: I response to clowns who say a man who looks for wife in a village is weak, cos he don't want a wife in a city who have a mind of her own,
The last thing a man who work his ass off to become someone will want to have is another man as wife, meaning a lady who came with nothing but comes to tell him who comes and goes, and controlling him, picking fight, bringing problems to his peace of mind, and thats what you get from so called city girls.
Apparently there is no record of any family that the wife pay the bills that the man is not a house boy to the so called wife,
The cause of so many widow and single mother trolling every were this days is woman, who came with nothing and wants everything she never worked for, cos she think her pssy is everything hahahaha.
(For the clowns) & karen, Your bible said man is a the "head" of the family head is Lord for you coward who want to hide your feable heart cowardice inside a hoes pssy,
City girls are mostly hoes, and most of them came with nothing into the marriage and want to go extremely to have everything the man has worked for all under their control by controlling or crucifying the resources owner,
Most citiy girls will prefer to be john cena in their matrimonial home, ready to fight and cause chaos like my now x girlfriend arrogant, disrespectful and always my way or destruction,
If you don't need a woman who will be submissive to you as man for the sake of peace, bro try a woman who already has acquired wealth, that's your match not city girls,
If you are afraid of having women under your control, you are unfit and a disgrace to man..
City girls don't know that life is not as simple as spending money that you didn't suffer to make, but village girls do, don't think far I am from eastern region,
Village girls might be timid but their consciousness of where they come from will never allow them to over step their boundary to start or pick a fight with their husband, unlike so called city girls.
At least I know my Brothers who married from village have no issues I stated in my previous thread,
Lastly village girls are not worst even with internet they are still better,
If you need a wife, find one in your village, if you can't find, get one in nsuka
But if you need Batista, Brucelesna or John cena, Mary a city girl or barrister..
Period.
I’m glad no one cares about this post. Respect begets respect. A marriage is a partnership not a Lord and servant arrangement. Marry who you please and stop disturbing us
Amatarasha: Yes I always avoid her because of her mighty grammers, which she knew I hate with passion but I accepted she speaks better than kh..a the America oldhag You what did u like about her?
Ednut1 n astrog wat did u like about her? ( Abeg no insults B4 eni kuure)
Pls am not doing dis because u are better than me but because I miss u a little ( Just little like 2/100)
She once made me see my worth and encouraged me during one of the toughest times. I can never forget. Thank you
PerfectMaster: They want a tall man, they want a well to do man, they want a fair or dark man etc they all have their spec but when a man says he want a virgin they rant and begin to curse.
If a virgin man should marry a virgin woman then a tall woman should marry a tall guy same goes for anyother expectations.
Inconclusion, everyone has their preference and their choice should be respected. As a guy I prefer a virgin for various reason and I dont need to be a virgin, same for a woman. If she prefers a virgin man even when she is not a virgin, it is her choice.
This is the reason why many ladies have trust issues. His interest in his girl did not wane when he was drilling her tunnel; it waned the instant she got pregnant, making him realize that there's no going back.
And if the guy already has the mind to cheat on her after marriage, you can bet that he'll already be mistreating the girl. Her only crime is trusting him and helping him with everything she could.
God will punish that your friend.
I just said the same thing. Scrolled up and read your comment. My heart just broke reading this story. How evil humans can be. Honestly for me a marriage will be transaction. I just feel I’m at a point I don’t believe in a thing called love. Only God can love.
rawpadgin: Okay, was having a drink with a friend of mine last night & he told me he no longer find his fiancée attractive. They got engaged a year ago & the babe is already pregnant for him. He is however still planning to wife her because the girl is a wife material & he will grow further financially with her by his side but believes he might be cheating on her after marriage.
According to him, the said girl has done a lot for him mostly during the pandemic period but believes he shouldn't be getting married to a girl simply because she has assisted him on many occasions. All my effort to convince him that the feelings will come after marriage proved abortive.
You friend is a pure example of a terrible man. I pray God can forgive him. So if he found her unattractive why go that far? He is now thinking all these things after she is already pregnant. It wasn’t love to begin with. This is why I will never believe in love. I promise you so many of satans children roam the earth looking for who to devour. Your friend should have left that girl to find someone who really loves her. Better to break it off now than marry her, if he is already having doubts
made4naijamusic: A video making the rounds on social media has shown the moment a lady rejected her boyfriend’s public proposal.
In the video, her boyfriend could be seen standing on his feet as he begged her to close her eyes tightly while stretching out the engagement ring towards her.
As she opened her eyes, she saw him standing on his feet to propose and she got offended that he didn’t go on his knees to propose to her.
Her boyfriend on the other hand insisted that kneeling down doesn’t prove anything. He turned down all her efforts to make him kneel down and she walked out immediately.
She needs to move on. Imagine the pride. Kneeling is not belittling him. It only shows honoring your woman and a sign of respect. What kind of proposal standing up. This guy might not respect her in the marriage. What is kneeling?
Favour2323: Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Hmm pray about this dear. Grass ain’t always green on the other side. If you truly love this other guy and you have conviction go for it, but just know if it doesn’t work out with the other guy you might not be able to come back. Sometimes it’s human nature to want what we can not have, this does not mean it’s the best thing. Your bf has been good to you. Nothing is wrong, why throw it away?
Durentt: Like 20 million dollars rich, if given the option to be that rich or have a man that rich that would stay with you indefinitely. What would you choose.
Feminists you are welcome to comment
I would prefer to be rich and my husband also rich
Rexmy: But how many of them did you come across to make such definite assertion?
You can tell a lot about a person by what they write when anonymous. You can say anything you want to say without fear of judgment. From what I read day in and out on Nairaland I don’t wish to meet 90%. Most are not God fearing, sexist and toxic
Ababbio: Gone are the days when looking for spouse on social media is an abomination, nowadays people do make use of platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Nairaland, Instagram and so on, to search for their soulmates.
The good things is that many do get ladies and gentlemen of their choice through these platforms and are happily married, though some might end up with liars, social media usefulness in this regard is irrefutable.
In likewise manner this beautiful Fulani lady with a username on Twitter, has took to her page to announced that she is in need of a man for husband.
Many people took to the comment section to rebuke the lady for advertising herself, saying she is too beautiful for that, while some said they are ready to marry her.
There is no truth embedded in a two-faced, neo-pharisaical recalcitrant like you! Talking about insults like I started it. A glance at your first quote laid bare your social and emotional indiscipline. Drawing inferences from your subjective and twisted mind doesn't make you smart.
You could tell my dad was either a bad one or not in my life... and you had the impudence to talk about the family that raised a Jezebel like you who lacks the grace and temperament of a lady.
Beldam, please screw yourself! And bring on the insults lemme take you through some turbulent emotional trauma.
I can tell you have been reading your thesaurus . In an attempt to sound intelligent you sound pathetic. Does it even make sense to you? I pray you can be a better father than your father was to you. I can tell you are heartbroken. It’s ok to seek help. God bless
The downfall of mankind, as occasioned by Eve's usurpation, greed and disrespect for divine hierarchical order is manifested in your post.
Not only are you loose and lack respect for your own body, you are spiritually and intellectually bereft of what it takes to be a woman, Ms SatanicCherub.
I’m satanic because I told you the truth? The family I come from men are encouraged to also preserve themselves. Imagine the soul ties you have on your body. Why do you want to reference the Bible only when it serves you. Sex is just not a physical but spiritual encounter. So you as a man want the flexibility to sleep with who you want to then want to deposit it on your wife/woman? I fear for your spouse. You make no point because you know you don’t have one. Stop this poor reference to Eve. People need to learn to be faithful to each other, if you can’t do that- don’t get married. Nonsense!! Most of you Nairaland people resort to insulting someone because their opinion differs from yours. If I insult you, you will not like it. Jesus working within me
The simple answer is no. Because men are not wired to accept that. Once there is coital violation on the part of the woman, then the mariage is mentally, psychologically and romantically over. I deliberately left out the spiritual part in order to stay aligned within the scope of this section.
The woman's sexual organ is sacred and should never be violated by another man in marriage. It is taboo.
You are ridiculous if you feel like only a womans organ must be respected. You as a man need to keep yourself too. This is what happens ladies and gentlemen- when a man is raised without a father figure. I can tell your dad was either a bad one or not in your life.
Oluwafemifemi: Good morning to all dr.s in the house. God bless you guys exceedingly for all the free help you are rendering here although doesn't seem like it but millions of people like me both on nairaland and offline looking for help online before consulting a dr really appreciate you all. Thank you
Please I have a very big issue I'm battling now, and I ll be grateful if I can get any advice or suggestions of what is going on cause am getting really worried somewhat... PLEASE GUYS NEVER GO TO 500# BROTHEL AGAIN, IM BEGGING PLEASE, ITS DEMEANING AND FULL OF HORROR STORIES
My issue : in my usual wayward way I went ahead to the most stupid 500 nairaland brothel I could find , initially tried looking for someone clean even lost some money in the process , eventually I settled for a woman ( should be in a her 40s, but I figured she's clean cause she's lightskin ( another stupid decision )
I noticed she tried to touch my dick (like trying to infect me with something on purpose ) but disguised as trying to rub my dick/put on a condom, however after few minutes penetrating (I used a condom) I complained about not feeling anything while penetrating and she immediately vexed and stood up (I didn't finish ) While putting her clothes on she said something like "you have collected something" in her igboish yoruba dialect and this really got me worried.
However stupidly again cause I didn't finish , I went to another cheap brothel but a better class , where you can only get at 500# with good negotiating skills, I finished up (used a condom again, but she used a tissue to remove the condom while slipping it downwards, maybe I might have had contact with her fluid in the process?) under few minutes going home feeling very stupid
Fast forward 3 days later, I noticed I have this very slight sensation on my penis, like the penis is inflamed a little on the tip, not sharp at all , but very dull with no discharge. I also notice I have this burning sensation after ejaculation once and i sometimes feel cramp in my stomach with a very slight tingling sensation sometimes in the penis, The skin around the tip is also crumpled , it's been a month now and I still experience the slight sensation ( is like a feeling of using very small bit of Robb ( not Aboniki ) on the area around the penis while the penis slightly rub on it causing a sensation of having an irritant soap in your pee hole )
Help diagnose please, I really need to narrow it down to know the specific test I will be going for as against just doing random series of test which will be very expensive
I went for HIV test too, but will be going again at 12 weeks
No discharge, no blisters, doesn't scratch, just those symptoms in the first few days and now the slight rubbing somewhat cold sensation , can't really describe, but I don't think it's normal .. help please, thanks.
Beverlyjean: Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.
It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .
I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.
He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)
I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.
The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .
The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :
1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy. 2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age 3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else 4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love 5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me 6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy 7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy 8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?
Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .
Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you
Drink and get sick whilst with both men. Who ever isn’t disgusted by you. Cleans you up and still loves you the same day is a winner. It’s so easy to have fairytale love when you haven’t seen anyone at their worst
SIR0: There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive. She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too. There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship. We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex. In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too. As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning,,,blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all. My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot. Don't hesitate to advise a brother. Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders. Thanks
czarr: Regardless of how some modern day fat women(like LIZZO) are trying to glorify being FAT and acting like they love their body....I can assure you they don't and they are highly insecure about it.....It doesn't matter how confident they like to act, it's a front, they seem to be very outgoing and sometimes rude, its all a front to throw you off the scent of their insecurities.
Fat girls have a high tendency to be sluts because they seek validation from men with their body using sex as a weapon to boost their ego that a guy is attracted to them....guys who have been in the field know that fat women are the easiest to fvck.....and if you date them your friends can easily fvck them don't date fat girls!
Even if you are naturally attracted to fat women, don't if you date or marry them and somehow they motivate themselves to loose weight....and as they begin to look fit they would loose attraction for you because in their mind they are not on your level anymore, it doesn't matter if you love fat women,fat women always settle for what they can get......and a fat woman would see you as low quality if you settle for her.
In the united states statistics show that most fat women who lost weight later in their marriage filed for divorce from their husband 85%....i'm not making this up......the reason is they crave that attention from men they are sexually attracted to who were not attracted to them when they were fat, so as soon as they loose the weight they'll create drama and chaos and look for a reason to cheat.
fijiano202: You know that awkward moment when u fell like a train just ran thru u,that was the exact feeling i had when she ask for a monthly pocket money of 20k..honestly i thought it was a joke until she stood her ground concerning her request...all i could murmur was WTF ur joking right? and she gave me the stink eye...till now i still feel like its a dream cos shes a kinda lady that doesnt demand for anything,i only buy her gifts and some ladies stuff at my own will and conviniece....pls help what should i do? cos i dont really know what to do cos its like my brain is malfunction at the moment and Love is not something u can turn off at will..i need mature advice?
The fact she asked is crazy. I think she shouldn’t even have to ask. You give according to what you can. Not what she demands. You are not working for her. Why do women do this? I would rather be offered than demand
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We became friends and later into a love relationship. To God be the glory, today we are happily married. Thanks to nairaland even though I didn't get any job through this platform,but I gained a lot of experience and a beautiful woman as wife .
Romance / Re: Why Are Most Yoruba Men So Heartless? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 1:09pm On Nov 14, 2020 
. Fast forward to 2017, I met this pretty damsel (rebirth 4goody, formerly rebirthforgoody).